One of my coworkers just asked me to help plan my boss' baby shower. Whose due 2 months before my first EDD. She does not know I'm in the middle of my 2nd miscarriage, but still. It hurts either way. So now I'm sitting at my desk, crying. And, because I don't want to look like a jackass, I swallowed hard, fought back the tears and said, "sure."
Re: People don't get it. At all.
People just suck. I wish they would think before they speak. Seriously.
(hugs)
BFP #3: 01/28/12, EDD: 09/23/12, MMC (BO), D&C 2/16/12 at 6.5 wks
BFP #4: 05/23/12, EDD: 01/31/12, Early MC at 5 wks
RPL Workup: + LPD (7DPO Prog = 7.8, Endometrial Bx = out of phase)
Elevated Alpha 2-glycoprotein IgA and antiphosphatidylserine IgM -->
Hematologist said not to worry and no need for treatment!
Dx: LPD
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BFP #5 on 09/10/12 (11 DPO). HCG #1 @ 14DPO = 131.6 HCG #2 @ 16DPO = 509
EDD: 05/23/2013
I had something similiar happen last month...this is how I declined:
"I think its really nice of you to want to host something for her new addition, and I'm honored that you would want to include me in the planning process. However given my recent losses, and considering that our due dates were relatively close together, I am just not prepared to help plan anything baby related. I feel bad, but I know you'll understand."
You are under ZERO obligation to help with the planning.
He's my fairytale, a dream when I'm not sleeping.
<a href="http://s279.photobucket.com/albums/kk121/behapybride/?action=viewHm, I may have to think about using this. I'm going to give it a couple of days before I say anything. I absolutely DON'T want to help, but I feel a bit obligated since she its my boss. But, this is her second kid...why couldn't we just do a gift card or something? Plus, it's not till July, so I keep hoping maybe things won't feel so fresh in a couple of weeks...but I know they still will.
Cycle 9: BFP 5-3-12:EDD 1-24-13 It's a girl! Born 12-27-12
If it makes you feel any better, I am on the Hospitality Committee at the University I work for, and they are throwing a surprise baby shower for one of my coworkers tomorrow. I LITERALLY just got a phone call asking if I would mind acting as the "Master of Ceremonies" (ex: say a welcome, tell people when to eat, when we're opening gifts, blah blah blah, etc...) I nearly felt my heart leave my chest and said I would prefer it if So and so did it this time... and said some awkward, lame excuse.
I dont feel bad about it either.
He's my fairytale, a dream when I'm not sleeping.
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BFP #3: 10/2011 ectopic 11/2011 (right tube removed, learned left tube was probably nonfunctional due to scar tissue from infection after m/c)
3 failed IUIs, IVF #1: 18R, 12M, 10F, 3 poor quality 5d embryos transferred= BFP #4!!!!!
Betas: 9dp5dt: 64 ~14dp5dt: 91 (expecting miscarriage, doubling time of 236 hours) ~16dp5dt: 200~18dp5dt: 500
First Ultrasound at 6w2d revealed two sacs, only one with a heartbeat
LK arrived after 42 weeks on August 14, 2013! Beautiful, healthy, and happy!
TTC#2: IVF booked for April 2015
Surprise BFP#5 February 19, 2015 EDD: November 2, 2015
Betas: 10dpo: 10, 14dpo: 77, 17dpo: 270
First Ultrasound at 5w1d showed a miracle UTE baby! And right ovary ovulation to left fallopian tube.
JD arrived at 38 weeks on October 20, 2015.
TTC #3: Since October 2017. BFP #6 July 2, 2018 EDD: March 16, 2019 [/spoiler]
I would imagine there are plenty of others who can help. You should not feel obligated. I wouldn't be able to handle it personally. Gosh, people really can be so very oblivious in life. It's pathetic really
EDD 1/31/13, MC May 17. EDD 3/31/13, MC July 26. I miss you so much already my angel loves
Wow--that super sucks. I would definitely try and back out That is just too much. I understand feeling obligated because she is your boss, but with what you are going through right now that is just alot to undertake. And if it is her second child, I didn't even think showers were thrown?? I've heard of "Sprinkle" if it is a different gender, but a work shower seems a bit much.
We will totally brainstorm with you to come up with some good excuses.
Many ((hugs))
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