Would you terminate?

Re: Would you terminate?

• Waterthrush

  November 2008

  My husband and I talked about this before ttc. He has a cousin who has a severe disability that keeps him wheelchair bound since his muscles never developed past a certain point. He is an adult now and has activities that he goes to and he loves going to watch races and baseball. He used to do beautiful splatter painting but he gave that up because it was too frustrating. I've always wanted a painting from him, but I guess that is not going to happen. I also have a friend that works with special needs children for a living. I'm very fortunate that if it were to happen, I'd have a lot of support and resources right there.
  

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• Mrs.Leah.Maria member

  November 2008

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• AshDoc

  November 2008

  No, we would not.

   Also, to comment on the genetic testing that others had talked about, we did not choose to do it with DS, because we always knew it wouldn't matter.  However, with this baby we did do it-only because the doctor told us that it would be a factor in delivery and treatment right after the baby was born if there were something wrong with him/her.  I didn't want to do the testing, but if it helped my dr treat the baby easier knowing something could be wrong, then I was for it.

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• nuttybunch

  November 2008

  Maybe. My friend's sister's baby had an extra chromosome. The disease would have let the baby live for, on average, one year or less. Out of 80 people in the one support group she was looking into, only 3 of them had kids live to the age of 15. It's a slow horrible death and I couldn't watch it.

  If it just required them to be in a wheelchair or something, probably not. 

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• Crissybell member

  November 2008

  jenerally:

  New_York_Dad:

  Crissybell:

  If the baby would be born severely deformed and have zero quality of life (physically and mentally) then we would terminate for the child's sake and for the quality of life for our future children.  We would not want our future children having to take care of their physically and mentally handicapped brother/sister for the rest of their lives.

   

   

  Huh? If anything it shouldn't be your future kids that take care of the disabled child for the rest of their life...it should be your you & your husband. Sounds like you were using future children as a scapegoat for taking care of a disabled child

   

   

   

   

  Did you miss the part where this is a FLAME FREE post? Please delete this comment, it was uncalled for and out of line.

   

   

  You beat me to it. Thanks.

  Everyone has a right to their own opinion. I share her opinion. I couldnt go on with a pregnancy knowing full well that the child has no chance at healthy life.

   

   

  Thanks for those of you that pointed out that this is a flame-free post.  But, just to clarify what I mean...

  Putting my physically/mentally deformed child into a home would not be an option.  So, what I meant is that once my husband and I are 'gone' I could not put the responsibility on my future children who will have their own lives/children to take care of.  I believe it would be very selfish of us to bring a child into this world who we know will have zero quality of life and I think it would be even more selfish to then pass the responsibiliy onto our other children.

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