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Pregnant after a Loss
Huge rant. Big warning. Its too much.
I literally feel like the worst mother in the world and like i cant even do this. I thought i would be able too but its THOUSANDS times worse than i thought. doesnt help that my life fell down the tubes three weeks ago.
Me and my boyfriend wanted our children, we lost our first baby really early on and we were destroyed. One of my biggest fears is being barron. I was scared but he pushed on with the having another baby, and i felt like we should get things together more. But we were 3 weeks from getting a two bedroom house from a family member who was helping us out with getting on our feet, and he had gotten a job and things were going well. Until the family member pulled out of the deal last minute and then proceeded to avoid us, like a child, for three weeks. We were living in a section my my dads house at the time but because we said we were moving out he got someone to rent that room. He felt like he couldnt go back on his word so me and Josh had to leave. Josh had barely had a job for two weeks and we literally had nothing but animals we had to get rid of. Including my first dog that ive had for a year and a half...
We moved into his parents, who were really big on helping us get on our feet. Now just to explain myself better ive had a severe case of social anxiety and im a HUGE hermit whos prone to seasonal depression. One of my biggest fears was going to get a job and being in my first trimester with my all day morning sickness that i could barely handle without breaking down everyday. My food aversions didnt help much. This was a strangers house who was taking me in and they had NOTHING to eat in their house that didnt require serious preperation and i was not about to eat all of their quick meals. then when my boyfriend would get home our fights would be about how we dont have the money to buy me food everyday and i should just eat at his house BUT HE COULDNT UNDERSTAND. No one in that house acknowledged me as a pregnant person because they couldnt visibly see it. (Also ever since me and josh got together i didnt like his moms cooking but added with the food aversions, i would have rather died than eat her cooking. most nights. i tried... and everytime they made me sick and i hate to even think about now)
I felt like a hobo. I have severly seperated parents who i have bounced back and forth too all my life. My mother is 14 hours away. My dad has my birth certificate, My mom has my social card. My mother also just bought a house has 6 month old twins and 3 year old twins. My social is not the most important thing in her life no matter how much i want it to be. Both of those things i need to get a ID so i can get EVERYTHING ELSE IN MY LIFE. Permanent medical, Cash aid, MY LICENSE, food stamps, House vouchers so me and josh can finally get somewhere to start a family, WIC, all of the things i qualify for and desperately need because our lives are THAT rock bottom.
I feel homeless, everything i own is in boxes and plastic bags. including my clothes, every piece of medical documentation i might have and shoes, which is then scattered between my dads house and josh's parents house. I dont eat nearly as much as i want too or enough to not make myself sick.
all i hear all day from josh is how i need to get on all tof the said things above cause maybe if i explained everything, the FEDERAL GOVERNMENT might feel bad for me enough to give a IDENTIFICATION LESS person all of these things from the state. I DONT THINK SO. Which he says that i dont do anything and how i dont give to our relationship and hes doing all this work because he goes to work 5 days a week.
So i get a job. My first job. A on your feet all day kind of job. because im tried of feeling like i do nothing all day... and i hate hearing it because maybe hes right. But i feel helpless because i know i need more than a birth certificate to show who i am. One day he is making me feel like i do nothing after i just aced my interview because i dont go to the medical office to get rejected. and i blow up and he leaves. and proceeds to say that hes not gonna be my punching bag anymore because when i get angry now days i dont go and hide in my closet. I blow up and scream.
Also adding to this, im 10 1/2 weeks pregnant. HAVENT gotten to see my baby, have gone through literally the most hell filled 6 weeks of my life. I have a yeast infection and a bladder infection and have for a week that i CANT (cuss word cuss word cuss word) get my medication for. No ID, No form of my meedical in paper form, and IVE TRIED. my clinic IGNORED me for 5 days before i demanded to come in because they were "too booked" found out they already got my labs back saying i had a bladder infection and a yeast infection and they send my prescription to the only pharmacy thats all the way across town and that closes before josh gets off work. so i go 2 very frustrated days without my meds and ultimately say F**k this (its 11oclock at night) and say i need these meds, this is torture. ill go to the er and get a physical form of medication. where every person there made me feel like i was neglectful cause i havent had my ob appointment or my ultrasound yet. (which isnt my fault.) i take my prescription to 3 different pharmacies where they ask to see my medical card EVEN THOUGH in my medical files it says i obviously have medical cause im pregnant. i feel trapped... i dont know what to do....
But he wants to work things out and i try to talk to him and he trys to talk to the pharamacists after me because "i dont know what to ask" which pisses me off and starts another fight. where he gets pushed over the edge (im a bit of a instigator when i feel like i dont get my say) and ultimately looses it infront of his house where his parents tell me to go inside. i go inside where his mom starts questioning me and telling me she understand why hes frustrated because i dont do anything all day while he goes and works so hard at his job and how i could do more and i dont and blah blah and ends up screaming in my face about how unappreciative i am and all that great stuff. then comes back to tell me she shouldnt have (i smelled the alcohol on her breath) yelled at me like that cause she cares about me im her daughter in law and im carrying her grandchild. and i snapped. told them they were all incredible and walked at 10pm in the freezing to my bestfriends. how dare she say anything about MINE AND JOSH'S child. she has NOTHING to do with this baby. its not HER anything! its mine and its josh's. especially because she has not treated me like im pregnant one ounce or tried to make me comfortable there.
so now im back at my dads house. me and josh decided its probably better to live apart until the stress of alot of this goes away. and maybe the space will be good. but were still together. im currently in a room thats completely empty but a vacuum and a mattress. I miss clothes and furniture and comfort and NOT being hungry for once and i just dont know what to do. i feel like failure... i feel like im unhealthy, WHICH I AM. how am i supposed to get my medication? i actually lost 10 lbs in this pregnancy. im unfit. we wanted this and now we cant do it.
I posted this in first tri already... im hoping for a reach out i guess.
end rant.
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Re: Huge rant. Big warning. Its too much.
you can get your SS card from the state, you don't have to wait for one of your parents to give you their copy. once you have your SS card, you can then get a copy of your birth certificate. all of this might take a month to complete, but at least it's a start.
you can go to an emergency room to be treated for a bladder infection, and it is not smart to not get treated. at least now you know for next time.
you need to get your ID together and see a medical doctor.
Honestly, I quit reading about half way through.
Your post is alllll over the place.
I do hope you get everything straightened out. H&H 9 months.
Space isn't the solution to not being able to live together, unless you do it permanently. How are you going to work out problems if you are around one another, talking and figuring things out?
And these problems may resolve themselves, but there will always be more problems. You two need to work on your communication in general, not these problems specifically, if you are going to make it as a couple. Because as hard as you think it is now....it only gets harder.
This.
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BFP#2 10/26/10 M/C 11/01/10
BFP#3 11/28/10 C/P 11/29/10
BFP#4 02/23/11 M/C 3/1/11
BFP#5 08/13/11 EDD 04/27/12 Beta @11DPO 8.79 Beta @13DPO 36 Beta @17DPO 179 Beta @20DPO 679!! 6w3d hb 116 bpm! 8w3d hb 164 bpm! 10w4d hb 177-187 NT scan 12w2d hb 173-everything looks great! 14w4d-everything still looks great! A/S scheduled for 12/12!
Our rainbow baby is here!! Emmalynn Anne born 4/27/12 via unplanned c-section
BFP#6 Surprise! Here comes baby #2! Harper Elizabeth born 12/17/13 via c-section
you need your SS card to get your birth certificate in NY, and i just guess it might be the same in another state.
go to your HS and get a copy of your ID, which should be on file. if not, you can also use your HS yearbook and go in person. your situation is strange that you have not one thing with your name or photo on it that shows you are who you say you are.
start with working on the things that you can fix and then graduate to the bigger things going on. nothing is impossible here. but if you keep relying on other people for your excuses, then nothing is going to change. you can say that it was your boyfriend's idea to try for a baby again, but in the end you agreed. time to take responsibility for your actions.
you dont need a ss card or birth certificate to get government help, all you need is paycheck stubs. Then once you get that you can take your Medicaid ID card and birth certificate to get an ID card after you get a state ID card get your SS card from the states office.
It's incredibly unsafe for your child for you to not be eating and to have several "down there" infections!
I understand social anxiety disorder but you have to get that taken care of! You have to get a job and be able to support yourself, that baby only has you to depend on. Your boyfriend can easily change his mind and leave the picture anytime he wants and that baby is no ones responsiblity but your own!
I'm a lurker, so if you ladies are mad that I'm posting feel free to tell me to go back to TTCAL, I wear big girl panties and won't be butt hurt. I was going to bite my tongue but I'm bitter today so I just can't. I'm going to lay this out straight. Sorry if it offends anyone.
First: I'm very sorry for your previous loss, no one should have to suffer through that. It's an awful experience and my heart hurts for you that you've had that experience.
Second: WTF is wrong with you? Your post is a mess, you are saying you can't get a copy of your SS Card or your Birth Certificate from your family, one of whom you are living with, and therefore can't get the government aid you "qualify for and desperately need." I'm sorry, there is a huge sense of entitlement in your post and frankly that just rubs me the wrong way. It is not the responsibility of those that work hard to make sure you get what you "qualify" for because you are making poor life decisions.
Third: Onto those poor life decisions: You say you want government aide so you can start a family with your boyfriend that you are currently separated from because you are fighting. Well why the heck are your trying to start a family before you have your affairs in order. Maybe having a secure income for both of you, copies of your medical documents, and an established home would have been smart. Maybe you should have had your sh!t squared away BEFORE you started to TTC. Yes, you had help from family and that fell through, but it should have been straight before you ever got KU. You really should get yourself to a women's center and have them help you since you clearly aren't capable of managing yourself ,so that you don't further jeopardize your baby.
Fourth: I know it's common sense for most but apparently you didn't think this out, there is a large amount of responsibility that goes with having a child and from the sounds of it you were not at all prepared, unwilling or unable to do what was necessary before jumping into Cinderella fairy tale land. I understand that you have social anxiety, but part of being responsible is recognizing when you shouldn't have a child because it jeopardizes their well being. More than one woman in the loss community has had to put her desires for a child aside and say, it's not far to a baby to bring them into this and not have kids. It's heart-wrenching. It hurts to watch your friends do it. But you know what, it's called being a mature adult and you need to learn how to do it.
Fifth: For you to then come onto a board whining about how terrible your life is, well that's pretty offensive to those ladies that have busted their butts to take care of business FIRST and then have a baby. You said you posted on first tri, I'd advise you to go back there or to babygaga. You'll find more coddling that way. I truly hope your are able to pull you head out of you a** and get your sh!t in gear before the baby is born so that it can have a happy, healthy childhood.
Lastly: Troll? MUD? I certainly hope so.
ETA: Fixed numbering, only one third is needed
This. Also, try sending your Mom a self-addressed stamped envelope or a pre-paid FedEx/UPS package and you schedule the pick-up. That way it puts some pressure on her to do it.
Have you asked the hospital or clinic if they have any samples that you could take or generics? At least enough to get you through a few days. You have to take control because it's yours and your baby's health. GL as this is a lot to go through!
FTW!!!!
Muah! xoxoxoxo
I don't think I could have said it better myself.
I would copy everything millejj1 said, but I don't even feel worthy
So perfect (except for the 2 "thirds" 
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bfp 8.11.11 - m/c 8.17.11
bfp 11.11.11 - edd 7.25.12
Yeah the id thing is an issue, a big one but that is where you need to start. You already have your birth certificate. You do not have to have an ID to get your SS card in an emergency situation. Tell them that you have lost your ID and your ss card together. They will help you figure out the rest but you HAVE to go up there. No if and or buts you have to go in person and explain. Don't tell them about your mom or anything else.
Tell them you don't have them because they are lost and you need a SS card to get an ID. They get that. Have you gotten pay stubs yet? If so take them with you. You can start the medical applications without the ID and SS card, they just won't be all the way complete, all cities have a medical clinic that does not charge up front to use.
Make an appointment, go to it, once you go and get that in order and then you get the ID stuff and get your medicaid card the medicaid card will pay the balance for your visit. Get your prescriptions filled at walmart, they are 4.00 without insurance. You need to get them now.
At the moment your priority needs to be your health and your baby's health. Once you get all that figured out you need to talk to Josh. Figure out if you are going to be able to handle all of this and if you are going to be able to do it together. You don't have forever to work on it, you need to figure it out soon so you know what plan you have in place for your baby.
You love that baby and with or with out Josh you need to find the right path for the baby. And that all starts with your health. Keep in mind puplic hospitals have to see you. They have to treat you, GO. TOMORROW. It needs to start right now!
I am sorry you feel like everything is falling down around you but right now the only one that can pick up the peices is you! T's and P's.
Oh and would totally not flame you or send you back to TTCAL you said what needed to be said and you are right!!! I wish I would have read it before typing my long thing!!! Well put!! Lurk away!!
BFP#1 05/19/10 M/C 6/4/10 d/x threatened m/c 6/6/10 m/c confirmed
BFP#2 10/26/10 M/C 11/01/10
BFP#3 11/28/10 C/P 11/29/10
BFP#4 02/23/11 M/C 3/1/11
BFP#5 08/13/11 EDD 04/27/12 Beta @11DPO 8.79 Beta @13DPO 36 Beta @17DPO 179 Beta @20DPO 679!! 6w3d hb 116 bpm! 8w3d hb 164 bpm! 10w4d hb 177-187 NT scan 12w2d hb 173-everything looks great! 14w4d-everything still looks great! A/S scheduled for 12/12!
Our rainbow baby is here!! Emmalynn Anne born 4/27/12 via unplanned c-section
BFP#6 Surprise! Here comes baby #2! Harper Elizabeth born 12/17/13 via c-section
It was a test to see if you would notice? I really like the word third?
Or I was just so mad that my brain and finger didn't match up. I noticed a few other little things too. Oh well.
Have some cake for noticing though
Thank you. I freaking LOVE cake.
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bfp 8.11.11 - m/c 8.17.11
bfp 11.11.11 - edd 7.25.12
so because you bitter because you went through the SAME loss as me makes it okay for you to tell me what i am?
if you had read or paid attention to this it was a cry for help because i dont know what to do. i wanted to know if anyone has been in a situation where thing were going perfect and you had everything you needed. my life wasnt like this when we wanted to have a baby. and i want and love my child just as much as you want and would love yours. i honestly dont have a whole bunch of insulting things to say to you because i can definintly use the negativity that you posted on this (my cry for help) as proof that you yourself cant handle having a child because of your outburst due to having a bad day. what are you going to do when your child is having the same kind of day/life as me? are you just going to insult them and put them down?
second you obviously dont know what its like to have to bust your butt because i have a time line and hormones and all of those great things plus the lack of support from the very small community i live in.
every single one of the women who posted on this besides you had things to say to try and help me. not insult me or the things i can or cannot do.
also id like to point out that me and my boyfriend dont seperate because we fight to much. we seperated because of the stress of living together while not having the things we needed. i would hate for any of you to be in the same position as me because im not some homeless lady who decided to have a kid for attention. im a girl whos wanted a baby her whole life, found the man i love and want to have a family with who wants one with me as well who planned our child after loosing one (so i have every right to be in the pregnant after loss, unlike you.)
your the kind of person who makes women scared to ask questions or tell their story because of the negative things they will get in response. what exactly in your post did you say that might help me? nothing but insults and honestly i dont think that makes you a responsible person at all none the less a good parental figure for your children in the future.
good luck with being bitter. good luck ttc. but maybe you shouldnt lurk in places you dont belong. go back to your bitter board.
Agreed. Go with her answer. It is the best advice anyone can give you.
I'm going to try to give you a semi-nice warning before you get lambasted: you are treading on thin ice with comments like this.
ETA: Just to set the record straight... if you notice when you scroll up, there were several others who agreed with her (myself included). She is not just some bitter meanie who is insulting you. True, it wasn't the "it's totes going to be a-ok" response you were looking for... but it IS good advice. And I honestly can't imagine that she is the first person to call you out for making bad decisions.
Now please allow me a moment to grieve for my hard-earned tax dollars.
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bfp 11.11.11 - edd 7.25.12
i regret posting anything like this about my life to random strangers who are just going to sit there and judge me instead of trying to help me out. thank you to those who had something to say that was supportive. but i kind of just lost my respect for all of you who agreed with the woman who was just slandering me from having a "bitter day"
i needed help and you just want to insult me. all of the things she said to me werent helpful and honestly just hurt my feelings and made me feel like i can NOT turn to this board for help. its sad that all of you are so cruel. i think finding a different message board is nessisary. i see women all the time getting attacked on here and i try to say supportive things to those women so they dont feel so shitty about their already shitty situation.
thank you so much for instilling the trust in myself that i needed by just insulting me.
Really? You made this post to a bunch of internet strangers looking for sympathy. Your post comes across "woe is me my life sucks" but it doesn't sound like you are doing much of anything to fix it except sit around and whine. There are ways to fix your situation, you just have might have to put a little more effort in. And honestly, you put this out here, what did you expect, puppies and rainbows?
These are tough times and alot of us are struggling, but we are doing something about it to make to try to make it better instead of whining about it on the internet. Perhaps you should do the same.
BFP#1 05/19/10 M/C 6/4/10 d/x threatened m/c 6/6/10 m/c confirmed
BFP#2 10/26/10 M/C 11/01/10
BFP#3 11/28/10 C/P 11/29/10
BFP#4 02/23/11 M/C 3/1/11
BFP#5 08/13/11 EDD 04/27/12 Beta @11DPO 8.79 Beta @13DPO 36 Beta @17DPO 179 Beta @20DPO 679!! 6w3d hb 116 bpm! 8w3d hb 164 bpm! 10w4d hb 177-187 NT scan 12w2d hb 173-everything looks great! 14w4d-everything still looks great! A/S scheduled for 12/12!
Our rainbow baby is here!! Emmalynn Anne born 4/27/12 via unplanned c-section
BFP#6 Surprise! Here comes baby #2! Harper Elizabeth born 12/17/13 via c-section
BFP#1 05/19/10 M/C 6/4/10 d/x threatened m/c 6/6/10 m/c confirmed
BFP#2 10/26/10 M/C 11/01/10
BFP#3 11/28/10 C/P 11/29/10
BFP#4 02/23/11 M/C 3/1/11
BFP#5 08/13/11 EDD 04/27/12 Beta @11DPO 8.79 Beta @13DPO 36 Beta @17DPO 179 Beta @20DPO 679!! 6w3d hb 116 bpm! 8w3d hb 164 bpm! 10w4d hb 177-187 NT scan 12w2d hb 173-everything looks great! 14w4d-everything still looks great! A/S scheduled for 12/12!
Our rainbow baby is here!! Emmalynn Anne born 4/27/12 via unplanned c-section
BFP#6 Surprise! Here comes baby #2! Harper Elizabeth born 12/17/13 via c-section
I'm going to go ahead and give you two big middle fingers. That's one of my closest friends you just said that shlt to.
You were annoying, now you're just a bltch.
Do you want me to drive my ass over there to see you, hold your hand, drive you to mommy's and then beg your dad for your birth certificate. Then do you want me to sit you and Josh down and do some couples counseling and do your job for you since you have too much anxiety to see people but apparently can handle talking to a bunch of "internet strangers"?
Many women have been in shltty situations, yours isn't. You just sound too picky and lazy IMO. If you really wanted help, you'd be getting and fixing things yourself.
Oh and ^this is B.S. because in a different post on 1st tri you said you couldn't stand your dog and made Josh get rid of it for you.......So which is the lie?
It is. My life is a cake walk.
Thanks!
Please learn how to capitalize, spell, use proper punctuation, and basically get some kind of hanlde on the English language before coming on a message board. I quit reading about 5 sentences into your first post because I couldn't follow a damn word you were saying. I'm also not sure how you have been on here defending women who are getting attacked "all the time" and making them feel better with all of 44 posts. Especially because there isn't much attacking that goes on around here. What Mille did was give you a reality check, and why you think you are going to get some kind of pick me up to your self esteem from a bunch of internet strangers is beyond me.
Now let me go off and cry because I have lost your respect.......oh wait, you don't know anything about me so I'm pretty sure I don't care. GL
BFP #2- 2/1/11,bleeding- 2/6/11, natural m/c @ 5wks
BFP #3- 4/29/11 - DS born 12/31/11
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Wow you are the only one that sounds bitter honey. And in reference to the bolded, most people agreed with millej's post and gave you the side eye.
Maybe you should "cry for help" as you call it, to people that can actually help you...not internet strangers.
BFP#1 05/19/10 M/C 6/4/10 d/x threatened m/c 6/6/10 m/c confirmed
BFP#2 10/26/10 M/C 11/01/10
BFP#3 11/28/10 C/P 11/29/10
BFP#4 02/23/11 M/C 3/1/11
BFP#5 08/13/11 EDD 04/27/12 Beta @11DPO 8.79 Beta @13DPO 36 Beta @17DPO 179 Beta @20DPO 679!! 6w3d hb 116 bpm! 8w3d hb 164 bpm! 10w4d hb 177-187 NT scan 12w2d hb 173-everything looks great! 14w4d-everything still looks great! A/S scheduled for 12/12!
Our rainbow baby is here!! Emmalynn Anne born 4/27/12 via unplanned c-section
BFP#6 Surprise! Here comes baby #2! Harper Elizabeth born 12/17/13 via c-section
Oh, so you couldn't afford the dog you loved so you adopted a puppy you found. That makes sense.......
Ok look here you whine little brat! YOU have no right to come on this board and talk sh!t about a woman that has given each and everyone of us the support that we've need when you've given none!
Millie is an amazing person and she deserves a baby more than most of us! But you wouldn't know that because you just pop in here, no intro, and expect us to hold your hand and tell you that " You're doin the best you can!" well fvck that!
Your life wasn't going perfectly if you had no job, no id, no savings, no birth certificate, no insurance, and no government assistance!
You should have planned better!
Maybe you should go find a puppies and rainbow board, maybe they will all get together and donate there hard earned money, I mean since you are even to lazy to go and apply for our hard earned tax money!
I'm pretty sure no one is going to receive the "same negativity" you did, unless they are in the same situation. Which, in case you haven't noticed, is entirely your own doing.
I'm going to try to say this as nicely as possible, but I suspect you'll take it any way you want: You are not prepared to parent a child. This has nothing to do with past losses, the potential of being "barren" (incidentlly, it's "barren" and not "baron" or however you think the term is spelled), or any future success with fertility. It's a simple fact that you are not someone who can take care of her own, basic needs (like shelter and food), and you have no business taking on those responsibilities for another human being, much less an infant.
I happen to be a parent, with a partner with whom I am living, we both have well-paying jobs, a home of our own, and a lot of good resources. If I for whatever reason did not have my social security card or birth certificate or other identification, I'd have the intellect and the resourcefulness to have them replaced, quickly. If I couldn't manage those simple tasks, I would not consider myself someone who was ready to be a parent.
Abortion may not be a good option for you, and I respect that. That's fine. But you should look into other alternatives, like adoption. To subject another human being to your mess of a life is absolutely cruel, and irresponsible.
Well.....This just got crazy out of hand didn't it.....
First she did give advice, it may not have been what you wanted to hear it may not have been step by step, and it may have been in hindsight but she gave advice.
Second all we can do is tell you what you already know.. You know you need to get medical care...You know you need to figure out your ID situation...You know that before this baby comes you need to get your life together..We can't tell you more than that. We don't know all the rules at your local medicaid office, we don't know if you have planned parenthood or a crisis pregnancy center or something like that..We dont' know. We can't tell you if you do, but all those places are there to help., they don't cater to just adoption or abortion or anything they are simply there to help EVERY pregnant person who needs it no matter what. They do not send anyone away.
Third, we all get wanting a rainbow after a loss. After different kinds of losses and we all embrace EVERYONE who comes here. No matter the question no matter the issue. We answer questions everyday. Even questions from people wanting to know "how to deal" with friends going through what we did. We are happy to help and it is one of the few things that make it feel like there was a purpose to losing our babies.
Fourth, and understand I don't think I have ever, ever blasted anyone on this site. If I have I didn't mean to but...You can't come on here and expect universal understanding. These women including you have lost the most precious thing possible and it took thought and tears and trials to get to where we are or where we want to be. I am NOT bitter!! I am NOT resentful!! I burried my daughter as a toddler and I said goodbye to my baby I never met and I try to help anyone who crosses my path and these women try to do the same thing. TTCAL is NOT a bitter board. They are desperate, phenominal mothers without the baby that they long for and NONE of them deserve to be spoken to or about the way you have done!!
You came here! We didn't search you out. You posted here and we responded. You can't bash someone here for answering with their opinion. You asked for one and she gave one. If you understand what and who we are then you know that this kind of post or outcry rarely happens here. So it obviously isn't us.
Babygaga is eagerly awaiting your membership. Bu-bye.
You want some advice? Stop attacking my friends and get up off your butt and start going to these government offices and making some phone calls. Get off your butt and do something to make your situation better and stop crying about it to a bunch of internet strangers. That is some helpful advice.
BFP#1 05/19/10 M/C 6/4/10 d/x threatened m/c 6/6/10 m/c confirmed
BFP#2 10/26/10 M/C 11/01/10
BFP#3 11/28/10 C/P 11/29/10
BFP#4 02/23/11 M/C 3/1/11
BFP#5 08/13/11 EDD 04/27/12 Beta @11DPO 8.79 Beta @13DPO 36 Beta @17DPO 179 Beta @20DPO 679!! 6w3d hb 116 bpm! 8w3d hb 164 bpm! 10w4d hb 177-187 NT scan 12w2d hb 173-everything looks great! 14w4d-everything still looks great! A/S scheduled for 12/12!
Our rainbow baby is here!! Emmalynn Anne born 4/27/12 via unplanned c-section
BFP#6 Surprise! Here comes baby #2! Harper Elizabeth born 12/17/13 via c-section