H got a text about an hour ago from a strange number: "Hey, do you know where a pretty girl can find a man with a truck to help her out".
H: "Hmm, I think that's my friend Ashley from school"
I brushed it off since he was getting ready to head out the door. 10 minutes later I get a call.
He said it was his friend Ashley from school and she wants him to help move furniture tonight. Then he got really nervous and asked if he could go. I said sure, if he wanted to. Then he played the guy game where he went on about how he didn't have to go and he didn't want me to be mad. I said it was fine. And then I was a moron and asked him if she was pretty.
H: "She's beautiful, if you like that sort of thing. But she's not you baby. Don't worry, I'll go after Louie goes to bed. That way you can go to sleep and don't have to worry about me."
Now I'm annoyed. I'm usually the least jealous person in the world, but this "beautiful" chick's text is rubbing me the wrong way.
Re: Why is this bugging me?
Ditto the first part. The second to a degree. I trust my H. I wouldn't trust this girl as far as I could throw her.
ITA agere with Lilbit, if you can find a sitter, go with him.
ETA: Better yet, go as a family before Louie's bedtime. Otherwise, no dice.
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I trust my H, it's this girl I don't trust. She said she didn't know anyone else with a truck. Don't tell me that you don't know anyone in Redneckville Florida with a fvcking pickup to help you. Not to mention, who doesn't secure a vehicle for their move until a few hours ahead of time?
I agree with this. And any respectable girl doesn't send a text like that to a married man or a man that is in a serious ralationship.
That does suck. But I guess you have three options. 1) Know your H won't let anything happen and let him go. 2) Go with him. 3) Tell him you'd feel better if he doesn't go.
This is the only thing that makes me call BS on the situation. I'm very trusting, and I would trust my h in this situation. But even that text sounds a little skanky.
THIS...I'd go and cut a b!tch just to make sure she got the point. Find a babysitter and be the awesome wife who also brings a homemade snack and helping hands.
And grab his junk every time she's looking. That way she knows who those balls belong to.
If she still doesn't get it...piss on his leg while you stare her down
I don't know, I am inclined to think it's possible this is harmless and she was trying to make a joke (maybe it's not, but you didn't provide any other info on this girl, so I am just saying it's possible). The part I don't quite get is why he thought you might get mad in the first place, and then why you asked him if she was pretty. Isn't that a trick question? If he says yes, you're automatically uncomfortable. If he says no, you would probably have wondered if he was lying.
THIS!
That's why I said I was a moron. It was a trick question. He thought I would get mad because he's only home a few nights a week because of school. And because he usually wanders in about an hour later than he says. I have never worried about him cheating though.
This is what I'm thinking. I'm going to wear makeup and find my best booby shirt. I'll pack some sandwiches and I may just whip up a batch of cookies.
*snort* I'm usually just a lurker but this actually made me laugh out loud.
don't lurk, I like your humor
Ditto. That image just made my whole damn day.
But for realsies, I have a lot of guy friends from grad school. I would never send a text like that unless I was single and interested in his man parts. Strap on your boob shirt and shove some cookies in her face.
Always Sunny's back b-tches!
fixed it for you.
No, you want to make them with extra lard and sugar so the calories stick to her butt, not go right through!
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bahahaha. Exactly.
I trust my husband 110%, but if he got a text like that and didn't side eye it himself, that in and of itself would make me mad. If he tried to play it off as if it was no big deal or normal, then I would start to distrust him. No matter how trustworthy someone is, they still aren't perfect and they are capable of doing things you never thought they could. He should be the one suggesting you come along, or telling Ashley that there are trucks she can rent if she needs one and he needs to spend time with his family.
Siggy check.
I guess I'll be the lone dissenting opinion here, and say I would not think it's a big deal.
You trust your husband or you don't, it's really that simple. Maybe she IS skanky and interested in him, but what is she going to do? Pull out a gun and demand he have sex with her? Drug him and force him to be overcome with lust? If the only reason my husband doesn't cheat is because I'm there... well that would be a problem for me.
Really trusting him means trusting his judgement when he tells you that she is just a friend and he's just helping her move, and trusting his judgement to leave if things get inappropriate.
If she IS in fact skanky/interested and he IS in fact trustworthy/unsuspecting, what will likely happen is this: he will go, she will be awkward and skanky, he will move furniture as fast as he can while staring at the floor. Then he will drive home thinking about what a fool he is for not seeing this coming and what an awesome wife you are for not freaking out and for trusting his judgement. Then next time Trashley texts him for help? Well, he's busy that night. And the next. And you don't look like a weirdo jealous crazy wife who doesn't trust her husband.
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