another "things people say" post

heatherjesse · May 2012

I've said before that I'm a psychiatry resident. Well I was on call last night and went down to the ER for a consult. One of the ER residents that I work with and see fairly frequently down there asks, "Are you getting taller...or wider...or pregnanter?" I laughed and said "Yep!" He asked when I was due, so I told him. (I have just been letting people figure it out as I start to show instead of announcing to everyone in the hospital) He then goes "You're showing early, aren't you?" To which I replied "well, again, I'm 26 weeks. Babies are born then sometimes. He takes up space. It's pretty normal."

WTF?!?! This is another doctor who I know has seen pregnant women before!

kathyo1982 · May 2012

I'm on the opposite end of the spectrum...and from posts that I've seen, most people are opposite of me. If one more person asks how far along I am, and then says something like 'You're TINY!' or 'you don't even look pregnant.." I swear I am going to strangle them! As well as co-workers who know how far along I am, ask me, 'are you even showing yet?", or tell me 'you need to eat something'. I think its because I/we are so excited for this LO that I know I'm showing and getting bigger all the time, and LOOK pregnant...and I am enjoying the anticipation of her arrival, it takes away from the excitement/joy to have people tell you that you don't look pregnant, or how small you are. I'm sure it sucks the other way around too, but sometimes I just wish I were on the opposite side, where people tell me how big I am....oh well... Huh?

Kaisa07 · May 2012

I honestly will never understand why people think it's ok to say certain things to pregnant women .. big or small .. you wouldn't randomly walk up to a non-preg coworker and tell her how fat she is (or that she's too skinny) .. so why it's magically ok for 9 months is beyond me .. it's annoying tho .. as if we aren't already perfectly aware of our body changes .. pfft!

Snuffles007 · May 2012

My mil said, 'Well you're not exactly small are you! Are you sure it isn't twins?!'... I grunted. Then at my last docs appointment she sounded horrified when I said the baby is growing on schedule.

I honnestly don't feel like I am particularly big either.. grrr giving me a complex

Amber1001 · May 2012

A cop came into our store today. He looked at me, looked at my stomach and then said "Oh! Any day now?". Excuse me? Any day now? Are you kidding me?

You would think that he had never seen a pregnant woman in his life. His wife just had a baby! What an idiot!

azdcpa0912 · May 2012

I think the people that say these things have literally no clue when it comes to the size a woman 'should' be at various stages in her pregnancy. I've found people who are saying I'm huge now when I wasn't even showing at all 4 weeks ago (and have only gained 14 pounds - I only weigh 138 total at 5'7"). And others who say I'm so small for almost 6 1/2 months pregnant. They're all idiots

! And the comment about you showing EARLY? Wow - he's a resident and he thinks that showing at 26 weeks is early? I wouldn't want him to be my ER doc if I had a pregnancy emergency - he clearly doesn't know what he's talking about!

aleigh7383 · May 2012

A female coworker of mine walked up to me today and said "Are you sure it's not a girl? I always heard that with a boy you just get big in your belly, and you're big all over!" I was like "nope, pretty sure it's a boy" and the she responded with "well maybe it's twins". I try not to let things like that bother me, but I really don't feel like I've gotten grotesquely huge. I'm 24 weeks and only up 4 lbs from my 1st OB appt (I did lose about 5 lbs in the first tri, so I guess I'm up 9 lb from my lowest pregnancy weight). But like PP said, why do people feel that it's okay to make comments like that at any point , let alone to a hormonal pregnant woman?

sarahalyse · May 2012

"look at that belly! when are you due again?"

August 11

"WOW you still have 3 months! You sure you aren't carrying twins!?"

The thing is I'm 5'3" and it looks like I'm smuggling a basketball so I take all those comments with a grain of salt...it really bothered me with my first pregnancy but I expect it with this pregnancy so it doesn't bother me. Plus I know with hard work I will get back to my pre-pregnancy weight

abbieandbrandon · May 2012

One of the teachers at DDs Gymboree told me that I didn't look pregnant, just bloated!! Really that's not what I wanted to hear!

CLeigh03 · May 2012

I typically let these comments go in one ear and out the next but I swear I wanted to punch a man in the face this past weekend.

I had just gotten off the treadmill (was on it for 45 minutes at a pace of 4.7 - even ran a mile at 7.5). I obviously had put in a decent work out. As I was getting water he comes up to me and says 'you're young, you should get back on the treadmill.'

I said 'well, I think I did pretty good for almost 7 months pregnant!' He then proceeds to tell me that pregnancy is not an excuse at all...

Um. I KNOW THAT.....I am at the gym, aren't I?? I was just on the treadmill for an extended amount of time, right??

WTF.

Debra4love · May 2012

I have come to the conclusion that people have ZERO common sense! Who says this kind of stuff?! My standard reply now is, "I have a foot long human in me. I would assume it has to grow somewhere. I am surprised that you think pregnant people aren't supposed to show." That has been shutting them up!

Whittyone12 · May 2012

My boss told me the other day that I am "busting out everywhere" and that my chest is getting huge even though it was " never small to begin with". Then she finished with feel free to start wearing bigger scrubs at any time. She thinks I should be embarrassed to be pregnant because I'm 21. It pisses me off because if I was some knocked up teenager that didn't have a husband, home, job, and hadn't finished school it would be "look at that poor pregnant girl". But since I made a decision to create a life with my husband I should be embarrassed by my bad decisions. Sorry that turned into a rant a little. She just aggregates the sh!t out of me.