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Spicin' up the board..judgy time
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Re: Spicin' up the board..judgy time
Considering that you felt the need to repeatedly mention that you were a size 0-2, I think it was natural to assume that you were the OP. I didn't realize there were two women on this board obsessed with advertising their dress size.
Regardless, my comments still apply even if you weren't the OP. The original post was annoying and absurd and that is why people were flaming the OP. They weren't flaming her because of jealousy or because they are all fat. Sorry, but it is ridiculous to repeatedly post about not fitting in maternity clothes when you are barely out of the first tri regarldess of your size. And it is ridiculous to suggest that a bunch of pregnant women need to go on a diet.
And that is something I judge people for: Insinuating to pregnant women that they need to go on a diet.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Lol, when did I ever say that a pregnant woman needs to diet? You assume way too much, and we both know that you were already wrong for making one assumption already. Let's not make it more. I said if you're unhappy with yourself, do something about it. Maybe I should have clarified by saying "unhappy with your un-pregnant self." And I'm not "obsessed" with my dress size. Happy with it? Yes. But I'm not obsessed. If I were obsessed with it, I'd post that sh!t in my signature, along with "I proudly eat cheeseburgers." I mentioned it *gasp* twice, once in reference to that thread because I can actually understand what the OP goes through (despite how ridiculous the post was), and the other because *gasp* I DO get judged for it-- to my face. Often. Let's not go putting words into each other's mouths, dear, because I'll spank your ass at that game.
This!! My boyfriend and I have a wonderful pitbull named Zelda. We are having a little trouble finding an apartment because of her breed, and everyone is saying to get rid her. I'm sorry, but even though I wish BF had considered the trouble this was going to cause when he got her, he made the commitment rescue her and we are going to do what we have to do to keep her in our family short of making ourselves homeless with a baby on the way. Does that mean it's going to be harder? OF COURSE! But that doesn't mean we should get rid of her just because it's "hard".
Thankfully, most of my family is pitbull-friendly, so I haven't gotten any crap from them about having a pit around the baby, but I'm sure it'll come up eventually. ::rolls eyes::
Yes, maybe you should have clarified your comment was not aimed at pregnant women considering all of the posters on here are, in fact, pregnant and this is a pregnancy board.
And while I appreciate your enthusiasm over spanking my behind, only my husband gets that pleasure.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
XD
Well no sh!t. I had NO idea this place was full of pregnant women.. Hell, I didn't even know that's what that huge lump on my abdomen was... Go figure!
And don't worry, I don't swing in that direction. Otherwise marrying my husband would have been a bad idea..
I jumped down her throat because she was repeatedly making the same stupid argument over and over again. As someone who is also a size 2 I couldn't wrap my head around her ridiculous and condescending statements. Wasn't necessarily what she was saying but HOW she was saying it.
Furthermore she made it sound like anyone OVER a size 2 must be a big fat ass. I found her to be obnoxious, as did others, and she was informed of that.
Yeah, not everyone can handle the junk in my pregnant trunk.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
Pfft... I can't even handle mine anymore. Not sure when that happened. Hello, new underwear; it's nice to meet you.
You, too. I enjoyed our banter.
2011: FSH 13.3 & E 99; AMH 0.54 2nd FSH 6.2 E 40's AFC: 8
BFP from Clomid/IUI ~ Pre-e and IUGR during pregnancy ~ DS born 9/4/12
Feb./March 2013: AMH less than 0.16 (undectable) and AFC = 4;
BFP from supps ~ DS#2 due May 2014
May 2014 January Siggy Challenge:
It looks like I'm a little late to the game, but I'll play.
What do I judge others for? People who claim that there is absolutely no medical benefit to breastfeeding. If that's your opinion, fine. But keep it to yourself. Every respected medical organization disagrees with you and you talking about it spreads bad information. I don't even care that much if you choose to breastfeed or not. But stop telling other women that the choice that they made for their child (which is NOT an easy choice by the way), that has been scientifically shown to benefit their child, that those sacrifices they are making are pointless. Also, women who don't remotely trust their child with it's dad for no good reason. You made this baby with this man, why did you do that if you don't trust him? He's your baby's dad, and he has as much right to be a parent as you do. So get off his case. (Obviously there are serious exceptions for abusive or neglectful parents.) Oh.. and lastly, people who judge others for doing anything differently than they would.
When was the last time I judged someone? There are a couple statements on this board....
What do I think other people judge me for? I partially vaccinate... and hate that I get lumped in with "non-vaxers" who choose not to vaccinate because they read two extreme books and inhaled every word as fact. Uggg... My child is vaccinated against the big ones, but he's not going to give you Hep B just from walking around. Don't have sex with him and you'll both be at lower risk for getting it! Ummmm... my giant little boy has also been FF since 16 mo when he outgrew his RFing convertible car seat. The seat he is in is properly installed and he is correctly buckled in (straps not twisted, not loose, and chest clip properly placed) EVERY TIME. Thanks for asking.
In response to two other comments... maybe hold off on judging the whole "leash" issue until you have a toddler. If you happen to have an angel that likes to stick right by your side, great. I judge people who use it as a substitute for parenting, but there are some situations where I would like to let my son walk (because he wants to) where the risks of letting him run loose are just too great. He can hold my hand, but I don't always have an extra one, and that's just as frustrating for him as sitting in a cart. If we are in the store my son will stop when I say "stop" 95% of the time. But when we're walking along a busy road, the consequences of the off chance that he'll run into the road are just too great.
And finally in response to the "homeschooling" comment: My 5 siblings and I were all home schooled. My older sister is literally a rocket scientist. She has her Masters in Aerospace Engineering from (I think) UCLA (I always get USC and UCLA mixed up.) The sister directly below me was a National Merit Scholar and all 4 years of her nursing degree (she graduated with her BSN in 4 years not 5) were paid for. My younger brother was taking college level calculus his Jr. year of high school. The other two are still at home, but both of them are doing excellent academic work - by any standards. We are also all socially adjusted. I am aware that there are some pretty crappy home schoolers out there. But there are some super crappy public schools as well. You can't judge what someone's education is like based off of if they went to Public, private, or home school.
I thought it had to do with height/weight of the child, not just age? Honest question, not supporting the misuse of carseats.
Yes and No. It is safest for a child to rear face as long as possible. The minimum by law (in most places) is 20 lbs and 1 year, but it is recommended to go at least until 2 years or until the child outgrows the rear facing function of their seat. So the majority of children should be able to RF until 2 years old. I unfortunately have a son who is giant (has always been off the charts for both height and weight. He's perfectly healthy and proportionate, just big.) We wound up needing to flip him before 2 years old because he outgrew the seat's RFing function. For a RFing seat they have outgrown it when their head reaches within one inch of the top of the hard shell of the seat. There is usually a recommended length but depending on your child's torso length your child might reach 1in below the hard shell before or after they reach that specific length.
Part of why it is recommended to rear face for so long is that the bones in a toddler's neck have not yet fused and so, if they are forward facing, the bones can separate in an accident and internally decapitate the child. (Stretch the spinal cord to the point that it is severed.)
Okay good to know, thanks! This was something DH and I were talking about because we are both tall and grew faster than other kids our age, we got wondering how carseat regulations go if the child is outgrowing them.
If you're both tall, just be aware that your child will most likely out-grow the infant seat quickly. It's not a guarantee, just a likelihood. Also, pay close attention to the weight limits on the car seats and follow them as well. I wasn't smart and got an infant seat that went to 22 lbs. My son outgrew that before he was 5 mo. old. A lot of babies can stay in their infant seat until they are close to a year or beyond, and if I had just relied on that, he would have been in an unsafe seat, so just pay attention. Also, when buying a convertible seat, try to get one with a high RFing weight limit. If you notice that your baby is a fast grower, a 40lb rear facing limit is a must if you're going to do extended rear facing. (safest option.) Some of the less expensive car seats rear face to 35 lbs. (Cosco Scenera... which is what I had.) It meant that my son outgrew it at 16 mo old. This baby I'm going about things very differently.
Thanks for the advice, I hadn't thought about the rear facing limit on ours. Just double checked the convertible car seat we picked out and it's good for rear facing up to 45 lbs.
Back to judging!
I work on a college campus (I'm a librarian/asst. prof.) There is this woman who works as an admin asst. in admissions. EVERY day, she comes over here to the library to use our bathroom. Like clockwork. Once around noon, and once around 3:30.
This MIGHT make sense if we had nice bathrooms. We probably have the grossest ones on campus. We have three stalls, and frequently, one is out of service due to weird underground plumbing issues. We also have fluorescent lighting in there and no counter space. But, not only does she use the bathroom, but she does FULL makeup both times. She'll be in there for 15 minutes.. which is REALLY annoying when you actually want to use the facilities.
There are NICE bathrooms in the building where she works with ample counter space. There are even NICER bathrooms in the building next door to us, and they are frequently deserted. She doesn't speak to anyone while she' here, just comes in like clockwork.
I've never spoken to her, but I cannot STAND her based on this alone!
I'm not saying that I agree with the people saying that she is a bad person because she masturbates and it definitely would have no effect on the baby. That isn't possible and doesn't even make sense. But what are you talking about? Yes, I understand that it relieves sexual tension, but I seriously doubt it will prevent your child from having sex too early. If anything, masturbating would open up the sex life and give them a taste for it.
But then again, I'm clearly no expert on this issue. I never masturbated and waited until marriage to become sexually active. For me, the further away from it I stayed, the easier it was to avoid... Just saying, it is possible to not have sex or masturbate, and if someone is going to wait until they are "old enough" or "ready", it is going to be because they choose to.
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I, quite obviously, missed something. *goes back to read the post from the beginning again.*
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