I'm too lazy to link the post, if you haven't read it, scroll down, you'll see it, it has like 1500 views or something ridiculous.
Anyway.
I texted her back last week "the notes are on my front porch" and she wrote me back "thanks, I will pick up this afternoon". I went to lunch with 2 of my closest friends, and talked to them about the situation, and they both said it was time to cut her out of my life. So that night I deleted her from my facebook.
Two days later, I get a very long text message from her. "So not sure what happened all of a sudden to be "defriended" on facebook and all of a sudden u won't return texts regarding lunch but would have thought u would have at least talked to me about whatever is going on. Sorry to see things be like this. I wish u luck in whatever and would still like 2 get together if u r ever up to it."
(Sidenote, I can't stand when people use 2morrow or 4get in place of actual words...ugh. So I was doubly annoyed when I read that!)
So... that was on Thursday, and I haven't written her back. Frankly, after her telling me she wouldn't be a reference for me, I really have no desire to maintain a friendship with her. I'm just not sure if there's any reason that I should call her or write her back? I'm leaning towards no.
Re: Update to "HR girl keeps texting me" from last week, and WWYD?
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This is exactly what I would do. End it. It seems like ignoring her is not working.
She still sounds immature regardless, and I think you're probably better off just stepping away. But the reference part of it isn't the reason to do so.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I have to add- I'm actually a tad suspicious that she picked up that quickly that you defriended her. I only have 137 friends. If I saw it go to 136, I'd honestly have a hard time figuring out who "defriended" me. There are "friends" who I just don't really pay attention to - they could defriend me and I'd nevr realize it.
So for her to realize you did that quickly- she was looking for it. Why?
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
I know, that freaked me out. I've defriended a few people before, and had them contact me 5-7 days later with a "wtf" message, but not even 48 hours later?
The only thing I can think of is that she was specifically trying to keep tabs on me...for what, I don't know.
Some days I post 2-3 times in that day, and sometimes I will go 2 days without posting anything.
I've never noticed that anyone has defriended me...I guess I just don't care that much? I don't even know how many friends I have, lol...maybe 100 total?
Several of my girlfriends work in HR at different companies. All of them have told me that if hypothetically I worked there, then they fired me, and I asked them for a reference, and they weren't allowed to, that they still would.
I'm not that hung up on that specific part, that was just the final straw for me. She was a total biitch to me several times in the last few years, and I just brushed it off because I knew I'd have to see her the next day at work. I actually wrote a long post about her on the MM board last year. My feelings towards her aren't new.
honestly, this whole thing sounds so high school drama rama - I'd just step away.
And, also - yeah the whole text typing thing is a turn off too.
That's kind of weird and unprofessional, in my opinion.
I would at least tell this girl WHY you aren't friends anymore instead of just brushing her off with no explanation because it seems like she isn't taking the hint.
Just read the OP...WEIRD. Anyway, did she already get the notes then? One thing I would say is email her to verify that she received the notes. That way you have a record.
I would notice if someone defriended me, although I might not know who unless there was a specific incident prompting it. That being said, I was once fighting with someone and I noticed within an hour that they defriended me. It's really not as sneaky as you'd think.
Honestly, it sounds like she feels caught in the middle of everything and is hurt. Obviously she gets that you're upset but probably also feels like it's not her fault. She didn't fire you, your boss did. It also sounds, though, like there is something else going on...