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TTC After a Loss
Serious question. Need advice please.
I mean no offense at all, and I am truly sorry for what you ladies have
had to go through but I have a question. I am almost 19 weeks and I
haven't felt my baby move at all in about 3-4 weeks now. To be honest,
I'm not sure if what I felt before was even movement at all. I am very
concerned about it. Can anyone enlighten me as to what it felt like, or
if you felt anything different at all. I still don't have insurance yet,
it's been in the same "stage" for a while now...was supposed to have it
by the 1st but I don't yet. I am not bleeding at all and don't have any
cramps, just a constant "pressure" feeling in my lower abdomen. This is
my 1st pregnancy and don't have any experience at all. I'm afraid to
ask friends and family for advice because I don't want them to worry.
Again, if I offended anyone I am very sorry. Just looking for someone
who has been through it so maybe they can help me. Thank you.
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Re: Serious question. Need advice please.
I think you've come to the wrong place. None of us here are pregnant so we really can't help you with pregnancy symptoms you're experiencing, or lack thereof. Try re-posting over on Pregnant After a Loss (PgAL).
Best of luck.
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I never got that far, but some women don't feel flutters or movement until well past week 20.. inappropriate for this board..
::continues to try to be nice::
Edit: add a word
I think you should call your doctor.
Plus, typically when someone says: "I don't mean to offend anyone" they typically know that they are going to....and then do it anyway.
I'm sorry you're worried OP, and I really hope everything is okay, but all of us on here have babies that have died....I'm not sure why you would think here was a good spot to get advice. I would maybe try your BMB or your trimester board......OR, like I stated first, call your doctor as I am not sure why, if you are that concerned, you haven't already done that yet (rather then logging on to a board that you don't belong to and posting).
i agree that you should check with a board where the women are actually pregnant... like pregnant after a loss, or your due date board.
but, there are a few reasons for no movement... 19 weeks is still early to feel movement, or maybe you have an anterior placenta... try not to stress out and check with your doctor.
Wicked- I am so glad you are here. You brighten my day.
The majority of the women here have never made it to 19 weeks so we don't have any experience. But thanks for reminding us! That was so totally awesome of you!
Anyways, please ask this on a board that is more appropriate.
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I hate that you came on here because you're wondering what it felt like to lose a baby at 19 weeks.
How could this feeling be LESS terrifying than picking up the phone to call your doctor and ask the question? Why is a call to the doctor so intimidating? Why must it be:
1. Ask message board on the internet who doesn't know me.
2. Ask family and worry them unnecessarily because they won't know the answer.
3. Ask doctor who I pay to a. KNOW ME and b. KNOW THE ANSWER and ding-ding-ding c. HAVE AN ACTION PLAN.
whoa whoa whoa.. first.. SHE ASKED THE LOSS BOARD? Asking here is bad enough but wtf? really do you not have any common sense.. and on the common sense note.. wtf have you not had any prenatal care?? people like you OP made me feel stabby.. suddenly your worried about your baby but haven't been taking care of it and your body all along? I would give anything to have my baby back, I, as well as many other ladies on this board, did everything possible to make sure our bodies were a healthy enviroment for our growing child and we still lost them. I really hope your child is fine, glad that you've waited 19 weeks to worry about it.
Oh dear. I'd like to think it's only a troll, but I fear we may just have an idiot on our hands.
THIS!!!!!!!!!!!
BFP #2 - 04/04/12, 1st Beta @ 9DPO 19, 2nd Beta @ 13 DPO 168. 1st u/s - 4/30/12 - we have a heartbeat!!
This chick is an a$$hole
Thankfully she deleted on the loss board
Being 16 is no excuse. You are old enough to do big girl things then have some big girl common sense. I hope you get your sh!t together soon.
exactly.. if you can lay in the bed and spread them you should be able to take care of the consequences including getting prenatal care..
Obviously you can't read because on the top of our board it says, "If you are currently pregnant, go to Pregnant After a Loss. Go away.
Because of the great "Snow"vember of 2015, my medicated cycle was cancelled. However, we were blessed with our little rainbow baby due on 8/14/15! Baby J had other plans and decided to make his grand ole entrance on 7/4/2015!
Surprise! Our little girl entered this world on 12/8/2016 after her eviction notice was long past due. Our little turkey baby turned into a snow baby!
Look, on the off chance that you're actually serious and not a troll... check in the yellow pages, there are often pregnancy crisis clinics where you can go for an u/s and they can direct you to some options for health care. As far as your movement question, it's not abnormal to feel little movement at this stage.
If you are, as I suspect, a troll.... there's something seriously wrong with you. How any human being could choose to amuse themselves by posting crap like this on pregnancy loss boards is above and beyond anything I can imagine.
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1. Go to your mommy and tell her you're pg (I'm sure she doesn't know)
2. Call a doctor and schedule an appointment
3. Try and find the "baby daddy" (if you can)
4. GTFO of here and NEVER come back.
I NEVER made it as far as your have so, how the h3ll should I know if it is normal or not?!! I'm pretty sure it is so DON'T come on a LOSS board and ask if your ALIVE baby is okay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! @$$H@T!!!!!!!!!!
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Okay. That's it. Clearly you are a troll....and a sad, sick, immature one at that. What, you wake up this morning and decide to go and mess with a bunch of women whose babies have died? I think you are pathetic....and sad. So there. Congratulations. You have succeeded in getting a reaction from a bunch of women who are hurting. Good for you, I hope you are proud of yourself....because IRL it's clear that you are a real winner. So, now that you have accomplished this, you can get back to class (or back to your talk shows) and GTFO.
I also pray that you never really know what it's like to lose a child.
This makes it no better.
We LOST babies after doing everything right.
You can't be denied health care. Period. It's illegal, call a damn doctor and grow up before making another ADULT decision!
Oh, noes, you called us "meanie heads (not the exact words but you get the drift)"! Internet strangers can't see what is exactly going on with your baby, only a doctor can. A good person makes sure that they have insurance or a way to get good care for the child the moment they find out that they have a child. Or they be responsible and use protection if they chose to have sex. Or don't have sex altogether if they can't own up to the consequences of getting pregnant.
I'm sorry but you need to learn common sense and read the titles of the boards. This could have not happened if you did so.
Because of the great "Snow"vember of 2015, my medicated cycle was cancelled. However, we were blessed with our little rainbow baby due on 8/14/15! Baby J had other plans and decided to make his grand ole entrance on 7/4/2015!
Surprise! Our little girl entered this world on 12/8/2016 after her eviction notice was long past due. Our little turkey baby turned into a snow baby!
Wait a minute. Hold the phone. I think I can help her ... let me just find my ... oh I can't find them ... wait here they are!!
(Sorry, I had to. That dog is just too stinkin' cute).
BFP #1 9/25/2011 | EDD 6/1/2012 | M/C 10/26/2011 at 8w6d
BFP #2 3/13/2012 | EDD 11/23/2012
9DPO hcg: 45; Prog: 41 | 14DPO hcg: 694 | 17DPO hcg: 2733 | 28DPO hcg: 53,006
First u/s 4/13 showed a beating heart! Second u/s 5/2 showed a HB of 163! Let's GROW, baby!
He's here! Kellen born 11/16/12 - 8 lbs 8 oz 22 inches long via scheduled c-section (breech baby, gestational diabetes mama)
((((HUGS)))) I feel the same way, sweetie.
Honey, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and just pretend like you're real:
No one can deny you healthcare. You can be homeless with no insurance and not a dime to your name and the hospital HAS TO TREAT YOU. Also, it's called "Medicaid." I pay for it with my tax dollars. You're welcome.
Look up in a phone book you're local pregnancy care/crisis center and get over there ASAP. Most of those places are either free or have a sliding scale fee for lower incomes if that's a problem for you. I like the local care centers best, but I'm SURE there's also a Planned Parenthood around that can help you out too.
If you want to be a mother, then start taking care of your baby NOW. That means prenatal care. Which should have started at least 10 weeks ago.
Also? Have some common sense. I have no idea what my baby's movement felt like because my baby died before I could feel it moved -- as with almost every other woman on this board. We're not doctors or nurses, we are GRIEVING WOMEN trying to put our lives back together. These are questions for DOCTORS -- not us.
I suggest you take some parenting classes at that pregnancy care center while you're at it. Best of luck, I hope your baby is ok.
TTC since Aug 2011. BFP #1 on 10/28/2011 EDD of 07/02/2012 Natural MC on 11/22/2012 BFP #2 on 10/28/2012 EDD of 7/13/13 Judah Ari born on 7/11/13.
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Thank you. The 1st real response. I didn't know I had to have insurance, I will be walking to the local hospital later today to see what I can do. I appreciate your advice and help.