Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
Baby was being shy.
Re: husband not allowed in during anatomy scan?
That sounds really strange to me. My DH has been allowed in to every appointment I have had.
I mean really this is his child too, shouldn't he get to be involved.
Lame! I don't understand why they would do that, as the baby is obviously hubby's, too (i.e. if there is a problem or something, you both should be there to know). Plus, anyone's SO should get to be there to watch the u/s images & baby for the whole time (I don't get what harm is done having them in there?!)
I'll be irate if they kick my hubby out at mine on Thursday!!! I would throw a fit.
These are my thoughts as well. He has every right to see the baby as you do. It just so happens that you HAVE to be there. That's strange that they wouldn't let your SO in.
"Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." -- Dale Carnegie
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time." --Thomas A. Edison
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Double undergrad graduation May 2011| Me: Psychology, DH: Communication| A long journey!
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wow, that sucks. when DH came in the tech said "and there's the daddy chair!" and was so welcoming and kind. at one point he rubbed his eyes (not crying) but the tech said "are you guys ok?"
I can't imagine feeling less cared for at such a scary time. How awful of your hospital! Did you ask why?
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DMoney will be a kickass big sister
I have had four ultrasounds and DH was not allowed in the room for any of them until the technician was finished working. I think they just don't want any distractions while they are taking important measurements.
It is their policy so not much I could do it about. They always allowed him in at the end and gave us a little breakdown of baby.
I've had two viability scans and DH was not allowed to come in while they were doing the technical work. After they got all the info needed, the techs went to get him and let him look as long as he wanted. I'm hoping that at today's a/s, he'll get to be there for the whole thing, but I doubt it. I've had every u/s at a different facility, but they're all owned by the same hospital, so I'm sure he'll be stuck in the waiting room again.
ditto!
I dont' buy the "they need to concentrate" crap either. i just had mine this morning and the women was awesome, chatting w/ us the whole time. i think if you get an experienced tech there should be no issue w/ other people being there, even if there was, she could ask him to be quiet!
my mom came to our u/s for #1, they said i could bring up to 3 people!!
ditto!
I dont' buy the "they need to concentrate" crap either. i just had mine this morning and the women was awesome, chatting w/ us the whole time. i think if you get an experienced tech there should be no issue w/ other people being there, even if there was, she could ask him to be quiet!
my mom came to our u/s for #1, they said i could bring up to 3 people!!
Oscar born October 2011
Miscarriage at 8 weeks (August 2013)
DD due September 1, 2014
This is the same policy that my hospital has. We had no problem with it.
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OCT 2011 Moms BlogExactly this. I've had u/s in 3 different provinces, though this was my first maternity, and it's the same policy in every hospital I've been to. The waiting room is full of men waiting for their turn to come in and see some. The tech kept the screen turned from me until she got all the info she needed, called in my husband, and spent about 10 minutes showing us the baby. The hospitals I've been too also all have a policy not tot reveal the sex.
From my understanding, this is a very common practice. An ultrasound is not for your entertainment or for you to get to see baby. It is a medical examination. I had my 20 week u/s today. The screen was turned from me the entire time. I told the tech at the beginning that we did want to find out the sex, so she told me she would keep an eye out. After she was done, I went, emptied my bladder, got DH, and then came back in - she spent a good 5-10 minutes showing us things. She wasn't able to show us a good shot at that time, so she went back to a shot that she had gotten early to show us that we have a healthy baby boy.
"God is faithful, and he will not let you be tested beyond your strength, but with the testing he will also provide the way out so that you may be able to endure it" 1 Corinthians 10:13All of this. There were some ultrasounds during the last few weeks of my first pregnancy where I wished the tech would just hush up and scan, so I don't buy it either.