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October 2011 Moms
jonnygurl76
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"Sometimes I am two people. Johnny is the nice one. Cash causes all the trouble. They fight." - Johnny Cash
FFFC.....do we even dare?
jonnygurl76
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this should be interesting after all the good times we had with yesterday's UO thread..............
and GO!
"Sometimes I am two people. Johnny is the nice one. Cash causes all the trouble. They fight." - Johnny Cash
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Re: FFFC.....do we even dare?
my FFFC's:
1) i can't wait for some of the ladies on this board to have their LO's. having a child turns your world upside down....you will go back on the things you said you would "never" do and makes you question yourself in a way that nothing else does. i just think the thought process and the attitudes will change for more than a few ladies and i think it will be interesting.
2) i may purposely be out all day today to avoid seeing the in laws since they are supposed to 'stop by' and DH got OT today. a visit from them without the buffer of DH is painful and i am not in the mood to deal with the crazies.
My FFFC:
I used to be a P&R kind of gal, but I gotta say I love some drama on this board. It spices up the board and brings back some life to it. I missed all the UO drama yesterday but caught up last night before bed. It was way more interesting than reading about the same ol', same ol'. I wish we had more controversial issues posted on the board to keep it lively.
My MIL really grinds my gears.
MH has had a bad back off and on for years. the past 3 months it's been really bad, he's had two injections of something and it's done zip. now he might be looking at surgery.
the FF part? I am mad that he isn't the one taking care of me. I have major BP issues (had pre-e/had to deliver 6wks early w/ #1) and should be resting as much as possible. I know he is legit pain but i am so sick of hearing him moan and groan all night long. I know, wife of the year
I'll share the wife of the year title with you. My husband has pilonidal cyst disease, which is basically a cyst that forms on your extreme lower back/butt crack. Anyway, he's had it removed TWICE. I've got asthmatic bronchitis now and yet here I am, doing the dishes, vacuuming, because his butt hurts. I had foot surgery alone while he was deployed adn guess what--chores still had to get done. I vacuumed while on my knees, did dishes and cooked using a rolly-office chair for 8 weeks.
I know my husband is in legit pain, too, but I'm with ya. It would be nice to be taken care of from time to time instead of constant caregiver.
THIS!!!!
Also, Im tired of seeing the lunchmeat thing. This is my second pregnancy and I had never even heard of it until I came to this board and the 2nd trimester board. So I asked my doc, and he LAUGHED at me saying not to worry about every little thing. Well I wasnt I just wanted to know the hype. That being said, I only get fresh deli meat anyway, and man Ill eat Subway if I want!
Confession that I don't care is flame free or not:
I hate the misappropriation of the word drama. A topical discussion on a message board is not drama. King Lear is drama.
When I here "drama" in its new modern context, I think catty women on reality tv, or people backstabbing each other while competing for money or prizes. Drama is dumb, drama is stupid, drama is useless. I wouldn't consider a heated discussion on IVF babies to be any of those things. I don't think that it is negative for everyone to get into a discussion about real matters that are important to them.
P&R is great...for 5 yr olds. I think that a healthy/heated debate over topics that are intergral in our lives is something that should revered by this community and not stashed away under the guise of it being "drama".
Real drama on boards is stuff like "I'm 18 and got married last year but my husband says he hates me everyday so I tricked him into getting me pregnant but now he hates the baby. Why won't he support me, did I do something wrong?"
We can all get along and be interenet besties and sisties without settling down by a campfire with a guitar/John Mayer cd. I don't know what world everyone grew up in, but in mine, just because mamma and daddy didn't agree, it didn't mean they didn't love each other. Just because I think that your comments/questions/quips/responses are douche baggy, doesn't mean I hate your guts.
And even if it did, its the interwebs for cripes sake. If you can't take some disagreement from a whole bunch of strangers from different cities, states, and countries, what on earth do you do in real life?
I'm gonna have to side with your DH on this one. I know every pregnancy is different and you seem to have very legitimate reasons to take it easy, but I had similar back problems to your DH's last year (injections, etc, etc., managed to stay out of surgery). The back issue was way worse than pregnancy, so far. I needed so much more help from my DH then than I do now. Good luck to you both!!
Baby Girl #2 is on her way!
I don't see the point in getting as worked up as everyone did yesterday over the UO and subsequent follow up post. Now I'm not saying that I've never gotten pissed off at something I've read on TK/TN/TB, but I thought all that was unneccessary. I sympathize with those going through IVF and other fertility treatments and I also think the comment about those children being loved more was a little ridiculous. But the stuff that followed was eyeroll inducing.
Added to the above, some of the stuff I see on TB that people are claiming as "problems" are laughable. And people get fired up over so many silly things that it's hard to take a lot of posters seriously.
My FFFC is that I hate when people post a legit STUPID statement and then ask " is that bad?"...some of them I just want to scream, ARE YOU SERIOUS?!
awwMy dad and his family (wife and two kids) are driving to Milwaukee and stopping in Chicago for the night to meet me and DH for dinner. I wish they would just skip this part of the trip.
I find them to be cheap and ignorant and difficult to deal with when I'm not pregnant. I'm not looking forward to two hours of listening to them complain about how expensive everything is and how hilarious Boystown is. Worst of all, they are going to act like they're doing me a favor and I "owe" them for visiting.
It is a month away and I'm already annoyed.
Burned by the Bear
I confess that I don't understand this mentality. Sharing your opinion of the OPs opinion, doesn't necessarily mean you are worked up. If OP has a right to post what she thinks than everyone else has just as much right to chime in. It's a message board, the whole point is to write posts.
My FFC is... I get annoyed with women who act like they should get a medal for having a drug-free birth and those who do it just to "prove" they can take the pain. I don't think pain, for pain's sake, is a virtue or anything spectacular. I wouldn't go to the dentist and refuse Novocaine just to prove that my body could take it. I am planning on having a drug-free birth because after lots of research we decided we'd rather not have the baby exposed to all of the drugs that can come with L&D and because of the possibility that introducing drugs could cause labor to slow down. But I dislike when how some mommas seem to think that going drug-free is about proving you can handle the pain or that you're some kind of super woman.
I'm not saying people shouldn't respond or voice their opinions, not by a long shot. If no one did that, what would be the point of the message boards? I'm saying I think it was all overkill. The cursing and (imo) overreactions to something that some stranger whose opinion (in the grand scheme of things) should mean very little to you seemed execessive to me.
Just because someone wants a med-free birth doesn't mean they think they are superwoman or have something to prove.
Just as you and I have the right to choose epirdurals and I have the right to a repeat C section, other mommas have a right to want medfrre if they like - for whatever reasons they choose.
DMoney will be a kickass big sister
MH has this too. It really is a pita (har har) for everyone involved. I've always resented having to help care for the wounds, as I am pretty damn squeamish. Our doctor told us they tend to lessen with age. Have you guys found this to be true?
This. I have lots of UOs but that doesn't mean I don't have friends and we don't talk. We just talk it out like adults and agree to disagree.
Anyway, my FFFC is that I grew up being sort of encouraged to not be super emotional. My dad treated me like the son he never had basically and activities in high school and college encouraged me to 'suck it up'. I also think I'm just sort of predisposed to not being overly emotional. I get tired of people thinking I'm cold or uncaring or whatever, but it makes me really uncomfortable to be emotional. It's my issue, but I do wish people would realise that just because I'm not overly emotional doesn't mean I don't have feelings. Just because I'm not all kumbayah doesn't mean I don't care. I just have different ways of showing it.
*SIGH* why even call it FFFC when you can't post something that annoys you without someone else telling you you're mistaken or trying to put you in your place. it's not as much fun if you can't just vent and be done with it IMHO!
I'm in a shiitty mood today so this should be good.....
1. I hate that every time my MIL talks about pg to be she refers to my SIL.....I am NOTHING like my SIL!! I mean everything from my dang diaper bag to the letters on my nursery wall......I am NOT her!! THANK GOD!
2.Why in the hell do my neighbors friends always have to park infront of our house? Hello, there is plenty of street next to their own house, this bugs me because it always looks like we have a crappy car in front of our house!
3.I don't plan to breast feed and am getting really sick of people questioning me about my choice. It isn't any of their business, I don't ask them about their tatas and what works for them!
4. And last.... I am annoyed at our bestfriends....Their kids are 12 and 6 so they now get sitters alot so they can go out of town and party....And what I mean by this is last month they flew to LA to, well to party and this weekend they are going to Vegas to party with people they met through DH....I know this sounds stupid but when I wasn't pg they never just flew here to hangout?? I guess I must be boring as all heck!
Married October 16th, 2010
TTC #1 since October 2010
1st BFP 1-12-11
MC'd 1-22-11
2nd BFP 2-15-11
Our Wee One....**KENNEDY JO** born 10/3/11@ 36weeks via Csection
My BFP Chart
Labor Buddy to **MRS.ATCH** Welcome Quinn 11-5-11**
Ill go this week .I confess that I'm so sick of the women who post on here "Im sooo mad at my OB/GYN office" or something along those lines. It usually goes into something about the physician or nurses not telling something or doing something to the patient. (Such as telling the patient her weight or blood pressure for example)
My problem? You are an adult. If you feel that you have questions, need an answer, or want something explained more.. Freakin' just ask. I mean, really. Don't go onto the bump and b!tch that your office didn't tell you something becauses chances are you left that office willingly. They probably didn't hold that information from you, you just didnt ask at the time.
As for the weight comment, because that is the one that tipped me over ths week... weigh yourself at home. If you are only weighing yourself once a month at the office, then you probably are not tracking your weight gain or loss very well. It is not your office's responsibility to keep entire track of this. You should be weighing yourself at home as well ,then confirming, reviewing and discussing this with your physician at your appointments.
oh, i know i am being a crazy pregnant lady! i feel ok for the most part, my Dr. is just super worried about me overdoing it. he is not a big complainer so i know he is really in pain. it's just horrible timing and hey, if you can't b*tch in FFFC then when can you?
I am highly annoyed when a women decides to judge another women on her parenting choices when it doesn't harm the child. It's like she has to take something away from her just to make herself feel better/like she's a better mother than the other lady.
One example: when a women interrogates someone who is choosing to FF. (yes, coworker, I'm looking at you). FF children are just as healthy as those that are BF. I should not be made to feel like I need to explain the reasons I am FF or made to feel like I will be neglecting my child's needs. Not only does DH support my choice but he also 110% agrees with it. Heck, if I decided I did want to BF, he would have more of an issue (since we have our reasons for not wanting to).
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
No flames, but if you haven't tried, how do you know it doesn't work for you?
I agree with above poster ^^^^^^^^ in regards to windhield stuffed animals. Also my FFFC I called into work for no reason today....
I get what you're saying, but I think they have a value, and that isn't in having the parents set up for what is actually going to happen.
I don't want my membranes stripped. Apparently, many drs will go ahead and strip them without your knowledge or explicit consent during a cervical check. I'm writing it into my birth plan so my care provider knows about it beforehand, and I don't have to try to talk to them about it when I need to be focusing on labor.
But I think a good birth plan goes through each possible scenario and giving your preferences for each, rather than some fantasy about what you want.
This is exactly how I have been made to feel by anyone who has questioned our decision and honestly, I shouldn't feel like I have to go into details about why we are FF. For us, our child will be a heck of a lot healthier being FF. Plus, we won't be constantly worrying that any of the meds I am on will end up on one of those Dane Shuleman commercials (they know they are excreted in breast milk but not enough studies have been done to show that there are no longterm negative effects)
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
Thanks for sharing this. I admit it- when I hear of a woman who is not even going to try and BF, I always wonder why on earth wont you just try it, especially considering it is what most doctors/midwives/pedis etc recommend. Now I will know to be more open minded and understanding, so thanks.
Ha, head on over to the Family Matters board on TN. It's a sh*t show over there. I lurk for the entertainment value of some of those posts.