magic of child birth?

Danaz1 · November 2011

I am watching sister wives and she is having the baby at home and talking about how she doesn't want any drugs because it takes away from the miracle of child birth. Did any who had drugs feel that the magic was taken away? I didn't It took away some of the pain is what I saw.

wife1014 · November 2011

Olivia was born with an epidural. With Abigail I was induced but other than pitocin I was drug free. I truly think childbirth was absolutely amazing without drugs. I loved being able to feel everything and know that my body was doing exactly what it was supposed to do. I am not having any more children but if I were, I would never have another epidural. I do feel that experiencing childbirth naturally was more magical. For me, at least.

PepperStick · November 2011

I did not get an epidural, but that wasn't because I wanted to experience the full "miracle of child birth" It's because I am scared shiitless of being numb in any way.

shakes · November 2011

I think it's personal perception. In my case I was put on full strength pitocin and it was 99.999% sure I'd end up with a section anyway. I chose to go med free on pitocin because if there was a very good chance I couldn't deliver vaginally, I wanted to at least experience labor for what it is. So for ME there was some magic yes, but not like the mother earth-cosmic-creator of life way I thought it would be. *totally rolls eyes at pre pregnancy self*

nosoup4u · November 2011

I went med-free both times. DS1 turned into a c-section, and it was a pretty crappy birth, but more bc he was hospitalized right after he was born. But it didn't help that I was so, so exhausted and stressed out about his birth.

DS2 was a med-free VBAC, and even though I was tired after he was born, I wasn't *as* exhausted, and I wasn't as beat up, and it was all-around a much happier experience. I don't know if I'd describe it as magical. But it was really special, and I have very fond memories of it.

hopkins5 · November 2011

Mom2Oli:
I got screwed out of all the magic - spinal and a c-section? I guess I'll just have to spend the rest of my life making magic in his life to make up for the lack of vaginal magic during childbirth.

+1

Let's become magicians together, M2O, to make up for our labour and deliveries

SuperCuteBenz · November 2011

Mom2Oli:
I got screwed out of all the magic - spinal and a c-section? I guess I'll just have to spend the rest of my life making magic in his life to make up for the lack of vaginal magic during childbirth.

Me too.

juliedooley · November 2011

To me, epidural = magic! 2 days of slow labor was exhausting and nauseating enough without the extra agony, TYVM. I guess some people just have a different perspective/pain tolerance level.

And seriously, the fact that a child is born healthy and whole no matter how he/she gets here is magical in itself.

brownie123 · November 2011

I had epidurals for both of my deliveries, and I wouldn't change a thing. I would say both experiences were magical, epidural and all.

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wife1014 · November 2011

shakes:
I think it's personal perception. In my case I was put on full strength pitocin and it was 99.999% sure I'd end up with a section anyway. I chose to go med free on pitocin because if there was a very good chance I couldn't deliver vaginally, I wanted to at least experience labor for what it is. So for ME there was some magic yes, but not like the mother earth-cosmic-creator of life way I thought it would be. *totally rolls eyes at pre pregnancy self*

Absolutely, 100% this.

FutureMrsBB · November 2011

I got an epidural which then wore off on my left side ... being able to feel "half" of everything was not magical.

FrickandFrack · November 2011

I had an epidural and I in now way feel it took away from the magic of child birth. I think that's a pretty ignorant statement for her to say.

Mt2G1012 · November 2011

I can't figure out why women always think there is only one way to do something. We are all right in our decisions for us and our family. I didn't have meds, won't this time. Because I feel it is best for me and LO. Doesn't mean it is best for anyone else. I can't understand why people care so much about others making different decisions than them!

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wife1014 · November 2011

heatherm818:
I can't figure out why women always think there is only one way to do something. We are all right in our decisions for us and our family. I didn't have meds, won't this time. Because I feel it is best for me and LO. Doesn't mean it is best for anyone else. I can't understand why people care so much about others making different decisions than them!

Right! After I posted my feelings on my births with my girls, I kind of felt as if I said something wrong. In my eyes, Abigail's birth was more real. I felt in control and powerful. I am not saying anyone else's child birth experience was les than that. This is how I felt.

kmawb · November 2011

Mom2Oli:
I got screwed out of all the magic - spinal and a c-section? I guess I'll just have to spend the rest of my life making magic in his life to make up for the lack of vaginal magic during childbirth.

This.

shibby00 · November 2011

Apparently this is flameful, but in my experience there was nothing magical or wonderful about birthing a baby. I got an epi at 4 cms, it failed multiple times, made it to 10cms and pushed for just under 4 hours while feeling everything and I hated every second of it. Then the spinal, c/s, more puking, then everything was hazy until the next morning. Finally getting home with her and watching her grow has been the magical part. Nothing about her birth was magical. For realz.

emiliemadison · November 2011

That's such a personal thing so there's not a "right" or "wrong" way to feel. For *me*, my c-section made the experience stressful, scary and yeah, I guess I felt like the "magic" was taken away. For my 2nd, I had a drug free VBAC and it was a totally different experience. It was awesome. But that's what I WANTED, so obviously it was better than the experience I didnt want, kwim? Not everyone wants a med-free birth, so there's no magic lost for them.

Heather R · November 2011

I don't think birth is magical, mystical, fascinating, appealing, any of that stuff. It never appealed to me. ::shrug:: so no, I don't feel like I missed out on anything by having c sections.

I bet she has to be au naturale to conform to some patriarchal bullshits.

marriedinaugust · November 2011

heatherm818:
I can't figure out why women always think there is only one way to do something. We are all right in our decisions for us and our family. I didn't have meds, won't this time. Because I feel it is best for me and LO. Doesn't mean it is best for anyone else. I can't understand why people care so much about others making different decisions than them!

I agree. Med free was best for me and my baby. I gave birth, of course it was magical. She was saying she feels that meds would take the magic out of it FOR HER, I feel the same way.

monimonimoni · November 2011

Even though I had an induction, epi and C-section, it was the most magical and amazing day of my life.

PrincessFiona9 · November 2011

Mom2Oli:

Yes, it's personal choice and perception but don't for a second try to tell me that women who go med free aren't made out to be the better ones, by tv, by society, by other women. Do you see any badges around here proclaiming "I had a spinal?" no, because somehow getting drugged up to give birth pain free is less womanly.

Maybe nobody on these board says it outright but it is totally implied.

And in the show, if she's saying she wants to go med free to enjoy the magic of birth, the implication is right there that the magic is lost if you get an epi or spinal.

My 2.5 cents after having thought about this for 5 more minutes.

ITA.

BrittKav · November 2011

I had the epi both times, but it didn't work the first time. My first labor is just a horrible blur in my mind. I don't even remember most of it and I had very negative feelings toward it for a long time. My second labor, the epi worked right away. It was amazing, magical, perfect. I still play it back in my head almost daily and feel so empowered by it.

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acesup · November 2011

There was no magic in my vag... Scheduled c-section! Lol

TBLilyRose · November 2011

I had an epi but it wore off so I felt everything when I was pushing. I was in such a fog from the pain that I don't remember seeing DS for the first time and I hate that.

Mt2G1012 · November 2011

intheflowers:
Mom2Oli:
Yes, it's personal choice and perception but don't for a second try to tell me that women who go med free aren't made out to be the better ones, by tv, by society, by other women.
I don't know about that. The portrayals of birth that I see most commonly are the woman screaming for an epidural who gets quick and easy relief or the weirdo hippie with a 10 page birth plan and a pushy doula muttering mantras.

Yeah mom2oli, you are wrong. It is the "normal" way to give birth with an epi, drugs, inductions, monitors, etc. on tv. The moms who don't have these things are rarely portrayed and if they are they are portrayed as crazy people. Society is in no way accepting of those who chose a different route for childbirth than the conventional full on medical intervention one. Neither is wrong. Some women may be judgy (and more so on here than IRL, IMO), but most don't give a rat's ass what anyone else does.

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