I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I don't think it is your mistake at all, but you H's. It sounds like you are making the tough but necessary and correct decisions to take care of yourself and your kids. I'm so glad your sister is able to be there for you. Sending you hugs and strength.
Just wanted to say, do not doubt your choice for a moment, you did what what right for you. MANY prayers and hugs headed your way. I am thinking about you and your wonderful boys.
BIG HUGS! Lots of positive thoughts and strength for you and your boys.
ETA: I know this probably not something you want to think about now. Were/Are you able to print any emails? I don't know legalities of email access and such but I'd think that would really help if you decide to proceed with divorce. That way it's not just he said/she said and you have proof of his actions.
More hugs coming your way! I have been thinking about you all day and wish there was something I could do to help. You will get through this - I promise!
I'm so so so sorry you are going through this. This is not your fault at all. It's his. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this...nobody deserves to feel the way he has made you feel.
Lots of hugs for you...I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. And good luck to you in whatever decisions you decide to make.
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My first thought is good job. Reading your story I of course thing well hell yea thats what she should do...
But when I put myself in your shoes and imagine it being me it isnt easy at all.It would be so hard for me to do it. I 10000000000% know you are doing the right thing...but I am proud of you for doing it.
Also know you are not alone and find other moms and women you can talk to. And know of course we are here to support you as well
I have no advice......but HUGE HUGS to you B! I am so sorry you are going through this. You absolutly did what is right for you and therefore it is right for the boys. H needs to get his $h!t together and will realize what he has done and lost! Best wishes!!!
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I wanted to add : my mom raised my brother and I as a single mom, while not ideal, she did an amazing job. I'm happy you have family, like your sister to support you, for single moms, family is key.
You did the right thing for you and your boys, you deserve much much better.
OMG B, I'm so so so sorry. Big huge HUGS to you. You are being very strong and I think wise in keeping some distance to get through the shock, etc. And I'm so glad your sister is available to help some, maybe you can get a break from it all just to think (or not think).
Huge hugs and prayers for you. You totally deserve a more trustworthy and loyal partner in life and you are doing the right thing for yourself and the boys.
1st: hooray for sisters who show up and be the Responsible One now and then so that you can well and truly allow yourself to feel all of your emotions.
2nd: you did the right thing. It's going to be so hard, but life does not hand you anything you can't handle. I am certain that you will make the best of the situation and your children will grow up knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt how much you love them. My mom kicked my dad out for cheating and raised us by herself - like the PP said: we have such a strong bond now. My mom and my sister are my best friends.
3rd: I hope this is your H's bottom. I hope he looks around and realizes that he has to make himself into a better person. But that is not your decision and not a single thing you have done (or not done) has created this situation. It was his mess and he did up thoroughly and now it's his job to clean it up. I hope for you and your children that he does.
4th: I'm looking at this from the viewpoint of the child. I cannot even imagine staring at it as a wife and mother. You are stronger than you realize. Huge huge hugs for you.
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this exactly. I'm sorry.
My thoughts exactly.
Hugs to you.
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EJ is growing up too fast!
BIG HUGS! Lots of positive thoughts and strength for you and your boys.
ETA: I know this probably not something you want to think about now. Were/Are you able to print any emails? I don't know legalities of email access and such but I'd think that would really help if you decide to proceed with divorce. That way it's not just he said/she said and you have proof of his actions.
Ditto A and C. (((hugs)))
I'm so so so sorry you are going through this. This is not your fault at all. It's his. I'm so sorry you are having to deal with all of this...nobody deserves to feel the way he has made you feel.
Lots of hugs for you...I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. And good luck to you in whatever decisions you decide to make.
My first thought is good job. Reading your story I of course thing well hell yea thats what she should do...
But when I put myself in your shoes and imagine it being me it isnt easy at all.It would be so hard for me to do it. I 10000000000% know you are doing the right thing...but I am proud of you for doing it.
Also know you are not alone and find other moms and women you can talk to. And know of course we are here to support you as well
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I wanted to add : my mom raised my brother and I as a single mom, while not ideal, she did an amazing job. I'm happy you have family, like your sister to support you, for single moms, family is key.
You did the right thing for you and your boys, you deserve much much better.
OMG B, I'm so so so sorry. Big huge HUGS to you. You are being very strong and I think wise in keeping some distance to get through the shock, etc. And I'm so glad your sister is available to help some, maybe you can get a break from it all just to think (or not think).
Most importantly HUGS HUGS HUGS
Wow, I don't know what to say...you are amazing! Big hugs...
1st: hooray for sisters who show up and be the Responsible One now and then so that you can well and truly allow yourself to feel all of your emotions.
2nd: you did the right thing. It's going to be so hard, but life does not hand you anything you can't handle. I am certain that you will make the best of the situation and your children will grow up knowing beyond a shadow of a doubt how much you love them. My mom kicked my dad out for cheating and raised us by herself - like the PP said: we have such a strong bond now. My mom and my sister are my best friends.
3rd: I hope this is your H's bottom. I hope he looks around and realizes that he has to make himself into a better person. But that is not your decision and not a single thing you have done (or not done) has created this situation. It was his mess and he did up thoroughly and now it's his job to clean it up. I hope for you and your children that he does.
4th: I'm looking at this from the viewpoint of the child. I cannot even imagine staring at it as a wife and mother. You are stronger than you realize. Huge huge hugs for you.