Drama on the first trimester board

mmdailey · June 2012

I don't usually poke around the other boards, but I indulged today and found someone getting blasted on the first trimester board. What do you think?

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/66432424.aspx

Andreabks · June 2012

i wish i had someone to be pregnant with this time around! i had close friends with me on my first 2 losses, and especially the first time around, it was fun to have someone close by to do things with who was at roughly the same point as me. to go shopping and dreaming with...

going through it alone is fine, but it would be fun to have a girlfriend to share the experience with.

tablefor6 · June 2012

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

CLeigh03 · June 2012

Ambsies:

It has to be MUD... The OP is 6 weeks pregnant- how on earth is there time for her to find out she's pregnant, the friend to TTC because "OMG, we need babies at the same time", and then have already found out she's pregnant too?

This!

vickyluvssteve · June 2012

tablefor6:
thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.
I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

Agreed. I think the OP was probably a little self-centered, but she was also admitting that up front, and she really just wanted a little sympathy. It sucks that on a lot of the boards on TB, you have to be really careful, because the ladies out there are just looking for a reason to tear people apart. Luckily the August 2012 board isn't like that.

sourapplemartini · June 2012

Ambsies:

AHAHAHAHA!!

MoFree · June 2012

tablefor6:
thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.
I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

I don't think that every beotchy comment or complaint deserves to be indulged or given unconditional support.

tablefor6 · June 2012

vickyluvssteve:
tablefor6:
thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.
I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

Agreed. I think the OP was probably a little self-centered, but she was also admitting that up front, and she really just wanted a little sympathy. It sucks that on a lot of the boards on TB, you have to be really careful, because the ladies out there are just looking for a reason to tear people apart. Luckily the August 2012 board isn't like that.

agreed!

Bemyselfandi · June 2012

I looked forward to being pregnant with two of my friends. We would have been closer in due dates but I had a m/c in October. We got pregnant again with this LO over Thanksgiving.

Much to be thankful for, INCLUDING having close friends to be pregnant with. (Even though one already had her baby last month.) Going through this stuff is hard when you're in the first Tri. Especially with your first, you don't know exactly how to sort out your feelings. I don't blame her for feeling the way she does, but at the same time, she should grow up and just be happy she has someone to talk to about everything during her pregnancy!

Bemyselfandi · June 2012

Ambsies:
tablefor6:
thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.
I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

These people that "come here for advice" are often just trolls looking to start drama. Her story doesn't add up.
There is a lot more to this site than just asking pregnancy questions and hoping for a polite response.

OMG this gif is exactly what I was thinking!!!! Ambsies, you rock!

tablefor6 · June 2012

Bemyselfandi:
Ambsies:
tablefor6:
thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.
I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

These people that "come here for advice" are often just trolls looking to start drama. Her story doesn't add up.
There is a lot more to this site than just asking pregnancy questions and hoping for a polite response.

OMG this gif is exactly what I was thinking!!!! Ambsies, you rock!

apparently i have my expectations of people set a little too high then. people suck sometimes. :-

kelnyc · June 2012

People are stupid.

AutumnLeaves2 · June 2012

I definitely think it's MUD. I seriously cannot picture someone going up to one of their friends and saying "I want to BE you so I'm gonna go ahead and get pregnant too so that we can be twinsies foreverrrrr!!" People just don't do that. If her friend is also pregnant I highly, highly doubt it was done to copy her. Plus, like everyone's been saying, the dates dont add up...unless her friend is a perfect-ovulation-queen-fertile-myrtle.

ChibiMommy · June 2012

tablefor6:
thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.
I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

ChibiMommy · June 2012

bump fart

ashS10309 · June 2012

sourapplemartini:
Ambsies:

AHAHAHAHA!!

love. Enough Said!

ToxityRue · June 2012

I don't have an opinion on the actual topic over there... Mostly because I don't care that much plus it sounds like BS to me if she's only 6 wks along...

I am however amazed at how many people cared enough to flip out and rant about it lol. Like really?

ShelbehhRawrr · June 2012

ashS10309:
sourapplemartini:
Ambsies:

AHAHAHAHA!!

love. Enough Said!

This, 100%

Mrs. Rohde · June 2012

Ambsies:
It has to be MUD... The OP is 6 weeks pregnant- how on earth is there time for her to find out she's pregnant, the friend to TTC because "OMG, we need babies at the same time", and then have already found out she's pregnant too?

This. It's such crap.

azdcpa0912 · June 2012

Ambsies:
tablefor6:

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

These people that "come here for advice" are often just trolls looking to start drama. Her story doesn't add up.

There is a lot more to this site than just asking pregnancy questions and hoping for a polite response.

Like what? Seems to me that's why most people come here. In your case it seems to be exhibiting pent up aggression - your posts seem to be mostly negative. Am I wrong?

See toxic disinhibition, or True Self? - https://users.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/disinhibit.html

Just sayin.

ShelbehhRawrr · June 2012

BlueDevilLady:
azdcpa0912:
Ambsies:
tablefor6:

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

These people that "come here for advice" are often just trolls looking to start drama. Her story doesn't add up.

There is a lot more to this site than just asking pregnancy questions and hoping for a polite response.

Like what? Seems to me that's why most people come here. In your case it seems to be exhibiting pent up aggression - your posts seem to be mostly negative. Am I wrong?

See toxic disinhibition, or True Self? - https://users.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/disinhibit.html

Just sayin.
I'm sorry...are you seriously trying to call out Ambsies? Good luck with that.

This, you wont get very far.

poppyseed1017 · June 2012

azdcpa0912:
Ambsies:
tablefor6:

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

These people that "come here for advice" are often just trolls looking to start drama. Her story doesn't add up.

There is a lot more to this site than just asking pregnancy questions and hoping for a polite response.

Like what? Seems to me that's why most people come here. In your case it seems to be exhibiting pent up aggression - your posts seem to be mostly negative. Am I wrong?

See toxic disinhibition, or True Self? - https://users.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/disinhibit.html

Just sayin.

Confused

Please shut the f*ck up.

Also, using the phrase "just sayin", makes you sound like an idiot. YWIA!

MandeeFoFandee · June 2012

azdcpa0912:
Ambsies:
tablefor6:

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

These people that "come here for advice" are often just trolls looking to start drama. Her story doesn't add up.

There is a lot more to this site than just asking pregnancy questions and hoping for a polite response.

Like what? Seems to me that's why most people come here. In your case it seems to be exhibiting pent up aggression - your posts seem to be mostly negative. Am I wrong?

See toxic disinhibition, or True Self? - https://users.rider.edu/~suler/psycyber/disinhibit.html

Just sayin.

oh. you're cute.

mmdailey · June 2012

Hey we've only raised about half the amount of drama as the original post on the 1st trimester board! We can do better than that! Haha!

Jessfulller · June 2012

Scout2005:
I think the OP sounds ridiculous and bratty.

Yes

hooslisa · June 2012

tablefor6:

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

i completely agree and have thought the same thing many times. i haven't actually read the post or the responses in this particular case, but have thought the same thing about different posts.

contrary to what another poster on this thread said, with a cute little gif, i DID come to this board because i am excited to be pregnant and wanted to talk about babies. that's it. i didn't come on here for drama or to judge people. i'm continuously surprised when i see it. i feel an instant kinship with other woman who are going through the same thing. i wish that that would be the focus more often.

ChibiMommy · June 2012

hooslisa:
tablefor6:

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

i completely agree and have thought the same thing many times. i haven't actually read the post or the responses in this particular case, but have thought the same thing about different posts.

contrary to what another poster on this thread said, with a cute little gif, i DID come to this board because i am excited to be pregnant and wanted to talk about babies. that's it. i didn't come on here for drama or to judge people. i'm continuously surprised when i see it. i feel an instant kinship with other woman who are going through the same thing. i wish that that would be the focus more often.

At first I was like

Then I was like

Newbs never get it.

hooslisa · June 2012

ChibiMommy:
hooslisa:
tablefor6:

thats some classy responses right there. its a shame that "discouraging" people make comments on a board where someone just asks for advise, when in-turn they get judged and nailed to the cross if they do something someone else wouldn't.

I can honestly say that I'm disgusted with half the responses - pregnant women come to The Bump to chat and relate to other pregnant women, and I feel there is the unwritten law that if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say it. Understood that women will disagree on subjects at times, but i would expect all of us to disagree on valid points instead of name calling and excessive judging in an offensive way. I would hope that comments like these are highly discouraged and will not continue.

i completely agree and have thought the same thing many times. i haven't actually read the post or the responses in this particular case, but have thought the same thing about different posts.

contrary to what another poster on this thread said, with a cute little gif, i DID come to this board because i am excited to be pregnant and wanted to talk about babies. that's it. i didn't come on here for drama or to judge people. i'm continuously surprised when i see it. i feel an instant kinship with other woman who are going through the same thing. i wish that that would be the focus more often.

At first I was like

Then I was like

Newbs never get it.

...well, when i get to the point where i find myself being jaded, i'll know it's time to just log off. until then, hitting back on a browser window instead of typing something rude works for me. if that makes me a newb, fine in my book.

Sarah5683 · June 2012

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