Joining you ladies, nervous and scared.

htomeo

My husband and I are filing for divorce. We separated for a short time, and tried to reconcile. That lasted 2 days. His expectations were too much, and he later admitted that he knew that. He said perhaps in the back of his mind, he didn't really want it to work.

 I know nothing about divorce, what steps I should take, what I should do.

Questions, advice, suggestions? 

mrsolsen2000

I don't have much advice, I am new to this board but I am sure some of the ladies here can help. It depends on where you live. I live in Canada and have to be legally seperated from my husbnd for a year, then we divorce. Talk to a lawyer.

We also tried to reconcile, didn't last long. Such a crappy time but I am looking forward to coming out the other side. Good luck to you.

achase123

Definitely seek legal counsel, especially where children are involved.  It IS expensive but worth it.

As far as the emotional part of it, I recommend counseling for as long as needed.  Oh, and wine.  Lots of wine.

BMenz

Htomeo I remember you from other boards! I'm sorry!

Like achase said. Legal counsel.  Get a bank account in your name only in the off chance that he decides to be a db and clears your joint one (if you have one.)

ANy questions, just ask! 

PrettyInPearls23

Get copies of any and all financial documents, regardless of it's just in your name, only in his, or its joint -- bank accounts, mortgage/rent into, loans, insurance policies, W2's/paycheck stubs, tax returns, 401k/pension info, etc.

Also, start documenting when it comes to your child. I don't know your backstory, so it's hard to give specific advice, but document when your H has visitations with your LO (when you physically separate), any time he's late/doesn't show, if he has alcohol/drug issues, etc. I don't know how things are between the two of you right now, but this is important information to have if it comes down to a custody battle.

GL!

haleyw458

I wasn't married so I really don't have much advice except to take it one day at a time. I remember you from the tri boards so I'm really sorry you're here! Good luck with everything!

htomeo

Thank you ladies. 

julia0402

Hey H, I'm so very sorry to hear.  Feel free to contact me via FB if you want to talk or vent.  I hope you're doing all right.  ::hugs::

kkenner

You know I love you and if you need anything let me know!!!!!!!!!!

htomeo

kkenner:

You know I love you and if you need anything let me know!!!!!!!!!!

You have been an awesome support system for me. I cannot thank you enough. 

r9stedt

Hey, I remember you from lurking on the tri boards when you were pregnant.  Creepy, huh?   exH and i were thinking about TTC around that time.

 

I am saddened to see you over here, but 'welcome'.