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April 2012 Moms
Oh guys, my Dad died in a car crash last night.
I'm still in shock. We moved back to Australia from Chicago 5 yrs ago, to be close to my family/parents and so the kids would have their grandparents. My 3yr old DS just loves his Grandpa and sees them several times a week.
DS2 arrived 11 days early, on my Dad Joseph's birthday 6th April, so we called him Beau Joseph.
I don't know how to tell Cruz, what do you tell a 3yr old. Anyone have thoughts or experience in this.
I'm just numb.
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Re: Oh guys, my Dad died in a car crash last night.
I am so very sorry. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
Oh, Star...I am so sorry. The title of this thread broke my heart...but seeing your name next to it just broke it again.
Your sons are very, very lucky they have a momma who assured that they would be able to spend time getting spoiled and loved to death by their grandparents...and I am so glad that they had that opportunity.
Telling Cruz will be challenging...there's no way to candy coat it and thereit isn't too much that can be done to make it less than challenging (in perspective) so if you feel the need to wait a bit, that's 100% okay. Cruz may ask questions, and you may want to be prepared to give 3-yr specific answers. Don't forget that you also have grief to handle, don't beat yourself up in you just can't find the words to answer all of his questions. Pull together. Your children, your family, your friends...they all come together to form a rock for you to lean on, so don't worry about trying to be strong for others. Strength will appear when you need it the most.
My prayers are with you and your beautiful family, Star...and remember that we're always here for you to talk to, vent to, and we will give you all of the support that we can muster.
I am so, so sorry for your loss.
Oh geeze... So many hugs and T&P's go out to you right now. My mom passed three years this comig October and I understand the numbness you are feeling. I hope that you can find some sort of calmness in this... Hug and kiss those babies and I hope it brings you some hope. As for telling Cruz, there are books geared towards toddlers on the issue of death. You might want to get that as it will help him to understand and grieve on his own terms. ((hugs))
I am so, so sorry for your loss.
With regards to Cruz, my cousin was widowed at 30 years old with a 3 year old and 9 month old. I believe she spoke to a child psychologist very quickly to figure out how to tell her son about his father since it was also an unexpected loss (fell asleep at the wheel driving home from our baseball game).
Please take care of yourself. I can relate to the numbness. When my mother passed (from illness but sudden and unexpected), it's hard to describe but I understood intellectually what was happening but at the same time it just didn't seem real.
I'll keep you guys in my thoughts and prayers.
Emerson Kate born 4/6/12, 5 lbs. 13 oz. 18 3/4 inches.
Happily expecting Baby Mac #2 around 4/13/14
Im so, so sorry for your loss. Sending you t&p.
DS - 7.2006 - C-Section b/c Breech
DS2 - 4.2008 - Successful Vbac
DD - 5.2012 - Successful Vbac
My heart breaks for you. I am so, so sorry for your loss. Tons of prayers coming your way.
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