I know I'm going to get flamed....

mrs.forrister

A friend of mine smoked throughout both of her pregnancies.  Her first child was premature.  Second child (who turned 6 months this month) was on oxygen right after birth, has already been rushed to the hospital with fluid in his lungs, now is on breathing treatments twice a day and has asthma...at 6 months old!  She offered me her sons old clothes for my LO and I have washed them three times to get the smoke smell out of them.  If I can't get it out, my child will not wear the clothes.  My BIL smokes and when we announced we were expecting I told him he had 7 months to quit smoking.  He reached into his pocket and pulled out the pack of cigarettes and crushed them up and threw them away.  He has not touched a cigarette again...and I don't even see him on a daily basis.  If he can do it (very addictive personality) and it doesn't directly affect the baby right now, you can do it.  You just have to WANT to and from your post it doesn't sound like you WANT to. 

joshandpanda

I am not agreeing that you should be doing this, but my sister did smoke through her entire pregnancy (Marlboro Lights), she did cut back to about 1 maybe 2 a day from almost a pack a day. My niece ended up totally fine... granted, all people are different so you can't take this as your child will be fine... but... it can happen that the child will be alright...

but, like I said... I'm not agreeing that you should still be smoking... GL to you. 

kyleeduke

dangerkitty102:

Yeah, that's not okay. Stop. Now.

Have you tried electronic cigarettes?

 This. Maybe if your having a hard time quitting you could try the electronic cigarette that contains none of the harsh chemicals found in real cigarettes.

As a former smoker myself I can tell you it is not impossible to quit and you NEED to do it now if you are pregnant. 

APendola

I'm not going to judge you for this...but I will suggest what many others suggest.  You need to make an appointment with your doctor ASAP and talk about quitting strategies. 

Many of us have seen a love one die of cancer after years of smoking.  Many of us have seen a child born with problems because the mother smoked.  Take care of yourself and your baby.  You only get one chance to do this right

dragossoul84

My cousin smoked for all three of her children and they all have breathing problems and learning disabilities. I hope you dont have to experiance something terrible to happen to you or your child but I have had five miscarriages for this pregnancy I have had several health issues that have come up and I have had to change a lot of my life. It hurts so bad to lose your child and have to think what could I have done instead even when its not your fault

CoUnTryBB1

I was a smoker before I got pregnant and I will tell you it wasn't easy to quit.   One, the baby wasn't planned so I didn't know at first so I am sure I smoked without knowing.   I did talk to my doctor about it because I was concerned and I believe that if I want the best healthcare then they need to know it all.  My doctor wasn't able to offer a lot of suggestions except to say that not smoking at all is the best thing for your baby.   She did say if for whatever reason I had a cigarette one day not to beat myself up but to make a goal that I wouldn't have one again.   I found that cold turkey and just not having them around worked the best for me.   However, prior to being pregnant when I tried to quit (this was way before) I found it helpful if I did it in steps.   I would first stop smoking at work, and then I wouldn't allow myself to have any while driving (getting a new car helped too), and then none at home and soon the only place I would find myself wanting one was at a bar or something and I am not big on that so it wasn't hard.   Now once, you start back I admit it gets harder each time to quit.   It is sooo worth it though.    

 On the electronic cigarette topic . . . while I agree smoking is bad, these are not good for the baby either.   They say they are toxin free and blah blah blah but they have been around for a very short time period and the long term affects of these devices is unknown and some studies suggest they are just as bad as real cigarettes, they are just more socially acceptable.    

 I am not sure of your situation and what your drivers are . . . we all have them.   But my SO did not help the situation and still we argue from time to time about this.   He said he would quit once he had LO's.   Well when I told him about our little suprise he seemed all for quitting, as he had seen I hadn't been smoking I think he thought it was simple.   At first he tried for a few weeks and would ask if it bothered me.   Now I am sure this won't go over well but here it is.   I am independent more so probably than I need to be and our relationship is not traditional.   I told him to do what he wants that I am not his mother nor here to tell him what to do (and ladies I said it with a smile and I meant it).   If he wants to smoke then do what you want you are grown.  Here is the rub with me however, he will get ready to go outside and smoke and look at me for approval . . . it freaking pisses me offf to no end.   I literally just want to lock the door behind him sometimes and not because he is having a cigarette but because he feels my approval makes it okay, so I don't comment either way becuase he is grown and can make his own decisions.   I feel like I made the decision to stop smoking for our LO and I am sticking with it and he can't because it is harder than he thought.   You have to really want to stop and he doesn't and/or he isn't willing to put in as much effort.   Either way, he doesn't smoke near me so he can do what he wants up until LO is here, then being a good role model will be a factor and we will have to re-address it then.  

 I know that it is hard to find support to stop smoking and difficult to talk with to people that know you because it sometimes seems judgemental.   If you want to have a private group or just talk please PM me as I would not hesitate to be as supportive as I can to help you make this decision for your Lo's sake.   That is if you made it this far . . . sorry so long.     

TheFutureMrsH2012

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*b!tchslap*

 

SarahLynne17

MUD. Because who in the hell would say:

'I know this is wrong, and terribly dangerous for my unborn child. But I don't care at all, I know I am going to get flamed...I just don't want to stop because the baby is not kicking me yet, so it can't be real.' 

I smoked a pack and a half a day, and the day I found out I was pregnant I quit, why? Because I knew that it was harming the life I created. It wasn't easy, I smoked for 7 years heavily. I cold turkey quit, because I love my child, and I want the best for him/her. 

eunruh69

I"m not going to read all the responses and I'm not a smoker but I'm going to add my two cents in.

When I read the blurb in "What to expect when you're expecting" that said, and I'm paraphrasing & interjecting my own words here but you get the idea.... "If you smoke, it's like you're encasing your unborn child in a smoke filled womb and suffocating them"

 I just can't imagine.  Good luck to you.  I hope you're able to quit.

roxyttandme

I have a dead child and I don't know why. What I could think the only possible thing that could be worse, is having a dead child and knowing is was due to my doing. Think about that...

babyack2012

Rhenna:

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Jacksgurl5683:

I have a confession.  I'm still smoking.  Some days more then others.  Being pregnant still doesn't feel real to me and I feel almost in complete denial still.  I know what kind of responses I'm going to get from this but maybe I need to hear them.  Before anyone says it, no I'm not a troll and this isn't mud.  TIA

Not buying it. 

THIS!  You signed up today and are using the term mud.  Maybe I'm just a forum posting virgin but when I signed up here it took me a bit before I knew what that even stood for.

 

EXACTLY what I was thinking. 

aoife3

It is hard to quit smoking- I totally understand. I was a pack-a-day for over 10 years and loved everything about it. The only reason why I quit was when I found that I was pregnant with my first child.

 You can stop. You know you need to- you know that it is right for your baby and it is right for you. Figure out first why you smoke- is it a habit, it is a physical addiction, is it an emotional response or a coping mechanism? Once you come to terms with why you smoke then you will have a fair chance at successfully stopping. You just need to find a new outlet. For me, I made sure I always had something I could hold in my hand, something I could put in my mouth if I needed to. I went on walks instead of smoke breaks. It was hard, but after two weeks the physical challenge is over with and you just have to break the mental habit.

 If you do nothing else, please try. And try again if you fail. You can totally do this- you just need to believe.