How many people(if any) did you take with you to your A/S?

Llindsay0927 · June 2011

My mom,hubby,son,best friend,mil, and niece are coming. I didnt really want that many people but oh well. The only part Im having everyone in there for is when the tech can tell us the sex of the baby. Everything else they do everyone will be in the waiting room for that. Is that mean? I just want some privavcy with my dh for some of this.

marriedfilingjointly · June 2011

Good lord. Does your office even permit that many people in the room? I'm only allowed one guest. It's an ultrasound, not a spectator sport, and they might not even be able to see what they need to tell you the sex. I was happy to just have my husband there and send everyone else a text after the scan.

phelpsam · June 2011

We squeezed in DH, SS, SD and my sister! It was a tiny room...but they are the people I wanted to be there with me!!

nekillo · June 2011

I know my OB told me they have room for people if I want to bring them for the scan but we aren't planning on "coming out" until after the scan so that would defeat the purpose, right? It will just be DH, the tech, myself (and of course LO). I think if you have a supportive family excited to find out with you that is awesome!

We are team green, so we are lacking in the "suspense" aspect of our scan.

lemonJAM · June 2011

I'm only going to have DH and DD.

capulet · June 2011

That sounds like a lot of people. With my first pregnancy I just had DH there; this time I will have DH and DD. But we don't live really close to any of our family so it's not an issue. I think I wouldn't mind having some combination of our parents and my sister (but not all of them at once) if that were feasible, but I wouldn't go out of my way to invite them, because the idea of having anyone other than DH and our existing children there does feel a little weird to me. I don't think it's mean to ask for some privacy outside the gender part of the ultrasound.

GoldenPeaches · June 2011

I am just having DH there. In the event there is something wrong, I would want some privacy and to be able to go home together alone without a train of people.

KrisM86 · June 2011

The place I had my ultrasound said I could only have two people in the room with me and no kids. I had my SO and my Mom come with me.

I don't think it's mean to ask for privacy for the u/s. If you want to be alone with your DH, you should be.

Julia_JJ · June 2011

GoldenPeaches:
I am just having DH there. In the event there is something wrong, I would want some privacy and to be able to go home together alone without a train of people.

This. Determining the sex is often a nice little perk, but the point is to make sure everything is on the up-and-up. I wouldn't want anyone but my husband there if anything, even something small, was wrong.

marriedfilingjointly · June 2011

GoldenPeaches:
I am just having DH there. In the event there is something wrong, I would want some privacy and to be able to go home together alone without a train of people.

ITA.

FabulousMrs.P · June 2011

I had my husband there, but our office only would allow 2 other people in the room other than myself. You might want to check the rules at your ultrasound office to see what the limit is.

atizon · June 2011

For my a/s it was just dh & I. After the scan we texted and called our family and close friends.

Llindsay0927 · June 2011

Oh believe me I have checked the rules and my doc said I could bring as many people as I could fit into the room...lol. He actually said that before I inquired about it. He said at one of his ultrasounds there were 15 people in the room! Yikes! I know it may seem like alot of people but they are there to support my hubby and I. I know that the health of my baby is the most important thing and that is why we are asking that we have that time alone in the room while they get that part of it done. The only time they will have everyone in the room is when or if were able to find out the sex.

Llindsay0927 · June 2011

I love my ob and the entire office staff. They are a great team and take everything seriously. Just because they are open to couples bringing alot of people doesnt mean they are bad doctors what so ever. You can have your opinion but I appreciate the fact that he would let me bring whoever I wanted to share in the moment. We dont think its a party. Trust me. I cant even believe you would say such a thing.

jaminjeff · June 2011

My OB didn't say how many people they allow but there's only one chair in the room other than the tech's chair, so I'd think they'd discourage that many people being there. For mine it was me, DH and DSS. I even contemplated not having DSS in there.

mrsjenniferg2010 · June 2011

It was just DH and I both times. I kind of wanted DS there for this, but the place we went to didn't allow children in the room. I didn't want anyone else in the room though.

catwhisperers4292 · June 2011

My OB only allows 3 guests, so I brought my DH, Mom and MIL. We had some concerns about our moms being there if they should find any problems, but took the risk and we were lucky enough to have a healthy baby

Since they didn't do routine u/s when our moms went through pregnancy, it was a very special experience for them to see Baby moving around, and hear/see the heart beating.

samakasrc · June 2011

I had my MIL with for my DD's (mostly because my SO wanted her there, she was in the throws of chemo and he was right, it perked her up), This time it will only be me, my SO and my DD. I wil linvite my mom and step mom for our 3d one though.

MrsT2008 · June 2011

It would never even occur to me to bring anyone other than my husband.

Fianschneid · June 2011

Just my husband. We called everyone else afterwards with the news.

Temp574971250006741 · June 2011

I am surprised you are allowed that many people.

I had DH and DD that was it.

ababymaybe · June 2011

An ultrasound is a medical procedure. I find it inappropriate to bring that many people.

They would never allow that here, anyway. If you want to have an u/s party I would pay for an elective.

sarahjames9 · June 2011

I will have DH, mom, son, and niece(who is basically like my little sister). I think it will be awesome to share the gender reveal with them as they are the closest people to me. Then, my mom will take my son and niece back to my house after they see what LO is. My son is 4, so he wouldn't fair well in a waiting room.

Temp574971250006741 · June 2011

Also the tech did not necessarily go in a specific order of things, she checked fluid on the brain, 4 chambers of the heart then he shifted. At this point she was able to see and point out the boy parts in an image then proceeded with the rest of the a/s.. He was moving so much we where glad he sat still long enough for that one image she got. She tried to get it again at the end but he had moved and she couldn't. This is also something you may want to think about with so many people if you want them to wait in the lobby till the end. They may have sat there for nothing. Does your office offer a dvd for purchase and you could just show them that. mine did for $35.

Llindsay0927 · June 2011

No we asked about the dvd but they dont do that. Just lots of pictures is what the tech said. Im comfortable with this decision. They all know how long it could take and that they will be waiting in the waiting room for most of it. They dont have a problem with that so I told them they are welcome to come and they can leave at any time.

memali26 · June 2011

I'm really surprised they will let you bring so many people. It's a medical procedure and it seems strange to me that a doctor would allow so many spectators. My a/s with my DD was done in office and only one person was allowed with me. I liked that it was just DH and I. We could watch the whole u/s on a large screen and it was a very special moment that I was glad we had for just us.

With this LO, u/s are done in radiology and no one is allowed in the room during the scan besides myself and the u/s tech. Not even DH. I couldn't even see the screen during the u/s, just had to stare at the ceiling. After the tech finished all the measurements and got the pictures she needed she called my DH back (again, only one person allowed). At that point she turned the screen so we could see it and let us look at the baby for a few minutes while she put together a CD of pictures for us and told us the sex.

Liz4444 · June 2011

It would never occur to me to want to bring anyone other than my husband. My mother has come with me to a few appointments when DH couldn't be there, but my family and IL's would never presume it was there place to be there and we would never think to have them. It's a Dr's appointment, not a surprise party. They all got a phone call immediately after and DH a emailed pic of the face.

roonie326 · June 2011

We couldn't schedule my appointment on my DH's day off. They only did a/s on Tuesdays. He was disappointed but can't take off from his job.

So I brought my mom and grandmother. It was neat for grandma to see an ultrasound for the first time. The room was so small and I honestly wouldn't have wanted a ton of people there with me. My first choice would have been just DH and myself but I needed someone else there for support.

BabyBLove · June 2011

It was just DH and both our mothers at ours. My mom really wanted to come, so we included his mom as well!

atchaleigh · June 2011

My husband was deployed at the time of our A/S appointment. I had friends who offered to be there with me but I went alone.

That was something I wanted to share with him and him alone first. This is our child. Not my moms, my sisters, my grandparents. I am this way about the delivery too. I only wanted my husband there. Now that he will still be gone, it really changes things because I know that's nothing i'm going to go into alone but I wish that he was the one to experience it first with me.

I am more than happy to share amazing news with them but I would much much rather it be my husband and I who hear it all first. We have that right as parents.

I will be going to an elective 4d ultrasound place with my mom and sisters. The place I found streams the feed over the internet so with a password, my husband while still deployed, will be able to see it as well.

christiney06 · June 2011

GoldenPeaches:
I am just having DH there. In the event there is something wrong, I would want some privacy and to be able to go home together alone without a train of people.

this exactly! I am shocked they are ok w/ that many people, what if you get bad news...do you want your niece there for that!? 1st time i did let my mom come w/ me and MH, 2nd time it was just the 2 of us.

itsmarcie22 · June 2011

We just wanted it to be the two of us (plus the tech) - so that's what we did.

Chels+pax · June 2011

just to let you know and to give you some comfort you are NOT the only one to have more than just 2-3 ppl in the room i had my DH,my mom,my sister,and my gma from out of state she was visiting while we had our appointment so i thought it was nice that she would get to come since she prob wont get to see her very much. i also was gonna have 2 more ppl in the room so that would have been a total of 6 ppl + me and the tech in the room but the other 2(mt other gma and big sister) ended up havin to work

and on top of that my doc told me to bring a whole party too so i think its just great to have those ppl that you are close to be there and experience it too! i also love my doctor and dont think that its a party but def something that if your dr approves you should have as many ppl there as you'd like! good luck at your A/S its fun

oh yea we also came out and called and text everyone else and my mom videoed while we were getting the u/s !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

asyph107 · June 2011

Why in god's name so many people? You can show the the pictures when you are done. Why don't you have everyone over for dinner the day after or something to tell them all. I am not sure you will have enough room for all those people. Typically u/s rooms are very small, room enough for patient and one other person (besides the tech of course)...Wow. I will be going to the u/s probably by myself because DH will be staying home to be with DS. To be honest, I like to go alone, and have to most appts it give you time to take some quiet space and be in awe of your LO in peace and quiet.

rachbenn2007 · June 2011

i had a lot of people in the room with for my first child. its a very exciting time. if your OB or tech lets that many people in then go for it! And no its not mean for you to make everyone else wait out in the waiting room until the tech is ready to check the sex of the baby! GOOD LUCK!

KellyAnn911 · June 2011

lisajay09:

It's not a party. It's a diagnostic medical procedure to determine if your baby is developing normally. It's a serious thing and shouldn't be made into a spectacle. I would not even go to a place that would allow that many people...I wouldn't trust that they take what they're doing seriously.

This. People seem to think the purpose of the anatomy scan is to find out the sex of the baby. It is not. Yes, most of the time they can tell you what you are having, but it is a bonus.

getnmarried910 · June 2011

Just DH and kids. Check with your hospital/doctor's office to see if that many people are allowed. Most places that I've heard of only let you in while they take measurements and get all the necessary stuff, then they will call DH and everyone else back when they are ready for them. If you want this to be a private thing with you and DH, don't let anyone else come, and find another way to announce the baby's sex.

WARM SUMMERS · June 2011

marriedfilingjointly:
Good lord. Does your office even permit that many people in the room? I'm only allowed one guest. It's an ultrasound, not a spectator sport, and they might not even be able to see what they need to tell you the sex. I was happy to just have my husband there and send everyone else a text after the scan.

All of this! MIL asked me if she could come but I politely told her I just want to share the experience with DH and told her to expect a phone call as soon as we got out. God forbid if we got any bad news, which we didn't, I'd only want DH there anyway. After we left the doctor's office I made a bunch of phone calls and texts to spread the news.

Liz4444 · June 2011

For those of you with a lot of people there, what if they can't see anything on the belly and have to go in vaginally? Would you let everyone stay in the room?

jkillin · June 2011

Just me and Hubby...

Jennifer426 · June 2011

This is my very first post on The Bump, but I just returned from my amnio! Only my husband came with me, and honestly, I don't think you would want anyone else in the room with you while they do it!! Good luck to you!

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