I don't have an UO at the moment. Just wanted to pop in to say OP... your siggy photos are adorable!!
Nickie
Proud Cloth Diapering, Babywearing Mommy to Desmond (5.30.2011)
and Evangeline (2.26.2014)
Loving wife, best friend and teammate to Babywearing Daddy, Kelly (7.27.2000)
And before you get fired up, it's not because I don't support nursing in public. I absolutely think a woman should be able to feed her baby whenever and wherever she needs to. I think my problem is with protesting in general. I just don't see how a "nurse-in" is going to accomplish anything. It's just going to annoy those that already hold the opinion that nursing in public is wrong and I think Target already handled the situation as best as they could.
My UO: To give your child a sibling is one of the worst reasons to have another child.
I actually did a blog post about this awhile because I just go so...irritated every time someone tells me I need to do this or there is the occasional discussion on here (like last night) whether you are one and done and so many people throughout the reason why they want another is so that their child has a sibling. Not all siblings are close growing up! I have yet to see this in my own family - I have three brothers, there is three years between each of us. Growing up, we fought constantly - and I'm not talking screaming matches. I have zero relationship with my oldest brother (for multiple reasons). My relationship with the second oldest is tenuous at best. My younger brother, I see him as primarily a drain on my parents. My mom no longer speaks to her older sister (they are two years apart). My dad's two remaining sisters live ont he same property but despise each other. Very few people that I know that have siblings have these awesome relationships that everyone keeps citing as a reason to have more than one kid.
If you want to have another child, please do so...but don't let this be the reason you are!
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My inlaws are obsessed with my baby and I can't stand it. I know I should be thankful (and most of me is) but it drives me crazy. MIL and FIL see him 3-4 times a week and STILL ask to come over and visit. SIL emails me weekly asking when she can come see "her" baby. I want them to respect us as a family and give us some space.
I hate Angry Birds. I don't understand the zombie or vampire crazes - I couldn't ever get into either.
While I am addicted to angry birds.... I do agree with the zombie/vampire crap. DH records The Walking Dead on DVR... And I can't tell you the number of times I've been tempted to delete it just because I am so sick of zombies and vampires... I leave it alone though because he never deletes Days of Our Lives from the DVR.
Ditto to the sibling thing as the reason for more kids. My mom tried to pull that on me... And I'm kind of amazed that was her reasoning... Because she has one sister that won't speak to anyone in the family at all. And her other sister is a judgmental b*#@% that does nothing but hurts her feelings. And I've also seen how DH's "close" family has all grown up and now aren't very close at all....unless someone needs money. Sigh.
And now my UO... I'm guessing I must be in the minority of people that don't get flu shots. Since I've been out of high school I've never gotten the flu shot, except when I was pregnant.... And then a month later, I get the flu from my SIL, as did DH. My mom and DH get the flu shot every year, and they end up sick more often than I do... Granted, they may not be getting the flu, but they get flu like symptoms.... Meanwhile, I don't get the flu shot and the most annoying sickness I get through the year is a sinus infection.
i don't know if i posted about this before, so sorry if i'm repeating myself.
i can't stand when people give me the side eye or make comments about how gross my messy baby is while eating. he's exploring food. it's his job to be messy right now. and if he wants to finger paint with the peas so be it.
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This Christmas sucked this year for gifts. I don't want to go into very much detailed, but money is tight because of daycare and my first paycheck since going back to work won't be until Januray. So we had to use savings to pay for daycare and some other odds and ends. DH and I didn't get each other gifts this Christmas, which I am ok with. What really makes me angry is my brother and SIL... well I guess it wouldn't be angry it would be jealousy (and I know that that gets you know where). I got my parents a frame with D's photo in it for Christmas. My brother who is uneducated and works as a auto dealership driving cars around got my mother a $200 bracelet! He was sweet enough to say it was from both of us, but it was a Kay Jewelers Pandora style bracelet. Very pretty, but it made me feel like sh!t. He then whips out his iPad that my SIL bought him for his Birthday. She works as a waitress. Did I mention that she is pregnant too? She also carries around Coach purses and they seem like they have money. Have two brand new cars. She got an inheritance from her Aunt and she also is taking care of her cousin who is mental disabled so she is collecting his social security. She told me that WIC will give her a electric breastpump... fine and dandy, but I am jealous... WIC goes by income, not by assets so they won't count her cousins SS check or her inheritance. They also get daycare assistance. If I could pay $49 a week in daycare I could get an iPad too!! No I am
stuck with a $400 a month student loan bill and $200 a week in daycare. I know you should never try to keep up with the Jones, but it just sucks right now. I hate how our government works... it is so unfair.
Nickie
Proud Cloth Diapering, Babywearing Mommy to Desmond (5.30.2011)
and Evangeline (2.26.2014)
Loving wife, best friend and teammate to Babywearing Daddy, Kelly (7.27.2000)
This Christmas sucked this year for gifts. I don't want to go into very much detailed, but money is tight because of daycare and my first paycheck since going back to work won't be until Januray. So we had to use savings to pay for daycare and some other odds and ends. DH and I didn't get each other gifts this Christmas, which I am ok with. What really makes me angry is my brother and SIL... well I guess it wouldn't be angry it would be jealousy (and I know that that gets you know where). I got my parents a frame with D's photo in it for Christmas. My brother who is uneducated and works as a auto dealership driving cars around got my mother a $200 bracelet! He was sweet enough to say it was from both of us, but it was a Kay Jewelers Pandora style bracelet. Very pretty, but it made me feel like sh!t. He then whips out his iPad that my SIL bought him for his Birthday. She works as a waitress. Did I mention that she is pregnant too? She also carries around Coach purses and they seem like they have money. Have two brand new cars. She got an inheritance from her Aunt and she also is taking care of her cousin who is mental disabled so she is collecting his social security. She told me that WIC will give her a electric breastpump... fine and dandy, but I am jealous... WIC goes by income, not by assets so they won't count her cousins SS check or her inheritance. They also get daycare assistance. If I could pay $49 a week in daycare I could get an iPad too!! No I am
stuck with a $400 a month student loan bill and $200 a week in daycare. I know you should never try to keep up with the Jones, but it just sucks right now. I hate how our government works... it is so unfair.
Quality of life.... I have a feeling, even with your money being tight, you guys are probably still happier than they are... That sounds like my aunt and uncle... They make decent money, but my aunt has always been horrible at not spending more than she makes. Credit debt out the wazoo, 3-4 family vacations a year, serious shopping problem.... And then she complains about money.... to her family who combined doesn't make what she makes, and we some how still have tons of fun and are happy.... More to life than money!
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
I have no interest in letting anyone else watch DD except MH or I. I get pressured constantly from both sides of my family as well as friends but still have yet to let anyone babysit. I do not feel the need to get "me" time or "us" time without her. When I work, MH watches her. When he's on shift, I work from home. I feel very fortunate to have our arrangement and when I'm not working, I don't want to be away. I don't think "it's unhealthy." At this point, I'm okay with at home date nights.....so back off family!
i don't know if i posted about this before, so sorry if i'm repeating myself.
i can't stand when people give me the side eye or make comments about how gross my messy baby is while eating. he's exploring food. it's his job to be messy right now. and if he wants to finger paint with the peas so be it.
I agree with you! DH and MIL stand next to LO with wash cloths while he eats and constantly wipe him off. DH tried to hold LOs hands down so his hands wouldn't get messy. I was pissed! I think the exploration of food will help him be a better eater and improve eye/hand coordination. He is such a good little eater; I don't want to mess that up!
My other UO: I don't want or like the idea of having a maid service. MIL bought me a gift certificate for a maid service for Christmas and I don't want to use it. DH and I asked the ILs for a new vacuum cleaner and this is what they got us instead. I know...I'm a brat!
I haven't posted much on UO but I have one today. It bothers me that some people are very untrusting of their doctors/medical professionals. I know there are some educated people out there but your doctor went to many many years of school to do what he/ she does and is required to keep up with current literature. It especially bothers me when googled Internet articles are used as "research". You need to understand who is writing the article and more details about the research before you claim this to be fact. Many of these articles are complete nonsense. It's actually semi difficult to find decent research articles on the Internet - most well done studies are archived in libraries of institutions. As a medical professional, it frustrates me that patients come in but expect to dictate what they want. If you know more than me, they why did you come in? Ahh I feel better
Let's see. I am thrilled I gave my DS a sibling. Even if they don't end up being close the moments of them hugging and kissing each other makes it worth every fight. Also the thought of my DH and I dying and leaving one DS completely alone is heartbreaking. Even to have someone else to shoulder the load of grief and financials that come with burying a family member. DH lost his father and even though he is not close at all to his brother they came together during that time. However that wasn't my primary reason. I just wanted another child.
At the beginning of the week I thought of an UO but now I can't remember it. I don't think I will ever be as smart as I once was. My children have taken some of my brains, with every birth I have lost IQ points.
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
I have a hyphenated last name. I have it for legal reasons. I handle all my moms assets and finances in general. My dad set up a very complecated trust before he died that we have not been able to figure out how to dissolve. All the assets are still in has name even though he has been deceased since 07. Dealing with the courts, banks. lawyers etc has been complicated enough since I am the daughter not the wife. Using a compeltely differnt last name would further complicated the unresolved legal situation. As such I am legally hyphenated. My FB page and all other casual references I go by my married last name only.
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I agree with this. I think it's really important for babies to try things for themselves, especially eating! And if that involves getting sweet potato everywhere so be it! I'm also going to take pictures of it too
My UO: I just don't get the organic food craze. I think it's just a way for people to charge more for produce. However I totally get the whole grass fed, hormone free deal with meat.
Edit: Accidently hit reply rather than quote. I was agreeing with PP about babies being messy eaters.
I haven't posted much on UO but I have one today. It bothers me that some people are very untrusting of their doctors/medical professionals. I know there are some educated people out there but your doctor went to many many years of school to do what he/ she does and is required to keep up with current literature. It especially bothers me when googled Internet articles are used as "research". You need to understand who is writing the article and more details about the research before you claim this to be fact. Many of these articles are complete nonsense. It's actually semi difficult to find decent research articles on the Internet - most well done studies are archived in libraries of institutions. As a medical professional, it frustrates me that patients come in but expect to dictate what they want. If you know more than me, they why did you come in? Ahh I feel better
I'm not a medical professional, but I still agree with you. It seems silly to me that people parse what they read on the internet (or better yet, see in a Ricki Lake documentary) and then assume they know more than someone who has been to school and has a degree in that subject. How would you like someone to tell you how to do your job? It's silly. Most doctors are good people who want the best for you and your baby's health. If you don't believe your doctor is doing that, find a new one.
My related UO: My ped told me I could start solids anytime after 4 months. Yes, I'm sure she is aware of the WHO recommendation. So am I. But she's also been a ped (and a mother) for over 30 years and watched those recommendations change several times. I'd bet a million dollars when our kids have kids those recommendations will be different. Every mom should make the choice that's comfortable for them.
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
I have a hyphenated last name. I have it for legal reasons. I handle all my moms assets and finances in general. My dad set up a very complecated trust before he died that we have not been able to figure out how to dissolve. All the assets are still in has name even though he has been deceased since 07. Dealing with the courts, banks. lawyers etc has been complicated enough since I am the daughter not the wife. Using a compeltely differnt last name would further complicated the unresolved legal situation. As such I am legally hyphenated. My FB page and all other casual references I go by my married last name only.
I toally understand for legal reasons, especially for you in what sounds like a complicated situation. I guess I wasn't so attached to my maiden name to keep it, especially when it was 12 letters long
I haven't posted much on UO but I have one today. It bothers me that some people are very untrusting of their doctors/medical professionals. I know there are some educated people out there but your doctor went to many many years of school to do what he/ she does and is required to keep up with current literature. It especially bothers me when googled Internet articles are used as "research". You need to understand who is writing the article and more details about the research before you claim this to be fact. Many of these articles are complete nonsense. It's actually semi difficult to find decent research articles on the Internet - most well done studies are archived in libraries of institutions. As a medical professional, it frustrates me that patients come in but expect to dictate what they want. If you know more than me, they why did you come in? Ahh I feel better
I totally agree. I rely so much on my doctors and the nurse line for advice and information. I do admit I do Google things from time to time, but I take them all with a grain of salt.
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
Better than when my friend got married..... His wife didn't change her name at all... Claimed it was because she had papers/articles written with her maiden name and didn't want to deal with it.... Personally, I don't think she ever loved him, just wanted someone to lean on while she worked on her Masters, then PhD.... Needless to say, I'm not shocked that she's almost done with her PhD and now wants a divorce....
I hate the daycare setting. My son has been sick since the day he started going and I'm so effing tired of it. I know, I know, he'll have a rock star immune system when he's older but I don't give a sh*t right now. He's on his 3rd ear infection and his 10th cold or so. He only goes 2 days a week but it's enough to get him sick at least once a month.
My UO: I just don't get the organic food craze. I think it's just a way for people to charge more for produce. However I totally get the whole grass fed, hormone free deal with meat.
It's a little more than that. Going beyond whole grass fed and hormone free.... Organic veggies and fruits should be free of pesticides. I'm putting emphasis on should be, because I don't trust everything that says organic... I really prefer to buy from local farmers or trusted organic brands. Ever since I bought a lb of organic strawberries, I'll never go back to non-organic. Organic strawberries were so much sweeter and more flavorful than regular strawberries to me. I don't mind paying a little extra if it means I'm avoiding pesticides.
I haven't posted much on UO but I have one today. It bothers me that some people are very untrusting of their doctors/medical professionals. I know there are some educated people out there but your doctor went to many many years of school to do what he/ she does and is required to keep up with current literature. It especially bothers me when googled Internet articles are used as "research". You need to understand who is writing the article and more details about the research before you claim this to be fact. Many of these articles are complete nonsense. It's actually semi difficult to find decent research articles on the Internet - most well done studies are archived in libraries of institutions. As a medical professional, it frustrates me that patients come in but expect to dictate what they want. If you know more than me, they why did you come in? Ahh I feel better
This exactly. While I no longer work in hospitals, I did for several years and got to know many health care providers. Do your homework before choosing a medical provider. It really is not all that hard to research your options before hand. And not to mention, seeking out recommendations from friends/families/coworkers definitely helps a lot...but again, do your own independent research before making the choice. Everyone is so quick to research everything but their care providers.
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This Christmas sucked this year for gifts. I don't want to go into very much detailed, but money is tight because of daycare and my first paycheck since going back to work won't be until Januray. So we had to use savings to pay for daycare and some other odds and ends. DH and I didn't get each other gifts this Christmas, which I am ok with. What really makes me angry is my brother and SIL... well I guess it wouldn't be angry it would be jealousy (and I know that that gets you know where). I got my parents a frame with D's photo in it for Christmas. My brother who is uneducated and works as a auto dealership driving cars around got my mother a $200 bracelet! He was sweet enough to say it was from both of us, but it was a Kay Jewelers Pandora style bracelet. Very pretty, but it made me feel like sh!t. He then whips out his iPad that my SIL bought him for his Birthday. She works as a waitress. Did I mention that she is pregnant too? She also carries around Coach purses and they seem like they have money. Have two brand new cars. She got an inheritance from her Aunt and she also is taking care of her cousin who is mental disabled so she is collecting his social security. She told me that WIC will give her a electric breastpump... fine and dandy, but I am jealous... WIC goes by income, not by assets so they won't count her cousins SS check or her inheritance. They also get daycare assistance. If I could pay $49 a week in daycare I could get an iPad too!! No I am
stuck with a $400 a month student loan bill and $200 a week in daycare. I know you should never try to keep up with the Jones, but it just sucks right now. I hate how our government works... it is so unfair.
Quality of life.... I have a feeling, even with your money being tight, you guys are probably still happier than they are... That sounds like my aunt and uncle... They make decent money, but my aunt has always been horrible at not spending more than she makes. Credit debt out the wazoo, 3-4 family vacations a year, serious shopping problem.... And then she complains about money.... to her family who combined doesn't make what she makes, and we some how still have tons of fun and are happy.... More to life than money!
I know I sound bitter... but you are completely right. DH told me "You don't know... They may have all those things on a payment play and have debt up to their eyeballs" My mom told me (I am very close to her and I vented to her) "In years down the road, when her inheritance and her cousin is gone you and Kelly will be better off then they will be, it is just hard right now." and she is completely right.
Nickie
Proud Cloth Diapering, Babywearing Mommy to Desmond (5.30.2011)
and Evangeline (2.26.2014)
Loving wife, best friend and teammate to Babywearing Daddy, Kelly (7.27.2000)
I agree with this. I think it's really important for babies to try things for themselves, especially eating! And if that involves getting sweet potato everywhere so be it! I'm also going to take pictures of it too
My UO: I just don't get the organic food craze. I think it's just a way for people to charge more for produce. However I totally get the whole grass fed, hormone free deal with meat.
Edit: Accidently hit reply rather than quote. I was agreeing with PP about babies being messy eaters.
I am in no way an expert on this topic. I never understood the craze either DH and I don't buy anything organic but we have bought only organic baby food/cereal for LO. Once she is old enough to eat what we're eating I'm not going to keep buying organic. My SIL is all over this and all the food their kids eat and drink is organic, oh except the trips to McDonalds so their kids can get the random happy meal toys????
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
Better than when my friend got married..... His wife didn't change her name at all... Claimed it was because she had papers/articles written with her maiden name and didn't want to deal with it.... Personally, I don't think she ever loved him, just wanted someone to lean on while she worked on her Masters, then PhD.... Needless to say, I'm not shocked that she's almost done with her PhD and now wants a divorce....
ugh i call BS. lol! I do theater and i didn't want to change my name when i act since i had done some show ect under my maiden name (when we got married i was still auditioning professionally) so i just didn't change my name for theater.
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NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
I have a hyphenated last name. I have it for legal reasons. I handle all my moms assets and finances in general. My dad set up a very complecated trust before he died that we have not been able to figure out how to dissolve. All the assets are still in has name even though he has been deceased since 07. Dealing with the courts, banks. lawyers etc has been complicated enough since I am the daughter not the wife. Using a compeltely differnt last name would further complicated the unresolved legal situation. As such I am legally hyphenated. My FB page and all other casual references I go by my married last name only.
I toally understand for legal reasons, especially for you in what sounds like a complicated situation. I guess I wasn't so attached to my maiden name to keep it, especially when it was 12 letters long
I'm not attached to mine either since my dad made it up. It has no real history.
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My UO: To give your child a sibling is one of the worst reasons to have another child.
I actually did a blog post about this awhile because I just go so...irritated every time someone tells me I need to do this or there is the occasional discussion on here (like last night) whether you are one and done and so many people throughout the reason why they want another is so that their child has a sibling. Not all siblings are close growing up! I have yet to see this in my own family - I have three brothers, there is three years between each of us. Growing up, we fought constantly - and I'm not talking screaming matches. I have zero relationship with my oldest brother (for multiple reasons). My relationship with the second oldest is tenuous at best. My younger brother, I see him as primarily a drain on my parents. My mom no longer speaks to her older sister (they are two years apart). My dad's two remaining sisters live ont he same property but despise each other. Very few people that I know that have siblings have these awesome relationships that everyone keeps citing as a reason to have more than one kid.
If you want to have another child, please do so...but don't let this be the reason you are!
That is such a great point! I HATE my older brother. He's a perpetual liar, he has stolen from my mother, takes advantage of her kindness, she paid for him to move down to FL to get a "fresh start", was there for 3 months before he called up saying he and his pregnant wife are moving back home and need a place to stay! Whiskey.Tango.Foxtrot?! He's such an a$$hole! My mom just keeps giving and giving and giving! And she's mad at me because I don't like him! She tells me that we have babies close in age now! So? WTF does that have anything to do with anything! They won't be best friends! I don't want my son around a douchbag like my brother! I wish my family was close! EVERY side of my parents family doesn't talk now since the grandparents died, everyone is greedy and selfish! They're money hungry whores! I'd rather be piss poor and have my family than a couple hundred more dollars and no family. I really want another LO, but because I WANT another LO, not hoping they'll be BFF!
There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.
There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.
I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!
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My UO: I just don't get the organic food craze. I think it's just a way for people to charge more for produce. However I totally get the whole grass fed, hormone free deal with meat.
It's a little more than that. Going beyond whole grass fed and hormone free.... Organic veggies and fruits should be free of pesticides. I'm putting emphasis on should be, because I don't trust everything that says organic... I really prefer to buy from local farmers or trusted organic brands. Ever since I bought a lb of organic strawberries, I'll never go back to non-organic. Organic strawberries were so much sweeter and more flavorful than regular strawberries to me. I don't mind paying a little extra if it means I'm avoiding pesticides.
You know, I've actually tried organic fruit to compare it to non-organic fruit and I just couldn't tell the difference. Maybe it was because it was a banana. Ha. I've heard that berries are more affected by pesticides and what not so I just might have to investigate. Cause I certainly love me some strawberries;)
There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.
I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!
Like I said flu and chicken pox are different and I would throw I fever in there to (over 100). You don't have to keep your kid out of daycare for a cold or ear infection. Also like I said none of us want our kids to be sick but it happens and I see no reason for my kid to miss christmas party's or family activities for a runny nose because someone else doesn't want their kid around mine
You know, I've actually tried organic fruit to compare it to non-organic fruit and I just couldn't tell the difference. Maybe it was because it was a banana. Ha. I've heard that berries are more affected by pesticides and what not so I just might have to investigate. Cause I certainly love me some strawberries;)
From what I understand... If you have to peel it to get to the fruit, organic/non-organic aren't that different. Although, the organic oranges I had were a lot sweeter than non-organic.... I can't say whether that was because they were organic or not, because I've had some non-organics that were sweet too!
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
In Quebec you don't have any choice to keep your maiden name....but here it's more for the kids...they can have mom's name, dad's name or a combo...and since most people are French there are a lot of hyphenated first names as well...as a teacher it's very annoying when a kid has four names.
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I don't understand this ipad craze! What's the point? I mean come on it is just a stupid .......... my DH just got me an ipad for my B-day, I think I'm in love! Hahahahahahaha! Sometime UOs change and I am ok with that!
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I hate the daycare setting. My son has been sick since the day he started going and I'm so effing tired of it. I know, I know, he'll have a rock star immune system when he's older but I don't give a sh*t right now. He's on his 3rd ear infection and his 10th cold or so. He only goes 2 days a week but it's enough to get him sick at least once a month.
Totally agree. Ev's been on antibiotics continuously for a month now because he's had a sinus infection that hasn't gone away with the normal stuff. We're now on our third different antibiotic and I hate it. I'm so sick of hearing how healthy he'll be later - it doesn't make up for him being sick every few weeks now! Ugh, I just don't understand why daycare has to be such a cesspool of disease (yes I know that's totally overdramatic, but that's what it feels like sometimes!!).
Re: UO Thursday
Proud Cloth Diapering, Babywearing Mommy to Desmond (5.30.2011) and Evangeline (2.26.2014)
Loving wife, best friend and teammate to Babywearing Daddy, Kelly (7.27.2000)
Volunteer Babywearing Educator at Babywearing International of South Central Pennsylvania
My UO...
My reaction to the Target "nurse-in" was this -
And before you get fired up, it's not because I don't support nursing in public. I absolutely think a woman should be able to feed her baby whenever and wherever she needs to. I think my problem is with protesting in general. I just don't see how a "nurse-in" is going to accomplish anything. It's just going to annoy those that already hold the opinion that nursing in public is wrong and I think Target already handled the situation as best as they could.
Aww, thanks! He definitely hams it up for the camera!
My UO: To give your child a sibling is one of the worst reasons to have another child.
I actually did a blog post about this awhile because I just go so...irritated every time someone tells me I need to do this or there is the occasional discussion on here (like last night) whether you are one and done and so many people throughout the reason why they want another is so that their child has a sibling. Not all siblings are close growing up! I have yet to see this in my own family - I have three brothers, there is three years between each of us. Growing up, we fought constantly - and I'm not talking screaming matches. I have zero relationship with my oldest brother (for multiple reasons). My relationship with the second oldest is tenuous at best. My younger brother, I see him as primarily a drain on my parents. My mom no longer speaks to her older sister (they are two years apart). My dad's two remaining sisters live ont he same property but despise each other. Very few people that I know that have siblings have these awesome relationships that everyone keeps citing as a reason to have more than one kid.
If you want to have another child, please do so...but don't let this be the reason you are!
My inlaws are obsessed with my baby and I can't stand it. I know I should be thankful (and most of me is) but it drives me crazy. MIL and FIL see him 3-4 times a week and STILL ask to come over and visit. SIL emails me weekly asking when she can come see "her" baby. I want them to respect us as a family and give us some space.
While I am addicted to angry birds.... I do agree with the zombie/vampire crap. DH records The Walking Dead on DVR... And I can't tell you the number of times I've been tempted to delete it just because I am so sick of zombies and vampires... I leave it alone though because he never deletes Days of Our Lives from the DVR.
Ditto to the sibling thing as the reason for more kids. My mom tried to pull that on me... And I'm kind of amazed that was her reasoning... Because she has one sister that won't speak to anyone in the family at all. And her other sister is a judgmental b*#@% that does nothing but hurts her feelings. And I've also seen how DH's "close" family has all grown up and now aren't very close at all....unless someone needs money. Sigh.
And now my UO... I'm guessing I must be in the minority of people that don't get flu shots. Since I've been out of high school I've never gotten the flu shot, except when I was pregnant.... And then a month later, I get the flu from my SIL, as did DH. My mom and DH get the flu shot every year, and they end up sick more often than I do... Granted, they may not be getting the flu, but they get flu like symptoms.... Meanwhile, I don't get the flu shot and the most annoying sickness I get through the year is a sinus infection.
i don't know if i posted about this before, so sorry if i'm repeating myself.
i can't stand when people give me the side eye or make comments about how gross my messy baby is while eating. he's exploring food. it's his job to be messy right now. and if he wants to finger paint with the peas so be it.
Ahh I have one...
This Christmas sucked this year for gifts. I don't want to go into very much detailed, but money is tight because of daycare and my first paycheck since going back to work won't be until Januray. So we had to use savings to pay for daycare and some other odds and ends. DH and I didn't get each other gifts this Christmas, which I am ok with. What really makes me angry is my brother and SIL... well I guess it wouldn't be angry it would be jealousy (and I know that that gets you know where). I got my parents a frame with D's photo in it for Christmas. My brother who is uneducated and works as a auto dealership driving cars around got my mother a $200 bracelet! He was sweet enough to say it was from both of us, but it was a Kay Jewelers Pandora style bracelet. Very pretty, but it made me feel like sh!t. He then whips out his iPad that my SIL bought him for his Birthday. She works as a waitress. Did I mention that she is pregnant too? She also carries around Coach purses and they seem like they have money. Have two brand new cars. She got an inheritance from her Aunt and she also is taking care of her cousin who is mental disabled so she is collecting his social security. She told me that WIC will give her a electric breastpump... fine and dandy, but I am jealous... WIC goes by income, not by assets so they won't count her cousins SS check or her inheritance. They also get daycare assistance. If I could pay $49 a week in daycare I could get an iPad too!! No I am stuck with a $400 a month student loan bill and $200 a week in daycare. I know you should never try to keep up with the Jones, but it just sucks right now. I hate how our government works... it is so unfair.
Proud Cloth Diapering, Babywearing Mommy to Desmond (5.30.2011) and Evangeline (2.26.2014)
Loving wife, best friend and teammate to Babywearing Daddy, Kelly (7.27.2000)
Volunteer Babywearing Educator at Babywearing International of South Central Pennsylvania
Quality of life.... I have a feeling, even with your money being tight, you guys are probably still happier than they are... That sounds like my aunt and uncle... They make decent money, but my aunt has always been horrible at not spending more than she makes. Credit debt out the wazoo, 3-4 family vacations a year, serious shopping problem.... And then she complains about money.... to her family who combined doesn't make what she makes, and we some how still have tons of fun and are happy.... More to life than money!
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
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BFP #3: 2/22/15 - MC: 3/3/15
BFP #4: 5/20/15 - Stick baby stick!!!
I have no interest in letting anyone else watch DD except MH or I. I get pressured constantly from both sides of my family as well as friends but still have yet to let anyone babysit. I do not feel the need to get "me" time or "us" time without her. When I work, MH watches her. When he's on shift, I work from home. I feel very fortunate to have our arrangement and when I'm not working, I don't want to be away. I don't think "it's unhealthy." At this point, I'm okay with at home date nights.....so back off family!
I agree with you! DH and MIL stand next to LO with wash cloths while he eats and constantly wipe him off. DH tried to hold LOs hands down so his hands wouldn't get messy. I was pissed! I think the exploration of food will help him be a better eater and improve eye/hand coordination. He is such a good little eater; I don't want to mess that up!
My other UO: I don't want or like the idea of having a maid service. MIL bought me a gift certificate for a maid service for Christmas and I don't want to use it. DH and I asked the ILs for a new vacuum cleaner and this is what they got us instead. I know...I'm a brat!
Let's see. I am thrilled I gave my DS a sibling. Even if they don't end up being close the moments of them hugging and kissing each other makes it worth every fight. Also the thought of my DH and I dying and leaving one DS completely alone is heartbreaking. Even to have someone else to shoulder the load of grief and financials that come with burying a family member. DH lost his father and even though he is not close at all to his brother they came together during that time. However that wasn't my primary reason. I just wanted another child.
At the beginning of the week I thought of an UO but now I can't remember it. I don't think I will ever be as smart as I once was. My children have taken some of my brains, with every birth I have lost IQ points.
I have a hyphenated last name. I have it for legal reasons. I handle all my moms assets and finances in general. My dad set up a very complecated trust before he died that we have not been able to figure out how to dissolve. All the assets are still in has name even though he has been deceased since 07. Dealing with the courts, banks. lawyers etc has been complicated enough since I am the daughter not the wife. Using a compeltely differnt last name would further complicated the unresolved legal situation. As such I am legally hyphenated. My FB page and all other casual references I go by my married last name only.
I agree with this. I think it's really important for babies to try things for themselves, especially eating! And if that involves getting sweet potato everywhere so be it! I'm also going to take pictures of it too
My UO: I just don't get the organic food craze. I think it's just a way for people to charge more for produce. However I totally get the whole grass fed, hormone free deal with meat.
Edit: Accidently hit reply rather than quote. I was agreeing with PP about babies being messy eaters.
I'm not a medical professional, but I still agree with you. It seems silly to me that people parse what they read on the internet (or better yet, see in a Ricki Lake documentary) and then assume they know more than someone who has been to school and has a degree in that subject. How would you like someone to tell you how to do your job? It's silly. Most doctors are good people who want the best for you and your baby's health. If you don't believe your doctor is doing that, find a new one.
My related UO: My ped told me I could start solids anytime after 4 months. Yes, I'm sure she is aware of the WHO recommendation. So am I. But she's also been a ped (and a mother) for over 30 years and watched those recommendations change several times. I'd bet a million dollars when our kids have kids those recommendations will be different. Every mom should make the choice that's comfortable for them.
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I toally understand for legal reasons, especially for you in what sounds like a complicated situation. I guess I wasn't so attached to my maiden name to keep it, especially when it was 12 letters long
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BFP #3: 2/22/15 - MC: 3/3/15
BFP #4: 5/20/15 - Stick baby stick!!!
I totally agree. I rely so much on my doctors and the nurse line for advice and information. I do admit I do Google things from time to time, but I take them all with a grain of salt.
BFP #2: 7/23/14 - MC: 8/28/14
BFP #3: 2/22/15 - MC: 3/3/15
BFP #4: 5/20/15 - Stick baby stick!!!
Better than when my friend got married..... His wife didn't change her name at all... Claimed it was because she had papers/articles written with her maiden name and didn't want to deal with it.... Personally, I don't think she ever loved him, just wanted someone to lean on while she worked on her Masters, then PhD.... Needless to say, I'm not shocked that she's almost done with her PhD and now wants a divorce....
It's a little more than that. Going beyond whole grass fed and hormone free.... Organic veggies and fruits should be free of pesticides. I'm putting emphasis on should be, because I don't trust everything that says organic... I really prefer to buy from local farmers or trusted organic brands. Ever since I bought a lb of organic strawberries, I'll never go back to non-organic. Organic strawberries were so much sweeter and more flavorful than regular strawberries to me. I don't mind paying a little extra if it means I'm avoiding pesticides.
This exactly. While I no longer work in hospitals, I did for several years and got to know many health care providers. Do your homework before choosing a medical provider. It really is not all that hard to research your options before hand. And not to mention, seeking out recommendations from friends/families/coworkers definitely helps a lot...but again, do your own independent research before making the choice. Everyone is so quick to research everything but their care providers.
Proud Cloth Diapering, Babywearing Mommy to Desmond (5.30.2011) and Evangeline (2.26.2014)
Loving wife, best friend and teammate to Babywearing Daddy, Kelly (7.27.2000)
Volunteer Babywearing Educator at Babywearing International of South Central Pennsylvania
I am in no way an expert on this topic. I never understood the craze either DH and I don't buy anything organic but we have bought only organic baby food/cereal for LO. Once she is old enough to eat what we're eating I'm not going to keep buying organic. My SIL is all over this and all the food their kids eat and drink is organic, oh except the trips to McDonalds so their kids can get the random happy meal toys????
BFP #2: 7/23/14 - MC: 8/28/14
BFP #3: 2/22/15 - MC: 3/3/15
BFP #4: 5/20/15 - Stick baby stick!!!
ugh i call BS. lol! I do theater and i didn't want to change my name when i act since i had done some show ect under my maiden name (when we got married i was still auditioning professionally) so i just didn't change my name for theater.
I'm not attached to mine either since my dad made it up. It has no real history.
That is such a great point! I HATE my older brother. He's a perpetual liar, he has stolen from my mother, takes advantage of her kindness, she paid for him to move down to FL to get a "fresh start", was there for 3 months before he called up saying he and his pregnant wife are moving back home and need a place to stay! Whiskey.Tango.Foxtrot?! He's such an a$$hole! My mom just keeps giving and giving and giving! And she's mad at me because I don't like him! She tells me that we have babies close in age now! So? WTF does that have anything to do with anything! They won't be best friends! I don't want my son around a douchbag like my brother! I wish my family was close! EVERY side of my parents family doesn't talk now since the grandparents died, everyone is greedy and selfish! They're money hungry whores! I'd rather be piss poor and have my family than a couple hundred more dollars and no family. I really want another LO, but because I WANT another LO, not hoping they'll be BFF!
There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.
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I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!
You know, I've actually tried organic fruit to compare it to non-organic fruit and I just couldn't tell the difference. Maybe it was because it was a banana. Ha. I've heard that berries are more affected by pesticides and what not so I just might have to investigate. Cause I certainly love me some strawberries;)
Like I said flu and chicken pox are different and I would throw I fever in there to (over 100). You don't have to keep your kid out of daycare for a cold or ear infection. Also like I said none of us want our kids to be sick but it happens and I see no reason for my kid to miss christmas party's or family activities for a runny nose because someone else doesn't want their kid around mine
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OMG get out of my head! I was totally going to post that I've never played angry birds lol
Don't ever play it either. Trust me. It is mindlessly addicting.
From what I understand... If you have to peel it to get to the fruit, organic/non-organic aren't that different. Although, the organic oranges I had were a lot sweeter than non-organic.... I can't say whether that was because they were organic or not, because I've had some non-organics that were sweet too!
In Quebec you don't have any choice to keep your maiden name....but here it's more for the kids...they can have mom's name, dad's name or a combo...and since most people are French there are a lot of hyphenated first names as well...as a teacher it's very annoying when a kid has four names.
Totally agree. Ev's been on antibiotics continuously for a month now because he's had a sinus infection that hasn't gone away with the normal stuff. We're now on our third different antibiotic and I hate it. I'm so sick of hearing how healthy he'll be later - it doesn't make up for him being sick every few weeks now! Ugh, I just don't understand why daycare has to be such a cesspool of disease (yes I know that's totally overdramatic, but that's what it feels like sometimes!!).