Hi!...and alittle dissapointed.

desertsun

cgwell02:

desertsun:

cgwell02:

Bitchiness is honesty void of tact.  You can be honest without being bitchy, you know, and it doesn't even require patience.  Just some tact. 

Unfortunately, and this is me being honest, I think it may be hard for one to raise a caring child when they don't have the patience or desire to be caring themselves -- or as you call it "blowing rainbows up asses" of others.  That's reality, too.  Lead by example!

IIt's not that I don't see your point. I do. I like how you put it -- it IS possible to be honest without being bitchy.

The difficulty is that bitchiness is subjective. What might come off bitchy to you, I might not have a problem with.

I don't think being snarky to a poster that hasn't bothered to read a sticky or look back a couple pages is truly hurtful on a personal level.

Again, I don't see why it's so difficult to take what's useful to you and not let the rest get to you.

You are not going to change anyone by lecturing us about being nice, or saying people whose posts you don't like can't raise good kids.

You just come across as self-righteous and condescending.

 

I agree that it's subjective, but you must agree that some posters are quite blatant in their rudeness and quite proud of it to boot.   

I am also just stating my opinion.  If you want to call it a lecture, so be it.  I just got tired of being lectured that rudeness to the point of meanness is awesome and if you don't like it, get out.

 

 

I think you've stated your opinion in a thoughtful and intelligent way, and I like that a lot. I'm still pretty new to this board (though I have a board on TK I post on frequently), but I can't say I've seen many downright malicious posts. I've seen some sarcasm, some bluntness, but overall a lot of help and support.

I guess what I'm saying is, for the most part, I agree with you. There is a way to not sugar-coat that doesn't disrespect someone on a deeply personal and hurtful level. Where we disagree is that you seem to think this kind of "meanness" is rampant on this board, and I don't. But I also think some people are just too sensitive. We're all grown ups here. And, chances are, if one person says something in a snarky way, there are at least a couple others who say it more nicely. Again, there's no need to take things personally and get all worked up over what some internet strangers have said. Who gives a fvck? Take what's useful and move along.

I think there is some bandwagoning that happens on these boards, but I also truly think often people poke fun to amuse each other and NOT b/c they really want to hurt someone else. That's just the "culture" of TK/TN/TB boards. And as is repeatedly mentioned, if you can't appreciate it the way it is, the thing to do is go elsewhere, b/c trying to change it is an exercise in futility.

keyourtnee

desertsun:

I think you've stated your opinion in a thoughtful and intelligent way, and I like that a lot. I'm still pretty new to this board (though I have a board on TK I post on frequently), but I can't say I've seen many downright malicious posts. I've seen some sarcasm, some bluntness, but overall a lot of help and support.

I guess what I'm saying is, for the most part, I agree with you. There is a way to not sugar-coat that doesn't disrespect someone on a deeply personal and hurtful level. Where we disagree is that you seem to think this kind of "meanness" is rampant on this board, and I don't. But I also think some people are just too sensitive. We're all grown ups here. And, chances are, if one person says something in a snarky way, there are at least a couple others who say it more nicely. Again, there's no need to take things personally and get all worked up over what some internet strangers have said. Who gives a fvck? Take what's useful and move along.

I think there is some bandwagoning that happens on these boards, but I also truly think often people poke fun to amuse each other and NOT b/c they really want to hurt someone else. That's just the "culture" of TK/TN/TB boards. And as is repeatedly mentioned, if you can't appreciate it the way it is, the thing to do is go elsewhere, b/c trying to change it is an exercise in futility.

Thumbs up! I like you.

desertsun

keyourtnee:

desertsun:

I think you've stated your opinion in a thoughtful and intelligent way, and I like that a lot. I'm still pretty new to this board (though I have a board on TK I post on frequently), but I can't say I've seen many downright malicious posts. I've seen some sarcasm, some bluntness, but overall a lot of help and support.

I guess what I'm saying is, for the most part, I agree with you. There is a way to not sugar-coat that doesn't disrespect someone on a deeply personal and hurtful level. Where we disagree is that you seem to think this kind of "meanness" is rampant on this board, and I don't. But I also think some people are just too sensitive. We're all grown ups here. And, chances are, if one person says something in a snarky way, there are at least a couple others who say it more nicely. Again, there's no need to take things personally and get all worked up over what some internet strangers have said. Who gives a fvck? Take what's useful and move along.

I think there is some bandwagoning that happens on these boards, but I also truly think often people poke fun to amuse each other and NOT b/c they really want to hurt someone else. That's just the "culture" of TK/TN/TB boards. And as is repeatedly mentioned, if you can't appreciate it the way it is, the thing to do is go elsewhere, b/c trying to change it is an exercise in futility.

Thumbs up! I like you.

 

Thank you! I like you too.

 

 

sydsmom04

The Princess Snow White:

Same sh!t, different day.

Really. Geez. Surely she has seen all the other posts in the last 3 days right???

andrewseverything

I think WannaBPrincess has said it best.  I lurk quite a bit and completely understand the frustrations of TTC.  I think some people who haven't been trying that long or who are 'newbies' don't understand how some of thier posts can be interpreted.  They're not trying to be rude, insensitive or ignorant.  Yes, there are stupid people in the world and sometimes they deserve to be called out.  This does not and should not apply to everyone.  A little tact and understanding goes a long way.  How big is the traget on my back now?

sheilatakesabow

shadykatie:

 

I'm not sure where you joined in the conversation, cgwell... those are only your second and third posts... your first was on another TB board.  Why are you offended?

 

If you can't stand the snarkasm, get the f* out off TB!

 

I'm not generally mean and most people on here are helpful. some are snarky. We like our diversity here. You are welcome to stay, but please note that the internet police died with the point you were trying to make.  

ETA: on second reading, this might not make as much sense as I thought... oh well. 

I just scared my dog with how loudly this PIP made me cackle.