::unpopular opinions::

beedawn · February 2012

I think Dr. Oz is a quack and I feel like he just turns all his viewers into hypochondriacs.

stargirljulie · February 2012

BryannaBorgia:
nicababy:
Ok this one might be unpopular...
I think it's selfish not to get your children vaccinated. There is a reason we don't see polio/small pox etc anymore. There is a reason babies aren't dying from the measles anymore. But if more and more people choose not to get their children vaccinated those diseases will spread through the population again. We are so lucky to live in a time where vaccines and antibiotics are available and we can prevent unnecessary deaths.
Completely agree!

Me too! I agree for pets too - however I'm okay with pet owners not vaccinating as long as they run yearly titers.

skipperkelly · February 2012

Lovely thread today! I agree with many posts, especially the one about piercing baby's ears. I saw a little baby getting hers done the other day in the mall and I just about cried. Glad that I have a little boy.

TomsShugShug · February 2012

My UO:

I will pierce my DD's ears. I got mine pierced when I was 6months old or younger, an I turned out just fine. I also got the experience of choosing to get my ears pierced when I was in 8th grade by getting a second hole pierced in each ear. Agai, I believe to each their own, but for me piercing ears is NBD.

LeofgythsMama · February 2012

sap05e:
I hate it when people get their baby's ears pierced. I think your child should be old enough to 1) know whats going on and 2) ask for it.

This right here!

JMC11511 · February 2012

beedawn:
mrscarter09:
beedawn:

mrscarter09:
I think people who accuse parents who let their babies CIO of being "selfish and mean" are ridiculous. LO will be 3 months on 2/5 and he is more than capable of self-soothing. Did we have to let him learn to do it? Yes. And that meant a maximum of 10 minutes of crying for 2 naps. After that, he has been getting himself back to sleep within 2 minutes of waking up. In fact, the past 3 nights, he has woken up between 4-5, talked/babbled to himself for about 30 minutes, and then put himself back to sleep until 7:30 when I got him up for the day. There are times when I'll go in and replace a pacifier or help him get some trapped air out, but I know my child's cries well enough to know whether it's a hunger cry, a cry because he actually needs something, or a cry because he's tired and is getting himself back to sleep. I will never understand why everyone always says "to each their own" when it comes to parenting strategies, feeding methods, birthing plans, etc. but when it comes to sleep training/scheduling a baby, there's only one right way to do it. Oh, and LO has been STTN (9:30pm-7:30am) for 2 weeks now. Without crying himself to sleep. Sorry if this comes across as snotty, but I'm sick of being seen as a bad parent because my baby sleeps.

My baby STTN also, but he learned that on his own, not from me laying him in his bed and letting him cry himself to sleep. He is a very content an happy baby, but sometimes he wakes up and wants his paci or wants it while we are driving and cries so I give it to him because he doesn't have the capability to grab it and put it in his own mouth. I would rather hold him while he falls asleep at night and tend to his needs (ie replacing his paci, etc) than just letting him cry until he's over it.

Where did I say I let him cry himself to sleep? I said there were two naps total that he cried for maybe 10 minutes, then squirmed around for a couple minutes (still awake), and fell asleep. I also said that I DO go in and replace a pacifier or get some trapped gas out, if I think he needs it. Also, if I put him down and 15-20 minutes after I put him down he's still squirming around (not crying, just having a hard time getting comfy), I'll go in and help him get comfy. It just bothers me to be labeled as "selfish", "mean" or being lazy. Like I said before, I know his cries and am able to make the right choice as his parent. He is also a happy and content baby, in fact, he smiles and laughs when I put him down for naptime, and he wakes up all smiles when I get him up from naps or in the morning. He's healthy and thriving and isn't that really what matters? Like I said, I just don't get why it's ok for everyone to make their own decision without having their parenthood being called into question except for when it comes to sleep training/CIO.

I guess I just don't understand why you want to even start letting your LO CIO when they are so young. Sure, after 15 minutes he gets to sleep, but I don't see why you can't hold or rock LO. I just think CIO and sleep training is a little much on a baby under 4 months old. Let them figure it out. You might lose a little sleep, but you will survive. I'm not trying to say you are a bad parent, your baby is unhappy, etc. I just don't understand why people do this. I feel like it is for the convenience factor, and having a baby =/= convenience.

If you think I had a baby because I thought it would make my life easier or be convenient you're sorely mistaken. We have worked hard to keep my son on a consistent schedule and to help him learn to sleep on his own. Not to mention that we spent the first week of his life in the NICU, watching him struggle to breathe and eat on his own. You said that parents should "let them figure it out" when they are over 4 months of age. What is the harm in the fact that LO appears to have "figured it out" beforehand, with help from both my husband and I? I just feel like when people say babies cannot self-soothe before 4 months of age, it's because the babies have not been given the opportunity to learn to do it. Yes, temperament does play into it, but there is also room for training even a baby who is a little more fussy than others. As a final point, I just got done snuggling and rocking my son before putting him down for his nap. Sometimes he goes down awake and puts himself to sleep, sometimes he goes down drowsy and drifts deeper into sleep. I feel like training my son to be able to sleep on his own has made his life and our lives much more pleasant and healthy. And getting to that point was anything but convenient.

Vieve831 · February 2012

JillianAshley6:
I hate mommy martyrs. The I'm a better mommy than you because I FF, BF, RF, CIO, AP, bedshare, give rice cereal, don't give rice cereal, have my kid STTN, am up every 30 minutes during the night with my kid, vax, dont vax, SAH, work, etc....wears me the F out.

Make the best choice for your kid. Dont impose your judginess on others. You know YOUR kid...not EVERY kid....so you don't get to decide that your way is best for everyone.

Well said! Although I am enjoying the debates today - we've had some lame UO's in the past.

JMC11511 · February 2012

Vieve831:
JillianAshley6:
I hate mommy martyrs. The I'm a better mommy than you because I FF, BF, RF, CIO, AP, bedshare, give rice cereal, don't give rice cereal, have my kid STTN, am up every 30 minutes during the night with my kid, vax, dont vax, SAH, work, etc....wears me the F out.

Make the best choice for your kid. Dont impose your judginess on others. You know YOUR kid...not EVERY kid....so you don't get to decide that your way is best for everyone.

Well said! Although I am enjoying the debates today - we've had some lame UO's in the past.

This is basically what I'm trying to say in my point about being "judged" for the fact that DH and I have been sleep training my son. This is the best choice for my son. Being called "selfish" and "mean" for allowing him to CIO for a few minutes in the beginning of that process seems extreme. But then, I guess it spurred an unpopular opinion so....win/win?

thsyearsgirl · February 2012

dpeugh85:
Kristily:
JamiesWife2010:

I'm dumbfounded how it doesn't matter if their LO is too small to be FF & they FF anyway because it's sooo inconvenient to RF until atleast 1 yr old.

Are you talking about formula feeding? If you are, here is my unpopular opinion:

There is way to much pressure to breastfeed these days. I agree it is very healthy for baby. I did it for 7 weeks and then went to formula for many reasons and it has been better for our family. Breastfeeding doesn't work out for everyone for many different reasons and whatever those reasons are, people need to be respectful. Formula is good nutrition too and as long as baby is healthy, what does it matter?

I am sick of people talking about breastfeeding and making me feel bad that I am no longer doing it. Don't judge me or tell me how to feed/raise my child when everyone's situation is different. Flame away.

She's talking about Front Facing (FF) and Rear Facing (RF). I had to read it a few times too.

To thsyrsgirl and people on the internet at work. Yep, today I am one of those people. Tomorrow I might not be. That's ok, you're not my boss or my employer.

Thankfully, I'm not your employer. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you in social work? I've been there, and it's a very tough job. I never lacked for anything to do when I was in that field.

thsyearsgirl · February 2012

tvdiva12:
thsyearsgirl:

My unpopular opinion is that I think it's unprofessional when people spend a lot of time playing on the internet when they are being paid to do a job. I'm all for checking email every once in a while, or using your break time to play online, but if you are on the clock and entertaining yourself for excessive amounts of time - it's the same thing as stealing IMUO.

In this economy, jobs are hard to come by. If you can't do an honest days work for an honest days pay, time to give the job to someone who can.

Some days I just don't have enough work to do to fill up 8 hours. If there are no bills to pay, I don't have anything to do. And with 2 assistants that are still learning, I pass work onto them so they can get experience. So yeah, I will go online and piss away some of my time, but I make sure at the end of the day that my work gets done.

It sounds like you are still working when you supervise/train the 2 assistants. My post was referring to people I've worked with in the past who spend an hour goofing off online, then take a break, then spend another hour online shopping, then go to lunch, etc.

authorofdreamz · February 2012

My UO:

I think it's ridiculous that everyone assumes parents only make what they consider bad decisions for selfish reasons (ex. Sleep training, ear-piercing, FF, etc.) Anytime anyone mentions sleep training everyone jumps on their case for being selfish and wanting more sleep and blah blah blah..last time I checked babies NEED sleep. They need alot of sleep actually to grow and develop properly. And believe it or not their are other reasons to get your daughters ears pierced as a baby other than "so that they look cute" such as because it is easier to make sure they get cleaned and taken care of. And no I didn't choose to FF because it is easier and I am lazy (Had a lady tell me this at Target the other day.) we had problems BF and DD was not gaining weight.

Just because you may not agree with someone's choices doesn't mean they are bad so don't just assume they are selfish horrible people. Most people have their child's best interests at heart so unless they are leaving their kid crying in a dirty diaper in their crib all day long with a bottle of soda STFU.

dpeugh85 · February 2012

thsyearsgirl:
dpeugh85:
Kristily:
JamiesWife2010:

I'm dumbfounded how it doesn't matter if their LO is too small to be FF & they FF anyway because it's sooo inconvenient to RF until atleast 1 yr old.

Are you talking about formula feeding? If you are, here is my unpopular opinion:

There is way to much pressure to breastfeed these days. I agree it is very healthy for baby. I did it for 7 weeks and then went to formula for many reasons and it has been better for our family. Breastfeeding doesn't work out for everyone for many different reasons and whatever those reasons are, people need to be respectful. Formula is good nutrition too and as long as baby is healthy, what does it matter?

I am sick of people talking about breastfeeding and making me feel bad that I am no longer doing it. Don't judge me or tell me how to feed/raise my child when everyone's situation is different. Flame away.

She's talking about Front Facing (FF) and Rear Facing (RF). I had to read it a few times too.

To thsyrsgirl and people on the internet at work. Yep, today I am one of those people. Tomorrow I might not be. That's ok, you're not my boss or my employer.

Thankfully, I'm not your employer. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you in social work? I've been there, and it's a very tough job. I never lacked for anything to do when I was in that field.

And thankfully you're not my boss. You don't know my schedule and you don't know my caseload. "I've been there" doesn't qualify, as SW is different all over the country. I wouldn't even compare myself to a SW the next county over as their caseload is different. I'm thankful I don't have an explosion of cases that I had to tackle right after ML. SW can have it's slow periods too, and we can have weeks on end of hell. You don't know.

How's the view from that horse you're sitting on? You said yourself you were fine with checking emails, whatever. If you want to be picky, that is also "stealing".

HPickle23 · February 2012

JillianAshley6:
I hate mommy martyrs. The I'm a better mommy than you because I FF, BF, RF, CIO, AP, bedshare, give rice cereal, don't give rice cereal, have my kid STTN, am up every 30 minutes during the night with my kid, vax, dont vax, SAH, work, etc....wears me the F out.

Make the best choice for your kid. Dont impose your judginess on others. You know YOUR kid...not EVERY kid....so you don't get to decide that your way is best for everyone.

Ditto!

thsyearsgirl · February 2012

dpeugh85:
thsyearsgirl:
dpeugh85:
Kristily:
JamiesWife2010:

I'm dumbfounded how it doesn't matter if their LO is too small to be FF & they FF anyway because it's sooo inconvenient to RF until atleast 1 yr old.

Are you talking about formula feeding? If you are, here is my unpopular opinion:

There is way to much pressure to breastfeed these days. I agree it is very healthy for baby. I did it for 7 weeks and then went to formula for many reasons and it has been better for our family. Breastfeeding doesn't work out for everyone for many different reasons and whatever those reasons are, people need to be respectful. Formula is good nutrition too and as long as baby is healthy, what does it matter?

I am sick of people talking about breastfeeding and making me feel bad that I am no longer doing it. Don't judge me or tell me how to feed/raise my child when everyone's situation is different. Flame away.

She's talking about Front Facing (FF) and Rear Facing (RF). I had to read it a few times too.

To thsyrsgirl and people on the internet at work. Yep, today I am one of those people. Tomorrow I might not be. That's ok, you're not my boss or my employer.

Thankfully, I'm not your employer. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you in social work? I've been there, and it's a very tough job. I never lacked for anything to do when I was in that field.

And thankfully you're not my boss. You don't know my schedule and you don't know my caseload. "I've been there" doesn't qualify, as SW is different all over the country. I wouldn't even compare myself to a SW the next county over as their caseload is different. I'm thankful I don't have an explosion of cases that I had to tackle right after ML. SW can have it's slow periods too, and we can have weeks on end of hell. You don't know.

How's the view from that horse you're sitting on? You said yourself you were fine with checking emails, whatever. If you want to be picky, that is also "stealing".

Woah! I didn't realize you would get so defensive. What I meant about "being there" is that I know how hard and demanding it is to be an advocate for a child. Even when you're not "on the clock", you are still thinking about those kids (at least I was and often times still do). You're right, I don't know what your schedule is like. I do know that I've seen several posts from you each day, and you often mention "not wanting to work while you are actually at work." Don't you lurk on other boards to find threads to entertain us? Did I not see a post from you earlier suggesting that the fb "dorks" should come entertain you today because you were blocked from facebook at work? Please correct me if I'm wrong and this is not you I'm thinking of. I will sincerely apologize.

As for the view from my horse, I don't think taking a few minutes to check email is stealing because it seems to me the equivalent of making a brief phone call, or catching up on small talk with a co-worker. Obviously, my unpopular opinion struck a chord. It wasn't aimed at you, but if it helped you reflect on your work ethic, then I'm glad I posted it.

dpeugh85 · February 2012

thsyearsgirl:
dpeugh85:
thsyearsgirl:
dpeugh85:
Kristily:
JamiesWife2010:

I'm dumbfounded how it doesn't matter if their LO is too small to be FF & they FF anyway because it's sooo inconvenient to RF until atleast 1 yr old.

Are you talking about formula feeding? If you are, here is my unpopular opinion:

There is way to much pressure to breastfeed these days. I agree it is very healthy for baby. I did it for 7 weeks and then went to formula for many reasons and it has been better for our family. Breastfeeding doesn't work out for everyone for many different reasons and whatever those reasons are, people need to be respectful. Formula is good nutrition too and as long as baby is healthy, what does it matter?

I am sick of people talking about breastfeeding and making me feel bad that I am no longer doing it. Don't judge me or tell me how to feed/raise my child when everyone's situation is different. Flame away.

She's talking about Front Facing (FF) and Rear Facing (RF). I had to read it a few times too.

To thsyrsgirl and people on the internet at work. Yep, today I am one of those people. Tomorrow I might not be. That's ok, you're not my boss or my employer.

Thankfully, I'm not your employer. Correct me if I'm wrong, but aren't you in social work? I've been there, and it's a very tough job. I never lacked for anything to do when I was in that field.

And thankfully you're not my boss. You don't know my schedule and you don't know my caseload. "I've been there" doesn't qualify, as SW is different all over the country. I wouldn't even compare myself to a SW the next county over as their caseload is different. I'm thankful I don't have an explosion of cases that I had to tackle right after ML. SW can have it's slow periods too, and we can have weeks on end of hell. You don't know.

How's the view from that horse you're sitting on? You said yourself you were fine with checking emails, whatever. If you want to be picky, that is also "stealing".

Woah! I didn't realize you would get so defensive. What I meant about "being there" is that I know how hard and demanding it is to be an advocate for a child. Even when you're not "on the clock", you are still thinking about those kids (at least I was and often times still do). You're right, I don't know what your schedule is like. I do know that I've seen several posts from you each day, and you often mention "not wanting to work while you are actually at work." Don't you lurk on other boards to find threads to entertain us? Did I not see a post from you earlier suggesting that the fb "dorks" should come entertain you today because you were blocked from facebook at work? Please correct me if I'm wrong and this is not you I'm thinking of. I will sincerely apologize.

As for the view from my horse, I don't think taking a few minutes to check email is stealing because it seems to me the equivalent of making a brief phone call, or catching up on small talk with a co-worker. Obviously, my unpopular opinion struck a chord. It wasn't aimed at you, but if it helped you reflect on your work ethic, then I'm glad I posted it.

I have typed and erased several rebuttals, butn I think I'll just leave it at Unpopular Opinions.

littlewinnie15 · February 2012

I hate Seinfeld.

stargirljulie · February 2012

littlewinnie15:
I hate Seinfeld.

Me. Too. I just do not find it funny. Never.

Kristily · February 2012

littlewinnie15:
I hate Seinfeld.

Me too... and I used to think I was the only one. Thank you!

littlewinnie15 · February 2012

Kristily:
littlewinnie15:
I hate Seinfeld.

Me too... and I used to think I was the only one. Thank you!

Gah! I was trying to find an unpopular one!!

dpeugh85 · February 2012

Can I add another one? I kind of understand all the ladies who left for the first FB group's POV. It was a little cut and dried, but makes sense now.

knottie198f1ac43570b6c2 · February 2012

dpeugh85:
Can I add another one? I kind of understand all the ladies who left for the first FB group's POV. It was a little cut and dried, but makes sense now.

I honestly don't remember why they left and I have been around here for a while. I just remember all of the drama about the chick who kept talking about her nipples all of the time lol.

dpeugh85 · February 2012

desine77:

dpeugh85:
Can I add another one? I kind of understand all the ladies who left for the first FB group's POV. It was a little cut and dried, but makes sense now.

I honestly don't remember why they left and I have been around here for a while. I just remember all of the drama about the chick who kept talking about her nipples all of the time lol.

Yeah I took like a 6 wk break from TB after I had LO. I think I missed a lot of the drama too, I just pick up bits and pieces whenever one of them comes back.

And can I just say gross? I have some serious National Geographic nipples going on after being preggo and now breast feeding. Theres your TMI for the evening ladies!

knottie198f1ac43570b6c2 · February 2012

thanks for that : )

jb2rn · February 2012

ashleylach:

Ok here I go...please don't pull my hair too hard!

I'm sick and tired of hearing people complain that they didn't have a good birth experience because they ended up with a c-section. I get it you didn't birth your baby naturally, you were in much more pain after giving birth, but you really don't need to mourn your baby's birth because you had to have surgery. Like I was preaching in my post about home births, although statistically there has been in an increase in c-section births, your doctor made a decision that was best fit for you and your baby. There were 2 lives at stake not 1. It's selfish to think and say "I didn't want a c-section, I would have rather had the doctor let me go naturally." Well unfortunately circumstances brought you to the point where you needed to get that baby out immediately.

I was born via emergency c-section (literally my mom was knocked out cold and there was no time for my dad to even enter the room) and I'm grateful the doctors went in to get me, because if they had waited another second that could have been life or death for me and my mother.

After listening to people's complaining I just want to shake everyone and say "be grateful that you and your baby are healthy." And also, "be grateful that you were able to successfully get pregnant and carry a baby for 9 months." I don't care if you didn't like being cut open (who the hell wants to be cut at all!) There are alot of people in this world that can't get pregnant, that deliver premature babies each day, and there are people who lose their babies during birth just be happy with the experience because you got a baby in the end!

I think this is one of those things that unless you have walked in the persons shoes, you need to shut your mouth.

I should not have even been able to get pregnant on my own. So to have my son sleeping next to me right now is nothing short of awesome.

I know my c section was necessary, BUT it doesn't mean I don't feel sad, robbed, and like I am less of a woman. I can't just "get over it". It makes me really sad. I don't know how I can stop those feelings? You can't just shut them off.

Logically, I know I had an infection, he was tachycardic and getting to the point of distress, but emotionally, I feel like I missed out on a huge right of passage as a woman. Why would you flame someone for their feelings?

jenni888 · February 2012

littlewinnie15:
I hate Seinfeld.

I hate Friends. It's one of the most annoying shows to me for some reason.

jenni888 · February 2012

Jenny952:

I really dislike facebook. It seems very silly and a little self-indulgent. Is it really necessary to have 800 friends? And how about remembering my birthday by sending a card or calling me? With the amount of time and energy people spend on all having all these acquaintances, they could be focusing on real life friendships. But then I'm the person who prefers to only have a few very close friends.

I love cats. I hate dogs. That seems to be unpopular. They are everywhere, people carrying them around in their purse. That is just weird.

Unpopular, perhaps. But you're not alone! I grew up with dogs and thought they were okay enough then, but I can't stand them anymore. I also have zero tolerance for dog barking, especially indoors. I feel like my eardrums are going to rupture.

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