Joining you ladies, nervous and scared.

htomeo · July 2011

My husband and I are filing for divorce. We separated for a short time, and tried to reconcile. That lasted 2 days. His expectations were too much, and he later admitted that he knew that. He said perhaps in the back of his mind, he didn't really want it to work.

I know nothing about divorce, what steps I should take, what I should do.

Questions, advice, suggestions?

mrsolsen2000 · July 2011

I don't have much advice, I am new to this board but I am sure some of the ladies here can help. It depends on where you live. I live in Canada and have to be legally seperated from my husbnd for a year, then we divorce. Talk to a lawyer.

We also tried to reconcile, didn't last long. Such a crappy time but I am looking forward to coming out the other side. Good luck to you.

achase123 · July 2011

Definitely seek legal counsel, especially where children are involved. It IS expensive but worth it.

As far as the emotional part of it, I recommend counseling for as long as needed. Oh, and wine. Lots of wine.

BMenz · July 2011

Htomeo I remember you from other boards! I'm sorry!

Like achase said. Legal counsel. Get a bank account in your name only in the off chance that he decides to be a db and clears your joint one (if you have one.)

ANy questions, just ask!

PrettyInPearls23 · July 2011

Get copies of any and all financial documents, regardless of it's just in your name, only in his, or its joint -- bank accounts, mortgage/rent into, loans, insurance policies, W2's/paycheck stubs, tax returns, 401k/pension info, etc.

Also, start documenting when it comes to your child. I don't know your backstory, so it's hard to give specific advice, but document when your H has visitations with your LO (when you physically separate), any time he's late/doesn't show, if he has alcohol/drug issues, etc. I don't know how things are between the two of you right now, but this is important information to have if it comes down to a custody battle.

GL!

haleyw458 · July 2011

I wasn't married so I really don't have much advice except to take it one day at a time. I remember you from the tri boards so I'm really sorry you're here! Good luck with everything!