Feeling left out...

FrauElyse

Maybe I'm just being hormonal and sensitive or something, but it seems like NO ONE can tell I'm pregnant.  Even one of my friends today said I didn't really look pregnant.  I never get any comments or questions from strangers (at this point I'd almost welcome an awkward/rude comment), and it's driving me crazy!  I think I look pregnant, but I feel like I have to tell everyone because no one seems to notice.  I'm not wanting attention really, maybe just some outer confirmation that I do in fact look 6 months pregnant.  Sigh...I am so happy just to be pregnant, so I feel bad for complaining, but can't one stranger say something to me?

PitaBread

I finally do have a tiny belly and it's obvious I'm pg because that's all that grew. However, I look like I'm in my teens (I'll be 30 in August) and I've gotten several rude comments last week while on vacation.  Someone gave me a lecture about teen pregnancy (mind you, she had 3 kids and had her first at25) and I'm really not enjoying the death glares lately.  I'm getting sick of the whispers as people stare at me when I walk past them.  I'd rather go back to not looking pg because people truly do suck!  

Mac0711

I'm sure you look pregnant but you must be carrying it very well.  I know when I first found out I felt like I really looked pregnant but nobody could tell, even DH said I didn't look much different.  Trust me girl, pretty soon your belly will be out there enough there will be no doubt!

BriannaHH

I know what you mean. It's nice to feel/look pregnant as opposed to just chubbier. If you aren't really showing yet, you definitely will be in a few weeks!

cantalopes24

This is me. I feel like everyone thinks I'm a chubass when they see me. We saw an uncle last week we hadn't seen in 2 months and the first thing he says to me is "You look like you lost weight". Really? I must have looked like sh!t before. He then corrected himself to say my face and arms looked thinner but he commented on how "tiny" I was about 5 or 6 times and the last thing he said to me was "I can't wait to go home and tell my wife how small you are" Umm ok, at this point that is pretty much the opposite of a compliment...

cantalopes24

PitaBread:

I finally do have a tiny belly and it's obvious I'm pg because that's all that grew. However, I look like I'm in my teens (I'll be 30 in August) and I've gotten several rude comments last week while on vacation.  Someone gave me a lecture about teen pregnancy (mind you, she had 3 kids and had her first at25) and I'm really not enjoying the death glares lately.  I'm getting sick of the whispers as people stare at me when I walk past them.  I'd rather go back to not looking pg because people truly do suck!  

Ugh I get this. And it doesn't help MH looks 30 and we have a 4 year old who looks just like him. Most people are wondering who the creeper with the teen mom is.

PitaBread

cantalopes24:

Ugh I get this. And it doesn't help MH looks 30 and we have a 4 year old who looks just like him. Most people are wondering who the creeper with the teen mom is.

DH is 41 and looks his age...so I feel your pain!  

akabillups

cantalopes24:

PitaBread:

I finally do have a tiny belly and it's obvious I'm pg because that's all that grew. However, I look like I'm in my teens (I'll be 30 in August) and I've gotten several rude comments last week while on vacation.  Someone gave me a lecture about teen pregnancy (mind you, she had 3 kids and had her first at25) and I'm really not enjoying the death glares lately.  I'm getting sick of the whispers as people stare at me when I walk past them.  I'd rather go back to not looking pg because people truly do suck!  

Ugh I get this. And it doesn't help MH looks 30 and we have a 4 year old who looks just like him. Most people are wondering who the creeper with the teen mom is.

I get this too...DH is 11 years older than me and I already  look younger but when I don't have any makeup on I look like im 17

Tinkertini3

I'm glad you posted this -  I was going to write the same thing.  I am the exact same way.  I'm 23 weeks and look almost the same as I did before pregnancy.  I had hyperemesis through week 17, so I lost a ton of weight, and have just gotten back to my pre-pregnancy weight.  I was very small to begin with, with a long torso, so now all I have is this tiny bump.  I was holding my lower abdomen once, and a stranger asked if I was pregnant because of where my hand was, so I said yes.  He gave me this awful look, and said "oh my god, really?  you look like a rail."  I guess that's supposed to be a compliment, but he said it so rudely like I was an unhealthy pregnant person.

A few weeks ago at a friends baby shower a random guest heard I was pregnant.  She looked right at me and goes "ew, she's so skinny!"....as if I wasn't standing in front of her.  It bums me out, I wish I had a beautiful baby bump.  I wish strangers rubbed my belly, haha.  I feel like that will never happen!   I've never gained weight easily, and it's not happening easily in pregnancy either.  But my doctors aren't worried - so I'm not worried.

I am comforted that someone else knows how I feel!

mydinkdom

MH Grandma told me Sunday, that for being more than "half way there" I dont look obviously pregnant. I only look like I got a little "heavy set". I think she meant well and that Im carrying this baby well, but the thing is Im bigger with this one that the first one...AND she just said that to a recovering anorexic. So yea....I get where you are coming from.

awesnap

Maybe when you have your baby you will get more, "wow you just had a baby? You look fabulous!" comments.

KBLoraus

I'm 24 weeks and just starting to show to where people actually believe that I'm preggers.  I can still fit into my pre-pregnancy pants (although their a little snug now).  2 weeks ago I went into the maternity section at a clothing store to see if I could find some work pants and the sales lady said to me "Do you know you're in the maternity section?  Is this where you want to be?"  She was surprised when I told her how far along I was....I'm naturally petite so I thought I would show more quickly, but at least now my baby bump looks like an actual baby bump vs a food baby from a big lunch   Also, doc said I was measuring on track and baby seems to be right on target for size as well.

FrauElyse

awesnap:

Maybe when you have your baby you will get more, "wow you just had a baby? You look fabulous!" comments.

I hope you're right!  I'm definitely wearing maternity clothes (my old pants felt like they were 'squishing' me starting around 18 weeks), but they aren't that much bigger than my regular clothes.  I think it's because I'm carrying in kind of an even distribution.  I don't really have a well-defined little round bump and I haven't gotten bigger anywhere except my middle.  Oh well...I guess I'll just have be patient. 

StephK

I feel your pain on this, completely.  My husband totally doesn't understand when I try to explain why I get frustrated/upset when people tell me "You don't even look pregnant!"  In the last week, my belly has finally rounded out some, so I think I really do look pregnant, instead of just thick around the middle, but still, a friend's sister saw me this afternoon and was raving about how not pregnant I look.  I think it's intended as a compliment, since my belly and boobs are just about the only thing on me that has expanded, but still.

I NEVER thought I would look forward to random strangers asking me about my pregnancy, but I feel the same way.  I still don't want anyone touching me, but a random intrusive question would be welcomed at this point!