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Baby shower rules?
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Re: Baby shower rules?
Thought I'd help you out with a new invitation
We've got a winner!
Its perfect!
Henry Cavill...You're welcome!
BFP #3: EDD 1/10/13 **DS born 12/30/12!!!**
BFP #2: MC 7/2/11 @ 12 weeks
**Missing our February '12 LoveBug**
BFP #1: MMC discovered on 12/6/10
I think the rules make sense- but it should go without saying that people would abide by most of those!
With that said, it sounds like your family is on the dysfunctional side if they cannot hang out together without fighting unless there are very outlined, specific rules laid out.
So, while I, as a guest, would roll my eyes at this list if it were presented to me, if I knew you and your family well enough to be invited to your shower then it likely would already make sense to me.
With that said, you can't really dictate what people talk about. I get the horror stories are annoying, I really do. But people just love to share that stuff. Just tune it out.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
It blows me away that people are really like this. My family (and my IL's) are far from perfect, but the thought that any one of them would actually do something like this is beyond imagination.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
They did one episode of My Big Fat Redneck Baby, it was hysterical! They wallpapered the baby's room in camo wrapping paper and the husband made a mobile with a hanger, oranges and beer cans.
You should just scrap the idea of a shower, and make it a present drop off instead.
You could even set up a table by the street (like a lemonade stand) and your invitees can drive up and drop off the present. It wouldn't even inconvenience their smoking or texting.
Maybe OP gets really pissy when people text and physically assaults them? But she wants to avoid that possible outcome this time around, because she's totes preggers and all.
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
This.
FFS, OP, you sound like one of those idiotic teenagers on My Super Sweet Sixteen.
This. I think it's fine that you've talked expectations with the hosts. And I can appreciate not wanting the shower to devolve into a birth story Tales from the Crypt. Still. Don't put out a list of rules to your guests. It will not be taken well by anyone, especially those you're trying to control. Let the host or other close family politely/lightly address issues if they arise ("Hey, Linda, are you texting or is your crotch just really that fascinating?" is a favorite of mine...)
This! I'm a 35 year old adult and if somebody told me that if I'm at their party and I need to do blank, blank, blank, I'd probably not go but if I did, I would break every rule I could. I'm just nasty that way.
Totally this! Drive-thru shower. Maybe you could also offer beer instead of lemonade when they pull up to the curb - you know, for the trouble they went to and all.
Dudette, the issue is not your message, but rather your medium... You needs be tweeting those rules, not Facebooking, beyotch!
PS I couldnt be bothered to read all the responses, so I hope I'm not just repeating someone else's awesome idea.
Backpedaling can be tricky...
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You shouldn't be having "rules" for grown adults if they get along or not! No seperate shower then they MUST get along for your sake. I would be completely turned off from having rules at an adult function. Also people will show up or not even if they RSVP'd. I can guarantee you won't get the exact number of people you thought. IMO also I've never been to a shower where all the woman decided to talk all about their horror story births or started to get vulger in front of children. Eat the food, play a game, watch mom open gifts and done...NO RULES!!! Tacky, tacky, tacky and above all DUMB!
Totally! She sounds like 16 and pregnant material as well...
Dude, let it go. You can't control other people's behavior, whether it's the gifts they buy you, whether they b!tch about your shower, whether they care more about their phone than you, or whether an uninvited person shows up and eats one of the sixty-four deviled eggs you made.
The only thing I would do, if I were the host, would be to intervene gently on a case-by-case basis. You are the MTB--just be polite and gracious to everyone. No rules posted on FB, just focus on the positives: celebrating you and your special baby.
precursor: IMO
... really? you are going to set rules for a group of people you expect gifts from? Control freak much?? If you can't trust your family/friends to get along - then don't invite them or do something separate with them... Honestly - if there was a set of rules posted for a party that I didn't really want to have to attend anyway - I'd probably skip it... and if I skip it, I'd probably skip the gift too...
As far as texting? why don't you address your SIL directly? you can ask that people set aside distractions by using a cute verse on the tables about no cell phones - or make a game with a toy cell phone that if you are caught on your cell phone you have to trade it for the toy one until someone else is caught??
Child birth isn't fun from what I hear - maybe just put a post on your facebook invite asking politely to refrain from anything that might make you queesy about it because you are feeling nervous... but I don't think I've ever heard horror stories at a baby shower... and if your nurse is scaring you - maybe you need a new one?
Sometimes - uninvited guests show up... if you have certain people you are worried about, then maybe address them directly, or ask a mutual friend to? or make sure you have a # RSVP and make sure they know that you need the RSVP to make sure you have enough food (that hints that it might be tight).
I think you are violating your first rule by b*tching about people so much... it is supposed to be fun - you are way overthinking this and will probably end up offending at least one person in the progress of it all.. good luck with that...