Selfless birthplan

greengirl0909 · January 2012

Birth plan seemed similar to others I've seen. However, I'm really curious if she'll be honest in her blog regarding her birth experience, or if she'll sugar coat it. For whatever reason, I think she's wimpy. I feel like she's not had a super tough life and labor might be a real shock to her. (Not sure why I have that vibe) So I'm just curious if she'll come back and say, oh it was a wonderful walk in the park and I led all of the nurses in a yoga routine after baby was out, OR if she'll be like hey guess what- it hurt!

chardonnay24 · January 2012

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chardonnay24:
I had a great hospital and I agreed with a lot of their policies: baby with mom right away (if possible), no bath for a couple hours, baby stays the night unless mom requests otherwise, no encouraging drugs (just offering the option in the beginning), IV and constant monitoring isn't standard, encouraging drinking during labor, not allowing formula, pacifiers, or bottles unless requested, and the OB was adamant about doing perineal massage and warm compresses to decrease tearing and didn't do episiotomies unless requested. Otherwise, all that stuff would have been in my birth plan. Maybe her hospital is really crappy and she needs to spell all of this out. I don't see much wrong with it and in fact, I've seen much more detailed birth plans.

I dont mean this as horribly as it's going to sound...but Selfish is such a self absorbed know it all that I am sure it's a 5 star hospital. I think it's awesome that this girl wants the very very best fr her daugher, and I am sure/hope they succeed on all of it. It's the TONE man.

I guess I don't mean crappy, exactly. It could be a great hospital, but maybe more geared toward medicated births? Portland in general is fairly liberal and natural so it's not a huge surprise that my hospital has these policies. But I've heard that a lot of hospitals, though they may be wonderful, are less pro-natural birth and therefore these things may need to be specified in advance.

I agree with you about the tone, though. But she may have just written up a plan and then explained it in further detail on the blog. I don't know. I think she's self-absorbed and crazycakes, but this is one of the more sane things I've seen on her blog. I just think people love to hate her. It's a lot of "Well, I didn't do that so it's ridiculous" going on.

chardonnay24 · January 2012

shakes:

chardonnay24:
I had a great hospital and I agreed with a lot of their policies: baby with mom right away (if possible), no bath for a couple hours, baby stays the night unless mom requests otherwise, no encouraging drugs (just offering the option in the beginning), IV and constant monitoring isn't standard, encouraging drinking during labor, not allowing formula, pacifiers, or bottles unless requested, and the OB was adamant about doing perineal massage and warm compresses to decrease tearing and didn't do episiotomies unless requested. Otherwise, all that stuff would have been in my birth plan. Maybe her hospital is really crappy and she needs to spell all of this out. I don't see much wrong with it and in fact, I've seen much more detailed birth plans.

I dont mean this as horribly as it's going to sound...but Selfish is such a self absorbed know it all that I am sure it's a 5 star hospital. I think it's awesome that this girl wants the very very best fr her daugher, and I am sure/hope they succeed on all of it. It's the TONE man.

I guess I don't mean crappy, exactly. It could be a great hospital, but maybe more geared toward medicated births? Portland in general is fairly liberal and natural so it's not a huge surprise that my hospital has these policies. But I've heard that a lot of hospitals, though they may be wonderful, are less pro-natural birth and therefore these things may need to be specified in advance.

I agree with you about the tone, though. But she may have just written up a plan and then explained it in further detail on the blog. I don't know. I think she's self-absorbed and crazycakes, but this is one of the more sane things I've seen on her blog. I just think people love to hate her. It's a lot of "Well, I didn't do that so it's ridiculous" going on.

jen_jupiter · January 2012

gisa886:
Yules:

My plan was almost identical to this one. Except a week before I went into labor the growth u/s revealed that I was having a small elephant. I felt like a tool for agreeing to have a csection just based on the u/s. I'm so glad I did, the u/s was 10 oz UNDER what my DS actually was.

What's that saying? If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans? He laughed at me, for sure.

That last part made me laugh cause it is so true. God gave a hearty chuckle to my plans. Twice.

Me three! I had plans to go all natural, no IV, no meds, etc, but all that went out the window. Fentanyl x2 doses, epidural, and to top it all off an emergency c-section.

melody921 · January 2012

I always thought the eye ointment was a requirement. I wonder why she doesn't want it. Overall, her plan doesn't bother me. I figure every pregnant woman has the right to request what she wants. I just think things don't always go according to plan. Also, I'd hope she listens to her doctors if they're telling her something different from what she thinks she wants.

natgkelley · January 2012

So why is she seeing a docter when a midwife would be more apt to accomadate her? And a "hep-lock" is an iv, just not one hooked up to fluids. Lol.

I agree....the L&D nurses are going to be annoyed with her.

Monicagail1 · January 2012

Shana419:
It's not as out there as I expected it to be. Her hospital bag post though....yikes. I wonder why she doesn't want the baby to have a bath?

This.

LaurelBee · January 2012

melody921:
I always thought the eye ointment was a requirement. I wonder why she doesn't want it. Overall, her plan doesn't bother me. I figure every pregnant woman has the right to request what she wants. I just think things don't always go according to plan. Also, I'd hope she listens to her doctors if they're telling her something different from what she thinks she wants.

Eye ointment is necessary to protect the baby from going blind from infections the mom has in her vagina/birth canal. (ie- std's) If you are certain you do not have one and are certain you won't contract one from your H, then giving your baby the eye drops is completely unnecessary. But it's against the law in some states to refuse.

Smgrochowski · January 2012

I guess I felt comfortable enough with the staff that I just told them my wishes as we went so no written plan was necessary. They would ask specifically if there wasn't something we asked for (ie, "let us know when you'd like him to have a bath"). As for the hospital bags, I guess it's better to bring everything and not use it than wish you brought something, but wow! I had to laugh at the cloth diapers that her mom was going to take care of (poor mom). "Luckily, babies aren?t supposed to poop too much in the first 2 days." My youngest pooped about eight times the second day; that sticky, tar-like, impossible to wipe off poop. I personally would rather toss out a few disposables than try to rinse that out.

Mt2G1012 · January 2012

None of this is unusual for a med free birth. It is out of the norm from most birth situations which is why it needs to be discussed with docs beforehand. My doc and hospital (so the nurses have it) REQUESTS a birth plan so everyone is on the same page. Everyone is/was very supportive of these things around here though. That is not the case with many hospitals. We got to L&D and one of the first things asked was, "do you have your birth plan?"

Mt2G1012 · January 2012

I am curios as to why no cytotec though. I think that is better than pit

kerribear1717 · January 2012

I'm very interested to see if her "hypno-birth" style works. I don't think any amount of hypnosis, especially done by yourself is going to relax you during child birth. And I thought I dealt really well with my contractions.

Her bags are kinda packed full. I enjoyed the fact she packed swim trunks for her hubby. I hope her blow up matress fits in the room. My room was kinda small. But DH did HATE the sleeping chair. I sent him home to sleep a bit before we all went home.

Basically just sounds like she wants to "try" med free but will be open to stuff changing.

KoalaBear103 · January 2012

justbeachy109:
t watley:
I didn't have a birth plan at all. In fact, I didn't even really research labor, delivery or any of the things that they did to my baby when he was born. I figured these people deliver thousands of babies each year and they knew what they were doing without me needing to micromanage them.

Flame on.
I didn't have birthplans either. I just wanted to get the epidural as soon as they would let me.

The only "plan" I had was to try to hold off on the epi as long as I could. I made it to 5.5. Good enough to me!!

wife1014 · January 2012

natgkelley:

So why is she seeing a docter when a midwife would be more apt to accomadate her? And a "hep-lock" is an iv, just not one hooked up to fluids. Lol.

I agree....the L&D nurses are going to be annoyed with her.

I also wondered why she didn't transfer to a midwife. But she said her doctor was very supportive of her plan.

My birth plan was pretty much exactly as hers and my nurse was amazing. She was kind, supportive and accepting of what we wanted. She even enjoyed the hypnobirthing cd. Actually wondered why more moms trying to deliver naturaly didn't use it, as it seemed to keep me very focused. Maybe I got lucky...but there are some amazing nursees out there who actually care about their patients.

lildevil968 · January 2012

I don't really see anything wrong with her plan as well. However, I do see her as the next Gisele Bundchen and the whole labor is painless, and BFing should be a law thing. I see her as being that crazy for some reason.

With that said I never had a birth plan for either of my LO's. My plan to was to get the epi, and get the baby out. My epi never took with my second LO, so I ended up with an pain med free birth. Totally not what I wanted.

AnabelsMama · January 2012

I also thought her birth plan was sane and well-thought-out, and if everything goes perfectly for her she'll be lucky.

The bags did seem a bit excessive, but not too much so. I do think she'll be a bit disappointed when she realizes that none of those CDs will fit a newborn and she may have to use *gasp* disposables for a few weeks.

MegGary · January 2012

Well thought out & good explination of requests. It also included silly requests, like please keep low voices & be gentle. Really lady? Cause I remember the nurses throwing DD around like a football screaming HIKE!

Also the no push coaching. I just find some of those things silly because once you are pushing & in active labor you really don't care about things like that. I mean I heard my dr & midwife cheering me on but it wasn't a bother really. The pain & task at hand was my main focus. Brad Pitt could of walked in the room naked & I wouldn't noticed nor cared.

I'm jaded though. I've always though birth plans where silly. To me just get the baby out safely & I'll be happy.

eta: her disclaimer is silly. If you don't want to hear others opinions don't blog them.

hydies33 · January 2012

MegGary:
Well thought out & good explination of requests. It also included silly requests, like please keep low voices & be gentle. Really lady? Cause I remember the nurses throwing DD around like a football screaming HIKE!
Also the no push coaching. I just find some of those things silly because once you are pushing & in active labor you really don't care about things like that. I mean I heard my dr & midwife cheering me on but it wasn't a bother really. The pain & task at hand was my main focus. Brad Pitt could of walked in the room naked & I wouldn't noticed nor cared.
I'm jaded though. I've always though birth plans where silly. To me just get the baby out safely & I'll be happy.

eta: her disclaimer is silly. If you don't want to hear others opinions don't blog them.

All of this.

canthardlywait426 · January 2012

AnabelsMama:
I also thought her birth plan was sane and well-thought-out, and if everything goes perfectly for her she'll be lucky.

The bags did seem a bit excessive, but not too much so. I do think she'll be a bit disappointed when she realizes that none of those CDs will fit a newborn and she may have to use *gasp* disposables for a few weeks.

I was thinking the same thing. I've heard from a lot of CD mamas that they just didn't fit until they were bigger.

Also, my son needed sugar water because his blood sugar level was very very low. Just thought I'd throw that in since several people asked why it could be used.

And the eye drops- we asked for them to be delayed (and were informed that we could refuse completely) because when I was born I had a bad reaction and it swelled my eyes shut for 2 days. We wanted it delayed so that DS could see us, and we could see his eyes. After about 6 hours, we let them do the drops and he was fine.

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