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Our birth mom has been really wishy washy lately and we (DH and I) keep wanting to talk to her about it but she keeps having crisis after crisis and not really communicating with us in between the crisis-es (yes I am making up words, I am allowed today).  She is on bedrest now and I have been trying to get a hold of her and not able to.  I called her husband (yes she has a husband, it is a long story) and he said basically that she has been avoiding us because she wants to keep the baby and is afraid to tell us.  So there you have it.  Another failure.  When are we going to catch a break?
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    I"m so sorry
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    I'm really sorry, too. 
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    Oh man I am so sorry!!! Huge hugs!! It never gets easier :(
    Married on 3.20.2004. It took 30 month, 2 failed adoptions and IVF for our first miracle. We have had 9 foster kids since he was born and started the domestic adoption process when he was 10 month old, we had 4 failed matches in that time. After our daughter was born we brought her home and spent 2 weeks fearing we might lose her because of complications that came up. But Praise God all went through and she is ours forever! Expecting again after IVF Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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    I am so sorry.
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    I'm so sorry!!!
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    Wow, there's no good way to get that news, but it's a shame she couldn't be more honest about her feelings.  I'm so, so sorry!
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    I am so sorry for your loss. I don't understand why these things happen, but I hope you find your forever baby soon!
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    Oh ouch, I'm so sorry.  :(  I suppose it's better to know now than after several more months, but I'm sure it hurts just as badly.  
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    Oh Meg - that SUCKS.  I wish you didn't have to keep going through this.  If I had a break to share with you, I would.  :(
    Todd & Kristin, 3.10.07

    After 5.5 years of loss, heartbreak, and empty arms, our dreams were fulfilled through the beautiful, selfless gift of adoption. We are amazingly blessed!

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    i'm soo sorry

    hang in there

    hugs, love and prayers...familyhope
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    Oh I am so sorry for your loss.  It never gets easier to hear that news.  Keep you chin up and have faith that it will happen for you.  Sending hugs.
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    I'm so very sorry... that doesn't seem to express what I am really wanting to say but  can't find any other words to fit....
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    I'm so sorry!
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    I HATE this!! I wish I had better words of encouragement to share. I am so sorry!!
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    So sorry to hear this!
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    I'm so sorry.
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    I am so sorry. 
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    Praying for you.  
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    jani7jani7 member
    I am so sorry :( 
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    I am so sorry!
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    I'm so sorry :(
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    I am so sorry.  I just read your siggy and you guys have been though so much.  You deserve for something to just go right for once.  ((hugs))

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    I'm so sorry. 
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    Hugs to you during this difficult time. I pray you can find peace with this somehow. I'm so sorry.
    BM to Kenzie 9/1/04 --- Married 1/22/09 --- Me 27 - DH 25 --- TTC our first since April 2010 Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers
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    I am so so sorry :(  
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    CheleChele member
    I'm so sorry this is happening. 
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    Wow.  That sucks.  We too have been having multiple crisis-es and are/were wondering the same thing but she says no, she's not changed her mind.  Still I know how you felt.  Hang in there!  It will happen.  Adoption Happens. 

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