Help me understand kids these days :) Promise rings?

GuitaristsGirl · September 2011

I just saw on FB that DH's 18-year-old nephew gave some chick a "promise ring." He's a high school senior and I think she's in her first year at community college.

Um. . .whaaaat?? Is this some pre-engagement ring ring or something? Should I be looking for our wedding invitation in the mail? Or is this just some silly thing kids do when (they think!) the're in love?

(In case anyone finds it odd that I saw this on FB - DH and his sister are 10 years apart in age and therefore not super close and don't keep in touch very well.)

t.bird · September 2011

GuitaristsGirl:

Or is this just some silly thing kids do when (they think!) the're in love?

i think this about sums it up- ha.

BeccaLandes · September 2011

yes, it is like a placeholder for an engagement ring- a promise to get engaged. maybe they are doing it because they think they are too young to get engaged and get married?

my brother-in-law gave my sister-in-law one- they started dating when she was 18 and felt she was too young to get engaged (and subsequently married) at that age.

mrsolsenk12 · September 2011

Yeah they are pre-engagement rings. I have heard of this but i think it is dumb. Most teens will break up without any wedding.

howleyshell · September 2011

My high school boyfriend gave me a promise ring.

It's for when you KNOW you're to young to get engaged but really want to give the SO a nice piece of jewelery with a symbolic meaning that screams "taken"

I think it's a way of saying: "We're insanely in love and super committed to each other until someone better comes along, one of us moves out of town for college or the wind blows."

SeaSoul · September 2011

howleyshell:
My high school boyfriend gave me a promise ring.
It's for when you KNOW you're to young to get engaged but really want to give the SO a nice piece of jewelery with a symbolic meaning that screams "taken"
I think it's a way of saying: "We're insanely in love and super committed to each other until someone better comes along, one of us moves out of town for college or the wind blows."

haha...this. and i don't think it's anything new...i remember promise rings when i was that age. (and thinking they were so dumb! (no offense, howley!))

lrrb · September 2011

I think its just a commitment ring basically. Sometimes when kids graduate and go off to college and want to try to stay together etc. Basically it is a pre-engagement ring but it doesn't mean an engagement is coming soon by any means. Its kinda cheesy but kinda sweet too haha. When I was in HS a "promise ring" meant a ring that your parents gave you when you were around 16 that you would save your virginity until marriage. I guess things have changed now haha.

GuitaristsGirl · September 2011

lrrb:
When I was in HS a "promise ring" meant a ring that your parents gave you when you were around 16 that you would save your virginity until marriage. I guess things have changed now haha.

This rings a bell to me, too, but I thought that SURELY I was good in assuming that this is something different

I guess I just didn't know anyone in HS who really even thought they were in love! We dated, sure, but that was pretty much it. We all couldn't wait to move on to bigger and better things

naflmj · September 2011

lrrb:
I think its just a commitment ring basically. Sometimes when kids graduate and go off to college and want to try to stay together etc. Basically it is a pre-engagement ring but it doesn't mean an engagement is coming soon by any means. Its kinda cheesy but kinda sweet too haha. When I was in HS a "promise ring" meant a ring that your parents gave you when you were around 16 that you would save your virginity until marriage. I guess things have changed now haha.

Yep my BIL had one and then his dad walked in on him and his girfriend Guess that was the end of that.

Fancy3Face · September 2011

I had one. We met as college freshmen and talked about getting married when we were 20(ish). We both got scared and knew we were WAY too young. So he got me a promise ring. I wore it until we got engaged 3 years later...AFTER we graduated college.

Mrs.Babbsy · September 2011

It's the new letterman jacket, they are going steady:)

krissyh21 · September 2011

It is kind of today's letterman jacket. They are going steady... aww shucks!

stepgirl21 · September 2011

I actually exchanged promise rings with my boyfriend in hs. I wouldn't read too much into it. It's basically like saying I would marry you if we lived 100 yrs or someday in the distant future, we should get married but we all live in the real world and know that being engaged would be ridiculous.

krissyh21 · September 2011

Mrs.Babbsy:
It's the new letterman jacket, they are going steady:)

I swear I didn't read this before I posted mine - lol

stepgirl21 · September 2011

howleyshell:

I think it's a way of saying: "We're insanely in love and super committed to each other until someone better comes along, one of us moves out of town for college or the wind blows."

HAHA - So true!

Mrs.Babbsy · September 2011

krissyh21:

Mrs.Babbsy:
It's the new letterman jacket, they are going steady:)

I swear I didn't read this before I posted mine - lol

oh sure you didn't, yeah right:) but we might be showing our age with that comment:)

lrrb · September 2011

naflmj:
lrrb:
I think its just a commitment ring basically. Sometimes when kids graduate and go off to college and want to try to stay together etc. Basically it is a pre-engagement ring but it doesn't mean an engagement is coming soon by any means. Its kinda cheesy but kinda sweet too haha. When I was in HS a "promise ring" meant a ring that your parents gave you when you were around 16 that you would save your virginity until marriage. I guess things have changed now haha.
Yep my BIL had one and then his dad walked in on him and his girfriend Guess that was the end of that.

OMG I'm dying laughing at this...whoopise....

stepgirl21 · September 2011

krissyh21:
It is kind of today's letterman jacket. They are going steady... aww shucks!

Do hs guys not lend their letterman jacket to their girlfriends anymore?

krissyh21 · September 2011

Mrs.Babbsy:
krissyh21:

Mrs.Babbsy:
It's the new letterman jacket, they are going steady:)

I swear I didn't read this before I posted mine - lol

oh sure you didn't, yeah right:) but we might be showing our age with that comment:)

Yep I am thinking so.

At least these kids are getting some bling out of the deal. All we got was a jacket 3x too big.

pcefern1 · September 2011

Promise rings are a big deal where I live. Most of the girls in my Senior class had them because their boyfriends were leaving to go on LDS missions and wanted to the girl to wait for him until he got back. Then the plan was to get engaged and married.

I always thought it was dumb. But to each their own!

Mrs.Babbsy · September 2011

krissyh21:
Mrs.Babbsy:
krissyh21:

Mrs.Babbsy:
It's the new letterman jacket, they are going steady:)

I swear I didn't read this before I posted mine - lol

oh sure you didn't, yeah right:) but we might be showing our age with that comment:)

Yep I am thinking so.

At least these kids are getting some bling out of the deal. All we got was a jacket 3x too big.

no kidding:)

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