I'll be 15 weeks in a few days, and I haven't made a Facebook announcement. My family is constantly asking me why and bugging me about it. My SIL said something like she has been "checking every day and wondering." Wth! Who cares?
I don't plan on saying anything until I've found out the sex, which won't be until July. I don't know, I feel like I'll jinx things which sounds crazy. Also, a good amount of my friends don't even know yet. I want to tell them in person, and I'm not able to meet up with some until the end of June. I don't want people to find out via Facebook and I'm afraid someone's going to out me any day now...
Re: Have you/will you announce on FB & why/whynot?
That being said... our families knew (the local one/ones we're close with anyway) and most of our friends already knew. DH's mother came to visit and that's how we told her. Before she got home she had already informed everyone she had ever met since birth.. lol Since none of that side of the family lives here and they're not extremely close to DH but ARE on facebook.. and we figured it was only a matter of time before somebody outed us online if we didn't do it outselves!
So DH wrote me a nice Mother's Day message and some people got it right away. There are still a ton of people that haven't said anything.. I'm assuming they missed it. Since then I posted one pic of DH holding up a cute onesie we bought.. That's it! I'm certainly not posting hourly updates or anything. lol
Once LO comes I'm sure we'll post some pictures and stuff but again.. I'm not big on the whole social network being a way to share your lifes most precious moments and I have no intention of using it that way! (Sorry it's so long! lol)
I will be likely this weekend. I was just waiting till all our immediate family knows before sharing with everyone else. With extended family and friends scattered all over Canada and the US, it's just easier to use fb to let everyone else know.
FWIW, facebook announcements of pgs never really bothered me, except immediately following my loss. I won't be abnoxious about it, nor will I run a constant play-by-play of my pg from here on out on my newsfeed.
This is what I did.
We wanted to share our amazing news with all our friends and it was the easiest way of doing so. And this way, we can keep everyone informed about how we are doing.
We won't be announcing on FB. My husband HATES FB and everything about it and doesn't want anything baby related posted there.
I get pressure from my family particularly my mother who wants to post it on FB. I think its more about her wanting to brag about being a gma than anything. Still, I feel that if she mentioned it on a feed and I hadn't told someone that I would have rather told in person it wouldn't go well.
We announced on FB. I should say "I" announced because DH did not do his own announcement.. I just tagged him in mine. We kept it super simple and I do not plan on posting any updates regarding my pregnancy.
Initially, I wasn't sure if I was going to announce on FB or not. As someone who has experienced loss, I know that pregnancy announcements can sting a bit and I really didn't want to be obnoxious about my pregnancy. Finally, we decided to announce, at 16 weeks, after close family / friends were told in person, and to keep it short & sweet.
Here are our reasons for announcing..
1. We're excited!
2. We both have lots of extended family / old friends, who do not live close by, that we really only communicate with via FB.
3. We thought it would be weird to suddenly one day, out of the blue, post "here's our kid" photos / announcement before posting the "we're pregnant" announcement.
4. I'm not one to post everything I'm doing on FB at all, so naturally I questioned sharing anything personal. However, many people post about the most trivial events. We figured a pregnancy warranted an announcement. Also.. people post about other big life events such as engagements, job promotions, weddings, etc. Why not post about a pregnancy?
I did at 12 weeks. It was just a straight-forward post, nothing cutsie.
I certainly don't think you should post it on FB if you don't want to. But, just as a practical matter, if you have people you really want to tell in person I'd do it sooner rather than later. One way or another word gets around.
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This has been on my mind too. I originally was thinking of not posting anything at all but then I remembered a few friends who had done that and then all of a sudden there are pictures of a baby- and in a way it is a bit disconcerting. Granted these weren't very close friends but it would have been nice to know they were pregnant.
So, I think I am going to share the news on FB after our 20 week ultrasound. At that point we will have told all of our close friends and family. We also have friends who are struggling to get pregnant and we have made sure to tell them all ahead of any public announcement.
I say, to each his own. I am not going to be that girl who posts about each thing she eats for lunch or dinner and I am probably not going to post much about the pregnancy at all- but I don't want to feel like I am hiding it either.
I posted the ultrasound picture and simply put 'BabyS Deux' (with a little disclaimer underneath). My boss immediately posted a status 'Welcoming another baby on the way at _______'. I post a belly pic from time to time, and maybe post TB fruit of the week, but seriously, no more than once every two weeks. My boss herself is dealing with fertility issues, but loves to be kept in the loop as to what is going on with me and how things are growing.
I keep it simple and am not clogging up anyone's newsfeeds. like I said, and update maybe every 2 weeks
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I feel the same way! Especially the bolded part. I think if someone ever posts anything on FB, that it would be weird to never say anything about being pregnant and then randomly post a picture of your new baby. I completely understand that those with IF have a hard time wtih pregnancy announcements but they will also have a hard time with a new baby announcement. I made sure to tell my friends that have IF about my pregnancy in a personal email so they didn't open FB and see it one day. I am sure I have friends that have IF that I don't know about, but I am not going to hide my pregnancy in an attempt to protect them. On the flip side, I put up an announcement, will announce the sex and maybe a few other updates along the way...but I try not to be annoying about it.
We have not, BUT people do make comments to us on it, so if people are smart they will figure it out. With our last one, DH announced it and then a week later I miscarried. I didn't want to Jinx this one. Plus, it was extemely hurtful to me to see when other posted they were expecting. Add on to that, my cousins step daughter announced at 4 weeks.....and has had nothing but problems (she's almost Term now) but every day there was and still is something posted about the pregnancy....it's annoying.....but I can't block her because it is SO amusing to read some of the stuff!
I announced on FB at 12 weeks by updating my cover photo to a picture of DH's and my feet with a pair of baby flip flops between us and the caption "Baby K - coming Thanksgiving 2012". I didn't change my status or anything and didn't make a big deal out of the picture but people noticed and commented as they chose to We'd already told everybody in person or over the phone that we wanted to tell personally and it was nice to put it 'out there in the universe' officially. Some people who don't go directly to my profile still don't know and it doesn't bother me -- they'll figure it out eventually and if they don't it's no skin off my nose
If you're afraid somebody will out you, I think you can set your privacy settings so you have to approve any wall posts or mentions before the rest of the world can see them so maybe you want to look into that until you're ready to be 'out'.
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I wasn't going to but then DH saw a cute announcement photo on my Pintrest board and wanted to do it. Since he was so excited, I got excited.
The response we got was so overwhelming and just reminded me how lucky we were to have such a great network of family and friends. I made sure to tell the important people in person or over the phone before I did it.
If you are high risk, then I can definitely understand your hesitation. For me, once I hit the second trimester I felt like it was okay to put the news out there. Honestly, just seeing how many people actually cared (whether it was fake enthusiasm or not, they took the time to comment) was really moving and I would recommend it.
DH and I announced yesterday. We have friends that are spread out all over the globe and it would be impossible to contact all of them.
I understand that it can be hurtful to see pregnancy announcements on FB for those that have had miscarriages or infertility issues. I'm not going to go overboard with updates, but I would like to think that my friends would be happy for me. DH and I have been married for almost 6 years and have suffered a loss within the year, so a lot of our friends have been waiting for this announcement.
We haven't yet. DH wanted to on day 1, but I'm not ready. Having experienced 2 MC's, I just don't want to go public with this one, should something go wrong and I need to take it back.
Originally I told DH we could post about it after our A/S at 20 weeks, but now I'm thinking after 24 weeks (viability stage).
It just doesn't feel right for me yet. However when others post I'm always so happy for them, even when it was right after one of my MC's. I've come to know more than ever that each baby/pregnancy is nothing short of a miracle.
This exactly. I didn't have any losses but we tried for 19 months to get pregnant and announcements on FB sting when its the one thing in the world you want and can't have.
I didn't announce really....but when I was about 13 weeks, someone who knew posted something on my wall about me being pregnant and then it just took off. So I wasn't the announcer, but it was announced.
I would have announced, but like an earlier poster, I likely would have waited till around 20 weeks.
What's done is done.