Worst well check yet.
scoutkate
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I feel like I post the exact same thing every three months.
Big surprise, Betsy is too small. I was actually pleased with her gain at first--at 16.8 lbs she's up nearly a pound and a half from 12m. But the doctor was not happy. Unfortunately it was a new doctor and he was AWFUL. He made me feel like shiit.
1. He basically told me that it doesn't matter that I'm so petite because "the role of genetics is exaggerated."
2. When he found out she's in daycare, he said "out of sight, out of mind" and told me to make sure her teachers were feeding her properly because, you know, as a working mom I would never think to actually ask my child's teachers how she eats every day! I told him her teachers are a) wonderful and b) well aware of her size issues and c) report to me every single day about exactly what and how much she ate. He said to make sure daycare is feeding her high calorie foods and I informed him that I pack her lunch every day, and trust me, she gets high-calorie, high-fat, well-rounded meals. He said, well, maybe you need to up her calories. I told him I've done everything I can to up her damn calories. I told him that for lunch today I packed her a good sized portion of dark meat chicken for the extra fat content, organic mac and cheese, and broccoli and cheese. How do you increase calories on that meal?
3. It was Betsy's lunchtime while we were there so of course she got hungry. I gave her a snack before he came in and she seemed satisfied, but threw a fit while he was in there. He got judgy about that. Finally she pulled some crackers out of my purse and started eating them and was fine. So he goes on and on about how "it looks like mom is the last to know when you're hungry!"
Needless to say, I cried.
In the end, he agreed that I'm feediing her good meals and the only change he could suggest was switching from WCM to Pediasure. So we'll be giving that a try.
I was finally feeling okay with her size because she is proportionate, she's very bright, and she's hitting all of her milestones. So now I get to worry some more. We'll go back in a month for yet another weight check.
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Re: Worst well check yet.
What a d!ck!
Are you going back to see him or are going to try to get another doctor? Nobody deserves to be treated like that.
I adore the other doctors in the practice, so I won't be switching. But I will make sure we never see this guy again.
What an ass. Sorry you had to go through that. Like you said, she is developing fine - she's just a peanut.
Maybe you could give her sippy cups of melted ice cream?
Oh Scout!! I'm SO sorry that doc made you cry! We all know you've been working so hard to up Betsy's calories. Like you said, she's still hitting all her milestones and she's a bright little girl.
I hope the switch to pedisure helps her weight gain some! (hugs)
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Wow, that doctor sounds like piece of work. I'm so sorry the appointment went badly.
If a bunch of people who don't know you IRL know what a wonderful mother you are to B, then that doctor is the one with the problem.
I hope you at least get to see B's regular doctor when you go back next month. The last thing you need is a judgy person who's unfamiliar with your situation to look down on you and make you feel bad.
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Oh, and I hope he gets a case of the worst diarrhea of his life while he's stuck in traffic for 2 hours and gets 2 flat tires on top of that.
No idea. There was a dip on her curve at 12m (which I really think was due to her walking) so they wanted a weight check at 13m. They were satisfied with her growth then, and she's grown even more since. Her curve is low--less than third percentile--but it's definitely there.
Nope. Her iron was low at 12m but much better this time. Normal, in fact.
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Thanks, everyone. LOL about the doctor getting diarrhea!
1st that guy is a jerk.
2nd genetics don't play that big of a role? Um then what does - a magic lottery?
Don't let him make you feel bad!
New Dr- STAT.
Seriously. WHAT A MORON. And as the mother of two small children, let me tell you, kids are only as big or small as they're meant to be. My DD was 18 lbs at 18 months. But perfectly healthy. She's 6 years old now and 39 lbs. Tall and super skinny. But perfectly healthy. My son is almost 4 and is 31 lbs. Healthy!
The dumbest thing ever invented was the percentage chart for babies. It makes parents (and DRs) totally crazy! The thing with it is that not all kids can be "average". That's why it's called "average"- because it's in the middle! Some HAVE to be bigger and some HAVE to be smaller. And being on one end or the other doesnt necessarily mean there's something wrong.
Of course having small parents plays a roll in a child's size! Smaller than average parents are more likely to have smaller than average sized kids. Larger than average parents are more likely to have larger than average sized kids. That's how it works, just like eye color, hair color and skin color.
I would do more than just leave this Dr, I would call the office and tell them that you are extremely insulted by the Drs disparaging remarks both about your abilities as a mother, your daughters body, and your choices about working. Perhaps even a letter to the State Medical Board? I'm not normally on the "GET'EM" train, but seriously, what you describe is abusive.
1. Made me think the guy was a quack.
2. Made me think the guy was Mr. Judgey O'Tool. Does he really think working moms go through their day without a thought as to what their kids eat at daycare???
3. Made me want to punch him in the face. Way, way, WAY out of line.
If your LO IS gaining, even in small spurts, and she's meeting all of her milestones, what the heck does he want from you??? Next time, take a funnel with you so he can show you how to shovel food down her throat if it will make the douchebag happy.
Semi de-lurking to say that doctor is an a$$. Also a friend's DD fell off her weight curve and had good luck on Pediasure.
I've dealt with a few jerk pedis. It really sucks.
Remind me not to get on your bad side.
Scout I'm sorry the doc was like that. FWIW Betsy is so adorable and that doctor is out of his mind.
You mean you haven't tried the fois gras feeding method yet?
All seriousness, she's thriving, she's gaining on her own terms. And I would certainly let the office staff know why I would never, ever see that doctor again.
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I would have stabbed him.
Sounds like you are doing all you can for LO. I would get a second opinion this guy is a doucher.
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Thanks again, y'all.
This old douche is semi-retired and only works one day a week, so it should be easy to avoid him, at least for B's well visits. And I made sure we're seeing a different doctor for her weight check next month.
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I second this.
It seems you're doing everything you can to help her gain weight, he had no right to be so rude and make you feel so horrible. What a complete a**. I disagree on his whole "genetics is exaggerated." I hope you don't worry yourself too much! Creepy internet hugs
That would be the last time I saw that Dr., in fact can you make another appt. with your regular one to talk about these issues?
I'm sorry for bad news.
I haven't even read all the responses yet but this whole situation pisses me off.
I'm failing to understand with the child obesity problem we have in this country how so many parents are faced with trying to fatten up smaller children. Why can't they just be small?
And I say this as another one with a child the same size as your child. I'm not giving my child toddler formula or pediasure. She is healthy and I'll find another doctor if it comes to suggesting I overfeed my child just to get her to a weight suitable for some chart.