I know I am lucky to have my husband here (hopefully) for the arrival of baby but he will be leaving 1-2 months after delivery, guaranteed for the rest of the year. I dont know which is worst but I know those are the cards we got dealt.
I am starting to calmly freak out about it. I mention it to friends and family so the info is out there and I am accepting it but then it hits me. This is our first and we both come from small families that are 100's of miles away. I saw other posts of ideas of how to keep the daddy-baby connection going during these times away and it helps but seems sad/hard. I am even feeling guilty for planning on day care because it will start right around when my husband leaves. Makes me want to put off going to work a little longer if my job will even tolerate it... Any experience/suggestions about this kind of timing? I worry my baby will not have the daddy figure early on and will not connect/know much of me with me being gone about 9 hours a day. I feel like it looks terrible from the outside.
Am I over thinking it? I knew it before I got pregnant but things change so often and reality is here. For example, I freaked out when I was mowing the lawn because what will I do when I have a brand new baby and its just me at the house and I have to mow the lawn next year? Hiring someone is not in the cards. I know I have to learn to ask for help but it seems awkward to say hey come watch my kid I'm gonna go mow...silly right but it made me think of all the little things that are easier to do with 2 parents around and how I wont get the luxury.