Pregnant does not equal helpless (vent)

SpartyMom2B · June 2012

My sis and BIL are moving today so my family and I are helping them. Of course I said I'm happy to help but can't lift heavy things so I have been taking clothes, pillows, etc. My BIL and my dad apparently decided I can no longer help because I "shouldn't go up and down stairs". I am not inept or helpless; I have stairs in my house and they're fine. Furthermore, I am not an idiot and I will decide for myself what I can and cannot do. I understand that they are looking out for me, I just effing hate being treated like I'm incapable of doing anything.

JoJo507 · June 2012

That's ridiculous. It's not like you're taking the stairs three at a time. Were they afraid of you carrying those dangerous pillows, too? Smile

LLeeD14 · June 2012

Amen! My MIL treats me as if being pregnant=being disabled! She went on vacation and told me how wonderful it was but that I would NEVER have been able to go while pregnant because they had to walk. What!? Walk! Oh my, the horror!

Then this weekend we are going to a farm to pick blueberries (which btw I came up with the idea). She keeps emailing me "are you sure this wont be too much for you?" Yes! I am sure! I will let you know if I can't do something, trust me!

freeatlast2014 · June 2012

This time around, I must admit I'm enjoying whenever people want to do stuff for me! My MIL is like - don't pick up the toys, you shouldn't be bending down. I think to myself - GREAT! You clean up the toys then! Whoot whoot!!

MeatballEsq · June 2012

I went through this the last time I moved in May. My mom kept lecturing me about over-doing it, but honestly I think I probably did. We have stairs in our house, but I just don't normally walk them 30 or more times in a day like I did when we were moving. We're moving again mid-August (one month before my due date) so I'm sure the lecturing will be even worse then.

numb3rMel · June 2012

Yup. I hate being told I can't do something. Makes me want to them wrong. Which could back fire but luckily hasn't yet.

watercolor5 · June 2012

I got shamed by a grocery store bagger the other day because I said I didn't need help taking my groceries to my car... she was like "Not even with the water bottles!!! WELL... be CAREFUL when you lift them!" Good grief lady, I lifted them into the cart to begin with, I think I can handle it!

beh3e · June 2012

I had a problem at work where people refused to allow me to lift things that are even remotely heavy. At first I was like, "Sure, go ahead, that's less I have to do!" and was very thankful in doing so, but apparently they were getting upset that I wasn't bending down and kissing their feet for being so helpful and said I wasn't "grateful enough" for their help. I don't allow people to help me anymore.

twoitalians · June 2012

I'm a fence sitter on this situation. I'll move things on my own, walk, take stairs, whatever just make sure that I don't overdo it and get exhausted. However, I won't object if someone else offers help. One of the best things I'm enjoying about my large baby bump right now is that it acts as a stop sign in parking lots. Lol. I used to have to be more cautious about walking through parking lots cuz cars wouldn't stop for pedestrians. Now they see me and I can have all the time in the world to cross cuz everyone stops.

tma1685 · June 2012

Ha I so can relate. My MIL doesn't even want me walking through the grocery store. Well before I got put on bed rest. And that started from the very beginning. Thankfully she doesn't live near us so was still walking. No granny carts for me

ilovelife · June 2012

My mom and grandma are like this. They think that pregnancy = handicapped. Grandma actually told me that other day that I shouldn't be reaching above my head. My mom told me that evening that I shouldn't be vaccuming. I appreciate everyone being generally concerned, but this isn't a high risk pregnancy (thankfully) so I'm ok!

monica92603 · June 2012

I use a pallet jack to move around 1/2 ton pallets of merchandise at work when I don't like how they look. I drive my people crazy, especially since I'm the boss and can tell anyone to do it for me. The only thing I refuse to do is unload our delivery truck b/c it's on a down slope and I'm afraid of slipping and getting run over by said 1/2 ton pallet. That would be bad lol.

L8kissie · June 2012

MrsLynnyD:
This time around, I must admit I'm enjoying whenever people want to do stuff for me! My MIL is like - don't pick up the toys, you shouldn't be bending down. I think to myself - GREAT! You clean up the toys then! Whoot whoot!!

I'm with you. I was much more concerned about this the first go round. Now if someone wants to do something for me, I take it and smile as I thank them. Mommyhood is hard, take the help while people are willing.

dontmissathing · June 2012

Hahaha. I do get some people that are like "Are you sure you should be doing that?" But not from my dad. We went to his farm this weekend and he comes in the house with gloves and says to get outside and pick up the branches/trees that he just cut down. Lots of little and big branches. He totally is still on how it was in the old days on the farm. Just because you were pregnant, didn't mean that you got to stop working. I laughed about it, but did go out and help.

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