So I was surfing FB enjoying everyone's Halloween pictures when I got into a chat with an OOT friend of mine. I had noticed she had been awfully quiet lately and usually she is burning up my feed around Halloween because she's Wiccan and Halloween is a big, big, big deal for her. So I messaged her and learned she and her H (another friend of mine) are divorcing. After 16 years of marriage and two children.
I am so surprised and saddened. It's a huge surprise to me because these two have always been very affectionate, intimate, loving, accepting of each other, etc. I am not sure what happened but it was a sobering reminder to me that 1) we never really know what's going on in someone else's marriage - even if we know the people well we are always just spectators, and 2) no matter how good things are you have to work to keep them that way.
Marriage is tough. I am sad for my friends.