FFFC

jonnygurl76 · June 2012

Confession time....let's hear it!

jonnygurl76 · June 2012

I m so pissed right now. DH got OT today which means he won't be home until after 7 tonight, after I get both kids to bed. He has been working non stop between both his jobs and I know I have no right to complain because it allows me to SAH but the thought of getting through dinner and bedtime without his help again makes me feel like crying. I need a freaking break!!!!!!!!!!

MrsLoos · June 2012

Last night I finished work about an hour early. Normally I would come straight home to help DH with bedtime, instead I went to the mall and wandered around and got some crappy mall food before heading home at my normal time. DS has been cutting 3 teeth over the past few days and he's a hot mess. I needed a break. DH had a rough time getting them down, but I didn't feel guilty at all. Sometimes mommy needs some down time!

Nita2603 · June 2012

I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

colliebabe · June 2012

crystalbaby:

People who do not vaccinate their children should be kicked off the island. (Oh, wait...is this an UO? I don't give a f?ck.)

ETA: I really shouldn't have brought up a dead horse subject, but I'm just pissed right now. That was the first thing that I read this morning and it got me fired up.

Yes Yes Yes

Especially since they are doing it just to be selfish, with no good reason to be selfish anyway!

Nita2603 · June 2012

colleenb262:
crystalbaby:

People who do not vaccinate their children should be kicked off the island. (Oh, wait...is this an UO? I don't give a f?ck.)

ETA: I really shouldn't have brought up a dead horse subject, but I'm just pissed right now. That was the first thing that I read this morning and it got me fired up.

Especially since they are doing it just to be selfish, with no good reason to be selfish anyway!

I have to agree. I also have to add that I think it is not only selfish but also dumb. Reading thirty books about it does not change that it is dumb and that I think you are dumb for doing it. And yes, that totally means the OP in the non-vaxer thread. Whatever SN that was.

ashleypembroke · June 2012

Mine is kind of stupid but it needs to be confessed. I find myself saying/doing those things to my pg friends that people said/did to me that made me stabby during my pregnancy. I have caught myself saying "oh, just you wait..." and telling them every awful thing that happens... I should be ashamed of myself. I also admit that a small part of me finds satisfaction in saying these things to them- like it's a rite of passage or something??? Ok, more like a big part of me enjoys it.

amyc216 · June 2012

Tonight is the night I picked to start sleep training and I'm so nervous! I keep trying to talk myself out of it. The worst that can happen is he might cry, right?

jeannkerricotober09 · June 2012

I am a SAHM but I took a consulting position 2 months ago and have a big project due today so the last few days have been really hectic. Yesterday was a gigantic struggle with N, nothing was done around the house, except for the dishes. I was still in my pj's when she got home (erg.) and I spent every spare min trying to work while: bouncing, singing, playing, rocking, nursing, entertaining N. He is a very hands on baby. He doesn't like to be alone or put down, it takes 1.15 hours to get him down for a 45 min nap etc. and on top of it he wasn't feeling well/teething.

When K got home at 3pm, N was asleep so I said I would just work at the dining room table, rather than go to the library, like we had initially planned, until 6ish so I didn't have to waste time getting showered, etc. and we would figure out dinner after 6 as long as she could keep N happy for that time. By 530 she was worn to bits and I would be lying if I didn't say it made me gleeful. She happily ran out for take out while I bathed and played with N.

Being a SAHM is hard s*it. I never expected it to be this difficult. I feel like a loser when she comes home and the house is a mess and dinners not prepped. She is always supportive and never, ever complains (rather she sympathizes and asks if we should hire someone) but I internalize my inability and get insecure so it was really nice to see, after 2.5 hours, she was burnt out. I laughed and said 'it's freaking hard, huh?' I wouldn't change it for the world but every so often I need that validation.

Chunstad · June 2012

jonnygurl76:

I m so pissed right now. DH got OT today which means he won't be home until after 7 tonight, after I get both kids to bed. He has been working non stop between both his jobs and I know I have no right to complain because it allows me to SAH but the thought of getting through dinner and bedtime without his help again makes me feel like crying. I need a freaking break!!!!!!!!!!

OMG, this is so what I feel most of the time, and I only have one! He's gone from 6am to after 7pm. At least your DH gets OT. Mine is on salary. Yes, it allows us to stay home, but this sh!t is hard all freakin' day long with no breaks. I'm sorry, I hope that things go smoothly tonight. Maybe today you can get out and buy yourself some fancy coffee drink at Starbucks as a treat.

colliebabe · June 2012

crystalbaby:
Nita2603:
colleenb262:
crystalbaby:

People who do not vaccinate their children should be kicked off the island. (Oh, wait...is this an UO? I don't give a f?ck.)

ETA: I really shouldn't have brought up a dead horse subject, but I'm just pissed right now. That was the first thing that I read this morning and it got me fired up.

Especially since they are doing it just to be selfish, with no good reason to be selfish anyway!

I have to agree. I also have to add that I think it is not only selfish but also dumb. Reading thirty books about it does not change that it is dumb and that I think you are dumb for doing it. And yes, that totally means the OP in the non-vaxer thread. Whatever SN that was.

You can read all you want, but if the books that you're reading are crap, you're still going to be ignorant on the subject. Only now, you're ignorant and disillusioned.

She is just one more person to back up my argument that non-vaxers cannot come up with reputable proof to back their claims.

And I agree that the only reason people should not vax is if they have a medical reason.

ETA: And these are the people who should benefit from herd immunity.

Chunstad · June 2012

jeannkerricotober09:

I am a SAHM but I took a consulting position 2 months ago and have a big project due today so the last few days have been really hectic. Yesterday was a gigantic struggle with N, nothing was done around the house, except for the dishes. I was still in my pj's when she got home (erg.) and I spent every spare min trying to work while: bouncing, singing, playing, rocking, nursing, entertaining N. He is a very hands on baby. He doesn't like to be alone or put down, it takes 1.15 hours to get him down for a 45 min nap etc. and on top of it he wasn't feeling well/teething.

When K got home at 3pm, N was asleep so I said I would just work at the dining room table, rather than go to the library, like we had initially planned, until 6ish so I didn't have to waste time getting showered, etc. and we would figure out dinner after 6 as long as she could keep N happy for that time. By 530 she was worn to bits and I would be lying if I didn't say it made me gleeful. She happily ran out for take out while I bathed and played with N.

Being a SAHM is hard s*it. I never expected it to be this difficult. I feel like a loser when she comes home and the house is a mess and dinners not prepped. She is always supportive and never, ever complains (rather she sympathizes and asks if we should hire someone) but I internalize my inability and get insecure so it was really nice to see, after 2.5 hours, she was burnt out. I laughed and said 'it's freaking hard, huh?' I wouldn't change it for the world but every so often I need that validation.

I totally agree. I never thought that it would be harder than what I was doing before, teaching elementary kids. How can one kid be harder than a whole class of them? IT IS! You are 'on' 24-7. Your wife sounds like an awesome lady, and my husband is great, too. However, getting that validation is so great.

On a side note, not to generalize about women, but I wonder if being married to a woman is nicer than a man because they empathize more? My husband has gotten home before and asked "so what did you guys do all day" as he looked at our messy house. Of course, he doesn't say sh!t like that anymore :-)

Good luck on your project!

SpinningJess · June 2012

SuperDeDuper:

I think that a lot of TV, movies, and video games are too violent. And while I don't think that they "force" anyone to be violent I absolutely think they can influence people to be violent. I have zero scientific proof to back this up (and I will be the first to admit I did not read over thirty books and 75 scientific articles on the subject...nope, sure didn't) I'm simply basing this on my own opinion.

You can argue that people who are going to be violent are going to be violent anyway, but I think the prevalence of violence in our media simply makes it more acceptable/common and I think that compounds the problem.

You can also argue that the news is so violent so it wouldn't matter if other media wasn't violent...the violence is still there. Yup. We live in a violent society. And I think media influences that.

And while I understand and support the idea behind free speech and not censoring everything...I do wish people in general would not stand for so much violence in TV/movies/games because then there wouldn't be a market for it and it wouldn't get produced (or at least not in the quantity that it does now). It honestly makes me sad that there are people out there thinking up ideas for the latest Saw or Hostel movie and that there are people that find this stuff entertaining. It turns my stomach.

I guess I'm just a violence wuss.

I'm going to try to find the link to a video MH happened across about a year ago when doing a research paper at school. It's a video about a scientific study that was done on Bonobo apes (they are about as close to humans as any other species, genetically). In the study they found that the apes had exactly the same brain activity WATCHING an activity as actually doing it themselves. The exampled used was picking up and eating an apple. First they recorded the brain activity while the ape was actually picking up and eating the apple. then they recorded the brain activity while the ape watched someone else do the same thing. Brain activity was exactly the same. To me this means a TON - seeing is doing. I related this to sexual addiction because I have some unwanted experience with a sex addict (same chemical releases watching porn vs getting off)....but I think it could cross over to many areas of life. I think back to what was and wasn't accessbile when I was growing up just 20-25 years ago and how much has changed. We are conditioning children to violence and they think it's ok and normal. I'm not cool with it, and MH and I will have battles against what our children should be allowed to watch/games to play/etc. Personally, I feel it appropriate to follow all rating guidelines for movies and games and even some that may be rated as age appropriate I will have issues with.

ETA: Ok so MH said it wasn't bonobos but chimps I think. The concept is called Mirror Neurons and you can find a ton of YouTube videos about it. I can't find the exact video I'm thinking of but you'll get the idea - it's all about being an empathetic species.

SpinningJess · June 2012

Chunstad:
jeannkerricotober09:

I am a SAHM but I took a consulting position 2 months ago and have a big project due today so the last few days have been really hectic. Yesterday was a gigantic struggle with N, nothing was done around the house, except for the dishes. I was still in my pj's when she got home (erg.) and I spent every spare min trying to work while: bouncing, singing, playing, rocking, nursing, entertaining N. He is a very hands on baby. He doesn't like to be alone or put down, it takes 1.15 hours to get him down for a 45 min nap etc. and on top of it he wasn't feeling well/teething.

When K got home at 3pm, N was asleep so I said I would just work at the dining room table, rather than go to the library, like we had initially planned, until 6ish so I didn't have to waste time getting showered, etc. and we would figure out dinner after 6 as long as she could keep N happy for that time. By 530 she was worn to bits and I would be lying if I didn't say it made me gleeful. She happily ran out for take out while I bathed and played with N.

Being a SAHM is hard s*it. I never expected it to be this difficult. I feel like a loser when she comes home and the house is a mess and dinners not prepped. She is always supportive and never, ever complains (rather she sympathizes and asks if we should hire someone) but I internalize my inability and get insecure so it was really nice to see, after 2.5 hours, she was burnt out. I laughed and said 'it's freaking hard, huh?' I wouldn't change it for the world but every so often I need that validation.

I totally agree. I never thought that it would be harder than what I was doing before, teaching elementary kids. How can one kid be harder than a whole class of them? IT IS! You are 'on' 24-7. Your wife sounds like an awesome lady, and my husband is great, too. However, getting that validation is so great.

On a side note, not to generalize about women, but I wonder if being married to a woman is nicer than a man because they empathize more? My husband has gotten home before and asked "so what did you guys do all day" as he looked at our messy house. Of course, he doesn't say sh!t like that anymore :-)

Good luck on your project!

I'm 100% convinced of this LOL A group of friends and I joke all the time about needing sisterwives because men Just. Don't. Get. It!

SpinningJess · June 2012

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0pwKzTRG5E&feature=topics

Ok there's a link to a good mirror neuron video, he explains it really well

ETA: ok here is the other one LOL

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XzMqPYfeA-s

SpinningJess · June 2012

SuperDeDuper:
SpinningJess:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t0pwKzTRG5E&feature=topics

Ok there's a link to a good mirror neuron video, he explains it really well

YouTube is blocked at work (it's almost like they don't want us to spend all day watching videos, ha!) but I'm going to watch this later tonight because it sounds really interesting. Thanks for the link and the info in your other post too!

Gosh, why wouldn't they want you watching videos all day at work?!? You're already on TB! lol I think a lot of employers haven't caught on to this site. Strangely, my company blocks MySpace but not FB?? Who ever heard of MySpace? LOL

Watch the second video I posted, it's the one I was thinking about (and remembered totally wrong on the details, but right premise.) You can search mirror neurons part 1 (there are 3 parts, all fascinating!!)

Nita2603 · June 2012

Packerfan79:
Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

Your post bothers me, and I'm not sure why. I tried breast feeding and gave up on it because my supply couldnt keep up. I felt really guilty about it but was able to move on. I would never feel better about someone not being able to do it either, especially with a premie. I don't think your evil, but I do think you're mean.

Oh, I know that it is mean. I just cannot help it. If I were to analyze my own feelings there it would probably be something along the lines of feeling less of a woman and like a crappy mother because I couldn't bf. I guess it reassures me in some way if others cannot do it either or something. And don't get me wrong, I know it is wrong to feel that way. I just cannot help it. And the fact that SIL is a hugh cuntnugget in the first place is not helping either.

FWIW, at least I keep that one to myself for a change IRL and I have tried to help out as much as I can with making contact to my LC, pump rentals, home remedies for milk production and what not. It is not like I am actively preventing her from bfing, quite the opposite.

whittier06 · June 2012

Damn Nook! I was trying quote Jonny.

SpinningJess · June 2012

Nita2603:
Packerfan79:

Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

Your post bothers me, and I'm not sure why. I tried breast feeding and gave up on it because my supply couldnt keep up. I felt really guilty about it but was able to move on. I would never feel better about someone not being able to do it either, especially with a premie. I don't think your evil, but I do think you're mean.

Oh, I know that it is mean. I just cannot help it. If I were to analyze my own feelings there it would probably be something along the lines of feeling less of a woman and like a crappy mother because I couldn't bf. I guess it reassures me in some way if others cannot do it either or something. And don't get me wrong, I know it is wrong to feel that way. I just cannot help it. And the fact that SIL is a hugh cuntnugget in the first place is not helping either.

FWIW, at least I keep that one to myself for a change IRL and I have tried to help out as much as I can with making contact to my LC, pump rentals, home remedies for milk production and what not. It is not like I am actively preventing her from bfing, quite the opposite.

FFFC...flame free. It's obvious OP is bothered by her feelings and needed a safe place to release them. I have had feelings before that I hate and know I'm horrible because of it but can't control. Like my ex-bff who I was hoping wouldn't get pregnant with her H because she had 2 abortions from not taking proper precautions in the past.

Nita2603 · June 2012

Mackalien13:
Nita2603:
Packerfan79:
Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

Your post bothers me, and I'm not sure why. I tried breast feeding and gave up on it because my supply couldnt keep up. I felt really guilty about it but was able to move on. I would never feel better about someone not being able to do it either, especially with a premie. I don't think your evil, but I do think you're mean.
Oh, I know that it is mean. I just cannot help it. If I were to analyze my own feelings there it would probably be something along the lines of feeling less of a woman and like a crappy mother because I couldn't bf. I guess it reassures me in some way if others cannot do it either or something. And don't get me wrong, I know it is wrong to feel that way. I just cannot help it. And the fact that SIL is a hugh cuntnugget in the first place is not helping either.
FWIW, at least I keep that one to myself for a change IRL and I have tried to help out as much as I can with making contact to my LC, pump rentals, home remedies for milk production and what not. It is not like I am actively preventing her from bfing, quite the opposite.
The way I read your OP, it sounded like you weren't wishing ill on her, it was satisfying to know you weren't the only one who had problems BFing.

Yes, of course I am not wishing I'll on anybody. Thanks Mack.

Nita2603 · June 2012

SpinningJess:
Nita2603:
Packerfan79:

Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

Your post bothers me, and I'm not sure why. I tried breast feeding and gave up on it because my supply couldnt keep up. I felt really guilty about it but was able to move on. I would never feel better about someone not being able to do it either, especially with a premie. I don't think your evil, but I do think you're mean.

Oh, I know that it is mean. I just cannot help it. If I were to analyze my own feelings there it would probably be something along the lines of feeling less of a woman and like a crappy mother because I couldn't bf. I guess it reassures me in some way if others cannot do it either or something. And don't get me wrong, I know it is wrong to feel that way. I just cannot help it. And the fact that SIL is a hugh cuntnugget in the first place is not helping either.

FWIW, at least I keep that one to myself for a change IRL and I have tried to help out as much as I can with making contact to my LC, pump rentals, home remedies for milk production and what not. It is not like I am actively preventing her from bfing, quite the opposite.

FFFC...flame free. It's obvious OP is bothered by her feelings and needed a safe place to release them. I have had feelings before that I hate and know I'm horrible because of it but can't control. Like my ex-bff who I was hoping wouldn't get pregnant with her H because she had 2 abortions from not taking proper precautions in the past.

Thank you Jess.

SpinningJess · June 2012

Nita2603:
SpinningJess:
Nita2603:
Packerfan79:

Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

Your post bothers me, and I'm not sure why. I tried breast feeding and gave up on it because my supply couldnt keep up. I felt really guilty about it but was able to move on. I would never feel better about someone not being able to do it either, especially with a premie. I don't think your evil, but I do think you're mean.

Oh, I know that it is mean. I just cannot help it. If I were to analyze my own feelings there it would probably be something along the lines of feeling less of a woman and like a crappy mother because I couldn't bf. I guess it reassures me in some way if others cannot do it either or something. And don't get me wrong, I know it is wrong to feel that way. I just cannot help it. And the fact that SIL is a hugh cuntnugget in the first place is not helping either.

FWIW, at least I keep that one to myself for a change IRL and I have tried to help out as much as I can with making contact to my LC, pump rentals, home remedies for milk production and what not. It is not like I am actively preventing her from bfing, quite the opposite.

FFFC...flame free. It's obvious OP is bothered by her feelings and needed a safe place to release them. I have had feelings before that I hate and know I'm horrible because of it but can't control. Like my ex-bff who I was hoping wouldn't get pregnant with her H because she had 2 abortions from not taking proper precautions in the past.

Thank you Jess.

NP! Now in return, just promise me when your next LO is born you will never utter the words that it's "just like having twins" LOL!

colliebabe · June 2012

I confess that my H goes out a lot still, and I really don't mind. He usually goes out for drinks or to a friend's house or softball once or twice a week, and sometimes stays out late. We are in the city so he is always close by (within walking distance.)

I feel like most of my friends would throw a hissy fit if their husbands did this, but I am totally OK with it, especially since he is fine in the morning and able to get up help with the baby. He goes out after he does her bedtime routine and she is asleep. I always go to bed early (like 8:30 early some nights) so he would just be sitting around watching TV anyway.

Nita2603 · June 2012

SpinningJess:
Nita2603:
SpinningJess:
Nita2603:
Packerfan79:

Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

Your post bothers me, and I'm not sure why. I tried breast feeding and gave up on it because my supply couldnt keep up. I felt really guilty about it but was able to move on. I would never feel better about someone not being able to do it either, especially with a premie. I don't think your evil, but I do think you're mean.

Oh, I know that it is mean. I just cannot help it. If I were to analyze my own feelings there it would probably be something along the lines of feeling less of a woman and like a crappy mother because I couldn't bf. I guess it reassures me in some way if others cannot do it either or something. And don't get me wrong, I know it is wrong to feel that way. I just cannot help it. And the fact that SIL is a hugh cuntnugget in the first place is not helping either.

FWIW, at least I keep that one to myself for a change IRL and I have tried to help out as much as I can with making contact to my LC, pump rentals, home remedies for milk production and what not. It is not like I am actively preventing her from bfing, quite the opposite.

FFFC...flame free. It's obvious OP is bothered by her feelings and needed a safe place to release them. I have had feelings before that I hate and know I'm horrible because of it but can't control. Like my ex-bff who I was hoping wouldn't get pregnant with her H because she had 2 abortions from not taking proper precautions in the past.

Thank you Jess.

NP! Now in return, just promise me when your next LO is born you will never utter the words that it's "just like having twins" LOL!

Bahahaha, promised! I may have to scream when the next person exclaims 'Irish twins!!!'...

Ms.Jade · June 2012

I'm really having to eat my words this week. I have a good friend I've known since childhood who ever since having children is always pissed at her husband. She's not speaking to him at least once a month. I used to give this the side eye but now that we have E and I can see the increase in stress in our daily lives the little things DH does make me feel homicidal sometimes. I know it's not the answer, but I'm seriously considering not speaking to him!

ebp913 · June 2012

colleenb262:

I confess that my H goes out a lot still, and I really don't mind. He usually goes out for drinks or to a friend's house or softball once or twice a week, and sometimes stays out late. We are in the city so he is always close by (within walking distance.)

I feel like most of my friends would throw a hissy fit if their husbands did this, but I am totally OK with it, especially since he is fine in the morning and able to get up help with the baby. He goes out after he does her bedtime routine and she is asleep. I always go to bed early (like 8:30 early some nights) so he would just be sitting around watching TV anyway.

I feel the same way. Often on a Friday or Saturday night, my husband goes out with some guys around 9 or 10pm. Sometimes I wonder if this should piss me off but it honestly doesn't. I get to veg out, watch all the bad TV he hates and go to bed early. I am much happier doing that anyways. I think most of my friends would not approve if their husbands did this.

jeanniez · June 2012

I feel like most people in North America can't see what's really going on out there in the rest of the world. They believe what they see on the news and what others tell them. They don't see that the rest of the world hates Americans and they have reason to. (Big Mac mentality) I have seen things that would make most cry, kids living in squalor, no water, garbage piled around, people in consentration camps. All this in a 'civilized' country (Isreal) The way they treat the Palestinians is unspeakable.

This is all just MO, from my visit there. Glad this is flame-free, just wanted to vent

amyc216 · June 2012

ebp913:
colleenb262:

I confess that my H goes out a lot still, and I really don't mind. He usually goes out for drinks or to a friend's house or softball once or twice a week, and sometimes stays out late. We are in the city so he is always close by (within walking distance.)

I feel like most of my friends would throw a hissy fit if their husbands did this, but I am totally OK with it, especially since he is fine in the morning and able to get up help with the baby. He goes out after he does her bedtime routine and she is asleep. I always go to bed early (like 8:30 early some nights) so he would just be sitting around watching TV anyway.

I feel the same way. Often on a Friday or Saturday night, my husband goes out with some guys around 9 or 10pm. Sometimes I wonder if this should piss me off but it honestly doesn't. I get to veg out, watch all the bad TV he hates and go to bed early. I am much happier doing that anyways. I think most of my friends would not approve if their husbands did this.

I am with y'all. MH used to spend most weekends fishing and I enjoyed my alone time. He hasn't gone in weeks and while I am happy for him to spend more time with DS, I want him to go sometimes. When he's here the TV's always on something dumb and the house gets messy.

shediva1 · June 2012

I have only read about two books to DS Embarrassed

. He does play with those tiny books with colors/numbers/objects though. I will promise to start reading books to him tonight and from now on as part of his bedtime routine.

jeanniez · June 2012

My second FFFC is I wish women had never gone into the workforce. NOT because I think women can't do as well or better, but because I think women are better at raising kids (can stand the crying better, have boobs for feeding etc) and I wish every woman that wants to stay home can. This could be if women had stayed home. I really believe this was a major cause in the downfall of America. Thank you for FFFC!!! Embarrassed

DoctorWorm222 · June 2012

Chunstad:
jeannkerricotober09:

I am a SAHM but I took a consulting position 2 months ago and have a big project due today so the last few days have been really hectic. Yesterday was a gigantic struggle with N, nothing was done around the house, except for the dishes. I was still in my pj's when she got home (erg.) and I spent every spare min trying to work while: bouncing, singing, playing, rocking, nursing, entertaining N. He is a very hands on baby. He doesn't like to be alone or put down, it takes 1.15 hours to get him down for a 45 min nap etc. and on top of it he wasn't feeling well/teething.

When K got home at 3pm, N was asleep so I said I would just work at the dining room table, rather than go to the library, like we had initially planned, until 6ish so I didn't have to waste time getting showered, etc. and we would figure out dinner after 6 as long as she could keep N happy for that time. By 530 she was worn to bits and I would be lying if I didn't say it made me gleeful. She happily ran out for take out while I bathed and played with N.

Being a SAHM is hard s*it. I never expected it to be this difficult. I feel like a loser when she comes home and the house is a mess and dinners not prepped. She is always supportive and never, ever complains (rather she sympathizes and asks if we should hire someone) but I internalize my inability and get insecure so it was really nice to see, after 2.5 hours, she was burnt out. I laughed and said 'it's freaking hard, huh?' I wouldn't change it for the world but every so often I need that validation.

On a side note, not to generalize about women, but I wonder if being married to a woman is nicer than a man because they empathize more? My husband has gotten home before and asked "so what did you guys do all day" as he looked at our messy house. Of course, he doesn't say sh!t like that anymore :-)

Was totally thinking this! I know for a FACT that one cannot choose to be gay, else I might be married to a woman

jaime1220 · June 2012

My first confession, and its probably silly.

I have some social anixety at times and that is why I lurked for so long instead of posting. I was scurred!

Sunburn19 · June 2012

jeannkerricotober09:

Being a SAHM is hard s*it. I never expected it to be this difficult. I feel like a loser when she comes home and the house is a mess and dinners not prepped. She is always supportive and never, ever complains (rather she sympathizes and asks if we should hire someone) but I internalize my inability and get insecure so it was really nice to see, after 2.5 hours, she was burnt out. I laughed and said 'it's freaking hard, huh?' I wouldn't change it for the world but every so often I need that validation.

Yes Love this! I'm glad you said it. I really needed to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way. If I feel badly that the house isn't the way I'd like it to be when MH gets home, he'll suggest (and it's very sweet of him) that maybe we hire someone to come in every once in a while. While I like the idea, some part of the suggestion make me feel more inadequate....then I feel dumb for feeling that way.

DoctorWorm222 · June 2012

I don't know if this is flame worthy or not, but here goes...

I still nurse E to sleep even though my boobs are almost completely dried up. Its the easiest way to soothe her to sleep even though she probably gets less than 1/4 oz of milk from the whole endeavor. I bottle feed her first so that she never goes to bed hungry, but she still wants to nurse for comfort. I'm far too lazy do fight with her at night.

Also - and this is a big confession for y'all -

I've only ever been drunk once, and I HATED it.

pearblossom · June 2012

I didn't do one single bit of research about vaccinating. I made sure I am aware of the side effects/ warning signs after receiving one and left it at that. I grew up in a family that is heavily involved in the military and in healthcare and the importance of vaccination was instilled in me at an early age. At every pedi appointment, I just smile and nod and hand my baby over. I do sometimes feel a twinge of guilt considering the extensive reading I have done on almost every other aspect of child rearing. Here in CA, it is still relatively common to meet a vocal anti-vaxer so I usually keep this to myself.

jeanniez · June 2012

Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

I know you got flamed a little and I wanted you to know that everyone has thoughts that are not as nice as we would like. Don't feel bad, I too, couldn't breast feed and I have caught myself being relieved when I heard someone else couldn't. Makes me feel a little less of a failure. You are not evil or even mean. Just human Big Smile

Chunstad · June 2012

DoctorWorm222:

I don't know if this is flame worthy or not, but here goes...

I still nurse E to sleep even though my boobs are almost completely dried up. Its the easiest way to soothe her to sleep even though she probably gets less than 1/4 oz of milk from the whole endeavor. I bottle feed her first so that she never goes to bed hungry, but she still wants to nurse for comfort. I'm far too lazy do fight with her at night.

Also - and this is a big confession for y'all -

I've only ever been drunk once, and I HATED it.

I havent been drunk since New Years 2011. I drink wine, but not enough to feel it

jeanniez · June 2012

DoctorWorm222:
Chunstad:
jeannkerricotober09:

I am a SAHM but I took a consulting position 2 months ago and have a big project due today so the last few days have been really hectic. Yesterday was a gigantic struggle with N, nothing was done around the house, except for the dishes. I was still in my pj's when she got home (erg.) and I spent every spare min trying to work while: bouncing, singing, playing, rocking, nursing, entertaining N. He is a very hands on baby. He doesn't like to be alone or put down, it takes 1.15 hours to get him down for a 45 min nap etc. and on top of it he wasn't feeling well/teething.

When K got home at 3pm, N was asleep so I said I would just work at the dining room table, rather than go to the library, like we had initially planned, until 6ish so I didn't have to waste time getting showered, etc. and we would figure out dinner after 6 as long as she could keep N happy for that time. By 530 she was worn to bits and I would be lying if I didn't say it made me gleeful. She happily ran out for take out while I bathed and played with N.

Being a SAHM is hard s*it. I never expected it to be this difficult. I feel like a loser when she comes home and the house is a mess and dinners not prepped. She is always supportive and never, ever complains (rather she sympathizes and asks if we should hire someone) but I internalize my inability and get insecure so it was really nice to see, after 2.5 hours, she was burnt out. I laughed and said 'it's freaking hard, huh?' I wouldn't change it for the world but every so often I need that validation.

On a side note, not to generalize about women, but I wonder if being married to a woman is nicer than a man because they empathize more? My husband has gotten home before and asked "so what did you guys do all day" as he looked at our messy house. Of course, he doesn't say sh!t like that anymore :-)

Was totally thinking this! I know for a FACT that one cannot choose to be gay, else I might be married to a woman

Yes My DH doesn't empathize at all, just today he asked why laundry wasn't done. I cleaned the rest of the house but he didn't notice that, just what I didn't get to.

Nita2603 · June 2012

jeanniez:
Nita2603:
I am an evil human being. I visited our niece yesterday. She is 6 weeks old, was born about five weeks early. She is tiny. SIL is bfing her so far, but is about to give up, because she feels it is too much work. Now, my confession is that I was secretly happy about that. Since I couldn't bf, I seem to take some kind of satisfaction if somebody else cannot do it either. That is bad. I know it. There is something wrong with me.

I know you got flamed a little and I wanted you to know that everyone has thoughts that are not as nice as we would like. Don't feel bad, I too, couldn't breast feed and I have caught myself being relieved when I heard someone else couldn't. Makes me feel a little less of a failure. You are not evil or even mean. Just human

Thanks a lot for saying this. It really means a lot that there are some people who understand. I so hope I can bf the one coming.

pearblossom · June 2012

jeanniez:
My second FFFC is I wish women had never gone into the workforce. NOT because I think women can't do as well or better, but because I think women are better at raising kids (can stand the crying better, have boobs for feeding etc) and I wish every woman that wants to stay home can. This could be if women had stayed home. I really believe this was a major cause in the downfall of America. Thank you for FFFC!!!

It's never flame free. You have been around long enough to know that. And you should be ashamed of yourself. MH is home with our 2u2 at least 50% of the time so I can attend school and he is fabulous at it. You think women are able to work as well as men, but men aren't able to raise children? I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion, other than the men in your life must me remarkably incapable. Your statements are sexist and ignorant. You realize there are plenty of women throughout history who have worked outside the home, right? BY CHOICE.

Nita2603 · June 2012

I have another one: so A and I are just having breakfast now (the whole schedule thing is not working for us,week it when it seems to be a good moment). So I am eating and he is in his high chair eating. I guess the confession part is a two parter

1. He is eating cream cheese toast, strawberries and cheese. Without a bib. I hope he ruins the clothes he is wearing because I hate them and cannot get rid of them because they were a gift from SiL. Well, if they are ruined, I can.

2. He keeps feeding little bites of food to Shadow, who has taking to camping out under his chair whenever he eats. My first reaction was snapping photos instead of stopping it. Bad mommy!

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