UO Thursday

flows912 · December 2011

I didn't change my last name when I got married. The only reason why I didn't change: I like my maiden name a heck of a lot more than MH's last name! MH knew that I didn't like his last name early on in our relationship, however it doesn't mean that I love him any less!

vigurl · December 2011

kathetakite:
vigurl:
kathetakite:

There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.

I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!

Like I said flu and chicken pox are different and I would throw I fever in there to (over 100). You don't have to keep your kid out of daycare for a cold or ear infection. Also like I said none of us want our kids to be sick but it happens and I see no reason for my kid to miss christmas party's or family activities for a runny nose because someone else doesn't want their kid around mine

You have 2 kids so I will take your word. Won't a cold or an ear infection also cause a fever? If so then the rule at my DC is that they have to be home for 24 hrs after the fever breaks so that is 2 days of missed work for me.

bunnymama625 · December 2011

One of my main reasons for having another LO is to give Camryn a sibling-- maybe they won't be best buds, but at least the opportunity is there.

I try to buy as much organic as possible-- I used to spend a chunk of each summer at my Granny's in NC working in her small farm, surrounded by rented out tobacco fields- I've seen those pesticides up close and it's BAD- they come in giant tanks marked poison, dangerous, etc- if you get any on you, you have to shower off immediately and go to the hospital. Eating them is not something I want to do. Plus the runoff REALLY damages the surrounding areas.

My UO for today- I fully intend to be busy, sick, whatever it takes to avoid my IL's until DH's bday in Feb. I just don't want to see them and I don't have the energy to play nice now. We still haven't done Christmas with them and I don't feel like it's their "right"- this was my parents year and we had a great time. They will just have to wait.

amanda1680 · December 2011

dantoni1210:

I have no interest in letting anyone else watch DD except MH or I. I get pressured constantly from both sides of my family as well as friends but still have yet to let anyone babysit. I do not feel the need to get "me" time or "us" time without her. When I work, MH watches her. When he's on shift, I work from home. I feel very fortunate to have our arrangement and when I'm not working, I don't want to be away. I don't think "it's unhealthy." At this point, I'm okay with at home date nights.....so back off family!

I agree with this. We live 12 hours from any family or friends, but when they are visiting or we're back home, they're constantly trying to get us to "go out" without DD. I'm just not interested, and I don't think it's unhealthy either. I will just spend the whole time thinking about DD or worrying about her or hoping she doesn't get hungry while we're away. There will be plenty of time for "me" or "us" time when she grows up, but right now, I'd rather just spend it with her!

chuicafina · December 2011

Kymbirleigh:
Tellyb0228:
My UO: I just don't get the organic food craze. I think it's just a way for people to charge more for produce. However I totally get the whole grass fed, hormone free deal with meat.
It's a little more than that. Going beyond whole grass fed and hormone free.... Organic veggies and fruits should be free of pesticides. I'm putting emphasis on should be, because I don't trust everything that says organic... I really prefer to buy from local farmers or trusted organic brands. Ever since I bought a lb of organic strawberries, I'll never go back to non-organic. Organic strawberries were so much sweeter and more flavorful than regular strawberries to me. I don't mind paying a little extra if it means I'm avoiding pesticides.

I agree with this exactly. Especially the bolded.

sunset+skies · December 2011

BrandySun:
My UO: To give your child a sibling is one of the worst reasons to have another child.

I actually did a blog post about this awhile because I just go so...irritated every time someone tells me I need to do this or there is the occasional discussion on here (like last night) whether you are one and done and so many people throughout the reason why they want another is so that their child has a sibling. Not all siblings are close growing up! I have yet to see this in my own family - I have three brothers, there is three years between each of us. Growing up, we fought constantly - and I'm not talking screaming matches. I have zero relationship with my oldest brother (for multiple reasons). My relationship with the second oldest is tenuous at best. My younger brother, I see him as primarily a drain on my parents. My mom no longer speaks to her older sister (they are two years apart). My dad's two remaining sisters live ont he same property but despise each other. Very few people that I know that have siblings have these awesome relationships that everyone keeps citing as a reason to have more than one kid.

If you want to have another child, please do so...but don't let this be the reason you are!

I feel the same way. My older brother, although my parents were no different with him than they were with myself or my sisters, ended up being an abusive drug addict. I lived in fear for my life for YEARS because of him, and have been left with both physical and emotional scars that will never go away.

My sisters are 5 and 7 years younger than me. Though we love each other, there's still a lot of resentment between us. I was the first little girl, and have always been "daddy's girl" - the favourite of our father. My sisters, however, having a perfectly capable older brother and sister, never had to do the chores we did, and were spoiled by my parents (one of them is 21 and still lives at home rent-free after my parents paid $20k for film school, I paid rent from 18 until 20, when I moved out to go to university, which I paid for myself).

My family is 3000 miles away. When my mom was diagnosed with a brain tumor, and through the following months of hospital stays, surgery, and recovery, I talked to my sisters only a handful of times. There wasn't really much "support" from them. DH was my rock, and I honestly can't justify a sibling so that in the future, when they're adults, they have someone there who may only be supportive out of a sense of duty, rather than love.

Magenta728 · December 2011

cassoppea:
I haven't posted much on UO but I have one today. It bothers me that some people are very untrusting of their doctors/medical professionals. I know there are some educated people out there but your doctor went to many many years of school to do what he/ she does and is required to keep up with current literature. It especially bothers me when googled Internet articles are used as "research". You need to understand who is writing the article and more details about the research before you claim this to be fact. Many of these articles are complete nonsense. It's actually semi difficult to find decent research articles on the Internet - most well done studies are archived in libraries of institutions. As a medical professional, it frustrates me that patients come in but expect to dictate what they want. If you know more than me, they why did you come in? Ahh I feel better

Yes Yes Yes This is especially true on TB. I feel like people make a claim, then add a link of a googled article to be like, "See, I told you!" Just because it's on the internet, doesn't mean it's true.

bookkitten · December 2011

jenny_jeff:

SarahP15:
I hate Angry Birds. I don't understand the zombie or vampire crazes - I couldn't ever get into either.

OMG get out of my head! I was totally going to post that I've never played angry birds lol

I've never played, either, or even seen it. I don't have a smart phone. I guess an UO is that I don't have any desire for one at all. I don't *want* to be that connected! Let me make calls and send texts and that's all.

kathetakite · December 2011

vigurl:
kathetakite:
vigurl:
kathetakite:

There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.

I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!

Like I said flu and chicken pox are different and I would throw I fever in there to (over 100). You don't have to keep your kid out of daycare for a cold or ear infection. Also like I said none of us want our kids to be sick but it happens and I see no reason for my kid to miss christmas party's or family activities for a runny nose because someone else doesn't want their kid around mine

You have 2 kids so I will take your word. Won't a cold or an ear infection also cause a fever? If so then the rule at my DC is that they have to be home for 24 hrs after the fever breaks so that is 2 days of missed work for me.

I guess the rules at my daycare may be different as they are allowed to go if they have a low grade fever (under 100) they are pretty laid back. So I guess I didn't think about others having to miss work. But generally I don't think kids get a high fever from a cold. I am sure they can but cold and fever rarely go together with my kids. I still stand by my UO.

SarahinRichmond · December 2011

This is more of a whine than a UO and I know I'm going to sound like a brat but...

Since DH has a take home police car, we only have one family car which I usually drive to work. DH is off all this week so today I told him he could drive the car if he dropped me off at work. By the time he got dressed I was already late. I had planned on stopping for coffee on the way to work but instead he said he would just go get me some and bring it by the office. This was around 9am. Its now 11am and he hasn't come by yet! I called and he said he went to his favorite coffee shop to have breakfast and hang out and now he;s at the grocery store. He said he was going to bring me coffee after he was finished. Um HELLO. Its almost noon and my head is now exploding from a lack of caffeine (and the killer cold I'm nursing). I try to limit my caffeine intake since I'm still EBF so I didn't want to get a diet coke at work only to have him show up with coffee. If I'd known it would be noon before he showed up I totally would have gotten one anyway!!!

The end.

hepcats · December 2011

Magenta728:
cassoppea:
I haven't posted much on UO but I have one today. It bothers me that some people are very untrusting of their doctors/medical professionals. I know there are some educated people out there but your doctor went to many many years of school to do what he/ she does and is required to keep up with current literature. It especially bothers me when googled Internet articles are used as "research". You need to understand who is writing the article and more details about the research before you claim this to be fact. Many of these articles are complete nonsense. It's actually semi difficult to find decent research articles on the Internet - most well done studies are archived in libraries of institutions. As a medical professional, it frustrates me that patients come in but expect to dictate what they want. If you know more than me, they why did you come in? Ahh I feel better

This is especially true on TB. I feel like people make a claim, then add a link of a googled article to be like, "See, I told you!" Just because it's on the internet, doesn't mean it's true.

OMG so true! I especially dislike it when it's one of many schools of thought on the matter but it's stated as THE way to see things.

With regard to the sibling thing: I want Martin to have a sibling for 3 reasons: 1) because I missed out and would have loved one, 2) so that he's not alone when DH and I pass, and 3) so that, God forbid, anything should happen to Martin, we have a back up. Now, I know that sounds cold and morbid, but think about it: if you have a second child for whom you have to maintain a grip on sanity/reality/etc, I would think you are less likely to wallow in sorrow and not move through the stages of grief. You have another child to worry about and how they're taking things, how are they doing, etc - it's not all about you.

klv · December 2011

I didn't change my name when I got married. Why? Because I was working on my PhD, had papers published and was known in my field. Not because I don't love my DH. Although I dislike his last name and did not want to use it myself, I had no issue with LO using it. DH does not care as long as our kids have his last name.

Though I will use his name for Christmas cards and stuff like that. And I agree that hyphenating is dumb ( unless it is for legal reasons like PP). No way I would want an 18 letter last name!

CarlaAndJames · December 2011

You ladies are feisty today!

Makes me sad to see how many of you don't get along with your siblings. DH isn't close with his brother, but I am super close with siblings - it's like an episode of brothers&sisters where something happens and all of our phones start going off because the 4 of us are calling each other and catching up constantly. I can't imagine not giving that to Lexi, I really hope she and future siblings can be close.

TCUFrogMom11 · December 2011

vigurl:
kathetakite:

There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.

I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!

Yikes! This exactly! When h has a cold, I let people know. It's rude just to assume its ok to pass germs around knowingly. If she gets sick otherwise, that's different. J

MrsSparklesMcGee · December 2011

I have a silly one today. I HATE stuffed animals. HATE HATE HATE.

They do nothing but take up space. My kid is not amused by them, I have to find a place to put them, and 99% of them are not cute and junk.

Can you tell my daughter got like 4 for Christmas? I'm donating all of the ones I don't have to keep (i.e., the one I got from my ILs...ugh!).

bunnymama625 · December 2011

Mrs.SparklesMcGee:
I have a silly one today. I HATE stuffed animals. HATE HATE HATE.
They do nothing but take up space. My kid is not amused by them, I have to find a place to put them, and 99% of them are not cute and junk.
Can you tell my daughter got like 4 for Christmas? I'm donating all of the ones I don't have to keep (i.e., the one I got from my ILs...ugh!).

AGREED

supermom83 · December 2011

I am so sad to read about all the people who are not close with their siblings. I am the youngest of 5 and me and my brother and sisters are all extremely close. Three of us live 15 minutes away from one another and one of the biggest reasons I won't mow away from the DC area even though it's so damn expensive, is because I want to stay close to my siblings. We all gather once a week and all the little cousins play. We are a very close family and love and respect each other. We may disagree a lot and can have an argument or two over silly stuff but we never fight or stop talking to each other. I knew my family was a blessing but now I realize it even more. I am eternally greatful for my fabulous siblings. They have played a big role in making me who I am today. There is a 16 year difference between my oldest sister and I, then 15 years with my second sister, then 11 with the third, then 5 years difference between my brother and I. Dispite the huge age gaps we are all so close and talk to each other constantly. I want a big family (3 kids) because I want my kids to have siblings so they can have what I had. My husband is an only child and HATED it. He loves my family and views them as his own siblings and is 100% hell bent of giving our kids siblings for the sake of a sibling. My mother has 5 siblings and my father has 5 siblings and they were all very close. I grew up around a very tight-knit family life. I understand though why someone who was abused or never had a close family would not see the value or possibility of close siblings. How you grew up colors how you see the world.

I never changed my last name because in my culture women do not change their last names. You are born with a name and you die with that name. Who you marry doesn't change who you are or what people call you. It has nothing to do with loving your spouse more or less or planning to leave them eventually. So not every woman who has kept her last name is doing it for some spiteful reason.

Kymbirleigh · December 2011

CarlaAndJames:
You ladies are feisty today!

Makes me sad to see how many of you don't get along with your siblings. DH isn't close with his brother, but I am super close with siblings - it's like an episode of brothers&sisters where something happens and all of our phones start going off because the 4 of us are calling each other and catching up constantly. I can't imagine not giving that to Lexi, I really hope she and future siblings can be close.

DH used to be close with all his siblings.... And I can see how much it tears him up to not be close with them anymore... He makes an effort to try and remain close, but it's just not reciprocated. My mom is the same way. She has tried relentlessly to reach out to her sister, but was met with laughter over it. I just hate seeing my loved ones torn up over it. Sad As for me... I'm glad the sibling shunning me is only a half sister that stopped coming around when I was still really little.... Thankfully, I never really got a chance to get attached. It hurts that she won't even talk to me, but not as bad as the fact that she's literally bumped into me and didn't know who I was.

Everyone has different experiences with siblings or as an only child. I loved that I never had to compete for my parent's attention, like I see DH's nieces and nephews do. I like that I was able to take gymnastics, softball, and band on as activities and didn't have to worry about not being able to afford it (and we were middle class family). A lot of people make the argument that only children are spoiled and rely on their parents for everything, but it had the opposite affect on me. I busted my butt to be self reliant. I paid for my own car insurance at 16, my own gas, bought my lunch, didn't ask for money to go out with friends, etc.

kathetakite · December 2011

TCUFrogMom11:
vigurl:
kathetakite:

There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.

I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!

Yikes! This exactly! When h has a cold, I let people know. It's rude just to assume its ok to pass germs around knowingly. If she gets sick otherwise, that's different. J

I guess I am rude then because both kids had some congestion and common cold symptoms and I allowed them both to come to all of the Christmas parties. I did mention it but I let them play freely and did not go up to every person at the parties to let them know. If someone wanted to hold M I would let them know but Z was all over the place and I really didn't think twice about it

SarahP15 · December 2011

BrandySun:
jenny_jeff:

SarahP15:
I hate Angry Birds. I don't understand the zombie or vampire crazes - I couldn't ever get into either.

OMG get out of my head! I was totally going to post that I've never played angry birds lol

Don't ever play it either. Trust me. It is mindlessly addicting.

I tried to play it and I still hated it. I wanted to see what all the hype was about and was disappointed (which is probably a good thing, considering I really don't need anymore time-wasters - I have enough of those!)

Kymbirleigh · December 2011

SarahP15:
BrandySun:
jenny_jeff:

SarahP15:
I hate Angry Birds. I don't understand the zombie or vampire crazes - I couldn't ever get into either.

OMG get out of my head! I was totally going to post that I've never played angry birds lol

Don't ever play it either. Trust me. It is mindlessly addicting.

I tried to play it and I still hated it. I wanted to see what all the hype was about and was disappointed (which is probably a good thing, considering I really don't need anymore time-wasters - I have enough of those!)

LoL!!! My dad said it was stupid and didn't get the addiction to it.... And then a month later, what do I see on his computer screen.... Angry Birds. Every. Single. Day. Cracked me up!

vigurl · December 2011

kathetakite:
TCUFrogMom11:
vigurl:
kathetakite:

There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.

I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!

Yikes! This exactly! When h has a cold, I let people know. It's rude just to assume its ok to pass germs around knowingly. If she gets sick otherwise, that's different. J

I guess I am rude then because both kids had some congestion and common cold symptoms and I allowed them both to come to all of the Christmas parties. I did mention it but I let them play freely and did not go up to every person at the parties to let them know. If someone wanted to hold M I would let them know but Z was all over the place and I really didn't think twice about it

No not rude for letting them go to the parties. Rude will be not informing the all the parents when you arrived of your childrens symptoms so that could make the educated decision about whether or not they wanted their kid to play with yours.

I dont care what others do as long it does not impact me or my kids. If a parent does not want to vaccinate fine by me but let me know b/c my kids will NOT be playing with thiers.

SarahP15 · December 2011

Kymbirleigh:
SarahP15:
BrandySun:
jenny_jeff:

SarahP15:
I hate Angry Birds. I don't understand the zombie or vampire crazes - I couldn't ever get into either.

OMG get out of my head! I was totally going to post that I've never played angry birds lol

Don't ever play it either. Trust me. It is mindlessly addicting.

I tried to play it and I still hated it. I wanted to see what all the hype was about and was disappointed (which is probably a good thing, considering I really don't need anymore time-wasters - I have enough of those!)

LoL!!! My dad said it was stupid and didn't get the addiction to it.... And then a month later, what do I see on his computer screen.... Angry Birds. Every. Single. Day. Cracked me up!

Hahaha, awesome. DH installed it on my phone and then would use it every night to play for hours. I finally just uninstalled both apps - apparently there is a holiday one too?

Melissa2216 · December 2011

dantoni1210:
I have no interest in letting anyone else watch DD except MH or I. I get pressured constantly from both sides of my family as well as friends but still have yet to let anyone babysit. I do not feel the need to get "me" time or "us" time without her. When I work, MH watches her. When he's on shift, I work from home. I feel very fortunate to have our arrangement and when I'm not working, I don't want to be away. I don't think "it's unhealthy." At this point, I'm okay with at home date nights.....so back off family!

I get a lot of offers for this as well, and I just don't care. My mom is in town, and has asked repeatedly if DH and I want to go out on a date or go out for New Years. Um, no. It's not important to me to stay out past midnight anymore. DS is in bed by 7:30, and since he's still not STTN, I want to be here in case he wakes up. The only "me" time I need is the occasional pedicure, which I can do on Sundays when DH is home.

62406 · December 2011

Mrs.SparklesMcGee:

I have a silly one today. I HATE stuffed animals. HATE HATE HATE.

They do nothing but take up space. My kid is not amused by them, I have to find a place to put them, and 99% of them are not cute and junk.

Can you tell my daughter got like 4 for Christmas? I'm donating all of the ones I don't have to keep (i.e., the one I got from my ILs...ugh!).

I totally agree. I hate them because I don't think there is a good way to clean them and they take up too much space. LO got a polar bear for Christmas from SIL and while it's cute, I know it's going to go in her mouth and it just gives me the creepies thinking of how many people touched them and there is no good way to clean it first.

kas80 · December 2011

Stuffed animals can be put in a pillowcase and thrown into the washer. It's actually pretty easy to clean them.

I don't like clutter so we'll never have more than a few, I just wanted to point that out.

Melissa2216 · December 2011

Kymbirleigh:
62406:
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
Better than when my friend got married..... His wife didn't change her name at all... Claimed it was because she had papers/articles written with her maiden name and didn't want to deal with it.... Personally, I don't think she ever loved him, just wanted someone to lean on while she worked on her Masters, then PhD.... Needless to say, I'm not shocked that she's almost done with her PhD and now wants a divorce....

Lots of people aren't changing their names these days (myself included). I have several reasons for not changing my name, but none of them include not loving my husband.

sunset+skies · December 2011

hepcats:
With regard to the sibling thing: I want Martin to have a sibling for 3 reasons: 1) because I missed out and would have loved one, 2) so that he's not alone when DH and I pass, and 3) so that, God forbid, anything should happen to Martin, we have a back up. Now, I know that sounds cold and morbid, but think about it: if you have a second child for whom you have to maintain a grip on sanity/reality/etc, I would think you are less likely to wallow in sorrow and not move through the stages of grief. You have another child to worry about and how they're taking things, how are they doing, etc - it's not all about you.

They don't know it, but that's part of the reason I even have little sisters. My parents didn't want an uneven number (my mom was a middle child, and hated it), so they knew they wanted either 2 or 4. After all my surgeries and everything to do with my heart, they decided to go with 4, so that they had "backup" in case something happened to me.

I have actually given this serious thought, and I would actually prefer to NOT have another child, because I know the way my brain works. I would spend the rest of my life wondering why the one child died, when their sibling did not.

Kymbirleigh · December 2011

Melissa2216:
Kymbirleigh:
62406:
NBR, but I hate when women get married and decide to hyphenate their last name or the couple decides to combine their last names and come up with a new last name.
Better than when my friend got married..... His wife didn't change her name at all... Claimed it was because she had papers/articles written with her maiden name and didn't want to deal with it.... Personally, I don't think she ever loved him, just wanted someone to lean on while she worked on her Masters, then PhD.... Needless to say, I'm not shocked that she's almost done with her PhD and now wants a divorce....
Lots of people aren't changing their names these days (myself included). I have several reasons for not changing my name, but none of them include not loving my husband.

In her case, it really just added to my suspicion that she was just using him for money. Honest to God, I don't think she ever loved him. He talked to me numerous times about their lack of intimacy....before they were married and while they were married. The fact that she's wrapping up her PhD and kicking him to the curb sure doesn't help my suspicion that she never cared about anything but his money.

PurdueMama14 · December 2011

It seems like this is an unpopular opinion because a lot of you ladies are posting about it...but I'm annoyed by all the "irritating" family members posts. I'm not talking about the posts about legit CRAZY family members either.

It sounds like a lot of you have family that really cares about your LOs (wanting to hold them, offering to babysit, etc etc.) and your complaining just makes you sound like awful people. There I said it. Now I feel better.

MommaG123 · December 2011

PurdueMama14:

It seems like this is an unpopular opinion because a lot of you ladies are posting about it...but I'm annoyed by all the "irritating" family members posts. I'm not talking about the posts about legit CRAZY family members either.

It sounds like a lot of you have family that really cares about your LOs (wanting to hold them, offering to babysit, etc etc.) and your complaining just makes you sound like awful people. There I said it. Now I feel better.

That was pretty much my FFFC last week. I couldn't agree more.

monkeysmama62 · December 2011

kathetakite:
There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.

I find it rude that you wouldn't tell the parent. It's my choice as the mother to decide if I want my daughter around someone who is sick.

kathetakite · December 2011

vigurl:
kathetakite:
TCUFrogMom11:
vigurl:
kathetakite:

There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.

I disagree. Maybe you (not you I mean the parent of the sick kid) has a liberal leave policy and or lots of sick time or back up care. I may not, hence I cannot afford financialy and time wise for my kid to be sick. So although I know it builds my LO's immune system I would perfer not to be missing time from work and paying for DC he cannot attend due to a fever. So keep your sick kid away from mine!

Yikes! This exactly! When h has a cold, I let people know. It's rude just to assume its ok to pass germs around knowingly. If she gets sick otherwise, that's different. J

I guess I am rude then because both kids had some congestion and common cold symptoms and I allowed them both to come to all of the Christmas parties. I did mention it but I let them play freely and did not go up to every person at the parties to let them know. If someone wanted to hold M I would let them know but Z was all over the place and I really didn't think twice about it

No not rude for letting them go to the parties. Rude will be not informing the all the parents when you arrived of your childrens symptoms so that could make the educated decision about whether or not they wanted their kid to play with yours.

I dont care what others do as long it does not impact me or my kids. If a parent does not want to vaccinate fine by me but let me know b/c my kids will NOT be playing with thiers.

Eh I guess I just don't see why colds are that big of a deal but that's my unpopular opinion

Melissa2216 · December 2011

jessiegirl10.18:
Mare0527:
PurdueMama14:

It seems like this is an unpopular opinion because a lot of you ladies are posting about it...but I'm annoyed by all the "irritating" family members posts. I'm not talking about the posts about legit CRAZY family members either.

It sounds like a lot of you have family that really cares about your LOs (wanting to hold them, offering to babysit, etc etc.) and your complaining just makes you sound like awful people. There I said it. Now I feel better.

That was pretty much my FFFC last week. I couldn't agree more.

I've shared this opinion before as well. It makes me sad that people don't appreciate family more. Sure, family can get on your nerves, but you bad mouthing them on the internet for their quirks, behavior, whatever would probably spur some pretty negative thoughts about you right back.

Is the complaining not "puppies and rainbows" enough for you? It's nice to have a place to vent about stupid little irritating things. If it's a big issue, I will confront the person directly. But the internet is a great place to get frustrations out and share annoying family tidbits. Sorry if that makes me an "awful" person. It's the same as having a girls' night out and venting about annoying things your husband does. I guess you've never done that either?

JayElleJayCee · December 2011

Wow - there are alot of debates today! To add to them..

* I also think it is rude for you to not mention that your kid is sick. I think it's ok to bring them places, however it should be mentioned if there are other kids around. If you mention it and the parents don't care then the blame is off of you and onto them. I just think that is common courtesy.

* I plan on having another baby so LO can have a sibling. I could not imagine my life without my brother and sisters. We fight constantly and we all are sooo different but we are family and will always be there when it comes to it. Growing up with a sibling was great and never lonely. I'm excited to have another one. Although we are waiting aren't going to try for another year - year and a half. I don't think that is a bad reason at all. You can't predict how your kids are going to turn out when they are older.

I don't have a UO of my own right now.

hepcats · December 2011

Melissa2216:
jessiegirl10.18:
Mare0527:
PurdueMama14:

It seems like this is an unpopular opinion because a lot of you ladies are posting about it...but I'm annoyed by all the "irritating" family members posts. I'm not talking about the posts about legit CRAZY family members either.

It sounds like a lot of you have family that really cares about your LOs (wanting to hold them, offering to babysit, etc etc.) and your complaining just makes you sound like awful people. There I said it. Now I feel better.

That was pretty much my FFFC last week. I couldn't agree more.

I've shared this opinion before as well. It makes me sad that people don't appreciate family more. Sure, family can get on your nerves, but you bad mouthing them on the internet for their quirks, behavior, whatever would probably spur some pretty negative thoughts about you right back.
Is the complaining not "puppies and rainbows" enough for you? It's nice to have a place to vent about stupid little irritating things. If it's a big issue, I will confront the person directly. But the internet is a great place to get frustrations out and share annoying family tidbits. Sorry if that makes me an "awful" person. It's the same as having a girls' night out and venting about annoying things your husband does. I guess you've never done that either?

I think Mare is coming from a different place because she just lost her grandma recently and the other one had something bad happen too (accident or illness, I can't recall), so she's really appreciating family right now. It is a good point to keep in mind, not that we're not permitted to b!tch about them now and then.

Kymbirleigh · December 2011

kathetakite:
vigurl:
No not rude for letting them go to the parties. Rude will be not informing the all the parents when you arrived of your childrens symptoms so that could make the educated decision about whether or not they wanted their kid to play with yours.
I dont care what others do as long it does not impact me or my kids. If a parent does not want to vaccinate fine by me but let me know b/c my kids will NOT be playing with thiers.
Eh I guess I just don't see why colds are that big of a deal but that's my unpopular opinion

DH and I both have sever sinus issues. He has a deviated septum and I don't know what's wrong with my nose, my doc explained it, but it went over my head. So, a simple cold to someone else, turns into a major issue for us. My fear is that K will have the same sinus issues that DH and I have... And if that's the case, a cold can put her down and out for awhile and make her seriously miserable...and struggle to breathe. I can see why someone without these darned sinus issues wouldn't think it was a big deal, but to us it sucks. Sad At least DH's can be corrected with surgery. According to my doctor, mine can't.... I have to rely on the Neti-pot.

PurdueMama14 · December 2011

Melissa2216:
jessiegirl10.18:
Mare0527:
PurdueMama14:

It seems like this is an unpopular opinion because a lot of you ladies are posting about it...but I'm annoyed by all the "irritating" family members posts. I'm not talking about the posts about legit CRAZY family members either.

It sounds like a lot of you have family that really cares about your LOs (wanting to hold them, offering to babysit, etc etc.) and your complaining just makes you sound like awful people. There I said it. Now I feel better.

That was pretty much my FFFC last week. I couldn't agree more.

I've shared this opinion before as well. It makes me sad that people don't appreciate family more. Sure, family can get on your nerves, but you bad mouthing them on the internet for their quirks, behavior, whatever would probably spur some pretty negative thoughts about you right back.

Is the complaining not "puppies and rainbows" enough for you? It's nice to have a place to vent about stupid little irritating things. If it's a big issue, I will confront the person directly. But the internet is a great place to get frustrations out and share annoying family tidbits. Sorry if that makes me an "awful" person. It's the same as having a girls' night out and venting about annoying things your husband does. I guess you've never done that either?

It really has nothing to do with the fact that you are complaining as, yes, we all complain about stupid sh!t now and again, but it's WHAT you are complaining about. And the fact that I'm calling people out on it shows that I really couldn't care less about puppies and rainbows at this point.

And yes, there are a lot of annoying things my DH does that I could complain about, but it will never be that he wants to hold DS too much or offer to watch him so I can go have some "me" time. Just sayin'...

And this wasn't intended to be specifically about your posts...there have been a few since Christmas that I'm thinking of.

kathetakite · December 2011

monkeysmama62:
kathetakite:
There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.
I find it rude that you wouldn't tell the parent. It's my choice as the mother to decide if I want my daughter around someone who is sick.

I never said I wouldn't tell a parent as in I am withholding information so your kid gets sick. I just don't think it is necessary to go around and tell everyone my kids nose is stuffy. To me it just doesn't seem vent worthy

kathetakite · December 2011

monkeysmama62:
kathetakite:
There have been a couple of posts about "my kid was around someone elses kid and their parent didn't tell me they were sick...I am so angry vent" I get chicken pox and the flu are serious and in those cases the parent should have said something. However just because some kid has a cold I don't think they need to be quarantined. Kids get sick, it happens. I know we don't want our kids to get sick but you really can't protect them from everything and I don't think just because DD has a cold I should warn every parent I cross that their child might get sick to.
I find it rude that you wouldn't tell the parent. It's my choice as the mother to decide if I want my daughter around someone who is sick.

I never said I wouldn't tell a parent as in I am withholding information so your kid gets sick. I just don't think it is necessary to go around and tell everyone my kids nose is stuffy. To me it just doesn't seem vent worthy

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