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5 months..and still no baby
My husband and I are currently ttc. We currently have a 5 yr old son together (so I know it's possible for us to get pregnant). I stopped taking my birth control in october 2011 and we started trying right away in November. We just completed our 5th month and just when I thought I was finally pregnant, I got my period:( Not sure if it is normal with ttc but my cycles were 28 days long after going off the bc (pill) but then eventually switched to 29 days and then this month I was at day 30 and still no period...well on day 32 I got my period but it came on in a different way. Usually I start out heavy and then it tapers off, but this time it started very light, almost like implantation bleeding and then on the second day was heavy with worse than normal cramps. I was thinking maybe I was pregant but something was wrong and my body naturally did it thing because it wasnt viable. I had taken 3 preg tests and they were all neg. one each day @ day 28, 29, and 31. Im open to suggestions or thoughts or just encouragement!
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Re: 5 months..and still no baby
Yeah, this.
Sorry, but 5 months is not a long time. I know it might seem like a long time, but it's really not. I wish I had cycles like yours.
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5 months may seem like a long time, but it can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive.
I personally find it annoying when people who haven't tried very long start complaining.
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The variation in your cycles that you mention is quite common. It is unlikely that you will always have exactly 28 day cycles--unless you are on BC. It is normal for them to vary by a few days.
Like PP said, read the newbie link and consider charting. That will give you a lot of insight into your body--for example seeing the reasons for your varied cycle length (did you ovulate a different day; is your LP changing, etc.).
Definitely read the newbie link. And FWIW I have had all kinds of 'new' symptoms since going off the pill 4 months ago. A lot of them are probably not new but just that I have noticed them for the first time b/c I am paying A LOT more attention to what's happening with my body now that we are TTC. My cycle length has also varied by a few days and that is normal.
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The OP is looking for encouragement and just because many have been trying longer doesn't mean she deserves some of the responses on here. This is "trying to get pregnant" not 3t...
OP, I think I get what you're saying. We haven't been trying long either but I get impatient and want it to happen fast (as does everyone). My advice is to read the newbie link up top, maybe lurk for awhile, and you'll probably see some helpful info.
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Have you ever read what the 3T board is for??? Cause it sure sounds like you haven't. I've been trying for 9 months & still no baby, but you don't see me making a post & complaining about it. and I am NO WHERE near having Trouble TTC.
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Yes, I know what 3t is for. What I meant was I could see her getting some of these responses if the OP had posted this on 3t... But this is ttgp so I would think people would be a little more patient & understanding with newcomers.
Sorry you're not getting the encouragement your looking for from some of the women here. (on the other hand, it was nice to see some women showing you encouragement) I've been lurking on the site for some time, and here's what I've seen:
Many of the women are kind and understanding and want to be helpful/supportive, but there are a few from the 3T board that think they own this board and no one should be allowed to be upset if they aren't technically having trouble.These few people feel the need to (not ignore and move on, not kindly tell you it's still really early but rather) do all they can to make anyone feel bad for being anxious before at least a year of trying. Don't feel bad about it. I guarantee they were anxious to some extent at 5 months too, even if they didn't admit it and can't remember it now. Someone pointed this out earlier today and their post got deleted.
I completely understand where you're coming from. I don't have a child yet, and the 6 months I've been waiting has me worried that maybe we won't be able to have kids. I'm sure that's not the case, but it doesn't stop the thought from popping into my mind every so often. Luckily that's not a big worry for you, but I'm sure it's still upsetting. As lots of people have said, you'll get there.
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BFP #1:10/31/10 DS born 6/22/11BFP #3:4/24/12 DD born 12/31/12
Please tell me what you think TTTC is, exactly.
BFP #1:10/31/10 DS born 6/22/11BFP #3:4/24/12 DD born 12/31/12
(reposted because I guess I hit reply instead of quote last time)
There were a number of people that didn't pat her on the back, but weren't rude to her either. I don't see anything wrong with letting her know that 5 months isn't that long. Up to at least a year is in the normal range, and there are certain places on this site that would be helpful to a newcomer. There were just a few people that I was actually referring to that tend to respond negatively to anyone who hasn't been trying all that long or is feeling something they don't approve of. I'm just saying, her feelings are legitimately her feelings whether or not people like them. As parents, don't you want your children to be kind to others and help them rather than discourage them. (I'm not saying anyone's children wouldn't do that, just that if they would teach their own children kindness they could stand to take their own advice). Why scare off new people who just want a little encouragement?
But who's to say she wouldn't support you? She probably won't if she doesn't get support when she asks for it, but maybe she would have been very helpful to others down the line. I'm just saying, there's no way to know, so why not give her the benefit of the doubt? Plus, if she's not posted on message boards elsewhere and didn't think the lurk first here, maybe she didn't know that lurking was expected. I didn't realize people expected it so much. I simply didn't have much to say so I lurked first and then discovered this apparent rule. So how would she know to do that?
Something lurking would've helped with - if you haven't been TTC (actively) for a year you aren't going to get a lot of love - you only have a 20% chance in a healthy body to get pregnant each month so it will likely take a couple "perfect" shots to actually get KU.
About coming off BC - I've been off for over a year and my cycles still range anywhere from about 24 to 32 days. It happens, our bodies aren't clocks.
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I've been on and off the Knot/Nest/Bump for almost 8 years... I think I've lurked plenty. And as a PP said, where is this rule that someone has to lurk for a certain amount of time before posting?
If I'm late to a convo it's because I can't be on here while at the office and don't have time to catch up until after DD goes to bed. It's not like there's a time limit on posts.
My point with the 1 sentence you bolded was explained earlier- what I was saying is I could maybe more understand some of the responses if the OP had posted this on a board focused on trouble trying to conceive (when clearly she isn't to that point yet) but she posted this on TTGP looking for support which is the appropriate board for this type of thing IMO.
I'm not saying blow smoke up her ass or even show any form of support. I'm just questioning why people that think it's a dumb question or not worthy of their encouragement don't just ignore it. Why make the person feel bad? Why do some (by all means not everyone) people who've been TTC for a longer time or who would officially put themselves in the TTTC category feel the need to complain when people who've been trying for a shorter period of time have questions/concerns.
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If that's how you feel and view the boards, then that's cool. You don't have to support anyone, but why respond at all then? I don't think the OP was complaining as much as expressing a little frustration, which I think many on here can understand.
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Thank you, but he second site didn't come up when I copied and pasted and I don't know what it is. I will definitely check them out. But overall I really like the bump and most of the boards. I don't hate this board I, just not what I'm looking for. I would love to have something on this site that's less snarky. I know some people do enjoy that or at least appreciate it. I suppose I understand, but I still say there should be a separate one (not sure what it would be), not one where people can't say anything negative just where these types of early concerns and questions are deemed appropriate vs. this board where people aren't supposed to express their concerns early on, especially if they haven't had a chance to post much previously.