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I know I'm going to get flamed....
I have a confession. I'm still smoking. Some days more then others. Being pregnant still doesn't feel real to me and I feel almost in complete denial still. I know what kind of responses I'm going to get from this but maybe I need to hear them. Before anyone says it, no I'm not a troll and this isn't mud. TIA
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Re: I know I'm going to get flamed....
I agree. I'm a self-proclaimed Diet Mountain Dew addict, but went from 5-6 cans daily to absolutely nothing because it's what my baby needed. An addiction is hard to overcome, but is possible, especially when you consider it's not just you that it affects.
Since you said you're expecting negative responses, and "maybe I need to hear them"... Please stop. You're depriving your baby of oxygen. Would you smother your baby with a pillow after it's born? I'm guessing not. So why do essentially the same while she's in your body?
Also, consider that quitting for good isn't just good for your baby in utero, it's also good once he/she is born. Being exposed to second hand smoke throughout the day is the equivalent of smoking 2-3 whole cigarettes. Would you want your baby smoking 2-3 cigarettes a day?
Definitely talk to your doctor about it. There are things you can do to help you kick the habit. It's never too late to stop for the good of you both. Good luck!
Mama's Clone - 07/18/12
Not buying it.
Your baby can have a multitude of things happen... Life long battle with asthma (my brother) and low birth weight and failure to thrive (me)--- thanks Mom, just what we needed.
These are just two. You are poisoning your baby every time you smoke. Disgusting.
My grandma smoked through all six of her pregnancies...and now my mom, aunts and uncles battle high blood pressure. Her youngest daughter's growth was affected, she's not even 5'. And she also had one preterm baby.
I hope you're able to stop...
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
THIS! You signed up today and are using the term mud. Maybe I'm just a forum posting virgin but when I signed up here it took me a bit before I knew what that even stood for.
Touche!
Can't wait to meet my baby boy!
Your first paragraph explains it perfectly. I asked a Doctor friend if they would ever recommend a pregnant person continue to smoke (I've heard people say this before) and she said she would absolutely never. She said every cigarette is depriving your child of oxygen while your smoking it. I'm sorry, actually I'm not, but if I ever see a pregnant woman smoking it makes me sick to my stomach and want to take their poor baby as soon as it's born.
She could be a lurker or AE.
She probably wants to hide behind an AE. I've seen people do that before..
Go to your Dr. you need to stop. If you don't want to do it for your helpless unborn child, why not do it for your own health.
Please stop smoking. I'm a medical malpractice defense attorney and there's a case in our office right now that involves a mother who refused to give up smoking during her pregnancy. She ended up with pre-eclampsia due to the high blood pressure and a placental abruption, which is life threatening. It was also due to the smoking. She now claims her daughter has developmental problems from the abruption. Don't put yourself in the position of regretting this choice later on.
I am sure stopping smoking is hard. Personally, I've never smoked, but I was on an antidepressant for about a year after my mom died. Then one month DH and I had a pregnancy scare (before we decided to start trying), and I committed to going cold turkey off of the anti-depressants just in case. I'm not going to lie, the withdrawal was intense, but it was so worth it to know I wasn't hurting anything by taking the drugs. After I was totally off, I felt such a sense of accomplishment and strength. You might, too. That experience was what proved to me I had the strength to be a mom.
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BFP#2 DS born at 40+2 on 8/14/12 BFP#3 DD Born at 39+3 on 5/13/14
This exactly, 1st time posters don't typically use terms like, "flame" and "MUD'.
Yet you already know TB lingo...I'm sure you picked it up just "lurking."
Ok first off: If you know you are going to get flamed for it, then why say it? If you know that its wrong, then why do you do it?
Second: I've been a smoker before, and thankfully I quit before I found out I was pregnant. Do I still crave it sometimes? Hell yes! Especially when I feel sick and stressed out, but I don't do it for my child. I can't stand second hand smoke these days, the smell makes me want to vomit- trust me, my fiance still does it but knows to stay away from me for a while after because it makes me so sick and is bad for the baby.
Third: This is for the group in general- I'm sorry, but what is MUD or AF? I know, stupid question, but I really don't know.
Finally: We can't stop you from smoking, if you want to be stupid enough to risk your child's life and well being for a lifetime when there are PLENTY of research showing the dangers of it-then thats your problem and your guilt to live with. Think of it it that way when your child cries because its on a nebulizer tx at 4 months old bc it can't breathe, and then has asthma attacks as it gets older, etc. It will be because you are too selfish to try and quit. Trust me, I've seen the kids who are patients in my job that suffer, not the parents who then continue to smoke like freight trains around the kids that can't breathe. Its wrong!
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THANK YOU!!! I am trying to get the lingo down.
Make a pregnancy ticker
An AE is not impossible but I doubt it. Just the way the post is worded sounds like BS to me. I know it's unheard of for a troll to say they aren't a troll and this is a real post right? LOL. (I'm not directing that at anyone other than the OP, I just think this is funny.) On the off chance that you are real and are really smoking then all I can say is get your $#%^ together.
That's awful, and it sounds like you know better.
I understand that you're addicted and that it's very hard to quit, but you have to.
Quitting smoking will not be the last, or the biggest, sacrifice you make as a parent. You seriously need to reevaluate your priorities, and it sounds like you have some serious, SERIOUS growing up to do.
...I have no idea what MUD or TIA means BUT I will say that my sister (who's been an avid smoker for years, tried to quit here and there, picked it up HEAVILY again after my dad died) has legitimately stopped smoking cold turkey because I'M pregnant and she's going to be the godmother.
Think of your baby here. I used to drink a cup of coffee in the morning, 2 iced coffees in the afternoon, and caffienated tea at night. I quit all of that completely for the health of my baby. And caffiene (spelling) isn't nearly as catastrophic as cigarette smoke. It's really not YOU you need to think about in this situation...
Don't be shocked at the harsh responses you'll probably receive by posting this...
I know that it can be hard. I smoked before getting pregnant too, but I would never smoke while pregnant. Not ever. It's too bad for the baby.
I have a friend that has three sons. She smoked with each of her children. The oldest has serious anger management problems (studies have shown that can be related to a mother smoking during pregnancy), the second one has severe anxiety to the point that he needs to be medicated at only 9 years old (also can be related to a mother smoking during pregnancy) and the youngest is in the worst shape. He has such horrible asthma that he has almost died just from getting a cold. He's been hospitalized for a week on more than one occasion. All of her children have problems that more than likely could have been stopped if she had not smoked when she was pregnant. Please take that to heart.
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JESSA! I thought the same thing!
I have a little more perspective because I was a smoker. I smoked for 11 or so years - about 1/2-3/4 pack per day.
Once I found out I was pregnant, I quit. It was SO much easier than I thought it would be. Once I viewed it as not even having a choice ("I have to quit because of my baby" rather than "Well...having one wouldn't hurt...and another....and another..." when just quitting, not pregnant) I didn't even think about it. And still don't think about it.
If I'm near a smoker and smell it, it still smells good to me...but I wouldn't dream of putting my baby in danger.
Eats childproof locks for breakfast...
(read it. you know you want to.)
anderson . september 2008
vivian . february 2010
mabel . august 2012
I'll be the lone dissenter and be nice. Not because I agree with you but because this is obviously a cry for help. If it were MUD or you were a troll, you'd be saying you smoke and don't care. You obviously do and want to quit, and I realize it's not as easy as just doing it. I smoked for over 10 years and quitting sucks. But you need to. You know this.
I don't know what kind of aids/help you can get while pregnant but I'd absolutely call you doctor today and find out what your options are.
So many things can harm your unborn baby that you can't control, but this you can. Please try. Good luck.
My SIL smoked through her pregnancy: her daughter was born tiny and to go on oxygen at birth.
STOP smoking.
Yeah, that's not okay. Stop. Now.
Have you tried electronic cigarettes?