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2x moms, are you treating this preg. differently?

ghaberghaber
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Im feeling really guilty, and I need your thoughts.  My 1st preg was wonderful, 1st tri I had a few food aversions but no sickness, 2nd and 3rd tri was great.  No tiredness or sickness.  I ate healthy and avoided caffeine and deli foods until late in my 2nd trimester. This pregnancy has been so different from the beginning!  I had all day sickness that needed a prescription, tiredness, bloating.  On top of all that, I did cut out the caffeine but I started to have a cup of coffee or one iced tea a day.  My prenatals were adding to my sickness so I switched to chewables and only NOW am i really able to feel ok with them.  I hate to admit it, but I haven't been really on the ball with taking them.  I just feel so lazy with this pregnancy and I am afraid I am screwing something up.  I eat pretty well, but with the sickness (just getting over it now so that's good!) I was pretty much eating whatever I had a mood for because it was all I could stomach.  On top of it, I am considered AMA (im 36) so I have that odd guilt too.  How has everyone else been doing with their 2nd (or 3rd, 4th etc..) pregnancy?? Did you treat it differently than your first?

Thanks for reading this!

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Re: 2x moms, are you treating this preg. differently?

  • Uiowachick01Uiowachick01

    I am way more relaxed this time.  I'm enjoying whatever food I can keep down, as of last doctor visit I had lost 22lbs because I have been so sick.  I have been resting lots and taking one day at a time.  I feel like I'm neglecting my life ATM. Meaning I don't go out with DS during the day, I'm not so into playgroups and would rather just be with DS and DH as a family on the weekends.  With my first pregnancy I was working 60+hours a week and trying to please everyone else.  

     

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  • Chelsey68Chelsey68 member

    This pregnancy is completely different. I used to look bad on people not taking there prenatals but during the first tri they would not stay down for anything. I had the perfect first pregnancy. This one feels like a train wreck. I was sick till like a month ago and was eating whatever gave me an hour of relief. I started flinstones in the second trimester because my doctor told me there better than nothing. I will be in the third tri tomorrow and I just started taking chewable prenatals a week ago. I may have rethought this pregnant again thing if would have joined this board sooner because it seems like most people have a worst 2nd pregnancy than the first. (ok so i would have still probably gotten pregnant again anyway but still) I walked every day with the first pregnancy this one im lucky if i can walk. I see a chiro twice a week to realign my hips. I go to physio to get my SI joint in check. I also cut caffiene at first but added it back to stop the headaches.

    Anyway now that ive wrote you a long paragraph on all my complaining i will tell you my point is that you are not alone, i have seem several posts about stuff like this.  

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  • Sawyerplus1Sawyerplus1 member
    I've been pretty relaxed in all 3 of my pregnancies. I always take my prenatals when I can (if I remember, if they dont make me sick, etc) but I don't stress about it if I miss it. My OBs and MWs have never given me a "what not to eat" list, so I've always used common sense and assume moderation in all things (except alcohol, which i do give up completely). I have probably treated all 3 pregnancies slightly differently depending on how the pregnancies have gone, whether I've been working or SAH, but overall I don't stress about it. I just do my best. 
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  • NikiBabyNikiBaby member

    You are not alone!!  I thought my first pregnancy was tough I was very sick in the first tri but then I got to 6 weeks with this pregnancy and it was horrible I threw up almost every day for 8 weeks.  Now I'm at the point where I feel like I'm not excited enough because it's just different the 2nd time around.  You are so focused on your LO at home that it's hard to be focused 100% on your pregnancy. 

    Every pregnancy is different and there are thousands of things 'they' say you should or shouldn't do, should or shouldn't eat.  Just do your best, excercise when you feel up to it.  Your sanity is most important and with another child at home to care for it's a lot more difficult!  Just don't stress about it because that will cause you more harm than good.  I wish you a happy and healthy remainder of your pregnancy!

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  • kciriellokciriello member
    Yup, I'm much more relaxed. I too have been very sick (was with the first pregnancy, too) and have taken chewable gummies when I can, but haven't been crazy consistent about it. I didn't show until so late first time around but I'm already showing (little bump) and in maternity clothes. I worry a lot less - I pretty much eat what I want, most of which is healthful, but I know from last time that it all comes off with breastfeeding. I guess to sum it up, I'm just a lot more relaxed and it's all less of a big deal. Don't get me wrong - I'm excited for the baby - but my excitement this time is much more about having another baby, not about being pregnant.
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  • duckiegrlduckiegrl member
    Ha ha yeah. My first I was super paranoid about EVERYTHING! My second, I was a little more relaxed. And with this one, I feel like a total slacker. Partly because I already know what I can/can't do but also because I'm so tired after chasing after the rest two that my eating habits aren't as healthy as they should be. 
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  • October30th2004October30th2004 member

    Both times morning sickness has been really bad and I loss weight with both. 15lbs with my 1st until week 30. I was throwing up 3 to 6 times a day. The start of this one was really bad and I had to go into the hospital for throwing up everything including water at one point. But I haven't thrown up since week 18 this time so I count my blessings with this one. I am less worried but have been able to take my prenatals more this time around. I am thinking about doing this one more time but at the start of baby #2 was thinking this is it. I may go for that girl yet just need to get DH on board the whole way (he is thinking about it). Got to see how we do with this new one first. 

    Pregnancy has not been fun but it is so worth it. I started this one out weighing less so I think that helps me feel better. But I am still tired all the time it seems. I worked over 40 hours last time and went to night school til around 30 weeks last time. I am a SAHM now so i think that helps.  

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