UPDATE: No Heartbeat @ First U/S & HCG Levels @ 12,000

wescarley · July 2011

I wish I had good news.....but unfortunately...I don't .

Doctor called me this evening with my HcG Levels. I was only @ 22,000. My levels should have quadrupled from last thursday (12,000)..and they didn't even double. My doctor called it an incomplete miscarriage or a missed abortion/miscarriage. She gave me a few options...I could miscarry naturally (which could take weeks)...i could take a pill to get everything out, but will still have lots of bleeding and cramping, or I can have a d&c. I told her I wanted a second opinion, and going to call my OBGYN tomorrow, and let him know what is going on (he has been out of the office).

I am still in shock. Is this really happening...AGAIN!? How is it possible to have 2 miscarriages in less than a year, right around the same time as the other one. What is WRONG with me? Why can't my body hold a baby? Ugh...so depressed/sad/upset.......losing all hope.

kathymarie · July 2011

Good for you for getting a second opinion. ((HUGS)) I am so sorry. It just isn't fair.

itsmegin · July 2011

I am so sorry you are going through this again, it's so unfair, no one should have to face this. T&Ps for you during this difficult time.

missdelica · July 2011

I think its good you are asking for a second opinion. Please don't lose all your hope. I, like you suffered two miscarriages in less than a year and right around the same time as the other. I went on to get pregnant right after the last one and so far everything has gone as it should (well, for the most part) My T&Ps are with you hun and I hope you get some good news soon.

xoladiebug · July 2011

Don't lose all hope. Yes things may seem grim, but your OB may have a different interpretation of your numbers. Keeping my fx that your OB thinks things are fine and offers to do an US so they can confirm better. Try to relax and not stress. Praying that things work out for you!!!

Not trying to give you false hope, but I found this website: https://www.misdiagnosedmiscarriage.com/.

Hugs

anonomity · July 2011

I'm so, so sorry. It is so unfair that anyone has to go through that, especially more than once. ((HUGE HUGS)) to you. I hope your second opinion gives you some peace.

Karen1998 · July 2011

I am so sorry. Big ((((Hugs)))).

haziedaze · July 2011

(((HUGS)) Definitely make sure you feel comfortable with the diagnosis before going forward. I can't even imagine how hard it is to go through this all again. Like others have said there are lots of happy endings on this board after multiple miscarriages. It can happen to you too! Be gentle with yourself right now. Tons of T&P to you and your family.

BobbiJanay07 · July 2011

Hugs, I am so sorry

molRN · July 2011

So sorry

T&P to you. Getting a second opinion is a good idea.

ZZsmommy · July 2011

I am so sorry. T&Ps are with you.

ashhope84 · July 2011

I am so sorry you are going through this, it is just not fair. Don't lose hope, you are advocating for yourself by getting a second opinion. I hope you get some answers.

Take care of yourself through this difficult time. (((hugs)))

StephK86 · July 2011

I am so sorry

I hope you get some answers.

rosenb2b · July 2011

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I hope the 2nd opinion gives you some answers.

jinx75 · July 2011

I'm glad you're getting a 2nd opinion. I am so sorry you're going through this again. I am sending you T&Ps!!

jamilynn9 · July 2011

I'm so sorry you are going through this again. We're all here for you so please let us know what the second opinion is. As pps said, don't lose hope - many women who had multiple losses have healthy babies shortly afterward. Thinking of you.

ellebelle2384 · July 2011

I'm so sorry you're going through this again. It's not fair. **big hugs**

RizziB · July 2011

I'm sorry you're going through this heartbreaking experience again. I wanted to add to the "don't lose hope" chorus... I had 2 miscarriages within 5 months last year and am now pregnant again with a healthy pregnancy that is going well. Although it was not comforting at all, after my 2nd loss my doctor told me that some women are just "unlucky" but it doesn't mean that something is wrong with them. I had a D&C after my 2nd loss (missed m/c) and was able to get some answers about why I lost the pregnancy through chromosomal testing of the remains. I also pursued additional blood work & testing to find out whether I was likely to have trouble getting pregnant or staying pregnant in the future. I'd definitely recommend getting tests to see if there's a reason for the losses. Hopefully it will give you some peace of mind or point you in the right direction.

Take care and allow yourself to grieve, but don't give up! ((Hugs))

emd2887 · July 2011

I'm so sorry. No one should have to go through a miscarriage once, let alone again. Good luck with getting a second opinion, and lots of T&Ps for you in this difficult time.

rvandiver0705 · July 2011

I am so sorry.

kymberleyd22 · July 2011

I am so sorry to hear this! T&P's for you during this extremely difficult time.

LoriJ11 · July 2011

My T&P are with you. Big hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss.

CheesyPeas · July 2011

I'm so sorry. Lots of T&Ps and (((hugs))) coming your way.

HadleyS · July 2011

I am so very sorry =(. It really isn't fair, no one should have to go through the pain of even one loss, let alone two. I am glad that you are following up with your OB/GYN, he might want to make an appointment with you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. (((hugs)))

RunSchwartzRun · July 2011

I'm so so sorry. No one should have to go through that once, let alone more than once. ((hugs)) I hope you find the right answer on how to proceed and you heal quickly.

EricaK28 · July 2011

I think a seconde opionion sounds like a good idea. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs.

mizdiz444 · July 2011

((((HUGS))))) I'm so sorry you have to go through this again. It just sucks.

opallover · July 2011

I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm so glad you are getting a second opinion.

Have they looked for the ges sac? Is it positioned in your uterus? I only ask because I had an ectopic pregnancy and my numbers were "high" [not as high as yours] and they didnt' double - when they tried looking for it they didnt see anything in my uterus. I just don't want you to have a tube burst on you while you are waiting for a second opinion. ::hugs:: This is such a hard time for you and your husband right now.

There is NOTHING wrong with you or your body. ::hugs::

pennynjon · July 2011

I would want another us before you made a decision. I am so sorry you are going through this. (( hugs))

handhand_wc · July 2011

Im so sorry to hear that. I dont blame you for wanting a second opinion. I have had 2 losses also before this pregnancy. Dont lose hope. Lots of T&PS and hugs to you.

wescarley · July 2011

opallover:

I am so sorry you are going through this. I'm so glad you are getting a second opinion.

Have they looked for the ges sac? Is it positioned in your uterus? I only ask because I had an ectopic pregnancy and my numbers were "high" [not as high as yours] and they didnt' double - when they tried looking for it they didnt see anything in my uterus. I just don't want you to have a tube burst on you while you are waiting for a second opinion. ::hugs:: This is such a hard time for you and your husband right now.

There is NOTHING wrong with you or your body. ::hugs::

We saw the sac during my u/s. But there was no fetal pole or h/b.

samm1983 · July 2011

I am sorry for your loss.

khanley1980 · July 2011

I am so sorry. This is most likely shitty luck. It really, really sucks. You can go to a reproductive endocrinologist for a recurrent pregnancy loss panel (they will do this now that you had 2 miscarriages). This will allow them to see if there is anything wrong or if it is just bad luck.

With my loss, I tried hard to remember that EVERYBODY has bad sperm and bad eggs and it only takes one of them to cause a miscarriage (my bad I mean genetically abnormal). You ARE capable of having a baby given that you had your son. You will have another! I am so sorry you are going through this.

hart0620 · July 2011

RizziB:

I'm sorry you're going through this heartbreaking experience again. I wanted to add to the "don't lose hope" chorus... I had 2 miscarriages within 5 months last year and am now pregnant again with a healthy pregnancy that is going well. Although it was not comforting at all, after my 2nd loss my doctor told me that some women are just "unlucky" but it doesn't mean that something is wrong with them. I had a D&C after my 2nd loss (missed m/c) and was able to get some answers about why I lost the pregnancy through chromosomal testing of the remains. I also pursued additional blood work & testing to find out whether I was likely to have trouble getting pregnant or staying pregnant in the future. I'd definitely recommend getting tests to see if there's a reason for the losses. Hopefully it will give you some peace of mind or point you in the right direction.

Take care and allow yourself to grieve, but don't give up! ((Hugs))

All of this. My story is almost exactly the same. 2 m/c in 3-4 months of each other around the same time. I got pregnant again and then found out about the increased risk of m/c due to hypothyroidism (runs in my family) I quickly made them test me and treat me and so far, so good. Baby is measuring normal. I have no idea if it was the hypothyroidism, but it might be worth a check.

I definitely had the "I can't go through this again" thought run through my head the day they told me my second wasn't viable, but you can't give up.

I also had a few counseling sessions and they really helped me get through it.

Keep us updated on the second opinion. Fingers are still crossed for you.

germswif E · July 2011

I'm sorry you're going through this

Hope you get some answers soon.

clondo · July 2011

T&P to you...don't give up hope! Nothing is wrong with you, don't ever think it is your fault because it is not! I spent a lot of time blaming my self for my m/c but when it came down to it I realized it was nothing I did or didn't do for this to happen! I had 2 m/c and now I am 28 weeks pregnant so it is possible. We must be patient! I know it is extremely hard to be when you want something so badly.

If you need to talk, feel free to PM me anytime. Praying hard for you!

BritanyV · July 2011

I'm so sorry things aren't looking well right now. I agree that you should get a second opinion before you do anything.

Your numbers should not have quadrupled. The higher your numbers are the slower they are to double. I've read as much as 4-5 days to double or more once they've reached 6,000 (and maybe even less than that). I don't know how much time was between your 2 tests but I'm holding out a little hope for you.

ETA: I also had 2 miscarriages last year so I do understand how you are feeling. ((HUGS))

karma79 · July 2011

I am really really sorry. Big hug.

mommy411 · July 2011

I am so sorry for you having to deal with this stress. Big hugs. Good for you going fir 2nd opinion. I needed to see the babies had no hb before I chose d&c. I just needed to know 100%.

D&D4Ever7 · July 2011

I am so sorry about your loss. This is so unfair. Sending you lots of ((((HUGS)))) and prayers. I will be thinking of you.

704bride · July 2011

I am so very sorry. I had two miscarriages within months of each other and it plain old SUCKED. Even though my son was healthy before my two miscarriages, I insisted on bloodwork to see what might be going on. I was diagnosed with compound heterozygous MTHFR and another mutation on PAI-1 (both clotting related issues). I'm on injections of Lovenox each day + extra folic acid and B vitamins and, so far, am having a healthy pregnancy. It could very well be total flukes of nature causing you to have bad luck twice in a row (since miscarriages are unfortunately very common), but there could also be something else going on that is easily treatable. I wish you the best of luck and hope you'll be back soon with a sticky baby. By the way, I had a D&C with my first miscarriage because I didn't want to wait around to miscarry naturally. I actually felt much better after it because it meant that I was moving on to being able to get pregnant again (I'm not sure how I would've handled it emotionally if it was my second though, so you need to do what's best for you). Hang in there. I'll be thinking about you.

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