TTC After a Loss

Holy screwed up cycle....(long vent)

I just need to get this out and I'm not sure what the point of this is other than that.  If you read all the way through, thank you. I started to m/c back on Oct 9 and had an emergency D&C on Oct 12.  I am still waiting on my first post m/c AF.  When I m/c it was a missed m/c at 11 wks (baby measured 7 wks).  My system is completely screwed up.  My pre-pg cycle was pretty regular (around 25/26 days), so sitting here at day 54 is beyond annoying.  Never in all my years of getting AF have I had a cycle this long!  Adding to the frustration is that in a few short weeks, my dear sister is going to delver her second (her due date is exactly 4 months before mine was supposed to be Sad.  I had hoped to be on cycle 2 and maybe have a BFP before the new year.

I had my followup appt with the OB on Nov 16 and she sent me for b/w to get a beta (<2) and check my thyroid (normal).  On day 27 of this journey I bought a BBT and started temping and charting on FF.  My temps were all over the place and I never had my usual o pain at all.  I'm 40 yo and I don't have a lot of time left to try again (personal deadline for various reasons), so this waiting has been getting to me.

So DH and I finally felt ready to be intimate again and although we weren't really TTA, we weren't really TTC either.  Doc said we are good to go after first post m/c AF...if only she would show up.  Anyways, lo and behold, day 45 comes and I supposedly O'd.  Yay.  Of course, I don't find that out until 3 days later and it looks like DH & I were busy the very day the event occurred.  Yay again, except I haven't had my first post m/c AF yet.  Maybe we should have been more careful, I guess we'll find out in another 5 days of so.  I am pretty sure my LP is 14 days, so if FF is right, AF should arrive on Saturday.  If she doesn't show her face and I get a BFN, then a return trip to the OB/GYN will be in order.  If we do get a BFP, it will certainly be a Christmas miracle received a couple of days early and I will be shocked and thrilled.

I hope I know more by Saturday, because I have used up every last one of my patience and I want to move forward already.  I hope that all of you ladies waiting for your first AF have a very short wait.

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Re: Holy screwed up cycle....(long vent)

  • I'm so sorry your cycle has been so screwed up.  I got AF four weeks after my miscarriage, but haven't seemed to ovulate since.  I hate how much a m/c can screw up your cycles.  Hope you get your BFP this week!
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  • I'm sorry you're having a screwy cycle. I can relate to the very long cycle though. The cycle right before my pg cycle was 65 days and my first post m/c cycle was 35 days. It sucks just waiting every day for her to rear her ugly head.
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  • It super sucks waiting. I hope you get good news soon either way. 
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    BFP#1 April 12, 2011, EDD December 24, 2011, strong heart beat at 7w3d, d&c at 10w6d
    BFP#2 Oct 24, 2011, natural miscarriage, EDD unknown
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  • The not knowing is the worst part of the whole thing, isn't it!?!  Here's hoping that you have some good news either way.
  • Thanks ladies.  I sure hope FF is right and this cycle will be over in another 5 days, one way (AF) or another (BFP).  If neither of those two things happen by Saturday, I think I'll just have DH drop me off at the psych ward, because I will probably go off the deep end!  Did I mention, one of my biggest character flaws is that I have ZERO patience?!?  This is driving me bonkers!
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  • I'm sorry to hear that your cycle is so messed up right now...  I know it's tough, especially when you feel like you have zero control.  Stay strong and keep your chin up (as tough as it may seem right now)... I've got my FX crossed for you, either way :) 
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  • I'm on the better side of 40, so I understand how frustrating this is.  It is not fun to have something you're trying to "accomplish" that you have absolutely no control over and that has a looming deadline.  I just sent a couple handfuls of baby dust your way.  I hope Santa brings you that Christmas miracle!!!
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