husband not allowed in during anatomy scan?

jeshapiro

Just wondering if anyone else has had the same experiance as me, or if this was a little strange.  Yesterday I had my anatomy scan, and the tech had my husband stay outside the room until the very end when she was checking for gender.  I couldn't see any reason for this.  He would have loved to have spent more time looking at our baby through the ultrasound.  No gender reveal for us yet   Baby was being shy.

mrookie

That sounds really strange to me.  My DH has been allowed in to every appointment I have had. 

I mean really this is his child too, shouldn't he get to be involved.  

amyc216

No, I wonder why that was the case.  Were you in a room with other patients or anything?  My dr. just keeps men out of common areas like the lab.

gkmacdon

it was the same for me. it was a small room and i guess a lot of people bring kids, SO's, parents, etc and people talk and ask a lot of questions which can be distracting. it takes a lot of concentration for the tech do get all those pics so they asked if he'd wait for the first part and then they brought him in at the end, revealed the sex and showed us both an overview of the anatomy scan on the machine. it really built the suspense for me since she knew as soon as she switched on the machine that it was a girl but she of course waited to tell me until she brought DH in. :-)

SarahOrca

Lame! I don't understand why they would do that, as the baby is obviously hubby's, too (i.e. if there is a problem or something, you both should be there to know). Plus, anyone's SO should get to be there to watch the u/s images & baby for the whole time (I don't get what harm is done having them in there?!)

I'll be irate if they kick my hubby out at mine on Thursday!!! I would throw a fit. 

Mrs. Mo

mrookie:

That sounds really strange to me.  My DH has been allowed in to every appointment I have had. 

I mean really this is his child too, shouldn't he get to be involved.  

These are my thoughts as well. He has every right to see the baby as you do. It just so happens that you HAVE to be there. That's strange that they wouldn't let your SO in.

zurawsk5

That is really lame. Mine was allowed in the entire time. 

Fianschneid

That is frustrating. Although I haven't had my anatomy scan yet (one week to go), I have been able to bring a guest for all of my other appointments and ultrasounds.

forensicmama

That's weird. What a strange policy! 

aliciaroset

wow, that sucks.  when DH came in the tech said "and there's the daddy chair!" and was so welcoming and kind.  at one point he rubbed his eyes (not crying) but the tech said "are you guys ok?" 

I can't imagine feeling less cared for at such a scary time.  How awful of your hospital! Did you ask why?

Willosious

I would have said no, I want him here and unless you can give me a valid reason for him not being here, he is staying. And then cry and blame it on the hormones....

newmomma72

Was this at a different place than your other u/s? I went to a MFM, but my dad was allowed to come in (MH couldn't make it due to a last minute work thing). The tech did check first to make sure LO was ok and there was a HB and all, even saw the gender right off the bat, and then she went and got my dad. I would be sooooo upset if I couldn't have someone with me!

sammysue1010

ive never heard of that

Janimal

That wouldn't fly with me.  I think I would have put my foot down. 

FirefightersWife01

That sounds very strange. I have my anatomy scan coming up in about 2 weeks. When I made the appointment the receptionist actually gave me a list of "Do's and Don'ts" for the appointment, and it said I could have up to 3 other people in the room for my US.

ababymaybe

I have had four ultrasounds and DH was not allowed in the room for any of them until the technician was finished working. I think they just don't want any distractions while they are taking important measurements.

 It is their policy so not much I could do it about. They always allowed him in at the end and gave us a little breakdown of baby.

scarlettoctober

I've had two viability scans and DH was not allowed to come in while they were doing the technical work.  After they got all the info needed, the techs went to get him and let him look as long as he wanted.  I'm hoping that at today's a/s, he'll get to be there for the whole thing, but I doubt it.  I've had every u/s at a different facility, but they're all owned by the same hospital, so I'm sure he'll be stuck in the waiting room again.

christiney06

Janimal:

That wouldn't fly with me.  I think I would have put my foot down. 

ditto!

I dont' buy the "they need to concentrate" crap either.  i just had mine this morning and the women was awesome, chatting w/ us the whole time.  i think if you get an experienced tech there should be no issue w/ other people being there, even if there was, she could ask him to be quiet!

my mom came to our u/s for #1, they said i could bring up to 3 people!!  

christiney06

Janimal:

That wouldn't fly with me.  I think I would have put my foot down. 

ditto!

I dont' buy the "they need to concentrate" crap either.  i just had mine this morning and the women was awesome, chatting w/ us the whole time.  i think if you get an experienced tech there should be no issue w/ other people being there, even if there was, she could ask him to be quiet!

my mom came to our u/s for #1, they said i could bring up to 3 people!!  

Ceridwen21

Wow, DH and I would have been pissed!

rubysue267

That definitely sounds odd. DH has been to every appointment so far (except for the last one since he couldn't get off of work) and both the OB and receptionist said, "Make sure your husband can get off of work for the next one so he can see the baby, too!" I mean, it's his kid too. I don't understand the rationale of not letting him into the room. It's not like I need privacy, I mean, he's seen it all before...

LindsayB0505

This is the policy where I am too. I don't even get to see anything until he comes in at the end.  I think it's because this is a medical procedure and they are trying to get measurements, etc and don't want to be interupted by the parents asking questions or wanting to see certain things, etc.  We were also told absolutely no photos or video due to it being a "medical examination".  My H came in at the end for about 5 or 10 minutes and she pointed out different structures/features and told us the gender.

shannykay

They did the same thing with me.  I heard from an employee that a patient was in the room with her husband and family and the tech asked her if this was her first pregancy and she said no she had an abortion once before.  Her family and husband had no idea.  Her husband divorced her and she sued the hospital.  So for the patients privacy, they don't give them a choice.

Miss Shasta

I'm sorry. DH and both of our mothers came to the a/s and stayed for the whole thing. The tech talked us through the whole thing while she was taking measurments.

mlstagner

They had the same policy where I got my scan done. They did all of the measurements first, then they checked my cervix, then they let DH come in... It wasn't a big deal for me, but yes, It would have been nicer if DH could have seen the entire scan...

shediva1

ababymaybe:

I have had four ultrasounds and DH was not allowed in the room for any of them until the technician was finished working. I think they just don't want any distractions while they are taking important measurements.

 It is their policy so not much I could do it about. They always allowed him in at the end and gave us a little breakdown of baby.

This is the same policy that my hospital has.  We had no problem with it.

JillD2011

LindsayB0505:

This is the policy where I am too. I don't even get to see anything until he comes in at the end.  I think it's because this is a medical procedure and they are trying to get measurements, etc and don't want to be interupted by the parents asking questions or wanting to see certain things, etc.  We were also told absolutely no photos or video due to it being a "medical examination".  My H came in at the end for about 5 or 10 minutes and she pointed out different structures/features and told us the gender.

 

Exactly this. I've had u/s in 3 different provinces, though this was my first maternity, and it's the same policy in every hospital I've been to. The waiting room is full of men waiting for their turn to come in and see some. The tech kept the screen turned from me until she got all the info she needed, called in my husband, and spent about 10 minutes showing us the baby. The hospitals I've been too also all have a policy not tot reveal the sex. 

Accounting Chick

JillD2011:

LindsayB0505:

This is the policy where I am too. I don't even get to see anything until he comes in at the end.  I think it's because this is a medical procedure and they are trying to get measurements, etc and don't want to be interupted by the parents asking questions or wanting to see certain things, etc.  We were also told absolutely no photos or video due to it being a "medical examination".  My H came in at the end for about 5 or 10 minutes and she pointed out different structures/features and told us the gender.

 

Exactly this. I've had u/s in 3 different provinces, though this was my first maternity, and it's the same policy in every hospital I've been to. The waiting room is full of men waiting for their turn to come in and see some. The tech kept the screen turned from me until she got all the info she needed, called in my husband, and spent about 10 minutes showing us the baby. The hospitals I've been too also all have a policy not tot reveal the sex. 

From my understanding, this is a very common practice.  An ultrasound is not for your entertainment or for you to get to see baby.  It is a medical examination.  I had my 20 week u/s today.  The screen was turned from me the entire time.  I told the tech at the beginning that we did want to find out the sex, so she told me she would keep an eye out.  After she was done,  I went, emptied my bladder, got DH, and then came back in - she spent a good 5-10 minutes showing us things.  She wasn't able to show us a good shot at that time, so she went back to a shot that she had gotten early to show us that we have a healthy baby boy. 

pearblossom

christiney06:

Janimal:

That wouldn't fly with me.  I think I would have put my foot down. 

ditto!

I dont' buy the "they need to concentrate" crap either.  i just had mine this morning and the women was awesome, chatting w/ us the whole time.  i think if you get an experienced tech there should be no issue w/ other people being there, even if there was, she could ask him to be quiet!

my mom came to our u/s for #1, they said i could bring up to 3 people!!  

All of this. There were some ultrasounds during the last few weeks of my first pregnancy where I wished the tech would just hush up and scan, so I don't buy it either. 

mb72597@aol.com

WOW.  I go to midwives and they let my DH back for everything.  Even the first exam where they check everything.  He has not missed an appt. or U/S yet and does not plan on it.  Usually they air all of the bad stuff at the H&P.