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August 2012 Moms
tata2585
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Who do you plan on having in the room during delivery?
tata2585
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My DH will be there, but I think my mom wants to be there too. My DH is pretty adamant about it just being the two of us, so I'm torn.
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Re: Who do you plan on having in the room during delivery?
DH only, but also my oldest sister*
*disclaimer - the ONLY reason she will be in there is because she is a former L&D nurse at this hospital, helped trained my OBGYN when she was doing her residency and it just makes me feel comfortable/I also think it would be special to have her assist in the delivery (so although she is my sister, she is basically just a nurse in the room, part of the rest of the staff)*
My mom and other sister can grab a pass to make a short visit, but I don't want them in there for the pushing, etc.
My mom passed away when I was 23, so having her in their is not an option. However, even if she was still here I wouldn't want her or anyone besides DH in the room with me during delivery.
I view this a special time for just DH and I. We have already decided that we aren't letting anyone come back to see baby until after they have finnished cleaning me up and moved us to our post-partum room (usually this is 2-3 hours after birth) so that we have some alone bonding time with baby before family comes in to meet him.
DH will be there, obviously. I've also asked my mom, one of my sisters and a very close friend. Truthfully, sometimes I think it would be nice to just be me and DH, but his mom has passed away and he wanted my mom to be there. My sister and my bff are my choice and my husband is totally fine with that.
Also, part of the reason I want them all there is because somehow my stepdad ended up in the room when my younger sister had her first baby. It was just weird, but I figure if I already have 4, I can say that's the limit and everyone else who thinks they can be there will be getting the boot based on overcrowding. I would totally tell someone I didn't want them there if I had to, but I figure if I can say it's because we are already at capacity, then that is even better.
This! (sort of), you'll see my post on here to explain, but I want this to be our moment...in the end though, it is personal preference of the couple I think.
Same.
My mom wants to be there so badly, but I really want it to be just DH and I, and she knows that.
My mom and I are super close, and when she's around we're inseperable and sometimes DH feels a little left out because we just do our own thing. I want this to be between DH and I only, and I'm afraid that if my mom is in there with us I'll lean more on her than on DH. (She used to be a nurse before an accident and she wants to make sure that everything is done the way she thinks it should be)
DH and I are standing firm on just the two of us...
DD Born August 16, 2012
Last time I had DH and my mom. I loved having her in there, simply because not only is she my mom, but since she has gone through child birth multiple times..it was nice to have her in there.
This time, DH will be there, and I am hoping my mom again. It just depends on how it all goes with DS and if my dad is able to watch him the whole time.
DH and I married 8 years. Mom of three, stepmom of one.
my dh and sil. And if my parents can make it up here in time (they live in NC), my mom will be there too.
Just DH. Same as with DS.
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This. My mom has also said she would not want to be there because seeing me in pain will make her a nervous wreck!
Definitely just DH... Heck, I really don't want him in there to see all that but of course he will be. I just feel awkward.
Depends on if its planned (induction/cs) or not. If not planned, it will be whoever makes it in time so probably DH and SMIL.
If planned induction we'll add my MIL to the mix. for cs i think our hospital only lets the father in the room.
i'm happy to have MIL and Smil, especially smil around as she never got to have kids (fertility issues she didn't have the $$ to get checked out) so i'm sharing this process with her a bit.
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Definitely only DH. I'm a private person and I want to spend this time alone with him as I think it's a private time between the two of us.
I also do NOT want any one to come in until I am good and ready for visitors, I want at least an hour of skin to skin and some bonding time for my husband as well before the family shows up. I want to be cleaned up and in my room.
I don't want them in the waiting room because it's a small hospital and I don't want them to force their way in or see us before I'm ready.
My Dh and mom. It was DH and SIL for DS's birth because my mom for some reason couldn't stand to be there, I think to see me in pain? But she wants to be in there this time. We'll see.
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Anyone who wants to be there and makes it in time. I seriously do not care. The first time I thought a lot about it and worried but once things got started I zoned out and no one in the room but DH and Deb (mw) existed.
Should just be my midwife and husband. If I have any reservations about the hospital birth center we are considering using, we may also hire a doula. No parents are invited until after - I want things to be calm.
My husband's best friend is a nursing student and they have been joking about him being there "to observe" if we do a home birth. This is clearly not happening.