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October 2011 Moms
BFP 02/04/2011;EDD 10/14/2011;Induced due to pre-e 09/07/2011;Jack born 09/08/2011
Feeling left out...
Maybe I'm just being hormonal and sensitive or something, but it seems like NO ONE can tell I'm pregnant. Even one of my friends today said I didn't really look pregnant. I never get any comments or questions from strangers (at this point I'd almost welcome an awkward/rude comment), and it's driving me crazy! I think I look pregnant, but I feel like I have to tell everyone because no one seems to notice. I'm not wanting attention really, maybe just some outer confirmation that I do in fact look 6 months pregnant. Sigh...I am so happy just to be pregnant, so I feel bad for complaining, but can't one stranger say something to me?
BFP 02/04/2011;EDD 10/14/2011;Induced due to pre-e 09/07/2011;Jack born 09/08/2011
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Re: Feeling left out...
Oct 2011 Blog: Pumpkin Patch
Ugh I get this. And it doesn't help MH looks 30 and we have a 4 year old who looks just like him. Most people are wondering who the creeper with the teen mom is.
DH is 41 and looks his age...so I feel your pain!
I get this too...DH is 11 years older than me and I already look younger but when I don't have any makeup on I look like im 17
I'm glad you posted this - I was going to write the same thing. I am the exact same way. I'm 23 weeks and look almost the same as I did before pregnancy. I had hyperemesis through week 17, so I lost a ton of weight, and have just gotten back to my pre-pregnancy weight. I was very small to begin with, with a long torso, so now all I have is this tiny bump. I was holding my lower abdomen once, and a stranger asked if I was pregnant because of where my hand was, so I said yes. He gave me this awful look, and said "oh my god, really? you look like a rail." I guess that's supposed to be a compliment, but he said it so rudely like I was an unhealthy pregnant person.
A few weeks ago at a friends baby shower a random guest heard I was pregnant. She looked right at me and goes "ew, she's so skinny!"....as if I wasn't standing in front of her. It bums me out, I wish I had a beautiful baby bump. I wish strangers rubbed my belly, haha. I feel like that will never happen! I've never gained weight easily, and it's not happening easily in pregnancy either. But my doctors aren't worried - so I'm not worried.
I am comforted that someone else knows how I feel!
I hope you're right! I'm definitely wearing maternity clothes (my old pants felt like they were 'squishing' me starting around 18 weeks), but they aren't that much bigger than my regular clothes. I think it's because I'm carrying in kind of an even distribution. I don't really have a well-defined little round bump and I haven't gotten bigger anywhere except my middle. Oh well...I guess I'll just have be patient.
I feel your pain on this, completely. My husband totally doesn't understand when I try to explain why I get frustrated/upset when people tell me "You don't even look pregnant!" In the last week, my belly has finally rounded out some, so I think I really do look pregnant, instead of just thick around the middle, but still, a friend's sister saw me this afternoon and was raving about how not pregnant I look. I think it's intended as a compliment, since my belly and boobs are just about the only thing on me that has expanded, but still.
I NEVER thought I would look forward to random strangers asking me about my pregnancy, but I feel the same way. I still don't want anyone touching me, but a random intrusive question would be welcomed at this point!