Hi!...and alittle dissapointed.

amanda079 · July 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
couliegirl:
Didn't mean to offend! I do think it's alittle sad that so many women complain about the mean ones (don't worry i fully expect that to be attacked;)) If i had known that everyone else complained for me I would have kept it to myself!
Some people confuse puppies and rainbows and glittery fart bombs with common decency. People are on the defensive here quite often and I am sure that if my mother ever heard me talk to someone like that IRL, I would have been slapped sideways into next Tuesday. People get all ballsy on the internet, like it gives them a licence to talk all over people. Prepare to be flamed on every post if it is something someone disagrees with or is repetitive.

@WPB: Ummmm, weren't you kissing some princess @ass and applying to be one of the P&R exterminators like 5 minutes ago? And now P&R = common decency?
@OP: I'm alittle dissapointed in your spelling abilities.

You ARE correct.

shadykatie · July 2011

couliegirl:
I'm very new and wanted to throw a "Hello!" out to everyone, instead of just lurking. I'm glad that for the most part the ladies on this board are willing to help each other with questions etc. but am alittle dissapointed in some of the attacks that I have seen. I'm not sure why a confusing post must be attacked immediately, and why the attacks have to be personal. I think it's great that we can be more honest with the degree of anonymity that this site grants us, but can we atleast be nice? Thoughts?

I wish I could excommunicate you.

foxxy1 · July 2011

My advice is to use the block button wisely and often if you need to. I miss a whole lot of bull-ish because of it.

couliegirl · July 2011

foxxy1:
My advice is to use the block button wisely and often if you need to. I miss a whole lot of bull-ish because of it.

Brilliant!

SteFizzRich · July 2011

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:

couliegirl:
Didn't mean to offend! I do think it's alittle sad that so many women complain about the mean ones (don't worry i fully expect that to be attacked;)) If i had known that everyone else complained for me I would have kept it to myself!

Some people confuse puppies and rainbows and glittery fart bombs with common decency. People are on the defensive here quite often and I am sure that if my mother ever heard me talk to someone like that IRL, I would have been slapped sideways into next Tuesday. People get all ballsy on the internet, like it gives them a licence to talk all over people. Prepare to be flamed on every post if it is something someone disagrees with or is repetitive.

@WPB: Ummmm, weren't you kissing some princess @ass and applying to be one of the P&R exterminators like 5 minutes ago? And now P&R = common decency?

@OP: I'm alittle dissapointed in your spelling abilities.

Actually applying to be one never equated to kissing asss. I'm not attacking the princesses either, their are plenty of other snarky ladies around here that just love jumping on people or jumping on the bandwagon once someone says something to flame someone. Strength in numbers right?

There is a difference in sarcasm and straight up bitchfest,and stating your point in a well thought and worded response. I am all for telling someone I didn't like what they had to say, but I dont think calling people "morons and stupid" is necessary

The Princess Belle · July 2011

stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

Such a perfect analogy!

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

If repetitive questions are "so annoying" why do you all keep opening them up and reading them then responding to said annoying post? Wouldn't ignoring the post be much better than subjecting yourselves to the mundane rehashing of the same topic?

desertsun · July 2011

couliegirl:
I'm very new and wanted to throw a "Hello!" out to everyone, instead of just lurking. I'm glad that for the most part the ladies on this board are willing to help each other with questions etc. but am alittle dissapointed in some of the attacks that I have seen. I'm not sure why a confusing post must be attacked immediately, and why the attacks have to be personal. I think it's great that we can be more honest with the degree of anonymity that this site grants us, but can we atleast be nice? Thoughts?

My thoughts are that it isn't very nice to try to dictate to grown women how they can and cannot post on the internet.

For Christ's sake, just ignore what you don't like. Take what's useful. Enter into an intelligent debate if you're in the mood.

It's not rocket science, people.

cgwell02 · July 2011

I am a lurker and find the way in which a minority of women on this board (be it a very loud minority) address others quite sad and bit ironic. I mean, we are all women hoping to bring new, innocent lives into this world and some of us celebrate that by making fun, "snarking," or being rude to others. When another poster posts that she is bothered by this behavior, she is "flamed," or persecuted for (gasp!) wanting others to be nice. What a horrible thing for a person to desire, right? And just because someone is calling for politeness it does not make them an ushy-gushy, sensitive freak or crybaby. In fact, it might just make them "mature." Rudeness can be quite distracting, you know.

Now, never in a million years would I ever expect this post to change the rude behavior of others, nor is that my intention. I say go for it if you want to be rude, you are only commenting on the content of your character, just don't be surprised when others continue to make posts such as this OP. Polite people are entitled to their opinion, too.

On a side note, I just hope you rude -- I mean, "snarky" -- ladies rethink the way you engage with others before your children are old enough to model your behavior. Bullies don't create themselves, you know.

BlueEyedDreamer · July 2011

WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.
There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.
So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

couliegirl · July 2011

Ok, so now that I accidentally pissed everyone off, I am realizing that it's not everyone on the board. i never meant to accuse everyone of being the same. I can see by reading more posts that most of you really do want to help, and I am glad for that. I was just really hoping for a great place to share my experience with this journey.

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

misstrish521 · July 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.
There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.
So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.
Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Yes

couliegirl · July 2011

cgwell02:

Now, never in a million years would I ever expect this post to change the rude behavior of others, nor is that my intention. I say go for it if you want to be rude, you are only commenting on the content of your character, just don't be surprised when others continue to make posts such as this OP. Polite people are entitled to their opinion, too.

On a side note, I just hope you rude -- I mean, "snarky" -- ladies rethink the way you engage with others before your children are old enough to model your behavior. Bullies don't create themselves, you know.

Thank you

desertsun · July 2011

cgwell02:
I am a lurker and find the way in which a minority of women on this board (be it a very loud minority) address others quite sad and bit ironic. I mean, we are all women hoping to bring new, innocent lives into this world and some of us celebrate that by making fun, "snarking," or being rude to others. When another poster posts that she is bothered by this behavior, she is "flamed," or persecuted for (gasp!) wanting others to be nice. What a horrible thing for a person to desire, right? And just because someone is calling for politeness it does not make them an ushy-gushy, sensitive freak or crybaby. In fact, it might just make them "mature." Rudeness can be quite distracting, you know.

Now, never in a million years would I ever expect this post to change the rude behavior of others, nor is that my intention. I say go for it if you want to be rude, you are only commenting on the content of your character, just don't be surprised when others continue to make posts such as this OP. Polite people are entitled to their opinion, too.

On a side note, I just hope you rude -- I mean, "snarky" -- ladies rethink the way you engage with others before your children are old enough to model your behavior. Bullies don't create themselves, you know.

I find your insinuation ridiculous.

Yeah, some people are a little biitchy. Hello, that's reality. Some people have no patience for blowing rainbows up the asses of internet strangers. That doesn't mean they are incapable of raising intelligent and caring children, or that they are not good people themselves.

Sometimes there is too much value placed on "nice," and not enough on "honest," IMO.

The Princess Belle · July 2011

cgwell02:

I am a lurker and find the way in which a minority of women on this board (be it a very loud minority) address others quite sad and bit ironic. I mean, we are all women hoping to bring new, innocent lives into this world and some of us celebrate that by making fun, "snarking," or being rude to others. When another poster posts that she is bothered by this behavior, she is "flamed," or persecuted for (gasp!) wanting others to be nice. What a horrible thing for a person to desire, right? And just because someone is calling for politeness it does not make them an ushy-gushy, sensitive freak or crybaby. In fact, it might just make them "mature." Rudeness can be quite distracting, you know.

Now, never in a million years would I ever expect this post to change the rude behavior of others, nor is that my intention. I say go for it if you want to be rude, you are only commenting on the content of your character, just don't be surprised when others continue to make posts such as this OP. Polite people are entitled to their opinion, too.

On a side note, I just hope you rude -- I mean, "snarky" -- ladies rethink the way you engage with others before your children are old enough to model your behavior. Bullies don't create themselves, you know.

https://www.babygaga.com/

shadykatie · July 2011

cgwell02 · July 2011

Unfortunately, I can't be bullied elsewhere. There are far too many nice, helpful posters on this board whose opinions I appreciate. Sorry.

BlueEyedDreamer · July 2011

WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.
There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.
So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.
Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?
Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

Right. In this post (*Princess Mafia*), your subtle irony, wit, and sarcasm were lost on me. My bad. They must have been hidden by all the pathetic sycophantism, the poor spelling, and the epic fail of a grammar call-out.

bostonbluejay · July 2011

WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say here...but, regardless, do you even know what "sarcastic" means??

The Princess Belle · July 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

Right. In this post (*Princess Mafia*), your subtle irony, wit, and sarcasm were lost on me. My bad. They must have been hidden by all the pathetic sycophantism, the poor spelling, and the epic fail of a grammar call-out.

Yes

cgwell02 · July 2011

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

The Princess Belle · July 2011

cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

So you're saying we should treat each other like small children? Indifferent

I think being patient with your children and trying to be patient with adults who do not wish to do any research on their own and expect answers to be spoon-fed to them fall in two completely separate categories. Do you tell your child Santa is real so you don't burst their bubble? Sure. Should you tell every woman who asks "ZOMG PLEASE TELL ME IF I'M PREGGERZ" that she is totes preggerz so you don't burst her bubble? Hells to the no.

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

bostonbluejay:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say here...but, regardless, do you even know what "sarcastic" means??

Yes honey I do know what sarcastic means. You might want to start running the bandwagon is rolling away without you.

cgwell02 · July 2011

desertsun:
cgwell02:

I find your insinuation ridiculous.

Yeah, some people are a little biitchy. Hello, that's reality. Some people have no patience for blowing rainbows up the asses of internet strangers. That doesn't mean they are incapable of raising intelligent and caring children, or that they are not good people themselves.

Sometimes there is too much value placed on "nice," and not enough on "honest," IMO.

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

P.S. You can be honest and still be nice. They are not mutually exclusive things.

bostonbluejay · July 2011

cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

Isn't it a bit judgemental to basically say that a strong woman who is honest, maybe bluntly so at times, can't raise a caring child? That would be like me saying that you couldn't raise a child to be strong and comfortable enough to voice their own opinions. That wouldn't be fair to say, now would it?

shadykatie · July 2011

I'm not sure where you joined in the conversation, cgwell... those are only your second and third posts... your first was on another TB board. Why are you offended?

If you can't stand the snarkasm, get the f* out off TB!

I'm not generally mean and most people on here are helpful. some are snarky. We like our diversity here. You are welcome to stay, but please note that the internet police died with the point you were trying to make.

ETA: on second reading, this might not make as much sense as I thought... oh well.

bostonbluejay · July 2011

WanaBPrincess:
bostonbluejay:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say here...but, regardless, do you even know what "sarcastic" means??

Yes honey I do know what sarcastic means. You might want to start running the bandwagon is rolling away without you.

You're missing some commas.

desertsun · July 2011

cgwell02:
Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

It's not that I don't see your point. I do. I like how you put it -- it IS possible to be honest without being bitchy.

The difficulty is that bitchiness is subjective. What might come off bitchy to you, I might not have a problem with.

I don't think being snarky to a poster that hasn't bothered to read a sticky or look back a couple pages is truly hurtful on a personal level.

Again, I don't see why it's so difficult to take what's useful to you and not let the rest get to you.

You are not going to change anyone by lecturing us about being nice, or saying people whose posts you don't like can't raise good kids.

You just come across as self-righteous and condescending.

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

Right. In this post (*Princess Mafia*), your subtle irony, wit, and sarcasm were lost on me. My bad. They must have been hidden by all the pathetic sycophantism, the poor spelling, and the epic fail of a grammar call-out.

Peoples ideas of humor vary, LOL people misread things, sh!t happens and last time I checked, I don't have to justify myself to you or anyone else. It's funny to see how self-important some people on this forum are. Looking in from the outside you all that are bashing on people look more "immature" than the people asking questions.

cgwell02 · July 2011

The Princess Belle:
cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

So you're saying we should treat each other like small children?

II think being patient with your children and trying to be patient with adults who do not wish to do any research on their own and expect answers to be spoon-fed to them fall in two completely separate categories. Do you tell your child Santa is real so you don't burst their bubble? Sure. Should you tell every woman who asks "ZOMG PLEASE TELL ME IF I'M PREGGERZ" that she is totes preggerz so you don't burst her bubble? Hells to the no.

Being polite does not equate with treating people like children, it equates with treating people like people. There are plenty of posters here who reply to the "ZOMG PLEASE..." threads honestly without being rude. Instead of insulting them, they suggest researching via google or the newbie section. It is possible to do that without name-calling or rudeness.

Remember also that your children watch how you interact with others. You can be as patient as you want your child, or other children, but if your child sees you being rude to another adult, your peer, your child will likely mimic your behavior.

bostonbluejay · July 2011

WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

Right. In this post (*Princess Mafia*), your subtle irony, wit, and sarcasm were lost on me. My bad. They must have been hidden by all the pathetic sycophantism, the poor spelling, and the epic fail of a grammar call-out.

Peoples ideas of humor vary, LOL people misread things, sh!t happens and last time I checked, I don't have to justify myself to you or anyone else. It's funny to see how self-important some people on this forum are. Looking in from the outside you all that are bashing on people look more "immature" than the people asking questions.

Textbook backpeddling.

I have an honest question...you may or may not tell the truth, but I'm going to ask anyway. Are you Karma/Drex?

SteFizzRich · July 2011

The Princess Belle:
cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

So you're saying we should treat each other like small children?

I think being patient with your children and trying to be patient with adults who do not wish to do any research on their own and expect answers to be spoon-fed to them fall in two completely separate categories. Do you tell your child Santa is real so you don't burst their bubble? Sure. Should you tell every woman who asks "ZOMG PLEASE TELL ME IF I'M PREGGERZ" that she is totes preggerz so you don't burst her bubble? Hells to the no.

Yes

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

bostonbluejay:
WanaBPrincess:
bostonbluejay:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

I have absolutely no idea what you are trying to say here...but, regardless, do you even know what "sarcastic" means??

Yes honey I do know what sarcastic means. You might want to start running the bandwagon is rolling away without you.

You're missing some commas.

So why don't you fix it for me then? Who needs spell check or a grammatical structure check with you around? Your wit and charm are astounding! Yea, not so much.

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

bostonbluejay:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
BlueEyedDreamer:
WanaBPrincess:
stephaniestover:

I'm just a little confused about this whole post. Why would you stop lurking and say hello if you don't like the board. There are plenty of other ones out there. If you lurked and don't like what you see, then just stop reading.

There so much crying going one around here lately and it's annoying. With the exception of a few bad AE's, everyone here is genuinely supportive, even when they are being blunt and honest. And even when there's snarkiness, it's usually deserved. Sometimes it feels like the super newbies on here are like 5 year olds in the backseat asking the "Are we there yet" questions on a long road trip. And then they cry when we tell them No.

So what does that make the ones that have been around for so long? The highschool clique that makes fun of the new kids? I don't know about you but I graduated from HS a while back and left the snarky drama at the doors when I walked out. You would think people would want to have intelligent conversations about conciving a long awaited child rather than rag on other posters.

Again, then why did you just create an asinine AE in order to submit a formal application to become part of an internet princess clique?

Could be the whole thing was thought of in a sarcastic manner, possibly.

Right. In this post (*Princess Mafia*), your subtle irony, wit, and sarcasm were lost on me. My bad. They must have been hidden by all the pathetic sycophantism, the poor spelling, and the epic fail of a grammar call-out.

Peoples ideas of humor vary, LOL people misread things, sh!t happens and last time I checked, I don't have to justify myself to you or anyone else. It's funny to see how self-important some people on this forum are. Looking in from the outside you all that are bashing on people look more "immature" than the people asking questions.

Textbook backpeddling.

I have an honest question...you may or may not tell the truth, but I'm going to ask anyway. Are you Karma/Drex?

No backpeddeling and I have no idea what a Karma/Drex is.

cgwell02 · July 2011

bostonbluejay:
cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

Isn't it a bit judgemental to basically say that a strong woman who is honest, maybe bluntly so at times, can't raise a caring child? That would be like me saying that you couldn't raise a child to be strong and comfortable enough to voice their own opinions. That wouldn't be fair to say, now would it?

Why do some of you confuse honesty and rudeness to go hand in hand? Politeness and honesty are NOT mutually exclusive!

And as far as my children go, I am pretty sure that I have been voicing my strong opinion quite comfortably and openly. Just because I did not insult anyone, call anyone a name or be otherwise rude, does not make my opinion any less strong. In fact, I hope my children will speak their opinions strongly in a polite, tactful way. That would be my ultimate goal. Rude or snarky statements only dillute your opinions, if you ask me, and weaken your point.

WanaBPrincess · July 2011

Well it's been fun but I have better things to do with my day than sit here and debate with you all. Cgwell02, I agree with 95% of what you have to say, unfortunatley it's sad that more people don't understand the concept. Carrying on trying to change minds that are closed is a futile mission.

The Princess Belle · July 2011

cgwell02:
The Princess Belle:
cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

So you're saying we should treat each other like small children?

II think being patient with your children and trying to be patient with adults who do not wish to do any research on their own and expect answers to be spoon-fed to them fall in two completely separate categories. Do you tell your child Santa is real so you don't burst their bubble? Sure. Should you tell every woman who asks "ZOMG PLEASE TELL ME IF I'M PREGGERZ" that she is totes preggerz so you don't burst her bubble? Hells to the no.

Being polite does not equate with treating people like children, it equates with treating people like people. There are plenty of posters here who reply to the "ZOMG PLEASE..." threads honestly without being rude. Instead of insulting them, they suggest researching via google or the newbie section. It is possible to do that without name-calling or rudeness.

Remember also that your children watch how you interact with others. You can be as patient as you want your child, or other children, but if your child sees you being rude to another adult, your peer, your child will likely mimic your behavior.

I agree, but I am a fan of directness and honesty. If the answer truly is "we cannot tell you if you're pregnant" I can't possibly think of a more polite way to put it. If the answer is "google.com" or "read the newbie link above" because it would be ridiculous to do that kind of research for the OP for them, I can't think of a more polite way to put it. Yet somehow these answers cause an abundance of butthurt to so many posters. There is no name calling, but there is also no sugar-coating in these answers and yet they are interpreted as mean.

cgwell02 · July 2011

desertsun:
cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact. You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience. Just some tact.

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others. That's reality, too. Lead by example!

IIt's not that I don't see your point. I do. I like how you put it -- it IS possible to be honest without being bitchy.

The difficulty is that bitchiness is subjective. What might come off bitchy to you, I might not have a problem with.

I don't think being snarky to a poster that hasn't bothered to read a sticky or look back a couple pages is truly hurtful on a personal level.

Again, I don't see why it's so difficult to take what's useful to you and not let the rest get to you.

You are not going to change anyone by lecturing us about being nice, or saying people whose posts you don't like can't raise good kids.

You just come across as self-righteous and condescending.

I agree that it's subjective, but you must agree that some posters are quite blatant in their rudeness and quite proud of it to boot.

I am also just stating my opinion. If you want to call it a lecture, so be it. I just got tired of being lectured that rudeness to the point of meanness is awesome and if you don't like it, get out.

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