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3rd Trimester
What's the stupidest thing someone's said?
What is the stupidest thing someone has said to you lately about your pregnancy? We've all heard the "wow, you're huge" and "it's going to be so hot for you!" but anyone hear any really bad ones lately?
My mom of all people plopped this one on me last night. I've been having really exhausting contractions all week. I'm sore and grumpy from them and they don't seem to be moving me toward any kind of real labor. I complained that I wished they would either stop or become real so I could get labor over with. Her response? "Think about this when you're deciding if you want a second one in a couple of years!" Gee, thanks Mom.
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Re: What's the stupidest thing someone's said?
I definitely would NOT hear that from my mom - she doesn't know that DH and I plan to only have one or two, and I can just imagine the lecture I'll get if we do settle on one.
I haven't gotten anything too horrible, but I have been annoyed at comments my sisters have made - one hoping I come a couple weeks early so that she can come visit before school starts up, and the other hoping that I have a super large baby, b/c I guess this would be funny.
Wow, yes, premature babies are so much fun!
A couple of weeks ago i had to do a 24hr urine collection to test for traces of pre-eclampsia. and my SIL (who is extremely jealous that i'm pregnant) informed me that she knew someone who had pre-eclampsia. And that she died from it.
who says stuff like that.....
"oh, your having your third? is it a girl?"
"no, it's a boy."
putting a hand on my shoulder, "aaaaawwwwww." (meaning sorry about that. that's too bad....)
this has happened multiple times and every time I just don't understand how people can actually say it out loud!!! yes, we are having our 3rd boy!!! no, we weren't trying for a girl or a boy, just a healthy baby!!!!! jeesh......
My sister (23yo) asked me if I felt weird because there was a naked person rubbing up against my organs.
That was the stupidest thing I've EVER been asked!
Wow. You probably could have murdered him, blamed the hormones and no jury would convict you.
We stopped at our friends restaurant/bar to eat before birthing class the other day and one of the patron's said. "I never understood the point of birthing class. All you do is go in there and pop a kid out. Not much involvement is really needed"
Um, What?!?
This guy has 2 kids also. Of course, he is no longer married. Go figure.
One of my coworkers suggested I might want to not want to get up and go to the printer to pick up docs so often because my ass was looking huge.
I haven't had anything too terrible so far. A woman on my tennis team asked me (at 6 months pregnant) "which bump is the baby" (i was not overweight before getting pregnant, and at that point I had only gained like 8 pounds.)
The security guard at my office asked me "how are the three of you doing". When I asked him what three he was talking about, he said "oh, it's not twins?" This was at 30 weeks and yes I have a big belly, but I sure don't look like I am having twins!
I have some friends, mostly my husband's guy friends, who make jokes about me going into labor at any point, but I know they don't understand how it is a really serious thing, no joking matter, to have a baby at week 29 or week 30.
Nothing incredibly stupid, just a lot of "you look huge!" or "your bump is so tiny!" Which one is it, people?!
The ONLY appropriate comment to make regarding a baby bump: "You look fabulous!"
"You look miserable." I was not miserable at all.
"You're never going to make it to August." Heard this more than once, and thanks, I'm not exactly asking for a premature baby. I'd like this child to keep cooking as "miserable" as I may be or look.
"I was going to ask if you we're pregnant because I could tell you had put on weight."
My mom's response to me being scared about preemies/pre-term labor. "Why are you worried? If you have the baby now it will live. And God loves you so it wouldn't happen." Riiiight, mom. God loves everyone, and there are plenty of preemies in this world and of course I'm glad that the baby is viable at this point (I was about 29 weeks) but that doesn't mean I don't worry about going early!
My sister (23yo) asked me if I felt weird because there was a naked person rubbing up against my organs.
sorry, but that is hilarious!
i've had the lady at the health food store tell me twice now that i won't make it to my due date. and another cashier said she saw a lady at the mall who was HUGE and i was almost as big as her!
I get both as well! SO annoying. My favorite so far was a regular of mine who said
"ya know i am really proud of you, I thought for sure when you told me you were pregnant you were going to be HUGE! I thought you were just going to gain way to much weight."
Ummm kind of a backhanded compliment if you ask me.
Girl or Guy, do they realize they could be in big trouble if you wanted to report that?
Did you laugh at this? Sounds like something my little sister would say and so stupid it's actually kind of funny.
What the hell is with all these people suggesting that we're all going to have premies? One of my friends actually made a bet that I was going to have the baby before June 8th. She harped on it for a month and bragged about how she was going to be right. It really ticked me off that she actually wanted me to have a premie. She won't even tell me who she made the bet with. I'd really like to know who else is gambling with my baby's health.
oh I've had quite a few:
You sure there's only one in there? (this also coming from people who knew I had to have a pregnancy reduction from triplets down to 1)
Wow, that must be a huge baby (no, measuring normal)
My mother: "Wow, you've gained 35 pounds? don't you think you should stop now?"
everytime I go for a walk, or take stairs or get up to pick something from the floor, someone feels the need to say: you shouldn't be doing that. Just sit down and relax. Ugh.
From mothers: You should get some rest now. You're never going to sleep again. Really? Never? for the rest of my life?
Random strangers making sure I am going to breastfeed because it's better for the baby
and my personal favorites, also from 2 random strangers:
"Make sure to loofah your nipples, it will help you produce milk." and "if you end up having a C-Sextion, you should have them remove your appendix at the same time"
Are you getting your tubes tied after this? (um.. this is our first and we would like more... but thanks)
You look HUGE/SMALL/FAT/THIN-- I've gotten conflicting ones on the same day
You don't look like you've gained enough/you look like you've gained too much- are you starving the baby/eating for 2? No, the McD's I stuff in my face 4 times a day is just for me-- I'm not sharing with the baby.
Are you sure it's DH's? I get that its a little unusual to get pregnant on your wedding night, but it happened to be the day I ovulated- I can assure you if DH had any doubts, he wouldn't be here.
And my favorite was from a couple who gave me a seat on a crowded subway-- "We were trying to decide if you were pregnant or just fat, but I said your legs were too skinny- must be a baby" decided to take this as a leg compliment otherwise I would have slugged her
Absolutely!!!!
Jess & Adam, married 2009, precious Audrey born in 2011. BFP 1/6/13, 6-wk MMC discovered at 9 wks 2/11/13. D&C 2/18/13, second D&C 4/23/13 for retained placenta.
BFP 8/24/13!! EDD 5/1/14, delivered healthy and sweet Zoey Leanne on 5/5/14 by repeat c-section.
#3 BFP 11/17/12 EDD 8/5/13 Born 8/4/13
#4 BFP 1/26/14 EDD 09/29/14 Born 10/01/14
I don't know if it is stupid or just hurtful. My SIL keeps telling me how happy she is now that I'm pregnant bc I'm going to finally have stretch marks and get fat. Last time I saw her she said while laughing "it's so weird to see you so big! You use to be so tiny!"
ANDhave my mom constantly asking if I am sure as I as far along as I think I am. She thinks I am father along for some reason even tho I have explained to her I KNOW the week I ovulated. There is no way I can be further along. She doesn't belive it. She also doesn't believe we are having a boy even tho I have had 3 ultrasounds showing his PENIS!
Goodness, that is HILARIOUS!!!! "...on a donkey" Oh, gawd, I can't stop laughing now! Thanks for sharing that gem!
My cat's groomer went on to tell me (with my 1st pregnancy):
"DO NOT get an epidural...you won't know how to push properly"
It was a female co-worker. My response was a dead-pan: "Gee, [X], I didn't realize you were watching my butt that closely."
At least brought her up short.
that actually has some merit of truth to it.
I can think of three off of the top of my head:
I expressed to my dr who is delivering the baby how scared I was about another c-section and she said, "Well getting the baby out only takes 5 or 10 minutes, it's putting you back together that will take us awhile." ( I know how they work, do you have to say "putting you back together?!"
I told my sister that I would continue not to work with this baby. She then turns to my husband and me and asks, "How much do you make per year?" ( in front of a room full of family and friends)
This isn't stupid, but cute and scary at the same time. my two year old asked if the baby was "stuck" in there? When I said "yes", she said "I will go get scissors."
Someone just told me "Hello Fatty"
nice....