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Snow__White__Queen
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In general, how young is too young?
Snow__White__Queen
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Ive had baby fever sooo bad the last few months and I feel I am emotionally and financially ready for a child, however I am quite young and my fianc? is too. So I'll ask you ladies,how young is too young?
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Re: In general, how young is too young?
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Excellent question
Exactly This!
exactly.
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I thought I was ready at 21. Looking back, I was out of my mind. I am so glad I waited.
I agree, I think after 25 is a good age.
There are some great moms in their early 20s, but that isn't always the case. I think it's best to go to school and graduate college/trade school before you have a child.
I would say around 25 or 26 at minimum.
I don't know, some of those Teen Moms are doing really well for themselves.
Priss28King is wise.--"Lurky, you are so mean... but always so on point!"
agreed.
Yep. I thought I was completely ready at around 21. I am so glad I waited because I am a much different person now than then. 25ish seems like a good age to me too.
That's not what I asked. I asked in your opinion how young is too young for anyone.
And I'm quite surprised at the other vicious comments on here as well. I can afford a wedding now if I wanted but that's not the point. I don't see why that was even brought up. I am more than halfway through with getting my degree and I'm not a teen. This was a simple question of what age do you ladies think is too young. I didn't expect so much of my personal life to be brought up.
That was VERY uncalled for.
If I have to justify myself, my fianc?e graduated from college and landed a job making over twice as much as he made before and we moved to a much nicer apartment complex in a better part of town. If we wanted a wedding right now it could be done, but that isn't a priority for us. I don't see anything wrong with having children before marriage. That's quite an outdated rule of society.
Sadly this is not a question that can be answered with a number. Since we all hit puberty at a different time, we will all mature at a different time.
Before you jump on the baby-making just yet take all factors into consideration for things that you've not done yet in life. Was there a vacation spot you wanted to hit with your FI before you had children? Maybe a more mom friendly vehicle (if you don't have)? Are you satisfied in the house/place that you are living in?
Maybe draw a list up of the pros and cons of having kids before marriage. Like, does your ''perfect wedding'' have you sporting a baby bump, or a toddler or two running about? Would you actually have the time or stability after kids to have your dream wedding? Or a honeymoon, etc.
I suggest even taking a few more months to think it thru and chat with close friends who will tell you ''as is'' as opposed to get overly excited about baby-booties.
And remember, the difference between a pregnant woman and a light bulb is you can unscrew the light bulb
Best wishes to you and yours regardless of which path you take!