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Re: Requesting guests bring book to shower

  • BallSoxBallSox member

    imageMrsFreezy:
    I am really shocked at the outcry of a simple request for a book by people who are clearly hateful, judgemental, don't give a crap what the mother wants, and as such should just avoid showers altogether since they feel that way. Almost every shower I have been to in recent years has requested that we bring a favorite book (new or used) instead of a card and as an English teacher, I am happy to oblige a new parent who wants to insure that their child starts their life with a foundation in literacy. Some people write in the book, which I think is special. Others will still buy a card anyway because they don't want to deface a book and that's fine as well. Some won't bring one at all and others will bring several. Big deal! If the idea of bringing a requested item that cost less than $5 and will grow up with the child for years to come upsets or offends you so much, then keep your grumpy, spiteful self at home and don't participate or ruin it for anyone else. Nobody wants people like that at their shower anyway. I plan on having my hostess include a request for a children's book at my shower and I can't wait to build my baby's library so I can have a host of stories to read to them every day.  

    Oh, well, if you're an English teacher, you're obviously right.  

    Oh wait, I'm a preschool teacher and give books to the children in my life at every opportunity I can.  However, I like giving them because I like giving them.  I don't, however, like being told I have to give them.

    If you want books for your kid, register for them, buy them yourself or go to the library.  Don't tell me I have to buy them for you. 

    I'll do us both a favor and keep my spiteful self away from your greedy self-righteous shower.  

    You know the most ironic part of this whole thing?  I literally have over 300 books I've purchased for my 8 month old.  I think I'm probably the antithesis of anti-book.  

    People forget you can buy amazingly cheap, practically brand new books at garage sales and through scholastic book club.   

     

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  • JamieSherieJamieSherie member
    imageBallSox:
    imageJamieSherie:

    I've thrown quite a few baby showers and in/on the invitation I add list 3 things to bring (book included) to have a chance to enter into a raffle. :) How i did it is if they brought one of the 5 things i put there name in a jar and at the end of the shower the expecting mommy drew a name and that person got a price! :) You could do it just for books but if you wanted I always listed books, diapers or wipes.

    HOpe that helps! :)

    If you're asking them to bring a registry gift + a book + diapers + wipes, I think they've had enough prices for awhile.   

     

    AHHH....Prize sorry! That sounded awful! :/  If they brought one of those things in (didnt have to be in addition to gift) they were entered in to get a prize :)

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  • JamieSherieJamieSherie member
    imageRoxyLynn:
    imageLiz4444:
    imageJamieSherie:

    I've thrown quite a few baby showers and in/on the invitation I add list 3 things to bring (book included) to have a chance to enter into a raffle. :) How i did it is if they brought one of the 5 things i put there name in a jar and at the end of the shower the expecting mommy drew a name and that person got a price! :) You could do it just for books but if you wanted I always listed books, diapers or wipes.

    HOpe that helps! :)

    What does that mean that the person got a price?  That they are worth $50 so they clearly love the baby more than the person that's only worth $10?

    I think she meant they got a priZe.

     

    Yes I meant PRIZE!!! Sorry! Thanks! :)

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  • JamieSherieJamieSherie member
    imageLiz4444:
    imageRoxyLynn:
    imageLiz4444:
    imageJamieSherie:

    I've thrown quite a few baby showers and in/on the invitation I add list 3 things to bring (book included) to have a chance to enter into a raffle. :) How i did it is if they brought one of the 5 things i put there name in a jar and at the end of the shower the expecting mommy drew a name and that person got a price! :) You could do it just for books but if you wanted I always listed books, diapers or wipes.

    HOpe that helps! :)

    What does that mean that the person got a price?  That they are worth $50 so they clearly love the baby more than the person that's only worth $10?

    I think she meant they got a priZe.

    Well that would make more sense, wouldn't it...

     

    Sorry! I never check this board..yes I meant PRIZE. Oops! :)

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  • MrsFreezyMrsFreezy

    First of all, I never said I was right just because I am an English teacher and that is ridiculously petty of you to try and argue that point. All I meant was that in my circle (obviously with lots of other teachers) it is a perfectly acceptable practice to ask the guests if they wouldn't mind contributing a favorite children's book. If you had bothered to pay attention, instead of being hateful and spiteful, you would have realized that I also clarified that it is perfectly acceptable for someone to NOT bring a book, or to bring multiples, or to bring used books. MAKING A REQUEST IS NOT THE SAME AS DEMANDING THAT YOU DO IT.

    It is all in the phrasing. For example, one shower invite recently said, "If you would like to contribute to the baby's reading library by donating a new or used children's book, your contribution would be greatly appreciated." Another one said, "Please feel free to donate a favorite children's book to the baby's library in lieu of a card." Neither of those suggest that if you fail to bring one then you aren't welcome and neither of them DEMAND that you bring one - or else.

    My point was simply that if you want to contribute, great. If you don't, then don't. Either way, it is about the mother-to-be and her wishes and people who get offended over something as small and simple as that need to get over themselves. If you feel the need to be negative and hateful, then why bother participating at all? You will only ruin it for everyone else, especially the MTB.

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  • Liz4444Liz4444 member
    imageRedheadBaker:
    imageMrsFreezy:

    It is all in the phrasing. For example, one shower invite recently said, "If you would like to contribute to the baby's reading library by donating a new or used children's book, your contribution would be greatly appreciated." Another one said, "Please feel free to donate a favorite children's book to the baby's library in lieu of a card." Neither of those suggest that if you fail to bring one then you aren't welcome and neither of them DEMAND that you bring one - or else.

    Oh really? You want a donation? Do you give out your 501(c)3 number, so guests can get a tax write-off?  

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