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March 2012 Moms
twentyeightlegs
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I used to be "Chasingthedog" but it would never let me update my profile.
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What are you most nervous about post-baby?
twentyeightlegs
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What things are you nervous about for after the baby comes?
My big, big one is colic. I super hope I don't have a colicky baby. My little sister was a screamer and it was miserable for everyone involved. I worry about feeling frustrated at the baby and how that would make me feel.
ETA: Oh, and animal allergies in the baby. Neither me nor the bf have any sort of allergies but I worry that the baby will magically develop allergies to the animals. I don't even know what we would do.
I used to be "Chasingthedog" but it would never let me update my profile.
The Sheepdog | My sorry looking chart
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Re: What are you most nervous about post-baby?
Seriously my biggest worry post baby is getting KU again right after LO is born. I know so many moms who like 3 months later are expecting again. After talking with my Dr about BC after the baby is born still kinda freaks me out because I can't go back on the pill I was on before, because that pill will dry up my milk.
I haven't started thinking about issues with the baby yet. I am sure those will come as we get closer. I just hope I can handle everything and that LO is healthy.
Don't worry about colic. Silvie had it, and it went away by 3.5 months. My pediatrician actually said that typically colicky babies tend to be advanced in motor skills. His theory is that they have a lot of energy that they can't expel which causes the colic, and when they can start moving, everything gets better. I've found that to be true with my little girl. She has been sitting up on her own for about a month, scooting on her face/crawling for about 1.5 months, and holding on to furniture and walking around it for about 3 weeks. All of that is months ahead of normal babies. She's a fantastic baby now.
My worries are that I am going to have a really difficult time with feeding a 14 month old and a newborn. But thats it. Everything else I can handle.
Colic- Lucian was colicky and it was AWFUL. He didn't grow out of it at 3 months like everyone said he would- he was a little over 4 months by the time it started going away.
And H as a SAHD. He's had a difficult enough time adjusting to one baby, so two will probably make him crazy. I STILL get phone calls from H saying "He's being fussy and I can't go pee without him crying, I can't take it anymore." :
Me too! I was a horribly colicky baby and my mom has always warned me that I may get a baby just like me. The nurse handed me to her and said "Good luck she's a screamer" as my mom left the hospital. I also would be devasted if Baby L is allergic to our beloved doggies.
On top of that I am worried about not having any family or close friends nearby for support. I love where we live, but I miss our loved ones.
This for me as well. My newborn and my 2.5 year old. We had family over yesterday with a new little one and DS was not cool about sharing attention.
Oh no! I didn't even think about the fact that my baby could have animal allergies! Yikes! Well, looks like my baby would have to go live with Grandma because my fur baby is not going anywhere!!! lol!
But, seriously, my dog is my biggest concern. I have a 10 year old Shih Tzu, and I rescued her when she was 6 years old after 6 rough years! She has fear aggression due to the way she was treated in the past, and kids are her biggest fear. When I got her I lived alone in an apartment, and she never really saw kids. When I moved into a house 2 years ago my family started coming over as I had plenty of room to entertain instead of me always going to their houses. And, things didn't go well with my nephew (2 at the time) and my dog, so they were always seperated. When my husband and I got very serious about a year and a half ago I introduced my dog to his daughters (ages 8 and 10) and things did NOT go well with his ADHD, 8 year old. She is so hyper, and that quick, loud movement really scares my dog. My dog ended up snappping at her, twice. Both times it was because my stepdaugther did soemthing really bad to her and luckily the vet said my dog's response was very normal and nothing to worry about (she gave a warning snap, didn't bite down, and left the situation instead of re-engaging and trying to attack my stepdaughter). SO.....we have done a lot of work with the 8 year old on her behavior and finally the two get along!!! But, I am terrified about how it will be with a baby/toddler. I am also nervous because the dog and I are so connected. I carry her around like a baby and sleep with her every night. I am scared that I won't have as much time for her and she will be jealous. Ugh.....maybe having the baby live with my mom isn't such a bad idea
I'm scared of post-partum depression. I have an anxiety disorder and have struggled with depressive disorders since I was 13. As far back as I can remember, I've wanted to be a mommy, I'm really scared I will be too depressed to enjoy it.
This is my exact fear. It's so hard to balance my anxiety with this pregnancy and I'm really hoping that I remember to enjoy it. DH knows about my depressive tendencies (especially since I am unmedicated for the duration of the pregnancy) and my doc already talked to me about how they'll keep an eye on things.
Fightin' Phils
*Nestie Bestie with Jemma8* Sprouting A Bean
I am worried about work/life balance. I work in advertising and have a very stressful job with average work weeks of 50-60 hours. I know when I have a baby I just have to say no to certain projects and walk out the door at 5pm everyday. I've never done that before so I worry about what turn my career will take.
Ultimately though, I know I'll prioritize the baby and maybe the decisions at work will be easy.
Thanks! I think you are right. As crazy as this may sound, it is going to be hard on me too! My dog and I were a team for so long, my husband and I just got married in July and before that, it was 4 years of just her and I living together. I have been doing a lot of research on ways I can help her, and talked to a few trainers about what they can do. I know I need to take it seriously and start working with her now. I am going to miss our cuddle time
My biggest worry is how I am going to handle a 3.5 year old and a newborn. I'm a SAHM, so I'll be with them all day long, all by myself and, quite frankly, I'm totally terrified! We're moving before the baby arrives and will definitely put DD in school at least part-time to save some sanity.
Also, DD was a really really good baby, barely cried, slept pretty well, and is a pretty easy-going kid right now (we joke that she got that from my DH who is very laid-back). Now I'm thinking I can't get lucky twice in a row, and this baby will be fussy and colicky. Although this isn't quite as big a worry as the handling two kids on my own.
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Nishe - we're due just about the same time, please feel free to PM me about anything you want/need to get off of your chest! I can even give you my personal e-mail if you'd like to have someone to talk to who knows what you're going through. The more support we each have, the better! You and I are probably ahead of the game since we know the warning signs and might be able to get help faster than women who don't have our diagnoses.
This, this, this! DD is so smiley and happy. We had a couple weeks with difficult evenings, just working to get her down and the bewitching hours, but once that worked out, she is just a happy snuggly little baby and now a very very easy-going little girl. We are in the car a lot (our families live about an hour away and we visit often) and she is always good. She is an amazing napper and sleeper, she is fine if times and routines get a little switched around on her and always falls easily back into a rhythm. I am pretty sure getting this again would be lightening striking twice!
Also, just dividing time between DD and a newborn. She will only be 16-17 months, still very dependent and this is a bit earlier than we intended to have another baby. I am the oldest in my family and I really just wanted to have more time with just her and I, where she really gets to be the baby, and now it won't be that way.
I'm scared of my MIL!
We live with her, and she is always telling me that I'm doing things wrong. She doesn't wash her hands. Ever. She picks at scabs and then goes to start dinner. It's disgusting, and thank God that M/S has given me a legit excuse to not eat! I don't want her telling me how to raise my baby, and I certainly don't want her touching my baby with her gross hands.
I really wanted to reply to her post but didn't know what so say without snark so I just left it alone, but when I read further, you pretty much took the words out of my mouth in the nicest way possible (I commend you for that!!).
Allisonud: This is a big issue that you need to correct now or your going to regret it later.
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Am I the only one that is nervous they aren't going to be good at it? I haven't been around a baby in a long time and I've never changed a diaper. I feel like I'm going to get the newborn home and not know how to do anything.
Another thing I'm nervous about is my SILs wedding. It is two months after baby is scheduled to arrive and I'm terrified I won't look good in the dress. It doesn't help that she is leaning towards all these skin tight numbers that I wouldn't even look good in pre-pregnancy!
"Go Phils"
Norah Elizabeth - 3.19.12
I hope that this baby will be as good as DD was. She was an angel! I have also only had to take her to the Dr. once for being sick with a minor ear infection. Every other time we have gone is just a well baby visit.
I also worry about getting into shape before my sister's wedding in July. Dr. said she only wants me to gain 15-20 lbs this pregnancy because I never really lost all the weight after DD was born. So that should help if I don't gain too much. I already have a plan set in place, just hope it works out!
me, too!
I don't think you have to give up your cuddle time and letting your dog sleep with you. I have a small dog who does not like children. He was almost 8 when DS was born. He was definitely jealous, but showed it by ignoring me. He still sleeps in the bed with me (DS sleeps in his crib) and I carry him around some now that DS is crawling. He doesn't like the baby, but just stays away and we keep DS away from him except when we are controlling the situation, so they are learning to like each other.
1. The baby not being a good sleeper or feeling like I can't satisy their needs when they're crying. I know I'll learn to understand their cries and all that, but it's still scary.
2. Losing the baby weight. I'm nervous about this one big time! I want to be able to fit into my pre-preg clothes!
I'm most concerned about balancing my time b/w the new baby and DS. DS will be 15 mos when this one is born.
I am also concerned that this baby will be colicky. DS was and he didn't out grow it until 5 mos. It was a rough start, but now he is such a happy baby. I just hope this one is a little easier.
Not to scare you, but it's not as easy as it seems like it will be. I work at a PR agency where 50 - 60 hours is the norm as well. It's challenging and there's a constant pull. I always want to spend more time with my kiddo, but have a hard time letting others take the opportunities I know I can handle. It's tough.
I'm worried about lack of sleep. I've had horrible insomnia my whole life and have had to take sleeping pills almost every night, but I don't want to take them when we have a baby because I won't be able to wake up to feed/change the baby or if there's an emergency. I don't function well on little sleep and I'm terrified I'll be miserable.
I'm also nervous about breastfeeding. I really want to try, but I'm worried it will hurt a lot and I'll give up too easily and then feel guilty about it.
I am most worried about recovery... whether it's natural or c-section.
After that I worry about a lot....
I have anxiety and sometimes I worry that I will get PPD... but I plan on sharing this with my doctor so we can prepare ahead of time.
Also breastfeeding two babies is starting to feel more daunting.
I also worry that I won't have a lot of help because I am about an hour away from my family.
Well, thats a lot of worries! It feels good just to put it out there though. Sometimes people try to solve or fix your worry, when it just makes me feel better putting it out there.
I heard 3 words that made me cringe the other day, post-partum hemorrhoids.
Baby related, I'm nervous about BFing. I really want to do it but I know it will hurt and be difficult for a while until we both get it down. I just don't want to get so frustrated and give up too soon.
Me three!
Also, we got spoiled BIG TIME with DD. She's always been a great sleeper and has such an easy going personality. In some ways she's never done typical "toddler" stuff like climbing everything, making huge messes, getting into everything. She plays with her toys and likes to be read to. She's easy peasy. I'm convinced this next one will be hell on wheels!
Eek, I just saw this, sorry
The same goes for you, if you ever need someone to talk to, I completely understand! I also post a lot on GPM (off the GP board on TN), so if you can't find me here, you can usually find me there!
Fightin' Phils
*Nestie Bestie with Jemma8* Sprouting A Bean
This for me too.