Not a nanny, not a housecleaner, but a...

copzgirl · September 2011

Just hire the help stop justifying it with petty crap. It is very apparent that you aren't gonna be happy until you do. Welcome to the real world..but go ahead and let someone else wear the big girl panties so you can get on with your life.

DruidPrincess · September 2011

Also please talk to your physician about the stress you're going through, and please describe to him/her exactly what you shared here.

I'll be honest - even if you hire yet another person to help in your household, that person too will be limited by your standards. If someone isn't "doing your laundry right," train them or hire a new person who does.

I just have the feeling that if you hire a household manager or what-have-you, you won't find yourself with any extra time because you're still sweating it out over what are, frankly, very insignificant details. You need to prioritize what is more important - having every single thing exactly the way you want it, or having it done close to how you want it and getting back those 2-3 hours you would have spent "correcting."

Which is why I bring up the physician. There may be more at play here than you just needing yet another set of hands for what sounds like a very typical American household.

scottydont · September 2011

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gumiberg · September 2011

majorwife:
gumiberg:

majorwife:
so you want to work out, hang out with friends and sleep while you pay people to do everything else for you?

lol, is that bad?

well, if that's all you wanted to do in life, maybe the entire kid thing wasn't well suited for you

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i guess i dont equate cleaning the house, mowing the yard, sewing clothing, yada yada yada to be part of parenting. if someone has the money to outsource those things and give them more free time - more power to them.

its a different topic really - the OP clearly has issues if she cant find time to sleep for more than 5 hours or hit the gym. but there is also some jealousy going on in this thread.

bgf1 · September 2011

I am going to try very hard to be helpful here. I am struggling to empathize though because I just got off the phone with my sister who is recently separated, has 4 small children, little to no help from her ex, and manages her kids, household and an inhome daycare. My point is that you need to keep things in perspective. If I were you I'd really ask myself, How important all of this stuff you seem to be spending your time on is. I second the idea that maybe the root of the problem is not the busyness of your life but rather your own perfectionism. When they are grown your girls will not care that their clothes were perfectly mended and the bank statements were reconciled each month, but they will remember a mother who was too worried about every detail being perfect to enjoy life.

c_joy · September 2011

Maybe you could get a respirator and a feeding tube too. Think of all that time you spend breathing and eating on your own when somebody else could be doing that for you.

EastCoastBride · September 2011

Along w/ a lot of what was said, I'd also venture to guess that your DH doesn't help out nearly as much as you give him credit for.

laurens1122 · September 2011

I pray this is MUD because this is just too stupid to be real. Seriously lady, get your shiit together and take care of your own life!

ETA- Do you realize how lucky you are to have the help that do have? You need to sit down and reevaluate your life right now.

TamponMary · September 2011

Funniest MUD post EVER!!!

Are you looking for someone to wipe your bunghole, too?

ECUPirate04 · September 2011

I've closed out this post like 4 times but keep coming back because there is no way this is real.

You have a nanny that helps out and a housekeeper as well as a husband. How can you possibly not be able to find time to do whatever is left from all of their help?

It sounds like all that is left is take care of yourself, spend time with your kids and husband, and work. Everyone I know plus all the other people in this post do those every day.

Good luck!

Cassian · September 2011

TinyTeacher:

This is so dumb. For all the money you pay a nanny, cleaning service, and house manager, you could just stay home and do it yourself. I get that some mothers are happiest when they work full or part time (as opposed to being a SAHM), but it doesn't sound like you are very happy.

Idea Yes

copzgirl · September 2011

c_joy:
Maybe you could get a respirator and a feeding tube too. Think of all that time you spend breathing and eating on your own when somebody else could be doing that for you.

I cannot tell you how happy I am that I came back to this post.

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