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Spicin' up the board..judgy time
SGC29
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This board dies repeatedly on a daily basis. In an effort to revive it..
What is something you judge others for?
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
What do you think others might judge you for?
Make it juicy and or offensive if you dare. I haven't seen a good flaming in forever.
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Re: Spicin' up the board..judgy time
Wait..hold up. Now you have to go there.
Oh good grief YES. Majorly pisses me off when I see this. How lazy are you that you can't take 5 seconds to properly buckle your kid in? I always feel really bad for the kid because it isn't like they can just adjust it themselves.
Oh fun! Great idea!
What is something you judge others for? Even though I can see times when it would be ok to do this on a rare occasion, I judge parents when I see them taking their kids out to eat at places like McDonalds or Burger King. What good can possibly come out of getting your kid hooked on food that's way too high in sugar, fat and sodium.
I also judge people who are living beyond their means. Yes, SIL I'm talking about you. You should not be buying yourself and the kids brand new, name brand clothes and shoes every three months just because you want to have the coolest new things when you have $10,000+ of credit card debt, a leaky roof, and you borrowed $20 bucks from me last week to eat out because pay day wasn't for another two days.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? The other morning I watched a mom drop her kid off at school in dirty, torn jeans and a t-shirt with no jacket & it was only 35 degrees out. I talked to DH on the phone later & was basically gossiping to him about it when I realized there have been days when I've let DS wear what he wants to wear to school simply because I didn't have the energy to fight him on it.
What do you think others might judge you for? DS is six and has an Xbox, a 3D DS, and an iPod touch. Two of the three were purchased used and we limit the amount of time he spends on them, but I can see where others might not agree with our choices.
What is something you judge others for?
- This is no new news as I pretty much talk about it all the time on TB but I judge the crap out of people who have a problem with seeing a child nursing in public. I spit fire over this topic. I will never understand why adult men and women cannot just look away and go about their own business. It really isn't that difficult.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
- I judged the mom in toddler class last week who proudly proclaimed that she was going to start forward facing her less than one year old for convenience purposes. She stated "I know the guideline says age two but I'm just ready for her to be settled and flipped already". Whatevs.
What do you think others might judge you for?
- I let DD sleep in our room until she was 10 months old. I would have let her sleep in our room longer but DH getting ready for work started affecting her sleep so we transitioned her to her own room. I also let her keep her bottle until 15 months old because it wasn't worth the fight for me. She weaned herself shortly after. Hmmm...what else...OH I've never let anyone babysit DD other than my MIL when I have the occasional doctor's visit. 19 months old and she has never been babysat by anyone for an extended period of time.
Ooo this is a bad one. Was there anyone else in the car? I'd judge the shitz out of this too.
What is something you judge others for? spanking and yelling at their children
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? it happens daily
What do you think others might judge you for? my parenting style & owning a pitbull
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What is something you judge others for?
1.) People who spend too much on kids clothes. I mean I like my child to dress well but come on 75 bucks then justify buying it because 'um it was on sale for like $50, come on WTF!
2,) Co-sleeping with kids. I mean how do you actually have a decent nights sleep with a kid digging their foot or hand in you body all night long? Plus how do you have any sex life?
3.) Organic food for kids. Come on people. How can fruit be organic its already grown off a tree? Wait I know the pesticides and other crap that can be washed off right?We all ate food that had stuff in it we didn?t know what it was, ie Oreos, cheese curls,
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
I think I judge people everyday, even numerous times a day. I think I have a problem.
What do you think others might judge you for? Being a Beitch, do I care. NOPE.
The IVF things hurts my heart. I feel like older people definitely have less of an understanding to it. My MIL does, unfortunately. She has no idea how close we were to the IVF talk to conceive our second child. It bothers me so much when others aren't sympathetic to this or simply do not understand it.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? A friend on Facebook today (and all the time) biitching about her child support and getting into ALL the details. I don't think Facebook is the place for that... but whatever I don't have to read it if I don't like it.
What do you think others might judge you for? I know I'm judged when I go to the YMCA to work out (I'm still doing the elliptical and light weight training). I go during the morning/early afternoon which is the same time a bunch of 60+ people go and I get some pretty disapproving looks from them, especially the older men.
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What is something you judge others for?
Several of my FB friends who are my age (early 20s) have very young kids. A few of them are CONSTANTLY posting about either being hungover as sh*t from the night before; or seriously looking forward to going out tonight; or "thanks *name* for looking after my kids the other night, I needed those drinks!". One of them in particular happens to be spoiled rotten and I know she dumps her 4-month-old and 2-year-old on her parents on pretty much a bi-weekly basis. Oh, and mummy and daddy still pay for absolutely everything for her, and she's never worked a day in her life (and doesn't intend to). Don't get me wrong, nothing wrong with going out every now and then, but grow the f*ck up and give up on the constant wild nights when you have kids. They're your responsibility.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
Last night, thinking about spoiled-rotten brats, especially those who still have everything handed to them by mummy and daddy. That's a long rant in itself.
Oh, and yesterday. We live in an apartment complex and one of our neighbours has an ickle puppy. It's adorable... ...and it's always shut outside on the balcony. Now, I know that not everyone treats their dog like we do (little devil spends every night in our bed, under the covers, and is absolutely a "wherever-he-wants-to-be" dog), and there's nothing wrong with them being outside. But this isn't some big grassy yard we're talking about: this is a second-floor balcony, about 10x10 of concrete. I think it's wrong that he's always outside, and it just seems to me like they didn't think through having a dog.
What do you think others might judge you for?
Doing a med-free birth. DD's name. Not giving a flying f*ck about their opinions.
What is something you judge others for? I judge women who posts pictures of themselves in the hospital with their newborn, with a bottle of formula in their mouth. I judge anyone who doesn't have a medical reason why they can't breastfeed, but just CHOOSES not to even TRY.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? This morning. When I saw a picture on FB of a friend formula feeding her 1 day old baby. She had previously mentioned to me about she didn't BF her other two, and didn't plan on BFing this one because she doesn't want her boobs ruined and because they are her "husbands boobs".
What do you think others might judge you for? I'm sure I was judged for EBF (16 months with DD). And I'll bet that I'm judged because DS uses a bottle to fall asleep. I planned to wean him, but he's a difficult baby. And it makes him happy. According to his pedi, it's not hurting him, or his teeth. So we'll take it away sooner or later :P
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YES. I HATE that. Also, women who don't breastfeed because they think it will make their boobs droopy. Forget for a minute that that's not true: is it really more important to you to have perky boobs than to feed your child what nature intended you to feed them? Also, I judge my mother. Aside from just generally being not a nice person, turns out she gave up on breastfeeding me for no good reason. And, y'know, she's just a cow. (Ha, now I know I'm going to be judged for saying that!)
I feel sorry for women who can't breastfeed. Not in a high-horsey or "I pity you, hun" way, but I hate that most people don't see the difference between "I physically cannot breastfeed" and "eh, no way am I doing that". I was talking to a friend about her baby, and the Baby Bullet, and it was like she couldn't wait to throw in that she desperately, desperately tried to BF and couldn't; and hates FFing. I wanted to hug her and tell her it was ok.
What is something you judge others for?
Bad grammar. Children with little to no and/or horrendous manners. Negative people who refuse to make positive changes in their lives. Women who shop solely in the juniors dept after age 30.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
Yesterday when I heard the name "Makenna." Dislike.
What do you think others might judge you for?
Choosing to be a working mom who works a decent amount, therefore having my daughter in daycare for a decently long day. Traveling for work on top of that. Shopping and shopping for high-end things. My DD currently sleeping on a mattress on the floor until we find out the sex of LO #2 so we can appropriately reallocate beds/cribs/decorations.
What is something you judge others for? Smelling like they haven't had a shower in weeks. Especially now that my nose is more sensitive. Come on, can't you smell yourself?!?!
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? My SIL is always posting on FB about how my 6 month old nephew likes all these baby/kid TV shows. I'm sorry, but my kid is not going to be planted in front of the TV for hours and hours all day.
What do you think others might judge you for? Thinking it's bad to plant my kid in front of the TV for hours, for one, LOL. Also, having an advanced professional degree and still choosing to be a SAHM.
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This is perfect!! I was just judging someone this very moment!
What is something you judge others for? I was just judging someone that is going to retire in July. Our office is on a huge hiring freeze. However, this woman does nothing! All her job is (and has been for over a year) is to collect all the mail in the office and stamp it. She walks around here with her shoes off, dressed sloppy and constantly eating. I have even caught her taking files into our bathroom when she goes!
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? 2 seconds ago.
What do you think others might judge you for? Honestly, idk. I'm sure people can find plenty.
I judge people with credit card debt from living beyond their means. I mean, really, there is NO reason to carry a credit card balance unless you've had some kind of family or medical emergency. Similarly, I judge people who live in crappy apartments but have super expensive cars. Come on. Maybe if you hadn't purchased that Escalade, you and your 4 kids and mother wouldn't have to live in a super craptacular 2 bedroom apartment in the ghetto. Priorities, people!
I work with a woman who is always trying to lose weight (or says she is). But then she makes the WORST food and exercise (nonexistent) related decisions and seems genuinely surprised that she's continuing to gain. She's a smart person, but she still eats McDonalds and other really bad chain food ALL the time or just eats a lunch that involves twice as much food as I eat while pregnant.
I'm sure others judge me for being judgey... if they know I'm judgey. Also, I work and earn the bulk of the money while my husband stays home and has his own business. He does the cleaning and errands while I do pretty much none of that (beyond cooking sometimes). Heck, sometimes *I* judge me for that.
What is something you judge others for?
Oh its a long list! Parents who take their kids to fast food places ALL THE TIME. I'm not all organic or anything, but i don't even consider fast food to be food. I judge parents who use the TV as a babysitter. I judge SAHMs who NEVER clean their homes. I'm not talking about she's so busy with her toddler or newborn that she's a little overwhelmed; I'm talking about piles of dirty clothes all over, dirty dishes in the sink from yesterday or last week, and an overflowing garbage can. I also judge people who don't have kids, but treat their pets like kids. It is not a child, no matter how much you love it; and you do not understand what it's like to deal with a newborn just because your puppy cried all night. (side note: I love animals and our dog had 17 puppies, so I do understand what its like to take care of them.)
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
I think it was yesterday. Some mom on fb was having medical interventions to have her baby because she was "sick of being pregnant". She wasn't overdue and there was no medical reason.
What do you think others might judge you for?
Probably for the fact that DH and I are renting the upstairs of my parents' house even though we are financially able to have our own place. Judge away! We pay the same rent we paid for our house, its the same size as our rental home, but we're giving the money to our family instead of some stranger. My family is always at work and school, so we don't get on each other's nerves. They like us here and we like being here.
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I judge people who are blind followers who don't have their own opinion. I also judge people with children who go out constantly. Grow up. When you have kids your days of being the life of every party should be over.
Several people who I can't believe just how blind they are in their opinions.
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I judge people who are overweight and complain about it, but shovel food into their traps nonstop. My coworker claims she's on a diet, but visits the vending machine six times a day. I'm always giving her sideeye for that.
People probably judge me for drinking coffee and eating lunch meat while preggo, but I don't care. My doctor says it's okay and that's all that matters to me!
What is something you judge others for?
People complaining about being out of shape and overweight and doing nothing about it. People who wear too much make-up, so that it looks like they are wearing a mask. People who wear clothes that do not fit them properly. People who talk a lot of sh*t about things that they have no clue on. People who obsess over Facebook. People who text and drive. Ummmmm one of the posts on this thread... the mom who won?t be doing Santa/ Easter bunny/ tooth fairy etc. and raising her kids to be atheist and vegetarian... sorry but just being honest. People who never use the correct spelling of their/ they're/ there. Spelling mistakes in general. People who fish for compliments with subtle statements like "ugh I feel like I look terrible today..." My sister in law. I can't stand her. People who complain about how their kids won?t go to sleep at night or wont sleep on their own or wont sleep unless they watch 2 hours of mickey mouse first or wont sleep unless they have chocolate milk first... I have a friend who does this and this is all she talks about... Maybe if she stopped letting him take TWO 2-hour naps everyday.... People who constantly talk about money, whether it be about how broke they are and how they have to pinch pennies to get by or it be about how much money they just spent on something, I think it?s tacky... I just realized this may have turned into a rant on things that bug me rather than things that i judge people for. OHH and here is a good one....People who put their kids on leashes. People who dont read to their kids. OK .. I think I should stop.. I could probably keep going...
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
Ha, I do it all the time.. most recent example: I just met a coworkers husband and she is atleast 4-5 inches taller than him.. lol
What do you think others might judge you for?
I cuss, I don't know if it's because I'm pregnant, but people give me very strange looks when I drop the 'f-bomb'. Umm let's see...I don't take advice from people lightly, people probably take it as me being snobby, but in all reality it's just because I'm a control freak and insist on doing things on my own. I also refuse to take hand me downs, I think it's kind of gross... I'm kind of a germ freak, and used items bother me... I'm sure there is a ton more... My husband and I hold hands a lot, hug a lot and kiss a lot in public, nothing like a make-out session... but I've received a few nasty looks before when stealing a kiss... Umm I refuse to even think about trying to do child birth drug free. I've considered scheduling a C-section (decided not to, but the fact that I considered it, I?m sure it has to do with me being a control freak? I?m learning to let go? a little. Lol)
YEP. Might as wel not even use a car seat if you're not going to use it properly. Sitting a kid down in one and draping the straps over them is going to accomplish nothing in an accident.
Similarly: I will judge the crap out of you when I see your one year old forward facing and I will think you are a less-than-caring parent.
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What is something you judge others for
It really bothers me when people drive badly. I didn't notice it so much until I got married and my husband started pointing out all of the people camped in the left lane and the swerving lady with the cell phone at her ear. Being safe in a car is so important because so much can go wrong.
Also, when I see a pregnant woman smoking. No good can come of that.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
It bothers me when people are flaky. My sister in law and sister are both this way and it drives both me and my husband nuts. If you say that you are going to do something, then do it.
What do you think others might judge you for?
I am a horrible guest and didn't realize it until I started reading about etiquette on the baby shower board. I am pretty socially inept anyway (personality wise) and I am sure I have stepped on toes and gotten the side eye from people without any realization that what I was doing was not appropriate.
I'd just like to say that I am working on it.
What is something you judge others for? Hah! A lot. Non vaccinating, homeschooling, laziness, etc.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? Uhh, this happened twice today. DH's friend's wife is going to "homeschool" their kid because they dont want him to experience peer pressure. And I was talking to a friend on FB who just had her baby. She was really upset that her delivery ended in c section, but she claims that there was no way it could have been avoided. Umm yeah there is. How about not inducing labor at 38 weeks because you were "uncomfortable". And her Dr warned her that she was increasing her likely hood of a c section since she didnt have a favorable cervix.
What do you think others might judge you for? So far my birth plan is being judged a whole lot. Ive found that a birthing center water birth gets a lot of side eye and "Omg, your baby will die" comments.
100%! I was going to add this also. My friend is such a flake and it drives me crazy. If I make plans with someone, I show up, and I just feel I deserve the same respect back!
What is something you judge others for?
I hate when people complain that they can't provide for their kids BUT get a new tattoo every week. I judge people who wear their pajamas in public. I judge people who take stock in Jenny McCarthy's book.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
Last night. A girl in one of my classes was diagnosed with and illness and asks me to Skype her in because she's in too much pain to come to class. I felt bad for her so instead of taking notes on my laptop as usual, I went back to old fashioned pen and paper and set her up on Skype. She was posting pictures last night of her out with friends. I now think she's just lazy. I am ALL for getting out when you feel bad BUT seriously... I'm going out of my way for you and it doesn't seem you actually need it.
What do you think others might judge you for?
Our DD will be vaccinated on a delayed schedule so she doesn't receive too many vaccinations at once. Also, I'm terrified of breastfeeding and most likely will formula feed. I'm afraid of failure and of the commitment - not to mention it kinda weirds me out.
What is something you judge others for? Poor grammar. Poor hygiene. Poor driving skills. Sticking their nose in other people's business, like when it comes to breastfeeding. When women jump down the throats of skinny women just because the skinny one can't fit into a certain store's clothes, and then proceed to have a b!tch fest about how "fat" they are. If you're unhappy with yourself, do something about it. Don't jump down MY throat just because I'm a size 0-2 pre-pregnancy. I also judge people who let their kids run around restaurants and other public facilities. Get a leash if you can't handle them.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? Today, when a girl on my FB friends list posts that she's bored and has nothing to do. B!tch please, you have a 9 month old to take care of.
What do you think others might judge you for? Being a size 0. Swearing a lot. Not mowing our yard 3x a week like the rest of the neighborhood. And I'm not breastfeeding. Not even going to try. (That "breastfeeding will improve IQ" sh!t? Please. My stepson was formula fed. He's now at Princeton. You can stfu.) Judge me all you want, I don't give a flying f*ck.
What is something you judge others for? smoking. i think smokers are idiots. I've seen it almost kill my father. Several people that work for me smoke and I get really nasty w/ them about it. I turn my nose up and snap when they come in from smoking and walk by me and I point blank tell them they smell. So much so i'm surprised no one has called HR to say I'm borderline inappropriate.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? everyday, not only for the above but I'm a retail manager and deal w/ the public on a daily basis. I see some F'd up stuff all the time.
What do you think others might judge you for? Hmmm, probably being an outspoken biatch. LOl. I've never pretended to be anything else. Being a working mother (mostly by the uppers in my company and all of my H's female SAHM cousins). Staying w/ my H years ago after he cheated on me. The amount of $$ I spend on purses and sunglasses.
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What is something you judge others for? I can't stand people who are not courteous or gracious...ie if the pregnant lady holds the door for you, say "Thank You"...yes I'm talking to you, Mr. Jerkface. I see this guy at least once a week at work.....I know you may not realize this but I wasn't put on this earth to hold the door for you. On the flipside, I can't stand when I'm three steps behind someone and they don't hold the door either. I work in a building with several different companies so it's never someone that works in my company but seriously.....little things matter sometimes.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone? Yesterday/today reading my ex-SIL FB posts.....her and my brother divorced two months ago (because he cheated and I'm not condoning that) but she is still friends with all of his family and his friends yet posts things like 'whoever is telling X what I post, don't, if I wanted him to know, he would still be my friend'. Really? Um. You posted it on FACEBOOK! It's like telling the world.
What do you think others might judge you for? I know it gets people upset because I refuse to be forever mad at my brother for cheating. He did it. He paid the price (lost his marriage and his right to see his kids every day - sees them every other weekend). I guess my low-key approach is more that I hope him being around me and DH more, he can see how functional relationships work. Could be a longshot but it's worth a try.
No one cares that you are a size 0-2. It was because you kept repeatedly posting about it...and complaining that the maternity clothes were too big when you are barely out of the first tri and the clothes are made to see you through the entire pregnancy and, therefore, are innately going to be a little big if you try to wear them early in pregnancy. And, by the way, not being a size 0-2 doesn't make you fat...and, even if it did, it isn't safe or a good idea to diet while pregnant which is what you seem to be suggesting is the appropriate action to take.
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What is something you judge others for?
Not properly using car seats. Spanking their kids ALL THE TIME for minor infractions. People who don't watch their kids at the playground (or let kids who are WAY too old play on the equipment and scare/hurt the younger kids).
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
Today at the grocery. A kid, probably 8-9 years old, got out of the front seat of an old neon. Wow - that is safe!
What do you think others might judge you for?
Breastfeeding for 1 year. Having more than 2 kids (pregnant with #3 now). Delayed vax schedule. Trying to minimize fast food / maximize "real" food.
Actually, the original poster of that thread was not me-- it was Early Bird Mama, who is 16 weeks pregnant. I, on the other hand, am 26 and actually wearing MM clothes. Here's a link to it to refresh your memory, since you cannot check your facts before you call someone out. https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/65285978.aspx
Thanks for playing, though.
Which reminds me... that's another thing I judge people on: not getting their facts straight before they open their mouths.
What is something you judge people for?
Not letting little girls do "boy things" and vice versa, saying they would disown their children if they were gay (in fact, saying you would disown your kid for ANYTHING! If my kid ends up being a serial killer, I will still love her, I just won't love the decisions she made and not feel bad that she has to spend of the rest of her life in prison), spoiling their children, allowing their children to be bullies.
When was the last time you caught yourself judging someone?
I was reading a question on babycenter.com about a woman that had a question about masturbation during pregnancy, and a lot of religious moms were saying that she was a bad person and the baby would grow up to be a "MATURBATOR"! OH NO! Sorry, but I hope my kid has a healthy masturbation life. It's healthy and it relieves sexual frustration. Maybe that will keep them from having sex too early.
What do you think others might judge you for?
My natural, midwife-assisted birth plan, taking a break from college to have a baby, having an open relationship, not being married (boyfriend doesn't believe in marriage, and I am in no hurry), and a slew of others...
I stopped eating lunch meat at first, but because I work so much right now, finding time to eat something that isn't take-out is practically impossible and one of the healthiest placest I could eat was a DELIVERY sub shop called Jimmy Johns that serves healthy, cold-cut subs for super cheap. I avoided it and ate other things for a while before realizing how ridiculous it was to be eating worse just to avoid this rare pregnancy danger.
Yes, yes it would. In fact, I'm kind of hoping she posts something here. I'm still baffled by that one.. at 15-16 weeks I wasn't even dreaming of buying maternity clothes, let alone worried about fitting into them.