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December 2011 Moms
My child will not....GTKY
Now that I know we're team pink, I find myself saying this a lot. So what's something "your child will not" do....(Obviously we have no idea what they will or will not do. I thought it'd be fun though.)
My child will NOT create a Facebook, or social networking site, until she's at least in highschool. And she WILL be my 'friend' and I will monitor what she does and who she talks to.
My child will NOT dress like a whore, have boys spending the night, talk with disrespect to her elders.
I never noticed how rude kids are these days until I was carrying my own.
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Re: My child will not....GTKY
My child will not (boy):
be fussy baby (yeah right, let's hope!)
eat junk all day
have a cell phone before the age of 13
spend countless hours playing video games
talk back to his parents
My DS (that I already have) will not walk through a door before a woman or an elderly person. He will stand there and hold the door open for them. Same goes with elevators, he will hold the door while they exit and then exit.
My children will not swear in front of their elders, woman or children!
edit to add.... if I have a girl I expect her to let her elders go before her while she holds the door open as well.
Obviously, this has the potential to go right down the drain once he's here, but for now...
My child will not run freely through the grocery store grabbing things off of shelves, etc, while I pretend not to notice and go on about my shopping and other people are shooting me dirty, pay attention to your kid looks.
Not that I have recently experienced this or anything...
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My child will not:
Use a pacifier past 12 months.
Go trick or treating after the age of 12.
Be mean to animals.
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Dream of a better world...where chickens can cross the road without having their motives questioned.
My child will not... do karate. For some reason DH is very against this. Any other hobby/sport will be fine. He's so funny :P
Ha, this!
And my child will not play video/computer games before he is at least 5. He will be a child that enjoys to play outdoors and watches the occasional movie.
My child will not be allowed to run wild and act like they own restaurants, stores, etc. If they misbehave in public, they will be reprimanded.
My kids will not be handed just any old cell phone. They will have a phone for emergencies with specific numbers programmed. They will not have texting.
I will not dress my little girls like hoochies. Sadly, it's hard to find stuff at some stores (have you walked through the girls department at Target?
), but I will find whatever I can to make sure they are modestly dressed. DH already has lists of things they will not be allowed to wear as teenagers.
They will learn to respect people. They are already learning to say "Yes, sir" and "Yes, ma'am." I can't believe the way some kids talk to their parents or any other adults!
They will not be allowed to spend hours in front of electronic devices. They will have strict limits unless it's school-related. All computer use will be in a main area of the house where we can see exactly what they are doing. No social networking sites for a very very long time. Why does a 10 year old need a facebook site?
ETA: My son will learn to take his hat off in buildings. My kids will offer their seat and sit on the floor at family gatherings so an adult can sit.
And one that I think was lost somewhere on our generation-they will learn that when a flag is carried by in a parade or procession, they will stand up and show the proper respect. I remember a story that was read at a Memorial Day parade when I was in high school, and it has stuck with me. I also have them thank soldiers when we see them.
My daughter will NOT be a princess-in-training. No Barbie mania, no Disney princess complex to make her think she needs to be beautiful, glittery, and gem studded to attract a man with lots of money. She will not wear makeup before high school, she will not be allowed to dress like a hooker, and she will not date boys without our consent. I will of course give her the option to comply or be sent to a nunnery.
My son WILL learn to work for his money at a very young age. He will NOT be allowed to be lazy, disrespectful or otherwise useless. He will not be spoiled by having a ton of toys and being allowed to generally act like a hyperactive monkey swinging from the chandeliers.
I don't know what we are having yet but either way, we will do everything we can to raise a healthy, happy, well adjusted young adult. Girls are tough, though....so much societal programming to deal with. I would never want my girl to think materialism and beauty is everything. Hopefully if its a girl, we can guide her past all that crap.
I was at Target yesterday and was horrified!! Made me thankful for my little boy
As a teacher, I'm tired of parents making excuses for their children. My child will not miss out on learning about consequences. He will be allowed to experience them and learn from them. He will know that rules DO apply to him. (Obviously, there are times when a parent should get involved...please don't misunderstand me! But, if a student doesn't do a homework assignment, he should accept the consequences and move on...not have his mom call the school complaining that a teacher upheld a deadline!)
My little man will learn how to clean up his toys respect all of his goodies and to really appreciate all that life has to offer.
He'll learn to always say "please" and "thank you" and really mean it.
When he's older he'll learn how to respect women, their feelings and hopefully he'll help keep chivalry and romance alive in this world.
He'll never feel like he can't cry or express his feelings because he's "a boy". I want him to grow up to be a loving, sensitive man just like his father and grandfather and be able to express those emotions whenever he wants because there is something very masculine about being able to express yourself :-)
My child will not act like a brat in public and REMAIN out in public. Kids have temper tantrums. I'm not in any kind of denial that my child will be an exception, but the second her behavior becomes unacceptable we leave. My parents did it with my brother, sister and I, and we were extremely well behaved in public. Grocery store, restaurant, mall, you name it and I'll peace out child in tow.
We'll see how this works out for me
We also plan to limit tv.
DD1: November 2011
DD2: December 2013
I've enjoyed reading through these and thinking about what my child will/will not do. Right now all I know is that my son will be respectful to both his elders and women.
My child (boy) will not:
Set things on fire
Torture and hurt animals
Be a bully
Sit on his @ss all day playing video games
This is kind of a silly one, but one that me and DH have argued over!
My children will not wear clothing nor have bedding with characters on it.
The closest we've come so far is a little onesie with the Batman logo on it, but it's all distressed and vintage so I was okay with it
BFP #2: 8.31.16 Dx w/ GD @ 28w DD Born @ 36w: 4.21.17
This is what I'm hoping for my kid, too. Everything else seems a little silly to declare. You can try and limit junk food and technology, but kids will always find a way around it. I just hope to do a good enough parenting job to instill manners and morals.
BFP 4-19-11. Ezri Ana born on due date, Dec 30 2011!
My Ovulation Chart
My children will not :
Have a cell phone before the age of 16, why would they need a cell phone if they can't drive?
Be allowed to play video games and watch movies all day, go outside and play!
Be allowed to drink pop until they are much older, at least 13. And this will be limited. Same with energy drinks, no energy drinks until they are 17? if possible.
Like PP's said, if I have a daughter she will not be allowed to dress like a hoochie! Little girl clothes these days are terrible!
EDIT : No watching shows similar to Jersey Shore until they are out of the house, kids and young teenagers should not be watching this show!
I hate character clothing! My kids have a couple things that someone else bought them. They are play clothes. They dont' wear them out in public.
My children will not...
feel unloved by either parent
feel they are owed things for simply existing (the nerve of some kids and what they expect, especially my younger siblings) most specifically an allowance for nothing
be rude to their elders
leave their things all over their room in a mess (they will be taught by the time they are two that they have to pick up their things when they are done and will have this mastered by three which is age appropriate).
complain about being bored (I will follow the tradition that if you let those words slip out an adult will give you a list of helpful things you could do since you can't occupy yourself)
My older kids will continue to wear what they want, drink the occasional coke, have the occasional junk food, veg out in front of the tv and play video games on Sunday morning, and in general be kids.
I will allow this and raise my next one that way because my kids are kind, know the value of hard work, have exemplary (sp?) manners in public, if not always in private, like to volunteer to help others, for the most part are respectful to all adults, and know the difference between right and wrong through trial and error.
You will find that having boundries, while extraordinarily important, usually comes in close second to compromise and picking your battles, IMO.
Will not be coddled and wil be taught to fight his or her own battles and standup for themselves and others who need someone to stand up for them. My child will not be allowed to bully others and will be taught to be respectful of others and their differences.
My child will not be taught that winning is everything but will be taught that it is okay to fail and it is sometimes good to fail. My child will not be allowed to accept awards for participation (see being coddled).
Once my child can drive, my child will be in charge of making and going to the doctors themselves and learning their own medical history (my parents did this to me and it was awesome).
My Child Will Not:
1. Live off Chicken Nuggets and Fries
2. Will spend time outside not just sitting on their butts watching TV or playing video games.
3. My child will not (if it's a girl) dress like a tramp at the age of 11, or have a cell phone or facebook or social media site.
4. My child (if it's a boy) will not be told oh thats ok boys will be boys- ummm no you respect your parents, elders, fellow friends.
Man I have a lot more lol
OK, so this is completely random, but I haved to share, I have a male friend who refuses to wear boxers with any characters on them because he feels like "They are judging him!!" haha
Now onto mine..
My child will not be afraid of the water.. S/He will be in swimming lessons at the youngest possible age (our local community center has mommy & me swimming classes starting at 6mo) and will continue swimming lessons through life-saving courses. Our lives are on the water, we boat, ski, fish, swim, and I want to know that my child knows the rules and how to be safe in water, and when they are older will be able to help in an emergency.
THis is not to say I plan on dropping them at the beach and leaving... my brother is a lifeguard and has waaaay too many horror stories about that sort of thing!
DH and I are so against those foolish trophies for nothing!
My children will never:
1) Have a TV in their room
2) Have a computer in their room
3) Be bribed with an allowance to do chores around the house (that's just part of being a family member....I don't get $$ for doing the dishes!)
4) Disrespect or discriminate against people of a different ethnicity or sexual orientation
5) Be overweight or obese (under my watch, anyway)
6) Rule the house....I am the parent
7) Be spoiled materialistically (no, you can't have that toy or candy, I don't care how much you cry or yell or who is rolling their eyes at me).
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
We have tried everything, and DD still won't swim in the deep end, can't doggy paddle, etc. Her first lessons were mommy and baby lessons at 6 mos. She's never had a scary incident or anything, but if her feet can't touch the bottom, she wants none of it. It absolutely breaks my heart because the rest of the family is such water people.
YES!
Also, no character clothing until she decides she wants to be a walking billboard. (However, sports teams are 100% encouraged and adorable.)
They will not be overweight and will be active along side mom and dad.
They will pick what it is for themselves but they will be involved in extracurriculars.
They will not be Yankee fans.
My child will not (boy)
Have a cell phone before it is deemed 100% necessary. I didn't have one so why do they need one?
See my DH/me/friends drunk or drinking. We go to parties with DH's shop and I see these kids watching their parents takes shots, do beer bongs, etc., I refuse to let him see this.
Talk back!
My daughter will not:
be allowed sleepovers past age like 8.
dress like a whore
have a cell phone until she is driving (so at least 16.. and it will not have texting).
also will not have facebook until highschool and even then I'd prefer she didn't have it.
She will:
have to work to pay for her own college (I refuse to pay my child's tuition.. I saw way too many of my friends in college party their way through because they weren't paying for it).
My kids will hate me... but I grew up with rules and I expect to pass on a lot of those same rules to my kids. I play the rule enforcer by nature in our house, DH is the teddy bear. Sigh...
P.S. Love this thread! There a lot of good responses.
As my grandfather would say "God willing and the creek don't rise..."
My child will not be alowed to remain silent when asked a question or is greeted by any person. Being shy is one thing, being ruled by shyness is another.
My child will not be a tattletale, but he or she WILL stand up for what is right.
after a certain age, My child will not be fixed a seperate dinner if we are eating "adult food".
AND my child will not fall asleep to a movie every night. Nor will the tv set be used as a babysitter. My SILs do this and it just makes me mad. Put your kid to bed yourself!
My child will not spend every waking moment in front of some sort of electronic device. My nephew is five and when he's not in front of the TV he's on grandmas ipad or mommys phone or begging to use our Wii (we have had to make a no Wii at our house rule). He even watches DVDs in the car. I would like my child to interact directly with the world rather than stare at a screen all day (plenty of time for that in adulthood!
)
I'd also like to avoid characters on clothing for as long as possible. I know it is inevitable, but I'm hoping for at least until school age. I'm having a hard enough time finding cute infant clothing that doesn't have stupid phrases or pictures of animals on it (Carters is the worst about this), I can't even imagine how hard it will be when he's old enough to be an advertising demographic.
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