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April 2012 Moms
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
Birth control after baby...
What are your plans?
I was all decided to get mirena, but I was sitting in the room waiting for my MW one day when I started looking at the tools on the table, which very much looked like modern day torture devices. DH and I were discussing them when she walked in, so I asked. Apparently those are the tools used for implanting the IUD. The one thing looks like a cervical dipstick and the other is just like the thing they use to hold your tongue when they pierce it (that thing fits up there?!?!).
So now I'm a little freaked out and not sure what I want to do. I SUCK at taking a daily pill, I hate nuvaring (gave me a pretty gross infection and I must suck at inserting it because my husband looked like he was using a penis size hula hoop every time we had sex). I know I can use the same method I used to get pregnant in order to prevent (temping and charting) but I didn't care much for it trying to get pregnant so doing it every month for the foreseeable future doesn't sound appealing.
I'd like to get less freaked out about the Mirena but I'm not sure how to make that happen... hahaha
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
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Re: Birth control after baby...
When we are sure we're done my husband plans to get snipped too, which will be nice. The IUD didn't freak me out until I saw the instruments and hear the procedure described by my MW. Now when I think about it I feel like my whole uterus cringes.
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
My husband wants to start trying then too, but this is a man with ZERO experience with infants or other children under the age of 4 so we will see how he feels about that after this baby gets here.
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
I've heard Minera horror stories. Ranging from "It made me go crazy" from "Yep, got pregnant anyway".
I'm going back on the pill. Even if H decides to get a vasectomy, I'll probably still go back on the pill until menopause.
I think my fear comes from the commercial (I think it's the Paraguard) that states it can attach itself to your uterine wall or actually go through it. Make my uterus want to crawl up even further inside me.
I've never done well on the pill. I used to rock at taking it every day when I was younger but even the lower doses just knocked my hormones so out of whack that I packed on pounds (without changing my diet, and it stopped when I quit so I blame the pills) and/or had ridiculous mood swings.
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
I have a friend that got pregnant on Mirena...it freaks me out just the thought of having a foreign object in my body for 5 years...I have tried so many different kinds of birth control over the past 10 years and none really work for me...they help clear up my face but cause other hormone related issues, so I am going to do what we did before we started TTC and just use protection...it worked for a year and a half before TTC so fingers crossed it will work again until we are ready to have another baby! lol
HAHA! This will probably be us too! And TKx2, I know what you mean about the commercial, plus my cousin got the mirena and it just fell out on her. I know someone who had the implanon and had issues with that too.
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
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DH 40 ME 40
GD, Myasthenia Gravis, Factor V Leiden
DS #1 born via emergancy c-section 01/23/06 at 37w
DS#2 born via c-section 10/27/2007 at 36w due to PROM
DS #3 born via repeat c-section 04/13/2012 at 39w
"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,but by the moments that take our breath away." - George Carlin
It did the opposite for me, which is apparently not the norm. My moods were more stable. I put on 15lbs when I stopped taking it. My periods went from being 10 days of heavy heavy bleeding and pain to the point where I'd vomit to *maybe* two days.
I had Mirena. It was extremely painful to have placed but not as bad to have taken out. It causes irregular bleeding then eventually you may stop bleeding. I never got to that point. DH would complain that it felt the the string was stabbing him in the d!ck hole. Yeah not cool. I felt like I could feel it when I scrunched forward. I have thought about getting it again after baby just cuz they say you should have one child. I dunno though. Watch some u tube videos about it and that will scare you enough not to get it.
I will prob go on BCP. I have tried many things in the past. The shot hurts really freakin bad and Didn't stop bleeding the whole time. If I could get my ins to cover seasonique that would be the best. I loved only having four periods a year but it's really expensive if ins won't cover it.
The pill or condoms. Worked for us before.
ETA: Never got pregnant until our first try last summer. That's after 8 years of dating!
I know a while ago they were doing a patch which worked for me. It was the first kind of birth control (other than condoms) I used. I switched to nuvaring and had no problems with it after trying a few different versions of the pill.
The patch is handy because it is weekly, but gets lint trapped around the edges so it can get a little ugly. That was the only downside I saw to it.
We used FAM after DD was born. Unfortunately, I didn't pay as close attention as I should have and now we're having #2.
I'm getting Paragard after this one because we're not sure if we're done having kids yet and want to wait a couple 3 years or so before we have anymore. Paragard is the copper IUD and you still ovulate while you're on it so I still plan to chart anyway.
I'm sorry, I'm still laughing at "penis size hula hoop!" That one almost made me pee...
We are planning to try and have our next one less than 2 years after this LO...so until then we will most likely use the "pull 'n' pray" method that PPs have mentioned (haha) or a condom. I hated taking the pill, and I won't be getting anything inserted thank you very much...and I had the patch years and years ago and hated it. So, that's what we're left with!
This... You really have to be in tuned with your bod...
I asked about Mirena a couple years ago and was told that since it can attach itself to your uterus and do other nasty things they only give it to woman who are of a certain age or already have children.
Since I was young and childless they would not give me an IUD, the fact that they wouldn't do it in fear of taking away the option of me ever conceiving really freaked me out. I wouldn't be able to do it now.
I don't know what your plans are, but if you want to BF you need a non-hormonal or progestin only BC as others will affect your supply. Progestin only options are the mini-pill, Depo shot, progestrone IUD (Mirena or Progestart), or the BC implant (Norplant or Implanon).
These BC options usually do not cause supply issues if started after 6-8 weeks postpartum, but they do in some people. For this reason I would probably start with the mini-pill before doing something more long term. That way if you have an issue, you can just stop taking the pill rather than having months of low supply while the shot wears off or you get the IUD or implant removed.
DH and I will just use condoms for a while and then go from there.
med-free birth x2, breastfeeding, baby wearing SAHM
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Yea I made sure to ask my MW about post baby BC because I had concerns for my supply, plus I really dislike being on hormonal anything. Plus, like another PP said our plan as of right this second is to start trying again in about a year.
The only thing that scares me more than an IUD is depo because I don't have a single friend who was ever on it that didn't have issues.
To the pp saying she'd never make her husband get snipped, I agree with you completely, however it is not me making him do it, it was a choice he has made on his own. We also already know what doc we will use for it as the same doc has snipped at least 30 guys my husband works with (yes, it's odd I know this but I worked in a prison and if it wasn't inmates trying to show you their dicks it was other officers talking about theirs it seemed).
I think my primary concern with charting is having problems with temps having a baby waking up whenever during the night and I know you're supposed to temp at the same time after at least 3 hours of sleep and all that so I worry about having a newborn impacting accuracy.
DH and I successfully avoided for over a year before getting pregnant so perhaps we'll do what we did last time and see what happens... because I think I am seriously over complicating this. haha
DD1- 12/26/05 DD2- 4/12/12
You don't have to get seasonique to get the same effect - my doc prescribed "continuous birth control" and I just took my regular pill but skipped the placebo week. Then I took the placebo week whenever I felt like it. Some docs say you never need to take it, but my doc wanted me to have four periods a year, so I basically followed the seasonique schedule. And since the continuous aspect was prescribed, insurance covered it even though it meant an extra pack of pills every three weeks.
A note about depo: I was on it for four years and LOVED it, then discovered that it gave me osteoporosis that hasn't resolved after six years off it. So if you're considering it just make sure you're getting your bone density checked regularly. Don't wait four years!
DH and I were "using condoms" when I got KU, so we obviously can't be trusted with them, lol. I had a great experience with the pill and will just go back on that.
I am planning to use the copper UID.
FWIW, you can take out the nuvaring for sex, so long as you replace it within 3 hours of removal. I used it for about 5 years and did this to keep it from getting in the way during sex, and I only lost it once (probably because I was a little tipsy), but I realized in time that I didn't have it and put in the "emergency ring" I kept in the refrigerator. I am not pregnant right now because of that incident, either!
I have been thinking and thinking this over the entire pregnancy. DH and I never had to use any kind of contraceptive before. He has an extremely low count, I had pretty bad endo, and a thyroid problem so I didn't ovulate. Took us forever to get our BFP. The doctor told us though because of being medicated for the thyroid and the endo was removed, we have a good shot of getting KU again right after the pregnancy.
I'm allergic to all hormonal BC. I tried 4 or 5 different oral ones, the patch, etc, and it's a no go. I refuse to do Mirena, IMO it's too dangerous and we'd like to have future children. I guess condoms is the only option, sadly. Neither of us are fans.
::looks down at bulging belly:: Yeah, FAM fail here, too. It worked beautifully for years, but then my periods started coming irregularly. My last four cycles before I got pregnant were all 35+ days, with ovulation after Day 20. On the cycle I got KU, we had sex on Day 9, and his powersperm apparently hung around until Day 14, when I ovulated.
Side note: Shettles be damned; DH's sperm hung out for five days before fertilization, and we're still having a boy!